This document provides an overview of a course on emotional intelligence. The course aims to increase participants' ability to understand and manage emotions in themselves and others. It discusses key concepts like the difference between intellectual and emotional intelligence. The course covers intrapersonal skills like self-awareness and interpersonal skills like social awareness and empathy. It also addresses adaptability, resilience, assertive communication, conflict management and developing an optimistic outlook. The goal is for participants to gain skills that can help them have more positive relationships, bounce back from setbacks, and handle challenges of an unpredictable environment.

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Emotional Intelligence
A Scientifically Proven Method for Developing the Skills of Success

2. Course Objectives
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This course will increase your ability to:
● Know the difference between IQ and EQ.
● Manage your emotions by recognizing how thoughts and
emotions are connected.
● Improve your self-control by identifying physical cues that
indicate your emotions may be taking over.
● Discover how emotional intelligence can help you develop more
positive relationships at work and a more optimistic outlook.

3. Course Objectives (cont.)
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This course will increase your ability to:
● Learn how to use assertive communication to express
your needs and feelings appropriately.
● Explore how to use emotional intelligence to bounce
back from setbacks.

4. Definition of Intellectual Intelligence
● Adaptability to a new or changing environment
● Capacity for knowledge and the ability to acquire it
● Capacity for reason and abstract thought
● Ability to comprehend relationships
● Ability to evaluate and judge
● Capacity for original and productive thought

5. Intellectual Intelligence
Ability to:
• Learn about
• Learn from
• Understand
• Interact

6. Personality
IQ EI
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7. Information
enters here
I “feel” here
I think rationally
here
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8. Emotional Intelligence
Ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and
others AND your ability to use this awareness to manage your
behavior and relationships.

9. It is very important to understand that emotional
intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it
is not the triumph of heart over head – it is the
unique intersection of both.
David Caruso, Ph.D.
“Emotional What”
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10. ● Unaware of emotions
● Shows little empathy
● Able to resolve conflict productively
● Has trouble recovering from setbacks
● Adapts to changing circumstances
● High degree of self-awareness and
self-control
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√ Lower
√ Lower
√ Higher
√ Lower
√ Higher
√ Higher
Practical Exercise – Lower vs. Higher EI

11. Aspects of Emotional Intelligence
Intrapersonal
Skills
Interpersonal
Skills
Adaptability Resilience
Self
Awareness
Social
Awareness
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Intrapersonal Skills
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13. Self-Awareness is the ability to perceive your emotions at
the moment and understand your tendencies across
situations – it is good to understand yourself, the good
and the bad.
Ask yourself…..
What am I feeling? Why am I feeling it?
Reflect on your behaviors. Know your triggers.

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Self-Awareness is not
about discovering deep
dark secrets or
unconscious motivations,
but developing a
straightforward and honest
understanding of what
makes
you tick.

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19. Recognize Your Physical Cues
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● Increased heart rate
● Butterflies
● Flushed skin
● Tense muscles
● Sweating
● Voice rising, getting louder
Don’t Get
Emotionally
Hijacked

20. Interpersonal Skills
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21. Social-Awareness is the ability to recognize others’
emotions. Showing empathy enables you to have more
positive relationships and minimize
unproductive conflict.
Ask yourself…..
Am I listening? Did I ask questions?
Did I adjust my body language, facial expressions, tone of voice to
meet their needs?

22. Demonstrate Empathy
● Do: be understanding
without necessarily
agreeing
● Do: use words and
gestures to show you care
● Don’t: offer advice, judge,
tell them how to feel
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23. Connecting and Communicating
● Meet them where
they are.
● Watch for non-
verbal cues.
● Prepare them for
negative information.
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24. Assertive Communication
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● Use the Assertive Communication Process
● Employ Assertive Communication Techniques
● What do you do when you don’t get the
response you’re looking for?

25. Conflict Management
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26. Conflict Resolution
● Be aware of your emotions while
remaining composed.
● Be aware of others’
emotions.
● Communicate your
needs clearly and
respectfully.
● Make your priority getting your
needs and the other person’s needs
met.
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27. Emotionally Intelligent “Fighting”
● Leave unrelated
issues out.
● Deal in reality.
• Listen without getting
defensive.
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• No “jabs!”

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Anyone can become
angry—that’s easy.
But to be angry with
the right person, to
the right degree, at
the right time, for the
right purpose, and in
the right way, that is
not easy.
Greek Philosopher, Aristotle

29. Adaptability
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30. Flexibility is the ability to adjust your thoughts,
feelings, and behavior to unfamiliar, unpredictable, or
changing conditions.
Ask yourself…..
Are you being open-minded? Am I focused on outcomes? Am I
willing to put aside the need to be “right?” Am I unwilling to
compromise principles or values?

31. Cultivating Different Perspectives
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● Listen to people who disagree with you.
● Eliminate “either/or” thinking.
• Question yourself.
• Play devil’s advocate.
• Look from different
altitudes.
• Use intuition and logic.

32. Choose the Opposite
Soothing Activities
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33. Problem-Solving Process
● Define the problem.
● Gather information.
● Brainstorm options.
● Evaluate potential solutions.
● Choose and implement the
best option.
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34. Resilience
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35. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks
and failure, to find a silver lining and see a hopeful
future. The first aspect of resilience that we’ll look at is
gaining an accurate perspective.
Ask yourself…..
What am I feeling? What do I want to feel? What do I need to
feel that way? Why do I need to feel this way?

36. Reframe Your Thinking
● Change your perspective
● Translate your negative thoughts into neutral or
positive statements.
◦ Change “We’re never going to find a way to pay for this.”
◦ To this: “I have dealt with budget shortfalls before and will
use my experience to find a solution to this challenge.”
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37. Optimist's Explanatory Style
● Permanence: Setbacks are temporary and positive
events are permanent.
● Pervasiveness: Setbacks are compartmentalized.
● Personalization: Positive events due to personal
ability; negative events due to external circumstances.
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38. How to Develop an Optimistic Outlook
● Use healthy self-talk.
● Keep a gratitude
journal.
● Minimize negative
influences.
● Act “as if.”
● Exercise your sense of humor.
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40. Test Your Knowledge
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