Cognitive Distortions: Understanding and Addressing Them
Creating Your Best Career Yet!
1. How different would the journey
be if we realized we were part
of creating it?
2. I have come to the frightening conclusion
that I am the decisive element.
It is my personal approach that creates the climate.
It is my daily mood that makes the weather.
I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or
joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of
inspiration;
I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is my response that decides whether
a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person
humanized or de-humanized.
If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.
If we treat people as they out to be, we help them
become what they are capable of becoming.
3. Be clear about what you want.
Write it down/do art work around it
What does it look like?
What does it feel like?
Act as if it is already in motion and
happening because it is……See it in your
minds eye.
What has to be in place in order to create it?
4. What kind of support do you need around you
to make sure you hold it in a positive light?
Are you keeping your network active and
staying connected?
What keeps you connected and not reacting
to everyone else?
Are you acknowledging your successes?
What you put your attention on GROWS.
Where are you putting your attention?
5. Vision board
Staying connected to Professional Associations in
your industry
Support Groups
Coaching one on one or in a group
Are you working your network and asking for
support?
Are you giving back?
Incorporating daily contemplation time
Reframing the negative into the positive
What keeps your energy flowing and open?
6. What do you do to take care of yourself and stay
relaxed? And how often?
Stress and Negativity block the good from
coming into your life.
Relaxation and positive thoughts create more of
the same and help you manifest.
Are you acknowledging yourself?
7. Tolerations are things that we put up with that
drain our energy;
a situation
a condition
an influence of any kind that is allowed to
exist
A toleration is often a hindering influence.
What are you tolerating in your life?
9. Work Environment
Job Tasks
Co-workers
Equipment
Car
Appearance
Behaviors
• Unfinished Projects
• Relationship Issues
• Home Environment
• Finances
• Health and Fitness
• Emotional Needs
• Self Harshness
10. Displaced Attention + Wasted Energy = Tolerations
Thought Starter …
How tolerations may affect your life
Drains your Energy
Ineffective use of your time
No time for self care
Disorganized thinking (overly cluttered thinking caught up with
should, could and would)
Saying yes when you mean no (no personal boundaries set)
Distraction from achieving goals
11. Increased positive energy
Ability to be present
Ability to think clearly
Empowered
More time
More organized
Established Personal Boundaries
More focused on achieving your….
12. 1. Understand that putting up with things is not useful to
anyone
2. Make a list of 10 things that you are tolerating at home
3. Make the requests and take the actions to eliminate these
items
4. Make a list of 10 things you are tolerating at work
5. Make the requests and take the actions to eliminate
6. Understand that you are “stunting” your personal growth
by tolerating things
7. Be willing and committed to being Toleration-Free
8. Stop complaining; instead make a strong request
9. Invest $1,000 to handle the tasks/chores that pain you
10. Do steps 1 through 9 again . . . and again if necessary
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14. Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep
me stuck in the past?
Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me
short-term fulfillment?
Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?
Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?
Will this choice add to my life force or will it rob me of my energy?
Will I use this situation as a catalyst to grow and evolve or will I use it
to beat myself up?
15. Does this choice empower me or does it
disempower me?
Is this an act of self-love or is it an act of
self-sabotage?
Is this an act of faith or is this an act of fear?
Am I choosing from my divinity or am I
choosing from my humanity?