The document discusses deception in online dating. It summarizes several studies that have found both men and women tend to exaggerate traits like wealth, age, beauty and commitment level in their dating profiles. Specifically, they found people were more likely to lie or use doctored photos to potential partners who were more physically attractive. However, deception can damage how favorably others perceive you if their expectations of honesty are violated. Overall, the document suggests a lack of self-worth and desire to recreate oneself, rather than being true to who you are, can lead some to deceive on dating platforms. It recommends understanding ourselves and building trust instead of feeling duped by deception.
States of Denial: Gendering Policy & Practice in Domestic Abuse and Mental Health Services - Professor Linda McKie, Glasgow Caledonian University - a presentation at A Difficult Alliance? Making Connections between Mental Health and Domestic Violence Research and Practice Agendas on 7 June 2011
Dr. Myron Anderson, Metropolitan State University of Dever. Summer Seminar: Multicultural Education and Anti-Bullying Strategies, University of Puerto Rico, Río Piedras
States of Denial: Gendering Policy & Practice in Domestic Abuse and Mental Health Services - Professor Linda McKie, Glasgow Caledonian University - a presentation at A Difficult Alliance? Making Connections between Mental Health and Domestic Violence Research and Practice Agendas on 7 June 2011
Dr. Myron Anderson, Metropolitan State University of Dever. Summer Seminar: Multicultural Education and Anti-Bullying Strategies, University of Puerto Rico, Río Piedras
Prosocial behavior, or intent to benefit others, is a social behavior that "benefit other people or society as a whole","such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering". Obeying the rules and conforming to socially accepted behaviors (such as stopping at a "Stop" sign or paying for groceries) are also regarded as prosocial behaviors. These actions may be motivated by empathy and by concern about the welfare and rights of others, as well as for egoistic or practical concerns, such as one's social status or reputation, hope for direct or indirect reciprocity, or adherence to one's perceived system of fairness. It may also be motivated by altruism, though the existence of pure altruism is somewhat disputed, and some have argued that this falls into philosophical rather than psychological realm of debate. Evidence suggests that pro sociality is central to the well-being of social groups across a range of scales, including schools. Prosocial behavior in the classroom can have a significant impact on a student's motivation for learning and contributions to the classroom and larger community. In the workplace, prosocial behaviour can have a significant impact on team psychological safety, as well as positive indirect effects on employee's helping behaviors and task performance. Empathy is a strong motive in eliciting prosocial behavior, and has deep evolutionary roots.
Prosocial behavior fosters positive traits that are beneficial for children and society. It helps many beneficial functions by bettering production of any league and its organizational scale. Evolutionary psychologists use theories such as kin-selection theory and inclusive fitness as an explanation for why prosocial behavioral tendencies are passed down generationally, according to the evolutionary fitness displayed by those who engaged in prosocial acts. Encouraging prosocial behavior may also require decreasing or eliminating undesirable social behaviors.
Although the term "prosocial behavior" is often associated with developing desirable traits in children, the literature on the topic has grown since the late 1980s to include adult behaviors as well. The term "prosocial" has grown into a world-wide movement, using evolutionary science to create real-world pro-social changes from working groups to our whole culture.
prosocialbehaviour
Voluntary actions that are intended to help or benefit another individual or group of individuals”
It is performed to benefit others by helping, sharing or comforting.
ALTRUISM:
Behavior that is motivated by an unselfish concern for the welfare of others.
When one person helps another person for
no reward, and even at some cost to oneself. This cost can be time, energy, effort or wealth etc.
Altruism involves no benefit of helper and hence it is selfless help.
Social psychologists study the circumstances in which people offer help to others.Research shows that people are less likely to offer help to someone in distress if other people are also present and this is called the bystander effect.
Besides influences and reason for helping has also been discussed
"New Perspectives on Suicide Prevention" Behavioral Healthcare Magazine Exclu...David Covington
Dennis Grantham feature article “Dispelling the Myths about Suicide” provides the three myths about suicide that Magellan Health has tackled in its Maricopa County contract.
Prosocial behavior, or intent to benefit others, is a social behavior that "benefit other people or society as a whole","such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering". Obeying the rules and conforming to socially accepted behaviors (such as stopping at a "Stop" sign or paying for groceries) are also regarded as prosocial behaviors. These actions may be motivated by empathy and by concern about the welfare and rights of others, as well as for egoistic or practical concerns, such as one's social status or reputation, hope for direct or indirect reciprocity, or adherence to one's perceived system of fairness. It may also be motivated by altruism, though the existence of pure altruism is somewhat disputed, and some have argued that this falls into philosophical rather than psychological realm of debate. Evidence suggests that pro sociality is central to the well-being of social groups across a range of scales, including schools. Prosocial behavior in the classroom can have a significant impact on a student's motivation for learning and contributions to the classroom and larger community. In the workplace, prosocial behaviour can have a significant impact on team psychological safety, as well as positive indirect effects on employee's helping behaviors and task performance. Empathy is a strong motive in eliciting prosocial behavior, and has deep evolutionary roots.
Prosocial behavior fosters positive traits that are beneficial for children and society. It helps many beneficial functions by bettering production of any league and its organizational scale. Evolutionary psychologists use theories such as kin-selection theory and inclusive fitness as an explanation for why prosocial behavioral tendencies are passed down generationally, according to the evolutionary fitness displayed by those who engaged in prosocial acts. Encouraging prosocial behavior may also require decreasing or eliminating undesirable social behaviors.
Although the term "prosocial behavior" is often associated with developing desirable traits in children, the literature on the topic has grown since the late 1980s to include adult behaviors as well. The term "prosocial" has grown into a world-wide movement, using evolutionary science to create real-world pro-social changes from working groups to our whole culture.
prosocialbehaviour
Voluntary actions that are intended to help or benefit another individual or group of individuals”
It is performed to benefit others by helping, sharing or comforting.
ALTRUISM:
Behavior that is motivated by an unselfish concern for the welfare of others.
When one person helps another person for
no reward, and even at some cost to oneself. This cost can be time, energy, effort or wealth etc.
Altruism involves no benefit of helper and hence it is selfless help.
Social psychologists study the circumstances in which people offer help to others.Research shows that people are less likely to offer help to someone in distress if other people are also present and this is called the bystander effect.
Besides influences and reason for helping has also been discussed
"New Perspectives on Suicide Prevention" Behavioral Healthcare Magazine Exclu...David Covington
Dennis Grantham feature article “Dispelling the Myths about Suicide” provides the three myths about suicide that Magellan Health has tackled in its Maricopa County contract.
Évolution du multiécran au Canada - Étude Microsoft - Novembre 2014Geeks and Com'
Microsoft Canada et Ipsos viennent de publier les résultats de leur étude sur l'évolution du multiécran au Canada. Voici quelques faits que l'on peut également retrouver dans l'étude complète :
- Plus de la moitié des Canadiens qui possèdent un téléviseur connecté affirment qu’ils écoutent rarement des émissions à l’heure de leur diffusion
- 3/4 des Canadiens utilisent plusieurs appareils en même temps
- 1/2 commencent une activité sur un appareil, puis la poursuivent sur un autre
- Plus que jamais, le temps des consommateurs est précieux et leur attention est divisée!
Codes and Terminology are topics that are easy to introduce, but tricky to understand in full complexity. IT Professionals encounter “codes” all the time. e-Health’s notion is really no different.
This presentation focused on following aspects of HL7v3:
» Concepts
» Code Data Types
» Concept Domains, Code Systems and Value Sets
» Implementation Concerns
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2015 will be the year that wearables take off. Much of the excitement around wearables will be directly tied to the launch of the Apple Watch, but this will also be the year that enterprises recognize the business opportunity of wearables. Here are some calls to action that enterprises should consider in 2015:
1. Consider if and how Apple Watch might supplement your organization’s current mobile offerings;
2. Consider the use of wearable devices to aid internal or customer-facing processes;
3. Be up-front about data collection and conscious of potential privacy concerns; and
4. Recognize that the next two years will see a lot of churn in the wearable space; don’t wait for the space to settle but, instead, charter early wearable pilots with the knowledge that some initial investment might be throwaway.
Refactoring legacy code driven by tests - ITALuca Minudel
Are you working on code poorly designed or on legacy code that’s hard to test? And you cannot refactor it because there are no tests?
During this Coding Dojo you’ll be assigned a coding challenge in Java, C#, Ruby, JavaScript or Python. You will face the challenge of improving the design and refactoring existing code in order to make it testable and to write unit tests.
We will discuss SOLID principles, the relation between design and TDD, and how this applies to your solution.
Reading list:
Growing Object-Oriented Software, Guided by Tests; Steve Freeman, Nat Pryce
Test Driven Development: By Example; Kent Beck
Working Effectively with Legacy; Michael Feathers
Agile Software Development, Principles, Patterns, and Practices; Robert C. Martin (C++, Java)
Agile Principles, Patterns, and Practices in C#; Robert C. Martin (C#)
Stern: Stigma and Mental Illness – A Barrier to Health Seekinghenkpar
Wonca Working Party on Mental Health
World mental Health Day
presentation Dr Anthony Stern (USA)
Stigma and Mental Illness – A Barrier to Health Seeking
Masturbation:History, Motivations, Benefits, and RisksKScalisi
Capstone presentation for PC450: Advanced Psychology Seminar. Provides a historical background on masturbation before exploring current psychological research related to motivations behind and benefits and risks of masturbating.
Body Image and Social Media - An important area for wellbeing and mental health. Presentation at the Royal College of Psychiatrists, London, UK, for Mental Health Awareness Week.
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personalities and tastes have changed over the years. But when we look ahead, somehow we
expect ourselves to stay the same, a team of psychologists said Thursday, describing research
they conducted of people's self-perceptions.
They called this phenomenon the "end of history illusion," in which people tend to
"underestimate how much they will change in the future." According to their research, which
involved more than 19,ooo people ranging in age from rB to 68, the illusion persists from
teenage years into retirement.
"Middle-aged people - like me - often look back on our teenage selves with some mixture
of amusement and chagrin," said one of the authors, Daniel T. Gilbert, a psychologist at
Harvard. "What we never seem to realize is that our future selves will look back and think
the very same thing about us. At every age we think we're having the last laugh, and at every
age we're wrong."
Other psychologists said they were intrigued by the findings, published Thursday in the
journal Science, and impressed with the amount of supporting evidence. Participants were
asked about their personality traits and preferences - their favorite foods, vacations,
hobbies and bands - in years past and present, and then asked to rnake predictions for the
future. Not surprisingly, the younger people in the study reported more change in the
previous decade than did the older respondents. But when asked to predict what their
personalities and tastes would be like in ten years, people of all ages consistently played
down the potential changes ahead.
Thus, the typical zo-year-old woman's predictions for her next decade weren't nearly as
radical as the typical 3o-year-old woman's recollection of how much she had changed in her
zos. This sort of discrepancy persisted among respondents all the way into their 6os.
And the discrepancy didn't seem to be because of faulty memories, because the personality
changes recalled by people jibed quite well with independent research charting how
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personality traits shift u'ith age. People seemed to be much better at recalling their former
selves than at imagining how much they would change in the future.
Why? Dr. Gilbert and his collaborators, Jordi Quoidbach of Harvard and Timothy D. Wilson
of the University of Virginia, had a few theories, starting with the well-documented tendenry
of people to overestimate their own wonderfulness.
"Believing that we just reached the peak of our personal evolution makes us feel good," Dr.
Quoidbach said. "T.
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Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
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Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to .
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego Bridgepoint Edu.docxmglenn3
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.
Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to do with who we meet and become friends with. Fir.
Chapter 11
Attraction & Exclusion
Today’s Outline
Attraction
Belongingness
Similarity
Physical attractiveness
Reciprocity
Rejection
Causes of rejection
Effects of rejection
Loneliness
Attraction & Exclusion
As social animals, humans are, at their core, truly concerned with attraction and exclusion
Indeed the point of social psychology may be to understand why some are accepted and loved, while others are rejected
Take a moment to consider times in your life where you might have been afraid of romantic rejection or perhaps were seeking social acceptance with a new group of peers
Attraction & Exclusion
The need to belong is defined as the desire to form and maintain close, lasting relationships with some other individuals
Needing to belong is considered a fundamental drive or basic need of the human psyche
Warren Jones, “In two decades of studying loneliness, I have met many people who said they had no friends. I have never met any one who didn’t want to have any friends.”
Need to belong
From an evolutionary psychology perspective:
Attraction and acceptance are necessary for reproduction
Additionally, humans likely developed a herd mentality to increase our odds of survival
Consider all the ways we know our behavior changes in groups
Monkeys can recognize that any two monkeys may have an alliance, be forming one, or might be likely to fight
One theory is that the human brain developed more to keep track of a highly complex social world
Two components to belongingness
1. Regular, positive social interactions
Regular is key here, many of us have formed friendships but moved on to new situations in our life and lost regular contact with old friends
Positive is also key, hanging out with that person you always argue with doesn’t fill that social need
2. Stable relationship/friendship in which people share mutual concern for each other
Typically research has shown people want about 1-5 close friends
People are less concerned with casual friends/acquaintances
How bad for you is not belonging?
Belonging is called a need, not a want, perhaps for these reasons
Death rates from various diseases increase among people with no social connections (Lynch, 1979)
People who are alone have more mental and physical problems (Uchino, Cacioppo, & Kiecolt-Glaser, 1996)
Loneliness reduces the ability of the immune system to heal the body (Cacioppo & Hawkley, 2005)
Attraction – Similarity,
complementarity, & opposites
Which old saying turns out to be true, “Birds of a feather flock together” or “Opposites attract”
The research has pointed to birds of a feather being the clear winner
In any relationship ranging from acquaintance to lover, opposites are unlikely to stay connected in the long run
Typically, but not always, our friends are similar in age, race, education level, political leaning, economic status, etc.
Note this is kind of a bad thing too, as it can lead us to assume everyone shares the opinions of your social group
How .
This presentation is intended to show how deception during the creation of a relationship occurs often, and is expected by both genders. We discover how both male and female alike engage in deceit and lying to achieve a companion that fits what is perceived as an ideal mate. We find what the genders are creating deceit about, and conclude with a question regarding how long we expect our relationships to last when we begin them with thoughtless misdirection and communicative puzzles.
It is reasonably safe to assume that most humans want companionship in some form or another. Whether it is for one drink, one meal, one night, or something longer, we want it, we crave it, and to many, we need it. For this reason the study of dating rituals, and how we deceive each other to reach that goal of companionship needs to be addressed. Having witnessed the pitfalls that come from deception during courtship, dating and marriage leads me to a hypothesis. Part of the dating game not only includes deception but it has become second nature for most to indulge in this potentially harmful habit.
The research concerning the topic of deception hasn’t been fully flushed out yet. During my research and having read several studies published on this topic there are several ways that they seem to fall short in addressing the actual issue of deception. The articles took samples ranging in number and gender from primarily college age adults. The samples numbered from 40 to 100, with discrepancies in gender that in some articles were almost 3-1 male to female. Additionally, all of the studies relied on answers from the participants. The researchers were simply asking a random sampling of adults about whether they deceive or not. This is an issue that goes towards validity, because the authors were relying on honesty from people that were openly deceptive, and in some cases outright liars.
To begin with it is quite clear that deception can be detrimental to the health of a long-term relationship as Benz et all suggests, “…men and women attempt to deceive potential mates about evolutionary relevant characteristics…”(Benz et all, 2005)
A few characteristics are, wealth, age, beauty, and commitment. Let’s be honest, do any of us really believe that lying about our age, wealth, commitment, or beauty is a healthy thing? The purpose of this deception is to improve our odds of “snagging” our “perfect” mate. However, if we have to lie about ourselves to find her, is she really our “perfect” mate?
There are many debates on what a perfect mate is. Is it the person that is your exact opposite? Is it someone exactly like you? Is it the person that has complimentary strengths and weaknesses? Or, is it that really hot looking number down at the end of the bar? Unfortunately, it tends to be that hot number at the end of the bar. Since we have a tendency to deceive our desired mate, we find that it correlates with how we approach said mate. Meaning, we tend to approach the hot number, and then act as if we are worthy of that mate.
A study conducted by Rowatt et all in 1999 found that “Both men and women deceptively altered their self-presented expressivity and love attitudes to more attractive prospects, and reported being more willing to lie about their personal appearance, personality traits, income, past relationship outcomes, career skills and intelligence to prospective dates who were higher in facial physical attractiveness, compared with prospective dates who were lower in facial physical attractiveness.” Due to our desire to approach a potential mate that is probably more attractive than we are, we lie and or deceive with the hope that we will transform ourselves into what we believe is an ideal mate.
In today’s dating realm, our society has found a new way to meet others. This way is through Internet dating websites. The proliferation of online dating can be linked to worsening the already rampant dating deceptions, by allowing “love seekers” to post a ten-year-old photograph of himself say that he is athletic, or that he loves long walks on the beach. Regardless of how true these statements are they are used on a regular basis to grab the attention of someone that is most likely out of the “love seekers” league.
My brother
In today’s dating realm, our society has found a new way to meet others. This way is through Internet dating websites. The proliferation of online dating can be linked to worsening the already rampant dating deceptions, by allowing “love seekers” to post a ten-year-old photograph of himself say that he is athletic, or that he loves long walks on the beach. Regardless of how true these statements are they are used on a regular basis to grab the attention of someone that is most likely out of the “love seekers” league.
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In today’s dating realm, our society has found a new way to meet others. This way is through Internet dating websites. The proliferation of online dating can be linked to worsening the already rampant dating deceptions, by allowing “love seekers” to post a ten-year-old photograph of himself say that he is athletic, or that he loves long walks on the beach. Regardless of how true these statements are they are used on a regular basis to grab the attention of someone that is most likely out of the “love seekers” league.
My nephew
In today’s dating realm, our society has found a new way to meet others. This way is through Internet dating websites. The proliferation of online dating can be linked to worsening the already rampant dating deceptions, by allowing “love seekers” to post a ten-year-old photograph of himself say that he is athletic, or that he loves long walks on the beach. Regardless of how true these statements are they are used on a regular basis to grab the attention of someone that is most likely out of the “love seekers” league.
Due to the rise in Internet dating, and online deception, there have been ample studies about the reactions to this kind of illicit behavior. One such study found that “…violating people's expectations for an honest answer can cause one to be seen in a less favorable light.” (Rycyna et all, 2009)
This unfavorable light is something that we all should be worried about. If we deceive someone to gain favor and secure a date, what do we expect to happen when the truth inevitably comes out? Do we expect her to be overjoyed with our deception? Do we hope that she will be okay with it? Should we expect her to be upset with us? Or, what if she decides that it is a deal breaker? While any of the above scenarios are possible, the most likely outcome would be anger at the very least, if not the complete dissolution of your relationship. If that happens, aren’t we better off learning our lesson and not deceiving the next trusting fool?
Throughout all the research that has been done, there is no clear answer to which gender deceives more. However, “It was found that females assume more deception overall by members of the opposite sex.” (Keenan et all, 1997) If females are assuming that males are deceiving them, then doesn’t it stand to reason that they will behave the same? While males may be the catalyst, the females are participating, and therefore are further acerbating the fact that we as a species lie and deceive to achieve some goal that we often times are incapable of achieving.
The overall assessment of my topic tends to be about why and how people recreate themselves, or lie and deceive during courtship. A possible reason for why both male and females lie, deceive and even recreate their personality is because they have a general lack of self worth. Consequently, they feel that being true to their self isn’t good enough to get what they want. In turn, this leads them to lie, deceive and recreate themselves in any manner they deem necessary to achieve their goal.
The question I would ask to further this area is: How do mate seekers think lying at such an early stage in a relationship will unfold over the course of a long-term relationship? The reason I would focus on this topic is because, as our society continues a trend toward marrying later in life, and our divorce rate continues to climb, we should at the very least try and arrest, the divorce rate. I believe that if we all look back over our past and current relationships, we will find that not only were we deceived but that we were deceptive as well. It is my assertion that if we in general have more confidence in ourselves and not lie at the beginning of a relationship, it will make it far easier to continue to tell the truth, thus building a lasting relationship that is based on trust and respect. Not with the feeling of being duped into the relationship.