The document discusses the importance of respect, kindness, and tolerance in children's development and outlines strategies for teaching these values. It highlights the consequences of disrespect and unkindness, providing practical steps for nurturing respect and kindness as well as addressing unkind behaviors. The document also covers the need for fairness, the impact of societal influences on these behaviors, and ways for educators and parents to foster positive social interactions.

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4. Showing you value
others by treating
them in a courteous
and considerate way.

5. The Crisis of
Disrespect
6 Factors

6. 1. The impact of
treating kids
disrespectfully

7. 2. The decline of
civility

8. 3. The price of
fear and
suspicion

9. 4. The decrease
of prominent role
models

10. 5. The increase in
obscene
language

11. 6. Crudeness,
rudeness and
raunchiness
flaunted by media

12. Signs of
Respect

18. How respectful
is your student?

19. A Test
Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

20. 5 = ALWAYS
4 = FREQUENTLY
3 = SOMETIMES
2 = RARELY
1 = NEVER

23. Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

24. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 1: Convey the Meaning of
Respect by Modeling and Teaching it
Step 2: Enhance Respect for
Authority and Squelch Rudeness
Step 3: Emphasize Good Manners and
Courtesy – They do Count!

25. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 1: Convey the
Meaning of Respect
by Modeling and
Teaching it

26. 7 Practices
that
Nurture
Respect
and Love

27. 1. Treat your student
as the most important
person in the world.

28. 2. Give love with no
strings attached

29. 3. Listen attentively
and respectfully.

30. 4. Communicate
respect with your
whole body, not just
with your words.

31. 5. Build positive self-
concepts.

32. 6. Tell them often why
you love and cherish
them.

33. 7. Enjoy being
together.

34. Lucky Me Pregnant

35. Three Ways to
Teach Kids the
Meaning of
RESPECT

36. 1
Define
RESPECT

37. 2
Ask the
Golden
Rule
Question

38. 3
Instill
RESPECTFUL
Rules

39. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 1: Convey the Meaning of
Respect by Modeling and Teaching it
Step 2: Enhance Respect for
Authority and Squelch Rudeness
Step 3: Emphasize Good Manners and
Courtesy – They do Count!

40. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 2: Enhance
Respect for
Authority and
Squelch Rudeness

41. How to get rid of
Disrespectful Behavior

42. Step 1: Call out
the rude
behavior on the
spot.

43. Step 2: Refuse
to engage when
treated
disrespectfully.

44. Step 3: If
rudeness
continues, set a
consequence.

45. Step 4: Teach
new behaviors
to replace
inappropriate
ones.

46. Step 5:
Encourage
respectful
behavior.

47. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 1: Convey the Meaning of
Respect by Modeling and Teaching it
Step 2: Enhance Respect for
Authority and Squelch Rudeness
Step 3: Emphasize Good Manners and
Courtesy – They do Count!

48. Three Steps to Build
RESPECT
Step 3: Emphasize
Good Manners and
Courtesy – They do
Count!

49. Five Steps to
Help Kids Learn
New Manners

50. Step 1: Identify the
student’s “Manner
Needs”

55. Step 2: Model the new
courtesy skill to your
student.

56. Step 3: Provide
opportunities to
practice the skill.

57. Step 4: Encourage
your students’ efforts.

58. Step 4: Encourage
your students’ efforts.

61. Demonstrating
concern about the
welfare and
feelings of others

62. Crisis of
UNKINDNESS
4 Factors

63. 1. Lack of Modeling
by Parents and
Other Adults

64. 2. Not Enough
Encouragement for
KINDNESS

65. 3. Influence of
UNKIND
Peers

66. 4. Desensitization to
UNKINDNESS

67. Signs of KINDNESS

72. How kind is your student?

73. A Test
Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

74. 5 = ALWAYS
4 = FREQUENTLY
3 = SOMETIMES
2 = RARELY
1 = NEVER

76. Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

77. Three Steps
to Build
Kindness

78. Step 1: Teach the Meaning
and Value of Kindness
Step 2: Establish Zero
Tolerance for Unkindness
Step 3: Encourage Kindness
and Point Out Its Positive
Effect

79. Step 1: Teach the Meaning
and Value of Kindness

80. 4 Ways to Help
Kids Understand
KINDNESS

81. 1
Consciously
Model
KINDNESS

82. 2
Expect and
Demand
KINDNESS

83. 3
Teach the
Meaning of
KINDNESS

84. 4
Show what
KINDNESS
looks like

85. Heartwarmer
Statements to
Teach Kids

86. “Is everything all right?”
“I appreciate your help.”
“Can I get something for you?”
“I’m here for you.”

87. “Congratulations!”
“Call me when you need me.”
“What can I do?”
“I hope you feel better.”

88. “I hope you do well.”
“I know you can do it!”
“Get well soon!”
“I’m sorry.”

89. “Thank you.”
“Are you okay?”
“Good luck!”
“I’m thinking about you.”

90. A TIP for pointing out the
Impact of Kindness to Kids

91. T – Tell who was the kindness
recipient and describe his need
I – Identify what kindness was said or
done
P – Point out how the kind gesture
made a difference for the recipient

92. Step 1: Teach the Meaning
and Value of Kindness
Step 2: Establish Zero
Tolerance for Unkindness
Step 3: Encourage Kindness
and Point Out Its Positive
Effect

93. Step 2: Establish Zero
Tolerance for Unkindness

94. If we want our kids to be
kind and do what is right,
it’s imperative that they
recognize that unkind
words and deeds are
hurtful.

95. Four Ways to Reduce
Unkind Behaviors

96. 1. Target the unkind
behavior, not the child.

97. 2. Help the child empathize
with his victim’s feelings.

98. 3. Decide on a new behavior
with which to replace the
unkind actions.

99. 4. Give the child the
opportunity to make amends.

100. 10 Reasons Why
Kids are Mean

101. 1. Lack of Empathy. He may not fully grasp
the emotional impact of his unkindness.
2. Lack of self-esteem. She feels unworthy,
so she brings the other person down.
3. Need to retaliate. He has been picked on
and teased, and wants to “get back”.

102. 4. Desire to be included. As a way of “fitting
into” the group, she puts outsiders down.
5. Lack of problem-solving skills. Not knowing
how to solve conflicts, he resorts to insults or
name-calling.
6. Jealousy. She envies the other child, so she
brings him down to feel better about herself.

103. 7. How’s he treated. He is treated unkindly, so
he mimics the same behaviors.
8. Desire for power over someone else. Teasing
makes her feel superior.

104. 9. No expectations requiring kindness. No one is
telling him that unkindness is not allowed.
10. Poor social skills. She doesn’t know the skills
for getting along – cooperating, negotiating,
compromising, encouraging, listening – so she
resorts to bringing the other child down.

105. 5 Ways Schools and Families
are Fighting Unkindness

106. 1
Make
“No Put Down”
Posters

107. 2
Create a
“No Put Down”
Pledge

108. 3
Hold a
“Put Down”
Burial

109. 4
Make a
Turnaround
Rule

110. 5
Penalize
“Put Downs”

111. Step 1: Teach the Meaning
and Value of Kindness
Step 2: Establish Zero
Tolerance for Unkindness
Step 3: Encourage Kindness
and Point Out Its Positive
Effect

112. Step 3: Encourage
Kindness and Point Out
Its Positive Effect

113. Three Ideas for Helping Kids
Practice Doing Kind Deeds

114. 1
Create a Kindheart
Centerpiece

115. 2
Assign Secret
Kindness Pals

116. 3
Make a
Giving Tree

119. Respecting the dignity
and rights of all persons,
even those whose beliefs
and behaviors differ from
our own

120. Crisis in the
Development of
TOLERANCE
6 Factors

121. 1. Lack of Moral Monitoring

122. 2. Decline of Meaningful
Community Support

123. 3. Accessibility of Internet Hate
Sites “Culture of Bashing”

124. 4. Racially Charged Video
Entertainment Aimed at Youth

125. 5. Hate Music/Grunge

126. 6. Prejudice and Stereotypes
Displayed on TV

127. Signs of
TOLERANCE

132. How
TOLERANT
is your
student?

133. A Test
Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

134. 5 = ALWAYS
4 = FREQUENTLY
3 = SOMETIMES
2 = RARELY
1 = NEVER

136. Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

137. Step 1: Model and Nurture
Tolerance
Step 2: Instill an Appreciation
for Diversity
Step 3: Counter Stereotypes
and Never Tolerate Prejudice

138. Step 1: Model and Nurture
Tolerance

139. 6 Practices that Help
Raise Tolerant Kids

140. 1
Confront your
own prejudices

141. 2
Commit yourself to
raising tolerant kids

142. 3
Refuse to allow
discriminatory
comments in your
presence

143. 4
Provide Positive
Images of all Ethnic
Groups

144. 5
Encourage
Involvement with a
wide range of
diversities

145. 6
Live Your Life as an
Example of
Tolerance

146. Step 1: Model and Nurture
Tolerance
Step 2: Instill an Appreciation
for Diversity
Step 3: Counter Stereotypes
and Never Tolerate Prejudice

147. Step 2: Instill an
Appreciation for
Diversity

148. THINK
ABOUT
IT!

151. 4 Ways to
Develop
Positive
Attitudes
About
Diversity

152. 1
Celebrate
Differences
Early On

153. 2
Expose the
Young to
Diversity

154. 3
Give
Straightforward
Answers to
Questions
About
Differences

155. 4
Help them
Look for
Similarities

156. Step 1: Model and Nurture
Tolerance
Step 2: Instill an Appreciation
for Diversity
Step 3: Counter Stereotypes
and Never Tolerate Prejudice

157. Step 3: Counter Stereotypes
and Never Tolerate Prejudice

158. 4 Ways to Curtail
Prejudice by
Teaching Kids to
Counter
Stereotypes

159. 1
Point Out Biases and
Stereotypes

160. 2
Encourage “Talk Checks” to
Squelch Stereotypical
Messages

161. 3
Counter Your Students’
Discriminatory Beliefs

162. 4
Set a rule:
“No Discriminatory
Comments”

165. Choosing to be
open minded
and to act in a
just and fair
way

166. Choosing to be open
minded and to act in a
just and fair way

167. Crisis of
UNFAIRNESS
4 Factors

168. 1. Early
Attachment
Problems

169. 2. Breakdown in
Role Models

170. 3. Emphasis on
Competition

171. 4. Reduction of
Unstructured
Play

172. Signs of a Strong
Sense of
FAIRNESS

175. How strong is
your student’s
Sense of
FAIRNESS?

176. A Test
Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

177. 5 = ALWAYS
4 = FREQUENTLY
3 = SOMETIMES
2 = RARELY
1 = NEVER

179. Score : What it Means
40 to 50: Great Shape
30 to 40: Needs enhancement
20 to 30: potential problems
10 to 20: potential danger

180. Three Steps to Build
FAIRNESS
Step 1: Treat Your Students Fairly
Step 2: Help Your Students Learn to
Behave Fairly
Step 3: Teach Your Students Ways to
Stand Up Against Unfairness and
Injustice

181. Step 1: Treat Your
Students Fairly

182. 5 Adult
Behaviors that
Boost Fairness
in Kids

183. 1
Be a strong
Example of
FAIRNESS

184. 2
Expect and
Demand
FAIRNESS

185. 3
Share Your
Beliefs About
FAIRNESS

186. 4
Listen
FAIRLY
and Openly

187. 5
Set
FAIR
and Realistic
Expectations

188. Three Steps to Build
FAIRNESS
Step 1: Treat Your Students Fairly
Step 2: Help Your Students Learn to
Behave Fairly
Step 3: Teach Your Students Ways to
Stand Up Against Unfairness and
Injustice

189. Step 2: Help Your Students
Learn to Behave Fairly

190. Three ways to Foster
Sharing in Kids

191. 1
Create
Sharing
Boundaries

192. 2
Encourage
Sharing
Behavior

193. 3
Emphasize
the Effect
Sharing has
on Others

194. Three Steps to Build
FAIRNESS
Step 1: Treat Your Students Fairly
Step 2: Help Your Students Learn to
Behave Fairly
Step 3: Teach Your Students Ways to
Stand Up Against Unfairness and
Injustice

195. Step 3: Teach Your Students Ways
to Stand Up Against Unfairness
and Injustice

197. 7 Tips to Get Kids Started on
Doing Social Justice Projects

198. 1
Choose a Project Based
on the Kids’ Interests
and Talents

199. 2
Research the Topic

200. 3
Think of all Possible
Solutions

201. 4
Enlist Others in
the Cause

202. 5
Plan for Success

203. 6
Implement the
Solutions and
Evaluate Progress

204. 7
Celebrate
Efforts

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