How do our torsos, hands, feet and legs communicate emotions
non-verbally?
Arms akimbo is a
territorial display
that makes
someone look
bigger.
The regal stance
tells others to
stay away.
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Leaning forward
occurs when we
like or agree with
someone.
This territorial
display is
appropriate at
home, but can be
seen as
disrespectful when
used at work.
Crossed arms create
comfort in social
settings.
The placement of
fingers can
emphasize who's
in charge.
When feeling less
confident or
discussing
something we
dislike, our
thumbs come
down.
A steeple is often
used among
individuals of
high status to
communicate
precise thoughts
Touching our
necks shows that
we feel
threatened or
concerned.
Repetitive
motions like
jiggling our feet
help us to feel
calm. When
jiggling becomes
more of a kick,
the brain is
considering
something
negative.
Crossing our legs
is rarely done
around people
we dislike or
don't trust.
Toes pointing
towards the air
indicate positive
feelings.
 Maintain eye contact.
 Nod your head to convey that you are listening or that
you agree.
 Smile and show interest.
 Lean forward to show the speaker you are interested.
 Use a tone of voice that matches your message
 Avoiding eye contact and looking away from the
speaker.
 Closing your eyes or tensing your facial muscles.
 Excessive yawning.
 Using body language that conveys indecisiveness or lack
of confidence (e.g., slumped shoulders, head down, flat
tones, inaudible voice)
 Speaking too fast or too slow.
Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of
listening when you'd have preferred to talk. ~Doug Larson
 Listen—
 Speak—
 Read--
 Write--
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 45%
 30%
 16%
 9%
• Selecting: Sorting through various sounds
that compete for your attention
• Attending: Focusing on a particular sound or
message
• Understanding: Assigning meaning to
messages
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 Remembering: Recalling information that has
been communicated
 Responding: Confirming your understanding
of a message
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• Listen to enjoy
• Listen to learn.
• Listen to evaluate.
• Listen to empathize.
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Hearing
• Physical
• Registers the sound
• Requires an ear,
preferably two
• Isn’t work at all
Listening
• Cognitive
• Makes sense of it
• Requires ears and
mind
• Is brain work, needs
effort
Non-listening
• Little use of mind
• Little empathy
• Emphasis on hearing
• Inattention to nonverbal
communication
Active Listening
• Significant use of mind
• Much empathy
• Emphasis on understanding
• Focus on nonverbal
communication
 Orientation toward self
 Lack of etiquette
 Casual attention to
meaning
 Little personal involvement
 Results in conflict
 Orientation toward others
 Good application of etiquette
 Intense attention to meaning
 Much personal involvement
 Results in rapport
Non-listening Active Listening
• Preoccupation
• Boredom
• Selective listening
• Filters
• Noise
 Filters are the thoughts and ideas
that influence our listening.
 Filters develop from family
experiences & work experiences,
childhood, education, and
religious.
• Expectations
• Interests
• Physical Environment
• Past Experiences
• Biases
• Values & Cultures
• Assumptions
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• Faking attention
• Changing Channels
• Listening only for facts
• Interrupting
 Stop talking
 Put speaker at ease
 Show speaker you want to listen
 Remove distractions
 Empathize with speaker
 Be patient
 Hold your temper
 Easy argument and criticism
 Ask questions
 Summarize
Why is it important to ask questions?
 A major component of communication
process
 To find out what people know, think and feel
 To complete the listening process
 Relevant Vs irrelevant
 Direct Vs Indirect
 Open and closed questions
 Follow up questions
 Clarifying questions
 Pauses
 Guiders
Body language during presentation

Body language during presentation

  • 1.
    How do ourtorsos, hands, feet and legs communicate emotions non-verbally?
  • 2.
    Arms akimbo isa territorial display that makes someone look bigger. The regal stance tells others to stay away. 2
  • 3.
    Leaning forward occurs whenwe like or agree with someone.
  • 4.
    This territorial display is appropriateat home, but can be seen as disrespectful when used at work.
  • 5.
    Crossed arms create comfortin social settings.
  • 6.
    The placement of fingerscan emphasize who's in charge.
  • 7.
    When feeling less confidentor discussing something we dislike, our thumbs come down.
  • 8.
    A steeple isoften used among individuals of high status to communicate precise thoughts
  • 9.
    Touching our necks showsthat we feel threatened or concerned.
  • 10.
    Repetitive motions like jiggling ourfeet help us to feel calm. When jiggling becomes more of a kick, the brain is considering something negative.
  • 11.
    Crossing our legs israrely done around people we dislike or don't trust.
  • 12.
    Toes pointing towards theair indicate positive feelings.
  • 14.
     Maintain eyecontact.  Nod your head to convey that you are listening or that you agree.  Smile and show interest.  Lean forward to show the speaker you are interested.  Use a tone of voice that matches your message
  • 15.
     Avoiding eyecontact and looking away from the speaker.  Closing your eyes or tensing your facial muscles.  Excessive yawning.  Using body language that conveys indecisiveness or lack of confidence (e.g., slumped shoulders, head down, flat tones, inaudible voice)  Speaking too fast or too slow.
  • 17.
    Wisdom is thereward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk. ~Doug Larson
  • 18.
     Listen—  Speak— Read--  Write-- 2 April 202018  45%  30%  16%  9%
  • 19.
    • Selecting: Sortingthrough various sounds that compete for your attention • Attending: Focusing on a particular sound or message • Understanding: Assigning meaning to messages 2 April 202019
  • 20.
     Remembering: Recallinginformation that has been communicated  Responding: Confirming your understanding of a message 2 April 202020
  • 22.
    • Listen toenjoy • Listen to learn. • Listen to evaluate. • Listen to empathize. 2 April 202022
  • 24.
    Hearing • Physical • Registersthe sound • Requires an ear, preferably two • Isn’t work at all Listening • Cognitive • Makes sense of it • Requires ears and mind • Is brain work, needs effort
  • 25.
    Non-listening • Little useof mind • Little empathy • Emphasis on hearing • Inattention to nonverbal communication Active Listening • Significant use of mind • Much empathy • Emphasis on understanding • Focus on nonverbal communication
  • 26.
     Orientation towardself  Lack of etiquette  Casual attention to meaning  Little personal involvement  Results in conflict  Orientation toward others  Good application of etiquette  Intense attention to meaning  Much personal involvement  Results in rapport Non-listening Active Listening
  • 31.
    • Preoccupation • Boredom •Selective listening • Filters • Noise
  • 32.
     Filters arethe thoughts and ideas that influence our listening.  Filters develop from family experiences & work experiences, childhood, education, and religious.
  • 33.
    • Expectations • Interests •Physical Environment • Past Experiences • Biases • Values & Cultures • Assumptions
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  • 35.
    • Faking attention •Changing Channels • Listening only for facts • Interrupting
  • 36.
     Stop talking Put speaker at ease  Show speaker you want to listen  Remove distractions  Empathize with speaker
  • 37.
     Be patient Hold your temper  Easy argument and criticism  Ask questions  Summarize
  • 38.
    Why is itimportant to ask questions?  A major component of communication process  To find out what people know, think and feel  To complete the listening process
  • 39.
     Relevant Vsirrelevant  Direct Vs Indirect  Open and closed questions  Follow up questions  Clarifying questions  Pauses  Guiders