The document outlines the signs of an unhealthy relationship and components of a healthy relationship. Unhealthy relationships are characterized by control, manipulation, ridicule, and lack of respect. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, honesty, support, fairness, separate identities, and good communication. Good communication involves openly discussing feelings without bottling things up or pretending nothing is wrong.

1. Healthy
Relationships
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2. Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship One or Both of You
● Try to control or manipulate the other
● Make the other feel bad about her/himself
● Ridicule or call each other names
● Dictate how the other dresses
● Discourage the other from being close with anyone else
● Put down or unsupportive of others based on race, religion,
gender, disability, sexual orientation, or other personal
attributes
● Ignore each other when one is speaking

3. Components of a Healthy Relationship
● Mutual respect
● Trust
● Honesty
● Support
● Fairness/Equality
● Separate Identities
● Good Communication

4. Mutual Respect
● Make sure that your partner, or person you are in a
relationship with, understand who you are
● and accept your significant personality and traits
● make sure that your partner respects your boundaries and
won’t try to make you do something you are uncomfortable
with or make you feel uncomfortable
● your partner would listen to what you have to say and
respectively tell you how he/she feels about your point of
view

5. Trust
● Jealousy is a natural emotion, BUT there is still an
appropriate way to act when a person is feeling jealous
● In your relationship both partners need to be able to
control feelings of jealousy
● Each partner should understand that the other partner
has a life of their own and can speak with or go
anywhere that they please
● Each partner should be able to trust that their partner
will not do something to hurt the relationship, for
examples cheat, when they are not around the other
partner

6. Honesty
● Honesty and trust go hand and hand
● A relationship is a two way street so you need to be honest to
your partner to expect them to be honest to you
● If you decide to lie to your partner, then the next time you tell
the truth they may be hesitant to believe you
● It is important to be honest, if you say something your partner
doesn't agree with there are other ways within a healthy
relationship to be able to work them out

7. Support
● It is important that you offer your partner support during good
and bad times
● It is also important that your partner supports you during your
good and bad times as well
● When you're in a relationship with a partner, or family
member, they should be able to help you out through rough
times and also be able to celebrate with you during good
times

8. Fairness/Equality
● Within any type of relationship it is important to treat one another with the same
equal treatment
● Acknowledge and compliment a person or yourself for the the work you have
done and the contributions you have made (Give credit when due)
● One person must not dominate or hold power over the other
● Equity is measured by comparing the ratios of contributions and benefits of each
person (does not have to be equal, but must be similar)
● Fairness/Equality has not been established if a person or you feels
underappreciated or even worthless

9. Separate Identities
● Everyone needs to make compromises for relationships at one point, but
that doesn’t mean that you should feel like you’re losing out on being
yourself!
● Remember to be yourself - you are your own individual with different
families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc. and that doesn’t need to change
● No one should have to pretend to like something they’re not, or give up
seeing their friends, or drop out of activities they love
● You should always feel free to keep developing new talents or interests,
making new friends, and moving forward

10. Good Communication
● Interpersonal communication skills
● The phrase "no, nothing's wrong" usually means that something is wrong
● Ask questions and speak honestly/openly
● Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it’s not what the
other person wants to hear or because you worry that it sounds silly…
nothing is silly!
● If you need some time to think something through before you're ready to
talk about it, that is completely fine too