When languages spoken vary in shades of meaning and intent, everyone is cautious and starts reading ‘between the lines’. Often, when we are already in low empathy and high reactionary mode of mind consciousness, even the simplest and noblest of sentences with happiest of intents land in our minds with wrong and inverse intent. Because, we are now used to seeing and reading what we think and feel is ‘between the lines’…

1. Obsession With Individualistic Vocabulary
Everyone needs connect for sense of belonging, which breeds core wellness… however, two
key tools that create connect – language and empathy are huge casualties in modern
milieus… time to resurrect linguistic skills and art of mutuality...
Globally, surveys and social research data point out, average people do not accept the need
for learning languages, they speak, reasonably well. Learning other languages and imbibing
good communicational tools from different expression modes has been on the downslide.
We are not going on reasons here…

2. Research says, in Europe as well as USA, languages and their use as expressions and
communication has become more ‘individualistic’, as against its universal role as societal
commodity or tool of assimilation. This means – average person is least bothered whether
what he or she speaks, using whatever words in his or her set of vocabulary, is reaching to
others, as he or she meant it, or not…
Like, a person thinks, he or she has said it and it has been understood. But surely contrary
happens. Two things happen, often –
1. Words do not carry the meaning and does not reach the way, they were aimed at;
result is miscommunication, lack of connect, loss of empathy and advent of sense of
alienation…
2. Words may not carry offense but received as offensive, creating negativity, anger,
reactionary energies and violence…
There however is another aspect of the communication conundrum. Globally, use of slangs
and cuss words has increased many fold. It is said, what British say with carelessness and
humor, lands at average American mind as profane and blasphemous. And, the vice-
versa…!
For example, there is little difference and deference of what sense the words carry, when
average person speaks. There is then his threat of they being received in whatever way or
mood the person, to whom it is said. Like, if someone says, ‘Oh pomegranatorial…’ Now, the
slang has only personal meaning, still not in uniform acceptance in all socio-cultural
milieus. Therefore, an American may mouth it is humor, the British may take it as profanity
and an Indian may accept it as racist…!

3. The primary acceptance is – languages are always worthy and utility entity only in social
and collective domains. There has to be a general and uniform acceptance of the singular
meaning of the words. If not, languages create divide and alienation. Empathy is killed as
words stand in the doubtful grounds…
Also, not only words need to have clarity of singular meaning, they must also be spoken in
collectively uniform emphasis and tone. For example, the sentence, ‘You have come’ is
value-neutral line. However, if someone chooses to lay undue weight, emphasis or prolongs
the pitch of the word ‘Have’, or in any of the three words, the expression starts acquiring
new shades of meaning. The way we speak, ‘qualifies’ the intent of the speaker…

4. Naturally, when languages spoken vary in shades of meaning and intent, everyone is
cautious and starts reading ‘between the lines’. Often, when we are already in low empathy
and high reactionary mode of mind consciousness, even the simplest and noblest of
sentences with happiest of intents land in our minds with wrong and inverse intent.
Because, we are now used to seeing and reading what we think and feel is ‘between the
lines’…
Naturally, what then is accepted is not what lies there. What is then huge casualty is
empathy and wellness. In our relationships, we all are witnessing this trouble. Many of us
have poor and very average linguistic skills, resorting to dualistic slangs, cuss words and
overly sexual words. People have already developed this habit of reading between the lines
and then, as the slang goes, ‘The hell spills out of the basket…’
… time to reach out… !