3. Discuss the value of Stephen Covey’s Habit.
Identify the three components of verbal
communication and the percentage of
information found in each.
Explain the relationship of Self Talk to the
Communications model.
Describe the Arc of Distortion.
Utilize the Left-Hand Column Model to analyze
thoughts and feelings.
Performance Objectives:
5. What is an effective Communication?
What does being an Effective
Communicator mean to you?
What are the skill sets needed by an
Effective communicator?
What emotions contribute to
effectiveness?
Questions
6. QUALITIES AND SKILL BUILDING FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATOR
What’s missing in the
picture of this
tree?
8. QUALITIES AND SKILL BUILDING FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATOR
What are our
roots like?
9. BEHAVIOR * Skill
* Stated Knowledge
THOUGHTS
FEELINGS
* More likely aware
COGNITIVE
STRUCTURE
(thinking patterns)
BELIEFS AND
ATTITUDES
* Under the
surface
Source: Mark Carey, The Carey Group
10. “Seek first to understand and then
to be understood.”
Stephen R. Covey Habit #5
Stephen R. Covey,
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 1990.
11. COMMUNICATION ASSESSMENT
Courageous Communication. Win-win;
we constantly learn from and grow with
each other.
Problems occur; we work to fix them.
Repeat as necessary. Pretty much on the
same page.
Agree to Disagree, then step away. I’d do
more if you would.
Adversarial; I win, you lose. It’s mostly
your fault. Contentious.
Sabotage Communication. Enemies,
enemies; everywhere you look.
12. Courageous Communication. Win-win; we
constantly learn from and grow with each
other.
Problems occur; we work to fix them.
Repeat as necessary. Pretty much on the
same page.
Agree to Disagree, then step away. I’d do
more if you would.
Adversarial; I win, you lose. It’s mostly
your fault. Contentious.
Sabotage Communication. Enemies,
enemies; everywhere you look.
19. The Responsibilities of the Receiver
The Receiver
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The Sender
The
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24. I know you believe you understand what you
think I said, but I am not sure you realize that
what you heard is not what I meant. Unknown
What you
actually heard
Arc of “Distortion MAYBE
YES
Arc of Distortion
26. ADVOCACY AND INQUIRY
Advocacy: n. an advocating: a
speaking or writing in support (of
something)
Inquiry n. 1. The act of inquiring. 2.
An investigation or examination. 3. A
question; query.
27. 1. Temporarily suspend your
internal filters
2. Listen
3. Ask questions about what
you hear
4. Ask more questions about
the answers you receive
34. Left-hand Column
Exercise
Left-hand Column Right-hand Column
• Jon: I heard you bought
a new car.
• You: Yes, I got a new red
sports car.
• Jon: Really, what kind?
• You: A Jaguar.
• Jon: A brand new one
• You: You betcha.
35. Left-hand Column
Exercise
Right-hand Column
• Jon: I heard you bought
a new car.
• You: Yes, I got a new red
sports car.
• Jon: Really, what kind?
• You: A Jaguar.
• Jon: A brand new one
• You: You betcha.
Left-hand Column
• Jon: How can you afford
a new car?
• You: Woo hoo! Look at
me now
• Jon: Probably a Ford
• You: A Convertible
• Jon: It’s probably a 1970.
• You: Eat your heart out
36. Left-hand Column
Exercise
Right-hand Column
• Q: How long have you
been working as a
supervisor?
• A: About a year.
• Q: Have you had any major
concerns with staff?
• A: Yea, a couple of times.
• Q: So did you talk to
anyone about your
concerns?
• A: No, I didn’t want my
peers to think I was
weak.
Left-hand Column
37. Sender Filters
• Left-hand Column • Right-hand Column
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thinking
What is
said
38. • What was I trying to accomplish?
• Did I achieve the results I wanted?
• How might have my comments contributed
to the difficulties?
• Why didn’t I say what was in my left hand
column?
• What assumptions did I make about the
other person or people?
• How can I use my left-hand column as a
resource to improve communications?
Reflection: Using Your Left-hand
Column as a Resource
40. Communication Stoppers
• “This is the way it is…”
• “You’re wrong…”
• “What’s your proof…”
• “Whatever”
• “You…”
• We vs. They or Us vs. Them
• GOSSIP