Milking Frustration

1. Milking Frustration

2. How can one milk frustration?
• Frustration! It is a word which is commonly
associated with helplessness coupled with
rage. The usual notion attached to this
word is out rightly negative and nobody
would like to undergo this phenomenon.

3. • This is quite a common sentiment. The
plight of a person going through the agony
of frustration is wretched. Most of the
suicidal cases are eventual consequence
of this noxious emotion.

4. • But during the past few years researchers
have observed that this sentiment finds
place in our lives quite often than not. In
urban lifestyle it is a regular feature and
people have learned to live with this
feeling. And yes, the consequences of
frustration have been extremely
detrimental.

5. So... is there a way out?
• Yes, a big YES.
• Any human emotion generates a certain amount
of energy. For instance, if we feel happy we are
naturally energized. During this feeling we can
carry out all those things which we don’t even like
doing, but if we are happy, petty things don’t
matter. We will do it by the virtue of happiness. But
mind you, these trivial and petty things don’t remain
petty, if we are not in a good state of mood.

6. • If we feel gloomy, we are sapped and
energy level goes down. If we are
angry, we can smack a mightier person
than us, because of this phenomenon-
energy.

7. • So energy is the key which drives us to do
something or not do it.
• And the most fortunate thing about
frustration is that it generates enormous
amount of energy.

8. The sheer feeling of helplessness
coupled with a great degree of
frenzy is the source of that energy.
This energy, if properly
channelised into deeds, can
achieve you those results which
you can only think of.

9. • So you must be thinking that one should
use that energy while being frustrated and
streamline ones effort.
• But pragmatically speaking …is it really
possible? If yes then...How? A million
dollar question…undeniably.
• Let’s try to answer this question! To find a
solution to this we need to proceed
stepwise.

10. Step-I
Acknowledge! (A)
• The first and foremost thing is to accept the fact
there is a concern. You can’t do much about it.
And the issue is taking a heavy toll on your life.
Even then you are not able to do much about it.
• But it seems unreal! You have a problem which
is affecting your life and you can not do much
about it. There comes the next step.

11. Step-II
Reassess! (R)
• There are few thing in our life for which we can’t hold
anybody else responsible other than us. It is only me
who can change some things. Some people realise this
while some don’t.
• At the same time there are many things which are
beyond our control. I mean there are many unruly issues
in life which you have to take in your stride.
• We got to prudently assess that what is that share of
issues which are under our control and which are not.
• A word of caution here! If we falter at this stage it
will mean that we have let things go from our hands.

12. Step-III
Disregard! (D)
• If you have meticulously decided that
there are few things you cannot be in
charge of, there is no meaning on mulling
over them to take a charge of those
issues. So forget it!

13. Step –IV
Finish it! (F)
• Since you have already chalked out that
many things are in your control, go for it
now. Complete the tasks and employ all
your pent up emotions in accomplishing
those issues!

14. ARDF rule
• This was the ARDF rule which comes very
handy in our day to day functioning.
• After putting in your best shot, more often than
not you will see that you are out of the frustration
zone.
• So now you see how frustration can be milked?
So whenever you are frustrated next time, don’t
be distressed. You never know….it might help
you!
Go Milk It!