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"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by
altering their attitudes of mind." - William James
Life today is becoming increasingly complex; stress is an inevitable part of life. It is thought that young people
today are under more and different types of stress, compared with people from previous generations such as;
increased pressure, competition, decreased resources for family support, increased access to means of
self-harm, violence in the media and increased use of alcohol, drugs. When coping resources are inadequate
stressful events may give rise to unhealthy outcomes. Stress or lack of coping resources may be one factor of
many that contribute to suicide.
To succesfuly coping with life challenges the following are more important;
● Become more knowledgeable about stress
● Understand the process and effects of stress
● Identify your major sources of stress – situations, people, etc.
● Anticipate stressful periods and plan for them
● Develop successful stress management techniques and practice them
Think about...
● What you think?
● How you feel?
● What you do?
In stressful situation
Model I
Usually we act first then we feel and think about it
1.Acting
2.Feeling
3.Thinking
In this model, we react to situation
Reflexively
Impulsively
Mostly out of our control
Model II
When we think about it first then we feel the importance and finally we act
1.Thinking
2.Feeling
3.Acting
In this model we respond to the situation
Thoughtful
Deliberate
In control
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If you trained in such a way you can find a benefit out of your adverse life event
Thinking, feeling, and acting
When I interact with people during my awareness programme, workshops, I have found many people are not
ready to invest time to think about the way they think. Most of them are not aware of their own feelings and
actions. Without knowing where we are going, what we are doing, we will not get what we want.
We think erroneously - lack of thinking skills
We feel out of control - poor emotional regulation
We act impulsively - poor self-regulated behaviour
Consider this analogy, our behaviour is like a triggering a gun, our thinking is a bullet, our feeling is loading a gun
with bullet. We ourselves or others may trigger the gun either intentionally or unintentionally, can we control
after that? There will be no harm if we remove the bullet from the gun before it trigger.
Most of the counseling techniques especially cognitive behaviour therapy focuses on how one think, feel and act.
Through proper training we can learn to think constructively, learn to control our unwanted, distressing emotion
and we can control impulsive, maladaptive behaviours.
Threat or challenge
“People are not disturbed by things but by the views which they take of them” (Epictetus).
Thinking and feeling process occurs always in our mind in the background. Most of the time it is habitual and
automatic, and we are not aware of it. Our actions (behaviour) are only output. Particular set of believes,
purpose and meaning create particular perspective to our thinking, feeling, and action, which in turn it will give
its own outcome or result.
If you change your purpose, meaning or perspective, your thinking, feeling and action will change. You will get
different outcome.
You can get what you want by change your perspective, purpose or meaning of the stressful situation.
You need little training and discipline. But you can do it!
Nature of thinking, feeling and acting
“You can not always control circumstances. But you can control your thoughts”.- Charles Poplestone
Thinking, feeling and acting are reciprocal in nature. Each one influences and influenced by other two.
1. Our usual thinking will be;
• Inference about the event
• Imagination
• Fantasy thinking
• Solution about the problem etc…
• Slow in nature
This in turn will produce situation specific emotions
Consider this example
You are ideally sitting in your room. No one is around you.
What will be of your thinking and feeling?
Feel boring, imagine something
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2. When we encounter stressful situation, if the situation is uncertain,
Speed up our thought
Negative in nature
Thought will produce mixture of emotions.
Consider this example
You are waiting in the interview room. Your heart bounce, you feel uncomfortable, etc
You think about the result or consequences
You feel anxious, worry
If you waiting for a long time and heard some one was already selected by the interviewer
Probably you feel anger
In our day today routine if you practice relaxation, meditation, exercise and dietary habits, it will help you to
think and feel better. But if you have unfinished business in your mind or under extreme stress, it will not allow
you to relax, meditate or follow daily routine. It is necessary handling of our thinking and feeling before it disturb
you, otherwise it will disturb you!
Stress, Use it otherwise you will loose it!
No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again. – Buddha
What we are doing with our life situation. Where you are now and where you want to go. Either you are using or
loosing our life energy. You can check it now. See the four squares yellow, green, red, and blue.
And characteristics which one you belong.
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The colour yellow, green, and red represent the traffic signal
You can stay temporarily if you are in yellow,
You can go if you are in green because you have learn to use your stress
You must stop if you are in red. You have to check your goal, value, believes, attitude… it is necessary to correct
yourself before you proceed.
If you are in blue you may need assistance, help, advice from others
know more about your stress
" half of the problems in life are because, we act without thinking and the rest half is because we keep thinking
without acting"
Ask 4 questions
1. When?
Source: Thinking makes it so
Life events: How you take it,
Something happens to you and you think it is,
• Unwanted
• Undesirable
• Unacceptable
• Unpredictable
• Uncontrollable
• Unexpected
• Uncertain
2. How?
Distress: how do you feel?
Your thinking generate feelings
Primary emotions
• Anger
• Fear
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• Fear
• Worry
Secondary emotions
• Guilt
• Shame
• Envy etc..
3. Why?
Cause: what you make it
Our personal resources is very important to handle our thinking and feelings
What is lacking in you? Each one is important to handle life events
1. Knowledge
2. Skills
3. Objectives- purpose, meaning
4. Practice
5. Social support
4. What?
Effects: what happen to you if you do not handle properly of your life events?
It will affect the three important domains,
• Personal – how you feel about yourself in other words how you relate with yourself, your confidence,
motivation, self esteem etc..
• Inter personal – how you relate with others, withdraw, aggressive, abusive etc..
• Work/ task – how you relate meaningfully with your task
Ask four questions
1. What you think when you upset of something?
2. How you feel when you think like that?
3. What you can do to reduce distress?
4. If not what will happen to you?
Be proactive: Increase your personal resource
"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts
take you." - James Allen
To become a survival of the fittest, we need to develop the following five skills. Lack of these skills may create
stress.
1. Critical thinking skill
Most of our day to day thinking is far from logical; we quite often jump to conclusions based on irrational ideas.
Believes and attitudes shapes our perception, which will affect how we approach and cope with our life events.
Critical thinking skills help us to reduce the errors in our thinking.
2. Problem solving & decision making skill
Ineffective problem solving and hasty decision making are more likely leads to emotional distress and stressful
consequences. Systematic approach to complex problems will help us to improve our quality of life.
3. Communication skill
Most of our communication are partial we are poor listener. Appropriate communication prevents us from much
stress. For example aggressive people dominate others; non assertive people avoid the issue.
4. Interpersonal skill
Family and friends are important in helping us to cope with stress. Developing and maintaining satisfying
relationship may be necessary during a period of stressful life situation.
5. Self-regulation
We need to regulate our thinking, feeling and acting so that they are most appropriate to the situation which
prevent from stress.
These five skills are complementary to each other and are essential for us to become preventive and proactive to
our stressful life events.
Please visit my blog for updates
http://stress-coping.blogspot.com/
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Develop Coping Skills Ebook 1

  • 1. http://stress-coping.blogspot.com/ Categories: Images 10/20/2008 6:49 AM http://stress-coping.blogspot.com/ presents Develop coping skills - Ebook "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." - William James Life today is becoming increasingly complex; stress is an inevitable part of life. It is thought that young people today are under more and different types of stress, compared with people from previous generations such as; increased pressure, competition, decreased resources for family support, increased access to means of self-harm, violence in the media and increased use of alcohol, drugs. When coping resources are inadequate stressful events may give rise to unhealthy outcomes. Stress or lack of coping resources may be one factor of many that contribute to suicide. To succesfuly coping with life challenges the following are more important; ● Become more knowledgeable about stress ● Understand the process and effects of stress ● Identify your major sources of stress – situations, people, etc. ● Anticipate stressful periods and plan for them ● Develop successful stress management techniques and practice them Think about... ● What you think? ● How you feel? ● What you do? In stressful situation Model I Usually we act first then we feel and think about it 1.Acting 2.Feeling 3.Thinking In this model, we react to situation Reflexively Impulsively Mostly out of our control Model II When we think about it first then we feel the importance and finally we act 1.Thinking 2.Feeling 3.Acting In this model we respond to the situation Thoughtful Deliberate In control 1
  • 2. If you trained in such a way you can find a benefit out of your adverse life event Thinking, feeling, and acting When I interact with people during my awareness programme, workshops, I have found many people are not ready to invest time to think about the way they think. Most of them are not aware of their own feelings and actions. Without knowing where we are going, what we are doing, we will not get what we want. We think erroneously - lack of thinking skills We feel out of control - poor emotional regulation We act impulsively - poor self-regulated behaviour Consider this analogy, our behaviour is like a triggering a gun, our thinking is a bullet, our feeling is loading a gun with bullet. We ourselves or others may trigger the gun either intentionally or unintentionally, can we control after that? There will be no harm if we remove the bullet from the gun before it trigger. Most of the counseling techniques especially cognitive behaviour therapy focuses on how one think, feel and act. Through proper training we can learn to think constructively, learn to control our unwanted, distressing emotion and we can control impulsive, maladaptive behaviours. Threat or challenge “People are not disturbed by things but by the views which they take of them” (Epictetus). Thinking and feeling process occurs always in our mind in the background. Most of the time it is habitual and automatic, and we are not aware of it. Our actions (behaviour) are only output. Particular set of believes, purpose and meaning create particular perspective to our thinking, feeling, and action, which in turn it will give its own outcome or result. If you change your purpose, meaning or perspective, your thinking, feeling and action will change. You will get different outcome. You can get what you want by change your perspective, purpose or meaning of the stressful situation. You need little training and discipline. But you can do it! Nature of thinking, feeling and acting “You can not always control circumstances. But you can control your thoughts”.- Charles Poplestone Thinking, feeling and acting are reciprocal in nature. Each one influences and influenced by other two. 1. Our usual thinking will be; • Inference about the event • Imagination • Fantasy thinking • Solution about the problem etc… • Slow in nature This in turn will produce situation specific emotions Consider this example You are ideally sitting in your room. No one is around you. What will be of your thinking and feeling? Feel boring, imagine something 2
  • 3. 2. When we encounter stressful situation, if the situation is uncertain, Speed up our thought Negative in nature Thought will produce mixture of emotions. Consider this example You are waiting in the interview room. Your heart bounce, you feel uncomfortable, etc You think about the result or consequences You feel anxious, worry If you waiting for a long time and heard some one was already selected by the interviewer Probably you feel anger In our day today routine if you practice relaxation, meditation, exercise and dietary habits, it will help you to think and feel better. But if you have unfinished business in your mind or under extreme stress, it will not allow you to relax, meditate or follow daily routine. It is necessary handling of our thinking and feeling before it disturb you, otherwise it will disturb you! Stress, Use it otherwise you will loose it! No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again. – Buddha What we are doing with our life situation. Where you are now and where you want to go. Either you are using or loosing our life energy. You can check it now. See the four squares yellow, green, red, and blue. And characteristics which one you belong. 3
  • 4. The colour yellow, green, and red represent the traffic signal You can stay temporarily if you are in yellow, You can go if you are in green because you have learn to use your stress You must stop if you are in red. You have to check your goal, value, believes, attitude… it is necessary to correct yourself before you proceed. If you are in blue you may need assistance, help, advice from others know more about your stress " half of the problems in life are because, we act without thinking and the rest half is because we keep thinking without acting" Ask 4 questions 1. When? Source: Thinking makes it so Life events: How you take it, Something happens to you and you think it is, • Unwanted • Undesirable • Unacceptable • Unpredictable • Uncontrollable • Unexpected • Uncertain 2. How? Distress: how do you feel? Your thinking generate feelings Primary emotions • Anger • Fear 4
  • 5. • Fear • Worry Secondary emotions • Guilt • Shame • Envy etc.. 3. Why? Cause: what you make it Our personal resources is very important to handle our thinking and feelings What is lacking in you? Each one is important to handle life events 1. Knowledge 2. Skills 3. Objectives- purpose, meaning 4. Practice 5. Social support 4. What? Effects: what happen to you if you do not handle properly of your life events? It will affect the three important domains, • Personal – how you feel about yourself in other words how you relate with yourself, your confidence, motivation, self esteem etc.. • Inter personal – how you relate with others, withdraw, aggressive, abusive etc.. • Work/ task – how you relate meaningfully with your task Ask four questions 1. What you think when you upset of something? 2. How you feel when you think like that? 3. What you can do to reduce distress? 4. If not what will happen to you? Be proactive: Increase your personal resource "You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you." - James Allen To become a survival of the fittest, we need to develop the following five skills. Lack of these skills may create stress. 1. Critical thinking skill Most of our day to day thinking is far from logical; we quite often jump to conclusions based on irrational ideas. Believes and attitudes shapes our perception, which will affect how we approach and cope with our life events. Critical thinking skills help us to reduce the errors in our thinking. 2. Problem solving & decision making skill Ineffective problem solving and hasty decision making are more likely leads to emotional distress and stressful consequences. Systematic approach to complex problems will help us to improve our quality of life. 3. Communication skill Most of our communication are partial we are poor listener. Appropriate communication prevents us from much stress. For example aggressive people dominate others; non assertive people avoid the issue. 4. Interpersonal skill Family and friends are important in helping us to cope with stress. Developing and maintaining satisfying relationship may be necessary during a period of stressful life situation. 5. Self-regulation We need to regulate our thinking, feeling and acting so that they are most appropriate to the situation which prevent from stress. These five skills are complementary to each other and are essential for us to become preventive and proactive to our stressful life events. Please visit my blog for updates http://stress-coping.blogspot.com/ 5