2. Introduction
Alfie Kohn (born October 15, 1957) is an American author and
lecturer who has explored a number of topics in education,
parenting, and human behavior.
Kohn has been described in Time magazine as “perhaps the
country’s most outspoken critic of education’s fixation on grades
and test scores.”
Strongly influenced by the ideas of John Dewey, Jean Piaget, and
Carl Rogers, Kohn has been very outspoken, and even critical, of
many conventional parenting methods that are based on
behaviorism and external control.
His criticisms of competition and rewards have helped to shape the
thinking of educators — as well as parents and managers — across
the country and abroad.
3. Quotes
‘‘As it happens, most studies have found
that unexpected rewards are much less
destructive than the rewards people are
told about beforehand and are
deliberately trying to obtain.”
― Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold
Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
4. Quotes
‘‘Obviously, things work best when parents
and teachers are helping kids to become
good people—and, better yet, when
they’re actively supporting one another’s
efforts.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and
Punishments to Love and Reason
5. Quotes
“Rewards usually improve performance
only at extremely simple—indeed,
mindless—tasks, and even then they
improve only quantitative performance.”
― Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars,
Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
6. Quotes
“Children don’t just need to be loved; they
need to know that nothing they do will
change the fact that they’re loved.”
― Alfie Kohn, The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the
Conventional Wisdom About Children and Parenting
7. Quotes
“Since many—too many—of our children’s
values and attitudes are formed by the
mass media, every parent ought to offer
an informal multiyear course in media
literacy.”
― Alfie Kohn, The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the
Conventional Wisdom About Children and Parenting
8. Quotes
“But, as with punishments, they can never
help someone to develop a commitment to
a task or an action, a reason to keep
doing it when there’s no longer a
payoff.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards
and Punishments to Love and Reason
9. Quotes
“As Thomas Gordon pointed out, 'The
inevitable result of consistently
employing power to control [your] kids
when they are young is that [you] never
learn how to influence.' The more you
rely on punishment, therefore, 'the less
real influence you'll have on their lives.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and
Punishments to Love and Reason
10. Quotes
“When we repeatedly promise rewards to
children for acting responsibly, or to
students for making an effort to learn
something new, or to employees for doing
quality work, we are assuming that they
could not or would not choose to act this
way on their own.”
― Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars,
Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
11. Quotes
“Nothing is more important to us when
we’re young than how our parents feel
about us. Uncertainty about that, or
terror about being abandoned, can leave
its mark even after we’re grown.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards
and Punishments to Love and Reason
12. Conclusion
Alfie Kohn is perhaps one of the most
controversial and highly regarded figures
in the area of parenting and education.
His ideas and theories have challenged
traditional beliefs and called into
question many of the practices that have
been widely accepted for years.