This document provides information and advice for parents on their teen's use of social media. It discusses the basics of social networking and communication apps popular with teens. Potential risks like bullying, drama, and pornography are covered, along with tips for parents to have open conversations with their kids and set guidelines for internet use. The importance of monitoring screen time and privacy settings is emphasized to help keep teens safe online.

1. Social Media For
Davy Parents
16 September 2015
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2. • Cyber-psychology
• Teens & Social Media
2 Things To Know About Me

3. This Is
Not An IT
SESSION

4. There is no
ON or OFF
Switch
WIFI is everywhere! On buses, in cafes, McDonalds,
libraries..

5. Jumble of sites
& technologies
Early 2000’s
Allows people
to create their
own content
“A Cultural
Mindset”
What Is Social Media?

6. Today’s Teens
Were Born
in 2002

7. Y2K had already
happened
Amazon had
already turned 8

8. They’ve only known
the Euro

9. It was the year
LinkedIn was
founded

10. They don’t
‘go’ online.
They are
online!

12. THEN & NOW
TEENS

13. NOW
(2015)
THEN
(1980’s)
Socialise

14. NOW
(2015)
THEN
(1980’s)
Music

15. NOW
(2015)
THEN
(1980’s)
Photos/Videos

16. NOW
(2015)
THEN
(1980’s)
Gaming

17. Let’s Start With The Basics

18. Basic Rules For Internet &
Mobile Use
6

19. Limit the amount of
time spent online
Take regular breaks
20: 20: 20
Mins blinks seconds
ONE

20. “Flow”
“State of complete and utter absorption.
Attention focus, time disappears, euphoria
and engagement.”
– Mihaly Csikszenthihaly

21. Never share
passwords with
anyone.
Save IMEI number (*#06#)
TWO

22. Never share your
address or mobile
number online.
If asked, consult an
adult.
THREE

23. Never meet people
from the online world
without informing
parents/ guardians
FOUR

24. Encourage dialogue
about seeing
anything
inappropriate or
threatening.
FIVE

25. “Most parents assume their
children won’t come across
[pornography]… in reality, it’s
more than likely their children
will come across it very easily
on the internet”
- Dr Reg Bailey

26. Be nice.
Don’t say anything
online you wouldn’t
in real life.
SIX

27. • How much time do
you spend online?
• What are your
passwords like?
• Publish pics w/o
consent?
AND YOU?

28. Different Styles Of Parenting

29. Parenting Styles
Laissez faire
Intensive

30. “Opting out of social does not
offer protection. That’s just
crazy.”
Sandy Carter, GM IBM @ SXSW

31. “I have to spend more
trouble finding out about
activities because I’m not
allowed on Facebook”
14 year old in Danah Boyd’s book, “It’s Complicated”

32. I Believe…

33. I Believe….
• Just because you can spy, doesn’t
mean you should
• Privacy is a right, but 100% must
be earned by maturity
– Know their passwords before
16
– Browser history policy

34. Talk To Your Kids
• What sites are they on?
• Why do they like them?
• What can they do on it?
• What’s so fun about it?
• Who’s using it from school?
• Which friends are on it?

35. Make like you REALLY
want to know all about
Minecraft!

36. Or Instagram

37. Or Snapchat...

38. Teen Language
The NHS has
released a guide for
parents to help them
understand the ways
teens talk online
www.parentinfo.org

39. Big Negatives
2

40. 1. Bullying
• “Unwanted negative behaviour repeated over
time.” – Dept. of Education
• Bullying is always unacceptable. It is never
deserved.
• Social media makes it more visible for others to
see and makes it last longer.

41. “The internet is a reflection
of our society….”
– Vint Cerf

42. Bullying | What You Can Do
Teens were asked why
cyberbullying happens,
they said...
“fun”
“jealousy”
“anger”

43. Bullying | What You Can Do
• Tell someone they trust
• Save texts and emails (take
screenshots)
• Don’t reply (starts a cycle)
• Block the sender
• Tell the school or report to the
provider (platform, mobile, etc.)

44. Drama
• Interpersonal conflict that
takes place in front of an
active, engaged audience,
often on social media. Both
sides fight back.
• Very female practice. Often
about testing friendships and
popularity.
• For boys, it’s often called
‘fraping’

45. “Drama”
#1 reason why teens
left Facebook
– Pew Internet Research

46. Drama | What You Can Do
• Teach them not to
engage
• Drama: how far
information flows
and how it gets
interpreted
• Fraping: always
have strong
passwords, never
give them away

47. Porn
Porn

48. ‘Recommended’ Porn Watching
Martin Daubney, former
editor of “Loaded” Magazine,
delves into the world of
pornography to find out
the effects of porn on
teenage brains.
A must watch!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?
v=uifS2YznK6U

49. ‘Recommended’ Porn Watching
RTÉ Primetime 2014 / 2015
“We Need To Talk About Porn”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?
v=uifS2YznK6U

50. Email

51. Email | What to consider
• Is your child mature
enough to have one?
Enables them to sign up for
sites
• 0-13 use yours, 13+ set it
up with them.
• Ask your child to only email
people they know and trust
in the real world. Image credit: @weirtz on Flickr

52. Let’s look at the
PLATFORMS

53. Facebook
• Important because it’s the
gateway platform
• ‘Friends directory’
• But it’s on the wane

54. Facebook
• Not a good idea to friend people
under 13 on Facebook
• If you do, remember not to post
inappropriate content
• Know your FB privacy settings:
https://www.facebook.com/about/
privacy/

55. Facebook
● Make sure that the people
you want to see your posts
are the only ones seeing
them.
● Do this by clicking the
Manage button in your
Friend’s List and select the
type of audience you want to
see your content in Edit
Privacy.

56. Facebook
Watch out for
“Dummy” or “Alt”
accounts; ones
that are created to
hide real accounts.

57. Instagram
Instagram has now surpassed Facebook
and Twitter in popularity among teens.
(Pew Research April 2014)

58. Instagram : What You Need To
Know

59. Instagram | What You Need To
Know
• Even if your posts are private, your profile isn’t
• Be aware of location sharing:
– Turned off by default, but once turned on it’s ‘sticky’ - meaning
it stays on until you turn it off.
– Your location might show up as background in pics
• Talk to them about friends wishes
– Do they want to be included in photos?
– How people feel if they’re not included in photos?

60. Instagram | Location Settings
Instagram could be showing people
where you live!
● Once a user adds their location to
a photo, Instagram uses that as
their default on all future posts.
● Since most posts are done at
home it’s easy to see where you
live!
● You can only see this on the
Photomap.

61. Instagram | What You Need To Do
• Inappropriate content button – use
the report button.
• Block people so they can't tag you
• Untag yourself by tapping on your
username in a post,
• Ignore friend requests from people
you don’t know
• Delete posts on Instagram (it doesn’t
delete from Facebook or Twitter)
• Remove photos from Photomap

62. Twitter
• Teens use Twitter differently
to adults.
• Twitter is locked down to their
closest friends or interests.
• Less likely to post links.
• Follow and post around
interest only.

63. Snapchat
• One-to-one or shared
publicly through the
“story” function
• Research has found
that all content sent on
Snapchat can be
retrieved “with the right
forensic software”

64. Snapchat | How to stay safe
Edit your
privacy
settings so
that only
people you
know can
send you
Snaps.

65. Snapchat | How to stay safe
• Selfies are to Instagram as sexting is to Snapchat.
– Teenagers assume that whatever is sent on Snapchat
isn’t permanent. Can be more risky with the content they
put out.
– It has gained a reputation as an easier way for users to
“sext”
– Be careful, there are apps available that can let people
save photos and videos without letting you know

66. Messaging Stats in Ireland

67. Whatsapp (Viber & Other
Messaging)
Mobile app to send messages, photos, audio, video to two or
more people.
• Connects to your phone’s address book, automatically finds
your friends who use their service.
• In this (required) process, your whole address book is sent
to their servers and kept there.
• Removes privacy from your contacts list.
• Video - know that these can be recorded and shared.

68. Whatsapp (Viber & Other Messaging
• Know how to manage contacts, eg.
how to block contacts they don’t
want to talk to
• WhatsApp messages can be
hacked easily when used on public
networks
• Avoid SPIM; unsolicited messages
on IM sites. These could be
adverts, scams, viruses or ways to
gather your personal information
for the purpose of fraud.

69. Minecraft
Open-world, sandbox-style
building game where players
create objects and structures
from resources gathered from
the world.
Bought by Microsoft for
$2.5 billion!
70 million copies sold since
2009. 2 billion hours of time.

70. Minecraft
No story. No plot. Pure imagination.
http://minemum.com/how-to
Being used as a teaching tool
http://www.forbes.com/sites/alexknapp/2011/04/05/using-minecraft-as-a-
teaching-tool/

71. Minecraft | Demographics

72. Minecraft |
Pressing “T” in Minecraft
Multiplayer allows players to
chat and enter commands.
There is not currently a
“report” function so there is
no control over who the
other players are or what
they could say.

73. Anonymous Networks
?

74. PAID TOOLS

75. Paid Tools
• Net Nanny - lets you monitor social media sites,
block chats, filter content and much more.
• NetGenie and NetGear Genie (free app) - control
devices that can access your home network. Can
stop access at certain times and set rules to block
adult websites etc.
• Magic Desktop or Safe Eyes - to block
inappropriate websites, restrict the amount of time
that your kids use the Internet, and monitor IM
chats to protect against predators

76. TO CONCLUDE

77. Summary & Conclusion
Social media does not
change your culture,
it reveals it.
Develop a technology etiquette for
your family - not just for social.

78. The Ask
Do you know
somebody who needs
to hear this?
Workplace. Community group.
Church. Sports club. Home.

79. Find
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80. Thank You!
Maryrose Lyons