3. Teens Say Parents Provide
īŦ Physical affection
īŦ Instrumental help with problems
īŦ Reliability in relationships
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4. Changes in Parenting Dimensions in Later
Adolescence and Early Adulthood
īŦ Main changes
īŦ Greater independence given to children this age p
īŦ Parentsâ greater willingness to negotiate rules and agree with teensâ
requests
īŦ Parents spend less time with children than in preschool years
īŦ Same parenting dimensions predict teen competence
īŦ Secure attachments and authoritative parenting
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5. Secure Attachments in Teen Years
īŦ Parents remain a secure base that teens return to for comfort
and guidance
īŦ Parents cede more power to children in making decisions
īŦ Two parental qualities related to security
īŦ Parentsâ ability to communicate with teen
īŦ Parentsâ ability to allow teens more independence in decision-
making while maintaining close relationships
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6. Securely Attached Families Grant Autonomy
in Atmosphere of Closeness
īŦ Parents
īŦ Listen to children
īŦ Understand teensâ concerns
īŦ More likely to know what teen is doing
īŦ More likely to know what problems needs to be addressed
īŦ Teens are more likely to open up and discuss their feelings and
worries
īŦ Parents and teens more easily engage in problem-solving to deal with
issues of autonomy, parentsâ compromising sometimes and teensâ
compromising sometimes
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7. Insecurely Attached Teens
īŦ Dismiss feelings and worries
īŦ Fail to talk to anyone
īŦ Become overly preoccupied with worries
īŦ Often get trapped into angry cycles of behavior
īŦ Parentsâ anger stimulates teensâ anger that increases parentsâ anger
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8. Attachments Influence Entrance to
Adulthood
īŦ Securely attached teens have a positive process of feeling close
to parents but independent to make choices
īŦ Insecure preoccupied teens who enter adulthood with angry
interactional patterns are more likely to continue such
behaviors with romantic partners
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9. Authoritative Parenting
īŦ As in nursery school years, authoritative parenting is related to competent
behaviors among teens who are socially competent and emotionally
controlled
īŦ âUnlike any other pattern, authoritative upbringing consistently generated
competence and deterred problem behavior in both boys and girls at all
agesâ
īŦ Authoritative parenting is related to teensâ emotional and social
competence in all ethnic groups in this country and in countries around
the world
īŦ In European American families, authoritarian parenting is related to
dependent behaviors, in Asian American and African American families,
authoritarian parenting has more positive features
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10. What Makes Authoritative Parenting So
Helpful to Teens?
īŦ Authoritative parents are:
īŦ Strongly committed to their teens
īŦ Make demands on teens
īŦ Balance demands with responsiveness to teensâ needs
īŦ Authoritative parents give children practice in expressing their feelings
and asking parents to listen to them and do what teens want
īŦ These skills are what they need and can take to relationships with
peers â securely attached teens have same experiences
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11. Similarity of Authoritative Parents and
Parents with Securely Attached Teens
īŦ Both sets of parents listen to children, hear their points of view,
balance autonomy with other needs, compromise but still have limits
īŦ Both sets of parents problem-solve situations but have clear,
standards; they are secure bases for children and authoritative parents
have high standards â they are reliable figures who are there for
children
īŦ Both give children practice in asserting themselves
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12. Authoritative Parents and Parents with
Securely Attached Teens cont.
īŦ Authoritative parents place high value on reciprocal relationships
with both parents and children taking account of each othersâ needs
and transferring these balanced qualities to peer relationships
īŦ In considering attachment relationships, parents would be giving
more than children, more understanding, more giving, and more
equal balance between the two parties would be expected in
adulthood
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13. Ethnic Differences in Emotional and
Behavioral Autonomy
īŦ European American parents grant certain measures of
independence earlier in life, use of free time or money
īŦ Asian American and Latinoa teens have more expectations of
childrenâs giving and sacrificing for parents and family
īŦ Despite different values, teens of all groups report similar
relationships with parents and friends
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14. Serving as a Consultant
īŦ Parents serve as consultants to teens in providing information
(for example on STDs or safety in driving)
īŦ To be knowledgeable consultant, need to know teen culture,
listen carefully to teens, read teen fiction to get an idea of the
kinds of conflicts discussed or worried about, watch teen
YouTube videos
īŦ Parents need to discuss with teens how teen will respond when
in groups and friends suggest doing something teen thinks is
dangerous â this can be role-played in many variations.
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15. Consulting When Teens Have Troubles
with Peers
īŦ As we will see, peer relationships can have powerful benefits for
teens, but they can also be a source of pain and depression
when bullying and rejection are involved
īŦ Parents can serve as helpful resources if teens tell parents their
difficulties, but many do not for a variety of reasons
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16. Consultantâs Role Continues for Life
īŦ No matter how old children become or how old parents are,
parents remain a person to go to at any time for advice,
support, or just someone to hear what is happening
īŦ Listening and supporting childrenâs abilities to deal with
situations in any way possible are important aids to children
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17. Parents Have to Agree Before They Talk
with Teens
īŦ Though parents are more experienced parents in this stage, still
about 50% say their most serious arguments with the other
parent are about teensâ behaviors
īŦ Parents need to settle their differences for the most part before
they talk with teens because teens will interpret their arguing as
a reason to do what he or she wants since parents can not
agree
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18. Setting Limits and Monitoring
īŦ With 75% of deaths and injuries in these years being
preventable, and teens more prone to impulsive decisions that
can put a teen at risk, parents have to be very firm about safety
issues that are always considered important
īŦ There may be ways to meet both parentsâ and teensâ wishes
when conversations are open and everyone listens to othersâ
points of view
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20. Major Task is Forming a Sense of
Identity
īŦ Requires integrating sense of personal identity based on
parentsâ regard for teen as a person, sense of gender and
ethnic identity, and sense of self from activities outside home
īŦ At home, teens receive unconditional regard though parents
have standards for behavior
īŦ Outside the home, teens earn regard by being responsible
participant and good friend
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21. Teens Gain Sense of Identity From
īŦ School and community activities that give children a sense of
purpose
īŦ Friendships with adults outside the family
īŦ Peer friendships
īŦ Romantic relationships
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22. Teens Get Benefits from Activities When
īŦ Activities are structured
īŦ Teens are held accountable for being responsible
īŦ Teens get a sense of their skills and areas they need to improve
īŦ Parents can talk about activities that meet these criteria and
that teens are interested in
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23. Teens Engage in Outside Activities
When
īŦ They identify with the goals of the program
īŦ They feel like they are learning skills
īŦ They feel a sense of purpose beyond themselves
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24. A Sense of Purpose
īŦ Defined as a commitment to a longer-term goal, an ultimate
concern that gives life meaning and guides behavior
īŦ Is related to teensâ sense of hopefulness and young adultsâ
sense of well-being
īŦ Stephen Hinshaw and Mary Pipher believe these activities are
especially helpful for girls so they can get beyond self-
preoccupations and social demands placed on them
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25. Encouraging a Sense of Purpose
William Damon
īŦ Notice and listen to what excites your childâs interests and talk
about ways they can explore them
īŦ Connect your teens to mentors who can talk about the practicalities
of the goals
īŦ Support your childâs problem-solving and reasonable risk-taking
behavior
īŦ Talk about your own goals and purposes at work
īŦ Model and support a positive outlook
īŦ Help children develop a feeling of agency and responsibility
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26. Role of Religious Activities
īŦ Many teens find a sense of purpose in religious activities that
give a feeling of altruism and purpose with adults outside the
family and with peers
īŦ Often families engage in these activities together, and they give
opportunities for discussing religious values, questions about
life
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27. Are Teens Too Scheduled?
īŦ Many worry that teens are too scheduled and are stressed from
the pressures of too many activities
īŦ Research shows, however, school and community activities do
not absorb all teensâ time
īŦ Both European American and African American teens report
they eat meals with parents, discuss issues
īŦ These teens also report higher self-esteem and academic
achievement and less substance use
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28. Relationships with Peers
īŦ Another major way teens learn about themselves is through
their relationships with peers
īŦ Peer relationships differ from those with parents because they
are freely chosen, often transitory, and occur on an equal basis
īŦ Are several levels â close or best friends, acquaintances,
members in small groups or in crowds
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29. Benefits of Close Friendships
īŦ They supply intimacy, companionship, understanding, and equal status
īŦ Main feature of close friendships is intimacy, disclosing honest opinions,
talking honestly about feelings and reactions to other person
īŦ Being authentic in relationships, being your true self, increases girlsâ self-
esteem
īŦ Close friends have frequent arguments but they do not end the friendship
īŦ Teens are more willing to negotiate and compromise with friends than
with mothers, the primary source of conflict in teensâ lives
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30. Benefits of Close Friendships cont.
īŦ Friendships increase teensâ social skills in negotiating and
compromise that enrich friendships
īŦ Teens learn about themselves in close relationships, how
reliable they are as friends, how selfish, considerate, well treated
or not well treated
īŦ Responsive, attentive friends who listen to teensâ accounts of
everyday life events with interest enable teens and young adults
to understand themselves better and their unique qualities and
include them in their sense of identity
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31. Being Left Out of These Relationships Is
Painful
īŦ Positive relationships with parents promote social confidence but
what can parents do when they see their teen left out?
īŦ Teens need not be popular or members of prestigious crowds to get
positive benefits, one or two close friends can provide many
satisfactions
īŦ Parents can encourage teens to develop a special interest in music or
art where they can meet friends who share same interests and get
together around this common interest
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32. Bullying
īŦ If schools take a strong stand and parents work with them in a
Youth Charter, then there are mechanisms for bringing up a
specific incident of bullying
īŦ As victims recommended in the book Letters to a Bullied Girl in
Chapter 9, it is best to develop interests; new activities and
friendships can develop in these activities â religious groups for
teens often are organized to help others and do not permit
bullying, and participation is rewarding
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33. Discrimination
īŦ As noted, two-thirds of teens in all ethnic groups reported
concerns about discrimination because of race, ethnicity,
gender, or sexual orientation
īŦ Again, parents can work with schools to be sure discrimination
is not tolerated at any level in the same way that Olweus
decreased bullying
īŦ Many states have passed laws against any kind of discrimination
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34. Parentsâ Role
īŦ Give warmth and support to children so they will tell you about
episodes that you and they can handle
īŦ Work with schools at all levels to honor strengths of different cultures
represented in student body, celebrating important holidays, foods,
history, and contributions to our country
īŦ Problem solve with children any act of discrimination your child
experiences, always emphasizing discrimination reflects the character
of the person who carries it out and nothing about the victim though
a response to it has to be crafted
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35. Romantic Relationships
īŦ While interactions with parents shape relationships with peers,
the quality of relationships with peers shape romantic
relationships more than parent-child relationships
īŦ Teens may get to know romantic partners first in groups or
crowds when a large group may go on an activity
īŦ Bring the same benefits of intimacy and closeness that
friendships bring but they are often brief
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36. Romantic Relationships cont.
īŦ They bring intense conflicts that are often resolved, and the
couple feels closer but arguments can lead to feelings of
intense loneliness
īŦ By the time they graduate from high school, most teens have
dated, and 50% report their first sexual experience
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37. Postponing Sexual Activity
īŦ Positive relationships with parents and sharing activities with
them, information on sexual activity lead to postponing sexual
activity
īŦ Girls who have sexual relations earlier than their peers are more
likely to feel depressed after the sexual activity whereas girls
who are average or postpone activity and boys do not appear
to get depressed
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39. Two High-Risk Behaviors Affect Many Teens
into Adulthood
īŦ Depression with 26% of teens reporting significant symptoms
of depression, 14% considering suicide, and 5% reporting that
they have attempted suicide
īŦ Substance abuse with 33% of 12th graders reporting binge
drinking in the last 30 days and 26% reporting having used
stimulant or pain killing medications without a prescription
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40. These Problems and Family Life
īŦ Discussed in Chapter 5 the effects of these two problems on
family life and parenting
īŦ Here we talk about their emergence in adolescence
īŦ Because these are problems often requiring life-long
management, the earlier treatment begins, the better
īŦ We do not yet know the effects of teen substance abuse on the
developing brain, but alcohol and drugs are thought to have a
large impact on the developing brain
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41. Unfair Stigma Attached to These
Problems
īŦ Many depressed people and substance users feel that others look down
on them as âweakâ or âlacking will powerâ and the use of medications as
something to hide
īŦ Andrew Solomon who wrote a book about his own depression, describes
being at a conference when a woman told him she was on anti-
depressants but could not tell her husband as he would not understand
īŦ Later the husband came up and told Solomon he too was taking anti-
depressants but could not tell his wife as she could not accept it
īŦ Both hid their medications in different places in the home
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42. Respect for Those Dealing with Such
Problems
īŦ These are problems related to many factors, primary among
them is genetic influences over which people have no control
īŦ Since some people are more susceptible to these two problems
that add to the difficulties and stresses of life, all of us should
admire individuals for realistically recognizing the problem and
getting treatment for it so it does not interfere with the rest of
life
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43. Experiences Prior to Adolescence Influencing
Teensâ Substance Problems
īŦ Being slow to develop behavioral regulation in the years from 3
to 14
īŦ Having academic difficulties from the early school years
īŦ Low self-esteem
īŦ Lacking positive relationships with parents
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44. Importance of Early Educational Actions
īŦ âEarly academic interventions, additional support for low
achieving students, and a focus on personal growth rather than
social comparison could be some of the most effective ways to
decrease substance use and delinquency when students reach
adolescence.â
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45. Factors in Adolescence That Increase
High-Risk Behaviors
īŦ Move to new community which leads to a loss of friends and
familiar school
īŦ Friends who encourage high-risk behaviors
īŦ Spending long hours at work
īŦ Siblings who engage in high-risk behaviors
īŦ Living in neighborhoods in which there is much deviant
behavior
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46. Discouraging Substance Abuse
īŦ Parents can do four things to discourage substance use:
īŦ Avoid drinking
īŦ Do not have alcohol in home
īŦ Have rules against teens drinking
īŦ Enforce rules
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47. Warning Signs of Substance Problem
īŦ Coming home drunk; getting a ticket for drunk driving
īŦ Loss of interest in school; cutting school; drop in grades
īŦ A new group of friends
īŦ Anger and irritability at parents
īŦ Decrease in responsible behavior like chores or getting home after
curfews
īŦ Difficulties with others at school or at work
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48. Seeking Treatment of Substance
Problem
īŦ As soon as there is a suspected problem, family seeks treatment
and parents are involved in treatment
īŦ New form of treatment includes not only the family, but school
officials, peers, and people in the community as all these factors
are involved in a teenâs substance abuse
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49. Depression
īŦ Varies along a spectrum
īŦ At one end are depressed moods, feeling down because of an
upsetting event like a failed test or fighting with a friend
īŦ Depression in response to a serious loss like death of a parent or
divorce may occur on and off for months
īŦ At most serious end is clinical depression or major depressive
disorder
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50. Major Depressive Disorder
īŦ Depressed mood or irritable mood with at least 4 of the
following symptoms, every day for at least 2 weeks and
resulting in an inability to function
īŦ Loss of interest in activities
īŦ Loss in pleasure in usual pursuits
īŦ Difficulties eating and sleeping,
īŦ Loss of weight, energy and concentration
īŦ Feelings of guilt and worthlessness
īŦ Preoccupation with death and thoughts of suicide
īŦ Milder symptoms lasting shorter times get other diagnoses
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51. Prevalence
īŦ Between 10% - 15% of children and adolescents show some
signs of depression
īŦ Before puberty, rates are the same in boys and girls, and after
puberty, the rate for girls doubles
īŦ Asian American, Latino/a teens report higher rates of depressed
feelings than European American teens
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52. Factors Related to Depressive States
īŦ Genetics
īŦ Hormonal changes related to puberty
īŦ Stressful life events such as divorce, maltreatment
īŦ Psychological factors such as inability to manage emotions
īŦ Patterns of family interaction such as lack of parental support
īŦ Peer relationships such as rejection, bullying
īŦ Romantic relationships
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53. Several Forms of Treatment
īŦ Medications
īŦ Cognitive-behavioral therapy
īŦ Family therapy
īŦ Group therapy
īŦ Individual therapy
īŦ Most individuals receive several forms of therapy over time and find
the combinations of treatment that work best for them
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54. School-Based Prevention Program
īŦ In junior high years, program included interventions for
students and their parents to prevent the usual increase of
depressed feelings
īŦ Offered coping skills training for students
īŦ Training for parents to improve parenting skills and parent-teen
relationships
īŦ Prevented increase in depressed feelings usually seen
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55. Entering Young Adulthood
īŦ No single marker for entering adulthood although law has
criteria
īŦ Age 18 marks entrance to adulthood
īŦ If teen under 18 takes on adult responsibilities like having a child,
entering military service, he/she becomes an adult
īŦ Can petition court as minor to be declared an adult but must be
able to show can support and care for self
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56. Ratings of Survey Responders â Average
Ages of 16, 24, and 42 yrs.
īŦ Items frequently used to define adulthood
īŦ Independence and responsibility for self
īŦ Self-control and self-regulation â using contraceptives, not driving
while drunk
īŦ Capacity to protect family and manage household
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57. Trends Common to Those over the
Years from 18 to 25
īŦ Increasing levels of self-esteem
īŦ Decreasing levels of anger and depression
īŦ Gap between men and womenâs levels of anger and depression
narrow
īŦ Alcohol and marijuana use increase into early twenties and then begin
to decrease
īŦ Youth in families with high parental control at 18 were more likely to
be angry and depressed but these scores decreased sharply
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58. Trends Common to Those Entering
Adulthood cont.
īŦ Parental support and marriage were related to increases in self-
esteem
īŦ Periods of unemployment were related increases in depression
and decreases in self-esteem
īŦ In an international sample from 39 countries, young adults
entered adulthood in good moods when parents had marriages
without conflict or divorced and ended conflict, but were in less
good moods when marriages were in conflict
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59. Pathways to Adulthood
īŦ Many paths to adulthood in sample of Mid-Western teens
īŦ Two groups chose partners and had children early
īŦ Three groups were working and going to school, with or without a
partner
īŦ One group was termed Slow Starters because they were still living
at home when they had a child that they did not take care of
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60. Pathways to Adulthood cont.
īŦ Those who need special support in transitioning to adulthood
are those who have received special services that are now
disappearing as they mature; when programs are available to
prepare them for work, unemployment is much less than that of
groups without additional help
īŦ Young adults with medical problems approach average levels of
education, income, and marriage
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61. Immigrant Youth
īŦ Pathways depend on cultural values with some youth from
Asian American families pursuing education and postponing
marriage and children until the thirties
īŦ Latinos/as from Puerto Rico valuing family closeness, start
families at young ages and do not pursue education
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62. Many Young Adults Return Home to
Live (Accordion Family)
īŦ Recent article in New York Times (Jennifer Conlin, ââThe Waltonsâ Meet
âModern Familyââ, Sunday Styles, September 2, 2012, 1) describes
family with three children abruptly forced to leave Egypt after
uprising, returned to live with motherâs parents and brother in mid-
west while she and her husband got new jobs. Over a two-year
period, they came to enjoy the benefits of a three generation family,
and though the family was financially able to move, the benefits of
close ties, her brotherâs help with sports activities, grandparentsâ help
when parents travelled for work, grandparentsâ ability to remain in
their home were so great that couple were buying the home for
grandparents and building them an in-law apartment designed for
older adults with wheel chair access attached to the home
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63. Parenting in Young Adulthood:
Negotiating Issues of Autonomy
īŦ Young adults are still dependent on parents for resources and
perhaps living at home, new issues of autonomy are negotiated
īŦ Young adults want to be treated as adults, and problem-solving is
needed to work out solutions that fit for each family
īŦ Young adults must take their share of household chores and
agreements have to be made about the amount of money the young
adult will contribute or expenses he or she will pay for
īŦ Each family arrives at the agreement that makes it possible for all the
adults in the home to live as adults and enjoy each otherâs company
(use I-messages and active listening skills)
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