This document provides advice on trying and failing sustainably based on training in psychotherapy. It discusses assessing your feelings without judgment, taking risks by considering consequences and growth, and recovering from setbacks or failures by learning from mistakes without shame. The key lessons are to listen to your whole body, see the long term perspective, and view failures as feedback rather than defining yourself by single actions or outcomes.

1. TRYING & FAILING
SUSTAINABLY
TAKEAWAYS FROM TRAINING IN
PSYCHOTHERAPY
LANA KOLUPAEVA
TORONTO, 2015

6. 1
ASSESS

7. WHAT AM I FEELING?

8. WHAT & HOW
NOT WHY
Ask yourself the right questions.

9. DO IT SOME MORE
NOW, PUT SOME WORDS TO IT
Listen to your whole body.

10. AM I ALSO FEELING
SOMETHING ELSE?
Go deeper.

13. 2
TAKE THE LEAP

14. WHAT’S THE WORST THAT
COULD HAPPEN?
Perform a reality check.

15. WILL THIS MATTER IN
5 YEARS?
See things in perspective.

16. WHAT’S DIFFERENT ABOUT
ME NOW?
Don’t let the past drive.

17. WILL I OR WON’T I
Make a choice.

19. 3
RECOVER

20. I’M NOT A STUPID PERSON.
I’M A SMART PERSON WHO
MADE A BAD DECISION
Separate self from actions.

21. CONFESS
Don’t let shame take over.

22. GET OFF THE DEAD HORSE
Take the loss. Grieve it. Move on.

23. WHAT DID I LEARN FROM
THIS?
Assess. Adjust. Iterate.

24. NO FAILURES.
JUST FEEDBACK.