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❖ “Finish the whole bowl” (whether you are hungry or not).
❖ “Go to sleep” (whether you are sleepy or not).
❖ “Say hello to Uncle” (whether you like uncle or not).
❖ “Stop playing at once” (whether you want to play or not).
❖ “Share you toys with your new friends” (whether you want
to or not).
❖ “Complete the homework” (whether it makes sense or not)
❖ “Stop crying at once” (whether you feel terrible or not)
Who is in control?
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❖ “I will explain this to you” (you cannot figure it out
yourself)
❖ “Use this to make you feel better” (you need not think or
your ideas are not worth it).
❖ “Give this to me – you are too small to do this” (the result
is more important than your attempts)
❖ “Now stop crying. I will help you find your pencil box”
(you are not capable of managng your emotions or your
things)
❖ “No, no that’s not right. Here I will tell you why that
happens” (I know the correct answer)
Who decides; Who thinks?
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What YOU feel and think is not as important as
what I think.
What I think is something that you need to follow;
What I think is correct.
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❖ “Show me your work” (I need to approve it).
❖ “This is nice” (I decide what is nice).
❖ “Show me again” (Only when I am satisfied it is done).
❖ “This is important for you” (I decide the value of something).
❖ “Eating with hands is not good manners” (I know what is good
and what is bad).
❖ “I am proud of you” (It is important that I be proud of you)
❖ “You are so impatient” (I declare the kind of person you are)
Who is the Judge?
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You need to be appraised, assessed, judged,
and even praised by me.
Look for my approval -
that is the path to learning and happiness
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• Acceptance
• Self Motivation
• Self Assessment
• I Learn
• I Understand
• I Explore
• Sufficiency
• Lead
1. Comparison
2. Encouragement
3. Praise
4. We know
5. Right / Wrong
6. We Decide
7. Deficiency
8. Control / Manage
Locus of Control
Inside Outside