February 2020 newsletter

1. FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter February 2020
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
* Linda Rodriguez – Mother of Angel - Memory Cards
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
Each April, OVC helps lead communities throughout
the country in their annual observances of National
Crime Victim' Rights Week (NCVRW) which will be
observed
April 19-25, 2020
This year's theme
Seek Justice*Ensure Victims’ Rights* Inspire Hope
Emphasizes the role of the entire community,
individually and collectively, as we support victims of
crime and empower them to direct their own recovery.
Promoting victims’ rights
and honoring crime victims and those who advocate
on their behalf.
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Yucaipa CA
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2292-
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222

2. FFMV - Colton Chapter
3rd
Monday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA
92313
Time: 6:15pm - 8:00pm
Contact person for directions or
information Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Oakland Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway, 7pm-9pm
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069
Sandra – 510-691-7089
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you are
suffering the loss of a loved one and in need to talk
to someone, we are here to listen and share
emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we can
help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd
Wednesday of the
month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San
Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts:
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-374
In Loving Memory
Elmer & Gladys Benson
Murdered Together
2/11/96
FFMV
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063
rittaatffmv@aol.com
NO MEETINGS TILL NEW MEETING PLACE
IS CONFIRMED Sorry for any inconvience
FFMV – SGV Chapter
Meetings are on the 2nd Tuesday of each month
7pm-9pm in a classroom at the First United
Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701
Hill Street, La Puente, CA 91744
Contact information
* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403
Bridge to Our Angels
Grieving Parents of Adult & Young Children
Mondays @ 4pm
Christ the Servant Lutheran Church Fellowship
Hall 2 South Pecos RD. Henderson NV 89074
Facilitated by Grieving parents
Sharon 702-238-8722 & Donna 702-688-1367
In Memory of
William “Bill” Bouffard
11/17/1943 – 1/9/2020
Bill became Victim Activist following the
murder of his wife’s parents Elmer &
Gladys Benson, in 1996, Bill became a
caring advocate, supporting victim rights
through Marcy’s Law (the 2008 Victim’s
Bill of Rights Act) and Justice for Homicide
Victims (JHV). Bill was kind and caring
always supporting his wife Jane.
Bill will be missed!

3. FFMV Fundraisers
Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot
which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207,
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
for all three. We get reward points that help
defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
office supplies.
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take
them to Office Max, Staples or Office Depot and
give them 909-798-4803
It’s an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
Valentine's Day is February 14 and many of
your supporters are starting to shop for gifts.
Shop at smile.amazon.com/ch/68-0299211
and AmazonSmile donates to Families &
Friends of Murder Victims
Inmate Locator, Department of Corrections is
now making it easier for people to locate
prison inmates; it’s a free online search and
is open to the general public.
http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov
There has been many new laws … so there
changes to website … make sure you check
on your offender and make sure your contact
information is updated. You can make
changes and additions online.
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 382-3846
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
* Crime Victims United of California –
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center
800) VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
GOC – Debra – 714-999-7132
IE Chapter – Linda – 909-653-7236
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS –
(310) 457-0030 -
jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter –
Tina-626-298-9054 -tinayyama@att.net
*Homicide Survivors Support Group
Meets every 2nd
Tuesday at 7pm
Solono Family Justice Center
604 Empire St. Fairfield CA
Rita Edmonds-Norris at 707-631-281
* Margaret Goldman – MA MFT
760-946-9036 – Apple Valley, CA
*Option House: www.optionhouseinc.org
Hotline:909-381-3471

4. Februaruy 2020
Birthdays & Memories
The mending we do in our own grieving hearts will heal and bless us in our relationships.
And it will do more than that: It will heal and bless the world

5. February 2020 Birthdays
Adam Atencio Alexis“Alex”Garcia Andrian Rivas
Anne Marie Harrison Antonio Martinez
Armando Gabriel Calvary Benny Rodriguez
Buddy Guitron “Bug’s” Randy Perchez
Colleen Kennedy Cornell L. Wells III
David Charles Nystrom David Padilla
Danny Miranda Daniel Raw
Enrique Bermudez Frank Andre Beverly“Drew”
Frank W. Wellman John Martin
Kyle T. Stutson Marcus Maurice Green
Nancy O’Hara/Jessee O’Hara
Ozzy Conde Raul “Ralphee” Payan
Robert Austin Buckey Roghie Ebrahimpour
Ryan Villapando Sandra Rosas
Santos Bonilla Scott Fisher
Sgt. Steven Lance Bowser Timothy Hatch
Timothy John Morgan Toni Parcell

6. February 2020 Memories
Anthony A. Turdot Arthur “Tudy Boy” Ruiz
Baby Elizabeth Fay Mariani Brian Kischell
Benjamin Armenta Buddy Guitron
Casimiro “Casey”Fimbres Christian Hernandez
Christina Tosado Cornell L. Wells III
Darrell Davis Eilleen Nicole Ponce
Frank Andrew Beverly“Drew
Elmer & Gladys Benson
Fields Family: Jonathan, Dwayne, & Lindel
Herbert Seymour Jr. James Walke
Juanita Martinez Kyle T. Stutson
Lorrain Lopez
Jacqueline McVoy (Matzke) & Gilbert Guiterrez
Mario Maurice Smith Mark Adam Rodriguez
Melissa Sandor Michael Ray McCoy II
Randy Olivas Sabrina Baldwin
Rosario & Ruben Mojarro
Salvador Olivas Jr. Wanda Heszko
Villapando Family: Ryan, Veronica, Mateo & Bella

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
Toni Parcell Eileen Ponce Raul J Payan “Ralphee”
2/18/64 – 3/22/96 11/5/85 – 12/15/08 2/14/75 – 1/16/05
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/21/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
Happy Birthday David
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Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_____________________

8. Join Us in Honoring Victims of Crime
21st Annual Candlelight Remembrance
Thursday, April 23, 2019 at 6:00pm
Rancho Cucamonga Civic Center Courtyard
10500 Civic Center Drive. Rancho Cucamonga, CA 91730
Bring Your Loved One’s Picture, Shoes & T-shirt to Display
** Clothesline Display **
Courtesy of San Bernardino District Attorney’s Office/Victim Services
Questions call: Rose: 909-754-6969 – Rita: 909-215-7063
Memorial will be dedicated to William “Bill” Joseph Bouffard, Jr.
11/17/43 – 1/9/2020
Caring advocate, supporting victim rights through Marsy’s Law and Justice for Homicide Victims

9. New Series Announcement
As the Author/coordinator of the successful Murder Survivors Handbook, I
read, viewed and interviewed whatever I thought might strengthen the
information. My premise was that none of us knows it all. While it would be
impossible to capture everything for a resource book, I was content to give
enough variance, so each reader would feel less alone and find
some resources for their new and treacherous journey.
I plan to introduce one of these sources each month. I will select them in no
particular order but as they come to me. Each resource is of equal importance
as is each homicide. The first in this series is a book published in 2009 by a
reporter and editor for the Boston Globe: The Ride by Brian Macquarrie. To
read more follow the link below:
http://www.svlp.org/education/lessonsseries.html
Connie Saindon, MFT, Founder
svlp@svlp.org
Survivors Of Violent Loss Resources
Announcements
www.svlp.org
Restorative Retelling is an evidence based model that has been successful in supporting those who have lost
someone to a violent death. Restorative Retelling services include general counseling and group services.
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau
of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward
homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the
Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and
grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn
and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has
been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief
services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted
by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good
Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma
Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate
their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities,
presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact:
Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073

10. Show your support for Families & Friends of Murder Victims
while you save money and earn cash back!
Families & Friends of Murder Victims is participating in an exciting new fundraising program. The company now has its own
website featuring thousands of partner stores like Walmart, JC Penney, Best Buy, Apple, Home Depot and many more. When
you make a purchase on www.shop.com/ffmv *Families and Friends of Murder Victims* receives royalties and you earn up to
35% cash back on qualified purchases.
Now, you can take advantage of the ease and convenience of Internet
shopping to buy the products and services you want, while feeling
good about helping one of your favorite organizations.
Our new fundraising website has a variety of
benefits.
 Check out the Hot Deals page to get access to coupons
and exclusive deals to help you save even more.
 Go to the Partner Stores page to find specific stores that
you’d like to shop from.
 Use the Search feature at the top of the page to search over 35 million different products and services for things
you’re looking for.
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Children’s Line, Cellular Laboratories® luxurious skin care line, Transitions™ Life Style System for weight
management, and many more.
 Find the perfect gift in our Gift Ideas area.
 Getting Started is Easy!
1) Visit our website at www.shop.com/ffmv and register (full shopping site)
2) Us.maexclusives.com/ffmv Monthly specials
3) Register as a Preferred Customer – Its Free to sign up!
 Click “Sign in” in the upper right hand corner
 Select the “No I am a new customer” option
 Follow the prompts
 There is a question highlighted in blue “Were you referred by a friend? Enter mail4ffmv@yahoo.com (that’s
how we begin our fundraising)
 You are now eligible to earn up to 35% cash back on qualified purchases
3) Go Shopping
 Use the search box at the top of the screen to find a specific item or type of product you’re looking for
 Use Shop Partners to find a specific partner like Best Buy or Walmart
 Use “Shop All Departments” to shop via category
 Use Hot Deals to find special deals and coupons to save even more money
 Look for the icon to find out exactly how much cash back you’ll earn from purchases made from that
store or on a particular product
 Add ShopBuddy app and never miss a Deal!
 When asked who referred please put our email address:mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
ANY Questions or ISSUES registering … Please contact Rose @ 909-754-6969 or
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com

11. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
March newsletter will list events that other organizations will be hosting for VRW. If you have a VRW event that you want
added to our March and April newsletter, please send event information by 2/25/2020 to: ffmvmail@yahoo.com
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
FFMV Executive Board
Rose Madsen – Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Dawn Hall– Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford
Rita Marin – Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Bertha Flores – Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer grief
support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the
policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to
mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial
Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-
mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions
Are Tax Deductible
Keep continued prayers for families that are in the court process trying to get the
JUSTICE they Deserve!!
Salome “Jr.”, Chris, Jesus (Beto)
And for ALL families dealing with the injustice of UNSOLVED Murders!

12. 2020 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print Clearly
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Was this a DUI Yes ( ) No ( ) Was this Domestic Violence Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to receive
monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of
the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and publish the same in print and/or
electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising,
and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Signature_________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _______________________________________________________
Print Last Name ______________________________________________________
Address_____________________________________________________________
City_________________________________________________________________
Zip Code _______________Contact Phone(s) with area code____________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: ffmvmail@yahoo.com
~ FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
Due to getting many returned emails, birthday/anniversary cards and newsletters, FFMV requests that you
complete this form if you have any changes to your contact information to continue receiving newsletter,
mailing and emails. Thank You

13. FFMV
FORMA DE PERMISO
2020 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de diapositivas de
fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima: ____________________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( ) No ( )
¿Fue esto un DUI: Si ( ) No ( ) ¿Fue esta violencia doméstica: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing para recibir el
boletín mensual, información de eventos
Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV a utilizar y
publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica.
Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su / nombre y para
cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como la publicidad, la ilustración, el
contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ______________________________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222
Debido a que recibe muchos correos electrónicos devueltos, tarjetas de cumpleaños / aniversario y
boletines informativos, FFMV le solicita que complete este formulario para continuar recibiendo
correos y correos electrónicos. Gracias