1. FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter November 2018
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson â Website
*Kaiser â Oakland
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthonyâs Catholic Church-Upland
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
* Palm Desert Library
*San Bernardino County District Attorneyâs Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates
* Linda Rodriguez â Mother of Angel - Memory Cards
*Janet Garcia Facebook administrators
* Ellie Rossi â Mother of David and Lisa
Ralph and Arlene Payan â Parents of Raul Payan
In Loving Memory
Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/2/73 â 11/10/94
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen â Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Donna Lozano - Parent â 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent â 951-369-0010-Home â
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Yucaipa CA
* Richard McVoy â Adult Sibling â
909-503-5456 â Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent â 760-596-2292-
Upland CA
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share SorrowâŠ..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved oneâs birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222
In Loving Memory
Roberto âBobbyâ Ruiz
4/12/82 â 11/20/05
3. FFMV Fundraisers
Office Depot - Staples â Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
use FFMVâs Rewards Number for Office Depot
which is 1139461170 Office Max â 650756207,
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
for all three. We get reward points that help
defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
office supplies.
PLEASEâŠ.Donât throw away your old ink
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take
them to Office Max, Staples or Office Depot and
give them 909-798-4803
Itâs an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
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It's easy, just go to smile.amazon.com and enter
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price of your eligible purchases to FFMV
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In Loving Memory
Duane Murley
October 7, 2012
In Loving Memory
Eileen Nicole Ponce
11/5/85 â 2/15/08
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorneyâs Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 382-3846
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorneyâs Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE â Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence â 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
* Crime Victims United of California â
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center
800) VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
GOC â Debra â 714-999-7132
IE Chapter â Linda â 909-653-7236
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and
* Crime Survivors â 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS â
(310) 457-0030 -
jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter â
Tina-626-298-9054 -tinayyama@att.net
*Homicide Survivors Support Group
Meets every 2nd
Tuesday at 7pm
Solono Family Justice Center
604 Empire St. Fairfield CA
Contacts: Valerie Dodini
v.dodin.law@sbcglobal.net
Rita Edmonds-Norris at 707-631-281
* Margaret Goldman â MA MFT
760-946-9036 â Apple Valley, CA
*Option House: www.optionhouseinc.org
Hotline:909-381-3471
5. November 2018 Birthdays
Alfonso Lopez Ashley Nicole Randles
Amber Martnez Andres Garced Jr. Anthony Prudhomme
Anthony Turner Jr. Aubrey Maloy
Balam Alcaraz Vega Charles Shaw
Christina Duran Christhopher Heyman
Christhoper Mykle Sanchez Corrina Wilson
Damon L. Jones Sr. David Leon II
Derek Wiltz II Doctor Fernandez
Dwayne Durston III Eileen Ponce
Eloy Conrad Duran lll Frank Salinas
Gabriel Vargas Herbert Souther
Jennifer Eubanks Jennifer Rene Parisi-Krajnak
Jerry Sehrs JoeâJodyâPullen
Jonathan Olagues Jose Tamez III
Jose Funtes Juan Macias
Juanita Martinez Katie Brennar
Lindel Fields Lukas Scot Clark Marcus Ringo
Maria Sanchez Maria DeLos Angeles Maggallon
Mark Adam Rodriguez Melanie Miers
Michael Villegas Jr. Michael Grier
Michele Lynette Baily Michiel A. Hyder-Blamey
Mickey Thompson Raymond Cole
Richard Albidrez Roy Hall
Sabrina Brown Sebastian Orioli
Salvador Olivas Jr. Teresa Soto Del Rio
Timothy Gaines Tommy Matthews Jr
âBJâ William Allen Beverly Jr.
6. NOVEMBER 2018 Memories
Alexander Ray Esparza Amber Martinez
Andrian Riva Andre ReyesRojas Anthony Prudhomme
Brandon Michael Selph Christina Duran
Christopher Mykie Sanchez Damon Jones Sr.
David Garcia David Padilla
Evan Todd Kinard Greg W. Gibson II
Gilbert Rivera Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Jenny Rebecca Waltz Jerry Ramirez Jr.
Jonathan Marquez Dizon Jose Esparza
Joshua Rexford Lisel Wiedeman
Mark Mireles Maraslee Ann Nicholas
Mary Estes Mary Beth Blaskey
Melanie Miers Michele Jeanette Carson
Raymond Cole Roberto Nanito De La Vegas Sr.
Roberto âBobbyâ Ruiz Sonia Herrera
Terry L. Stutson Thomas Charles Pagent Jr.
Trevor Johnson Trevor John Neiman
Vanessa Martinez âBJâ William Allen Beverly Jr.
Yanize Lizette Mora
7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Yanize Lizette Mora Michele Carson Joshua Rexford
3/28/94 â 11/2/10 12/22/84 â 11/7/10 10/8/76 â 11/27/94
JUSTICE SERVED!! September 26, 2017
Her 2mo.old Baby Isaiah
SURIVED!
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom â 2/21/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings â 11/13/66 â 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven âŠ.. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
Happy Birthday Lisa
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Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______
8. Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc.
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
All FFMV chapter members, their family, children,
and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend
When: Sunday December 9, 2017
Time: 2pm - 5pm
Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center
1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641
Due to limited space, planning and making enough ornaments, I have attached a
mandatory RSVP for Christmas Memorial, due by November 15, 2018. You can
either mail attached form or this year I will accept RSVP via email with following
information needed in email:
Loved One: First name, Last name, DOB and DOD
Your full name, email, contact phone number, & address with zip.
# of adults attending - # of teens attending (13-17 yrs.)
# of boys - # of girls (0-12yrs) must list first name, last name and age.
Email : ffmvmail@yahoo.com
Mail to: POB 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222
9. RSVP must be received by November 15, 2018
FFMV will provide desserts and beverage
~We ask that you please bring a main dish, salad or side dish to share ~
(Enough to feed your party plus 5)
~ Bring your Loved Ones picture/shoes to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive a special ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture if we donât have one on file) ~
~ We will have an ornament gift exchange for adults and teens 13yrs and up.
If you would like to participate, please bring a wrapped ornament.
($5min, it can be a store bought or if you are crafty, you can make one) ~
*We are in need of additional monetary donations, toys, books, or gift card for kids.
If you know of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial a donation letter can be mailed to you or the business.
or if you would like to sponsor centerpieces or ornaments in memory of your loved, please leave a message or email to
909-754-6969 â mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
We will be accepting donations thru November 30, 2018, so we can finalize event.
Completed RSVP MUST be received by November 15. 2018
(Sorry no exceptions especially if immediate children of loved one will be attending)
FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
NOTE: Lunch will be served promptly from: 2:30PM â 3:30PM
Ornament hanging/Candle lighting 3:30PM - 4:30PM âŠ..Ornament gift exchange 4:30PM - 5:00PM
--------------------------------------------------------------PRINT CLEARLY---------------------------------------------------------------------------
( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that you have on file
PLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________
Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________
Your Name: ______________________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________________________________________________________
City/Zip____________________ Your Contact phone # with area code: ( ) _______________________
Email_____________________________________________________________________________________
# of adults attending_________ # of teens 13-17yrs. old ___________ # of children (0-12yrs) ____________
Boys 0-12yrs: First and Last Name & Age: _______________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________________
Girls 0-12yrs: First and Last Name and Age: _______________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________________________
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10. New Series Announcement
As the Author/coordinator of the successful Murder Survivors Handbook, I
read, viewed and interviewed whatever I thought might strengthen the
information. My premise was that none of us knows it all. While it would be
impossible to capture everything for a resource book, I was content to give
enough variance, so each reader would feel less alone and find
some resources for their new and treacherous journey.
I plan to introduce one of these sources each month. I will select them in no
particular order but as they come to me. Each resource is of equal importance
as is each homicide. The first in this series is a book published in 2009 by a
reporter and editor for the Boston Globe: The Ride by Brian Macquarrie. To
read more follow the link below:
http://www.svlp.org/education/lessonsseries.html
Connie Saindon, MFT, Founder
svlp@svlp.org
Survivors Of Violent Loss Resources
Announcements
www.svlp.org
Restorative Retelling is an evidence based model that has been successful in supporting those who have lost
someone to a violent death. Restorative Retelling services include general counseling and group services.
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau
of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward
homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the
Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and
grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn
and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has
been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief
services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted
by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good
Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma
Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate
their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities,
presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact:
Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
11. Memory Jar 8th Annual Sunday, November 4, 2018
Candle Lighting to Remember 4pm â 6pm
A special evening of Love and Healing Heisler Park, Laguna Beach
As the sun sets on Laguna Beach, hundreds of luminaries will light up the sand. Each luminary represents a loved
one who is gone, but not forgotten -- a child, a parent, a sibling or friend.
8th Annual Candle Lighting To Remember
A special evening of love and healing
Luminaries, candles and decorating materials are provided at no charge. If you would like to bring your own
supplies, you are more than welcome -- including small photos to attach.
Please RSVP by October 30 to
https://memoryjarcandlelighting2018.eventbrite.com.
Or you can send your request to: Memory JAR, 360 E. 1st Street #728, Tustin, CA 92680.
Questions? Please email us at info@memoryjar.org.
Download our flyer here.
This is a no-charge event.
Please feel free to bring friends and family, and your camera - the scenery is breathtaking with the sunset and
luminaries.
Directions:
From PCH North: Turn right on Myrtle Street. Right or Left on Cliff Drive.
From PCH South: Turn left on Cliff Drive.
Meet at picnic tables at Heisler Park (look for purple balloons).
Ample metered parking on Cliff Drive and surrounding streets.
12. Show your support for Families & Friends of Murder Victims
while you save money and earn cash back!
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website featuring thousands of partner stores like Walmart, JC Penney, Best Buy, Apple, Home Depot and many more. When
you make a purchase on www.shop.com/ffmv *Families and Friends of Murder Victims* receives royalties and you earn up to
35% cash back on qualified purchases.
Now, you can take advantage of the ease and convenience of Internet
shopping to buy the products and services you want, while feeling
good about helping one of your favorite organizations.
Our new fundraising website has a variety of
benefits.
ï· Check out the Hot Deals page to get access to coupons
and exclusive deals to help you save even more.
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1) Visit our website at www.shop.com/ffmv and register (full shopping site)
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3) Register as a Preferred Customer â Its Free to sign up!
ï· Click âSign inâ in the upper right hand corner
ï· Select the âNo I am a new customerâ option
ï· Follow the prompts
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how we begin our fundraising)
ï· You are now eligible to earn up to 35% cash back on qualified purchases
3) Go Shopping
ï· Use the search box at the top of the screen to find a specific item or type of product youâre looking for
ï· Use Shop Partners to find a specific partner like Best Buy or Walmart
ï· Use âShop All Departmentsâ to shop via category
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ï· When asked who referred please put our email address:mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
ANY Questions or ISSUES registering ⊠Please contact Rose @ 909-754-6969 or
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
13. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 â 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
FFMVâs Annual Christmas Memorial Luncheon will be on December 9, 2018 at SB Diocese. We are looking for
sponsors to donate towards paper goods, ornaments, centerpieces, toys/gift cards for surviving kids.
We will also have an optional ornament gift exchange for adults/teens in attendence.
If a family wants to sponsor centerpieces or ornaments in memory of their loved one
or if you need a donation letter, please contact Rose - ffmvmail@yahoo.com
More updates in November newsletter.
My beautiful JenâŠ..I can no longerâŠSee you with my eyesâŠTouch you with my handsâŠ
But I will feel you in my heartâŠ.ForeverâŠLove, Mom
FFMV Executive Board
Rose Madsen â Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Dawn Hallâ Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford
Rita Marin â Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Bertha Flores â Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer grief
support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the
policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to
mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial
Luncheon, and Our Annual Victimsâ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-
mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions
Are Tax Deductible
Keep continued prayers for families that are in the court process trying to get the
JUSTICE they Deserve!!
Salome âJr.â, Chris, Jesus (Beto), & Edwinta âWinnieâ, Santos, &
Raymond J. Pantoja âRJâ, Brian
And for ALL families dealing with the injustice of UNSOLVED Murders!
14. 2019 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print Clearly
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victimâs First Name______________________________________________
Victimâs Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Was this a DUI Yes ( ) No ( ) Was this Domestic Violence Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to receive
monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of
the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and publish the same in print and/or
electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising,
and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Signature_________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _______________________________________________________
Print Last Name ______________________________________________________
Address_____________________________________________________________
City_________________________________________________________________
Zip Code _______________Contact Phone(s) with area code____________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: ffmvmail@yahoo.com
~ FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
Due to getting many returned emails, birthday/anniversary cards and newsletters, FFMV requests that you
complete this form to continue receiving mailing and emails. Thank You