Families & Friends October 2014 Newsletter

1. FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter SEPTEMBER 2014
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
* United Methodist Church, Sepulveda
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Services/Victim Advocates
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Services/Victim Advocates
* Dola Wiedemann – Mother of Lisel - Memory Cards
*Family of Kris Flores
*Janet Garcia & Barbara Christian
facebook administrators
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
*The Community Foundation –
YGC – Charity of Choice – Briana Palencia –
In Memory of Vanessa Martinez
* San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office for sponsoring newsletter for 2014*
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Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) Rialto CA
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm) Redlands CA
*Dawn Hall – Parent (951) 757-4419 –
Murrieta CA
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Emergency Consult for Suicidal or
Homicidal Participants
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-662-4373 –
High Dessert
*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Redlands CA
* Delores Maloy- Parent – High Desert
Contact – 760-530-7027
* Shayla Adams – 760-475-3774
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2293-
Upland CA
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to provide a pathway to well-being to those who have lost a loved one to murder and to those who are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted in newsletter. They are also made by caring professionals, organizations to help in the work that FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others and operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222 Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on Thank-you Janet Garcia
Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Barbara Christian
Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
4/10/63 – 1/8/8

2. FFMV - Riverside Chapter
Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at 7pm
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419
For directions ask for PJ at-
951-696-1600 x2177 –
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch)
FFMV - Colton Chapter
1st Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA 92313
Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm
Contact person for directions or information Rose – 909-754-6969 mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV -Coachella Valley Chapter
Suspended until new leader is replaced
Oakland Chapter
1st Tuesday of every month
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069
Sandra – 510-691-7089
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings. Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you are suffering the loss of a loved one and in need to talk to someone, we are here to listen and share emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
FFMV
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm
St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Conference Room
2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Participants have the option of the
English & Spanish Meeting
Local Grupo Bilingue
Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las 7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com Contact Rita on by Wednesday OCTOBER 8th to confirm you will be attending
FFMV – SGV Chapter Meetings are on the 2nd Tuesday of each month 7pm-9pm in a classroom at the First United Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701 Hill Street, La Puente, CA 91744. Contact information:
* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403
*Tracy Ponce (626) 533-3121
FFMV – SFV Chapter satellite chapter of FFMV SGV Meets every 1st Thursday of every month 6:00pm-8:00pm at
United Methodist Church in the Fireside Room
15435 Rayen St.
Sepulveda, CA 91343
Contact information
* Luisa (818) 445-2077

3. FFMV Fundraisers
Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We get reward points that help defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and office supplies.
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take them to Office Max, Staples or Office Depot and give them 909-798-4803
It’s an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
FFMV SGV Chapter News Announcements Luz shared that she would like to sell bracelets as a fundraiser for our chapter. These bracelets would be personalized with our loved one’s names on it and Luz Ruiz will make them herself. Each bracelet will cost $15. She will be posting pictures of the bracelets on her Facebook Page soon. She is taking orders now.
PEACE MY HEART Peace, my heart, let the time for the parting be sweet. Let it not be a death but completeness. Let love melt into memory and pain into songs. Let the flight through the sky end in the folding of the wings over the nest. Let the last touch of your hands be gentle like the flower of the night. Stand still, O Beautiful End, for a moment, and say your last words in silence. I bow to you and hold up my lamp to light you on your way. ~ Rabindranath Tagore
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 387-6540
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 * Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim Witness Assistance Program offices: Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 www.wagv.org
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web site
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – 818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com
* Crime Victims United of California –
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA) www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
* Greater Orange County POMC –
Marie – 714-999-7132 – 562-508-2397
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings held in Orange County
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com
* MADD – (909) 888-6233 www.maddsanbernardino.org
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- 0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities -S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* www.psychic4themissing.com * Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter – Alhambra Police Dept.RM# EDC 2nd Floor 211 South First Street, Alhambra, CA., 91801) 3rd Wednesday of the Month Time: 6:30PM - 8:30PM Tina-626-298-9054 - tinayyama@att.net

4. October 2014 Birthdays & Memories

5. October 2014 Birthdays
Abel Gonzales Alfred Cabrera
Anthony Rodríguez Anthony Ledinich
Betty Van Patter Charlie Martinez
Christopher Patrick Weiss David Garcia
David Lowe Demetrius Lanier Williams
Dwayne Fields Elzie Elijah Winston
Ericka Elaine Baker HeatherAnn Steimer
Hector Cisneros Ariz-mendez Jason VanKleef
Jerry Ramirez Jr. Jimmy Brown
Jordon Alan Vigil Joshua Rexford
Jose Alfredo Suarez Jose Uriel Alvarez Villalobos
Jose Luis Cruz Jr. “ Lusito” Kori VanHulle
Kristhoper Flores Linda Whiting
Mark Anthony Minchaca Michael Ray McCoy II
Michele Kriezel Nicolas Casas
Randy Olivas Rosario Mojarro
Ronald Saxton Stevlan “Stevie” Singleton
Theodore Albert Goede Trudy Thompson
We Will Always Remember Them!

6. October 2014 Memories
Aaron Luis Angulo Aaron Gurrola
Abel Gonzales Adelaja Nogoma Russ
Alfonso Lopez Andy R. Castro Jr.
Angela Lynn Merth Bailey Elizabeth Sloan
Brandon Smith Brittany Riggs
Bryan Stapleton Damon Jones Sr.
Diana Dawn Vacari Elena Sylvia Perez
Frankie Cayetano Jesse Aguilar
Justyn Broweliet Maria Banuelos
Maureen Ramirez Ozzy Conde
Rosa Maria Gamino Rosa Torres
Trevor Johnson William Rees Merrel
Christopher Mykle Sanchez
There are moments in life when you wish you could bring someone down from
Heaven...and spend the day with them just one more time, give them one more hug, kiss
them goodbye or hear their voice again.
One more chance to say I Love you!

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Kris Flores Mario Quiroz Joshua Rexford
10/10/77 – 7/24/96 5/14/68 – 1/25/06 10/8/76 – 11/27/94
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
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Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file______________

8. In 2007, Congress designated September 25 as the "National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims." This special day gives us the chance to honor our nation’s murder victims and pray for surviving family members whose lives were forever changed by an act of violence. While our actions today cannot change the horrific past, it is my hope that our shared efforts will, at the very least, seek to remind us of the common bond we share as Americans. Their loss is our loss, and their pain is our pain. We must never forget. San Bernardino County District Attorneys’ Office online memorial boards is to do just that—honor the memories of those who lost their lives to a senseless act of violence in San Bernardino County. If you would like to have your loved one's photo placed on our online memorial board, please send us one digital image along with the name of your loved one, date of birth and date of passing to clee@sbcda.org. Our memorial only dates back to 2011 when the District Attorney's website was revamped; however, if your loved one's date of passing is prior to 2011, you are also invited to submit your photos and be included in the memorial. The image must be at least 230 pixels wide and 290 pixels high (230x290). We will update this page once a year on September 25. Remember to submit a picture of your Loved One
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors. Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp. The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested can contact me and I promise to get them set up. Sincerely, Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91106, 626-578-6300 ext.4478 frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered

9. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
October is here, for many of you this will be the first birthday, first anniversary, first Halloween, first Thanksgiving, or first Christmas without you loved one. Remember you are not alone.
Our Christmas memorial will be Sunday December 7, 2014, so if you have any suggestions, please contact me, we will be accepting donations, such as toys, gift cards for our annual raffle.
Send me your outcome of your court process or status of your case and I will post on our newsletter.
Please update me with any changes to your mailing address, phone, or email, also if your loved ones picture, birthday or anniversary is skipped on newsletter, please let me know ASAP and I will correct.
Every November 10th would be about Jen’s death, this year it will be a celebration of Jen’s life!
I will continue to add to the slide show/picture board’s through-out the year, so send me your loved ones picture along with the attached release form, so I can include your loved one on the picture boards and monthly in remembrance boards.
Send me your outcome of your court process or status of your case and I will post on our newsletter.
I continue to pray for the families of the victims and surviving victims for
PEACE, HOPE and JUSTICE!
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
Thoughtfully,
Rose
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
Website - http://families-friends-murdervictims.simplesite.com/
Coping with loss can be very difficult, but it's important not to bottle up your feelings. Reading a thoughtful poem, and perhaps even writing one of your own, can help you express your grief and begin working through it.

10. SAVE THE DATE
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc.
to their
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends
and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend
When: Sunday December 7, 2014
Time: 2pm - 5pm
Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center
1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641 (909) 475-5300
~FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one ornament for each family
~We ask that you please bring a salad or appetizer and dessert to share ~ ~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation
(Send your Loved Ones picture if we don’t have one on file) ~
FFMV will be accepting donations, such as gifts, toys, or gift cards for our Annual Raffle now thru
December 1, 2014, please contact Rose @ 909-798-4803(leave message) or email mail4ffmv@yahoo.com to make arrangements for drop-off or pick up of gifts.
~ Our Goal is to have all children receive a
Special gift at Annual Raffle ~
We are in need of volunteers to help
Set-up (arrive at 1pm), serving food, raffle table or clean-up
FFMV does not charge participants to attend this memorial
November newsletter will have RSVP form

11. 2014 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code _______________________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ a donation for 2014
Thank-you… if you have already sent a donation

12. FORMA DE PERMISO
2014 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de diapositivas de fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima: ____________________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing para recibir el boletín mensual, información de eventos Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV a utilizar y publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica. Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su / nombre y para cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como la publicidad, la ilustración, el contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ______________________________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo o e-mail participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222 ~
He incluido una foto () Sí () No utilizar el que está en el archivo He incluido una donación de $ _________ para 2014
Thank-you ... si ya ha enviado su donación 2014