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Painless Poly Dating 101

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Cunning Minx and LustyGuy's painless poly dating class, first given at Seattle's Center for Sex Positive Culture

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Painless Poly Dating 101

  1. 1. Dating 101 Cunning Minx & LustyGuywww.polyweekly.com Painless Poly INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  2. 2. Dating 101 Cunning Minx & LustyGuywww.polyweekly.com Painless Poly INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  3. 3. Dating 101 Cunning Minx & LustyGuywww.polyweekly.com Painless Poly
  4. 4. HELLO. @cunningminx @polyweekly INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  5. 5. HELLO.INTRODUCTIONS @cunningminx @polyweekly “Solo;” frequently dates someone in an existing couple MINX INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  6. 6. HELLO.INTRODUCTIONS @cunningminx @polyweekly “Solo;” frequently dates someone in an existing couple MINX Married for over 30 years and has dated both in a triad and ver LUSTYGUY INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  7. 7. HELLO.INTRODUCTIONS @cunningminx @polyweekly “Solo;” frequently dates someone in an existing couple MINX Married for over 30 years and has dated both in a triad and ver LUSTYGUY
  8. 8. BEFORE YOU DATE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  9. 9. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  10. 10. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape It’s best to date when you are the best and happiest version of yourself. BEST SELF @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  11. 11. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape It’s best to date when you are the best and happiest version of yourself. BEST SELF KNOW YOURSELF It’s easiest to date when you know who you are and what you want. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  12. 12. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape It’s best to date when you are the best and happiest version of yourself. BEST SELF KNOW YOURSELF It’s easiest to date when you know who you are and what you want. BE A DECENT HUMAN Before you start dating, do a reality check: will you be able to offer agency to a new partner? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  13. 13. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape It’s best to date when you are the best and happiest version of yourself. BEST SELF KNOW YOURSELF It’s easiest to date when you know who you are and what you want. BE A DECENT HUMAN Before you start dating, do a reality check: will you be able to offer agency to a new partner? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  14. 14. BEFORE YOU DATE.Get yourself in emotional shape It’s best to date when you are the best and happiest version of yourself. BEST SELF KNOW YOURSELF It’s easiest to date when you know who you are and what you want. BE A DECENT HUMAN Before you start dating, do a reality check: will you be able to offer agency to a new partner? @cunningminx
  15. 15. BEFORE YOU DATE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  16. 16. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  17. 17. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  18. 18. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF WHY Why are you dating? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  19. 19. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF WHY Why are you dating? GOALS What are you looking for and why? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  20. 20. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF WHY Why are you dating? GOALS What are you looking for and why? @cunningminx What are you not looking for but open to? OPEN INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  21. 21. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF WHY Why are you dating? GOALS What are you looking for and why? @cunningminx What are you not looking for but open to? OPEN What are your hard limits? LIMITS INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  22. 22. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your philosophy What kind of person are you? SELF WHY Why are you dating? GOALS What are you looking for and why? @cunningminx What are you not looking for but open to? OPEN What are your hard limits? LIMITS
  23. 23. BEFORE YOU DATE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  24. 24. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  25. 25. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  26. 26. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR YOUR ATTITUDE Feel pretty at least twice this month @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  27. 27. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR YOUR ATTITUDE Feel pretty at least twice this month YOUR PROCESS Spend one hour a week on OKC/FetLife @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  28. 28. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR YOUR ATTITUDE Feel pretty at least twice this month YOUR PROCESS Spend one hour a week on OKC/FetLife @cunningminx Plan two fun girls’ nights this month BETTER YOU INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  29. 29. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR YOUR ATTITUDE Feel pretty at least twice this month YOUR PROCESS Spend one hour a week on OKC/FetLife @cunningminx Plan two fun girls’ nights this month BETTER YOU Give myself credit for being a good, smart, hot date after each date YOUR REWARD INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  30. 30. BEFORE YOU DATE.Set dating goals independent of others Set five dates a month YOUR BEHAVIOR YOUR ATTITUDE Feel pretty at least twice this month YOUR PROCESS Spend one hour a week on OKC/FetLife @cunningminx Plan two fun girls’ nights this month BETTER YOU Give myself credit for being a good, smart, hot date after each date YOUR REWARD
  31. 31. BEFORE YOU DATE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  32. 32. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your metamour approach @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  33. 33. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your metamour approach How and when do you want to meet your metamours? MEETING @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  34. 34. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your metamour approach How and when do you want to meet your metamours? MEETING YOUR APPROACH Will you be cautious, neutral, welcoming? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  35. 35. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your metamour approach How and when do you want to meet your metamours? MEETING YOUR APPROACH Will you be cautious, neutral, welcoming? YOUR SPACE What do you have room for? What will you make room for? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  36. 36. BEFORE YOU DATE.Think about your metamour approach How and when do you want to meet your metamours? MEETING YOUR APPROACH Will you be cautious, neutral, welcoming? YOUR SPACE What do you have room for? What will you make room for? @cunningminx
  37. 37. STRATEGIZE SELF CARE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  38. 38. STRATEGIZE SELF CARE.Your strategy for when your parter is on a date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  39. 39. DISCUSS Talk about any insecurities with your partner in advance. Own your shit! STRATEGIZE SELF CARE.Your strategy for when your parter is on a date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  40. 40. DISTRACT Plan for self-care: take a bubble bath, go out with your friends DISCUSS Talk about any insecurities with your partner in advance. Own your shit! STRATEGIZE SELF CARE.Your strategy for when your parter is on a date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  41. 41. DO Reconnect with your partner afterwards emotionally and/or sexually DISTRACT Plan for self-care: take a bubble bath, go out with your friends DISCUSS Talk about any insecurities with your partner in advance. Own your shit! STRATEGIZE SELF CARE.Your strategy for when your parter is on a date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date to date Before After Review summary During
  42. 42. DO Reconnect with your partner afterwards emotionally and/or sexually DISTRACT Plan for self-care: take a bubble bath, go out with your friends DISCUSS Talk about any insecurities with your partner in advance. Own your shit! STRATEGIZE SELF CARE.Your strategy for when your parter is on a date @cunningminx
  43. 43. DATING THE APPROACH @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  44. 44. DATING THE APPROACH @cunningminx
  45. 45. DATING THE APPROACH @cunningminx
  46. 46. GETTING STARTED. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  47. 47. GETTING STARTED.Two key tips @cunningminx Best way to meet people is to go out and do the stuff you love and be your best self. DO WHAT YOU LOVE INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  48. 48. GETTING STARTED.Two key tips @cunningminx Best way to meet people is to go out and do the stuff you love and be your best self. DO WHAT YOU LOVE Do not assume you can convert someone to a relationship style that wasn't their idea. DATE YOUR SPECIES INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  49. 49. GETTING STARTED.Two key tips @cunningminx Best way to meet people is to go out and do the stuff you love and be your best self. DO WHAT YOU LOVE Do not assume you can convert someone to a relationship style that wasn't their idea. DATE YOUR SPECIES INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  50. 50. GETTING STARTED.Two key tips @cunningminx Best way to meet people is to go out and do the stuff you love and be your best self. DO WHAT YOU LOVE Do not assume you can convert someone to a relationship style that wasn't their idea. DATE YOUR SPECIES
  51. 51. TELL US WHO YOU ARE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  52. 52. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  53. 53. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  54. 54. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION Photo courtesy Mollena INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  55. 55. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION
  56. 56. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION
  57. 57. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION
  58. 58. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Profile photo @cunningminx Your profile shot should show you at your best: crazy, fun, sexy, geeky, pensive. HEADSHOT Your profile shot should show at a glance who you are and how you interact with people. FIRST IMPRESSION Photo courtesy Anita Wagner
  59. 59. TELL US WHO YOU ARE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  60. 60. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Photo gallery @cunningminx Primarily you, your work and your hobbies/fun. DO SHOW INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  61. 61. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Photo gallery @cunningminx Primarily you, your work and your hobbies/fun. DO SHOW Cheesy snapshots of the last 20 girls you beat or who sucked your cock. DO NOT SHOW INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  62. 62. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.Photo gallery @cunningminx Primarily you, your work and your hobbies/fun. DO SHOW Cheesy snapshots of the last 20 girls you beat or who sucked your cock. DO NOT SHOW
  63. 63. TELL US WHO YOU ARE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  64. 64. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.List your fetishes and/or answer questions @cunningminx It’s polite to list out your fetishes in the fetish section for easy scanning. LIST YOUR FETISHES INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  65. 65. TELL US WHO YOU ARE.List your fetishes and/or answer questions @cunningminx It’s polite to list out your fetishes in the fetish section for easy scanning. LIST YOUR FETISHES The more questions you answer on OKC, the better match rate you get ANWER QUESTIONS
  66. 66. HOW TO APPROACH. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  67. 67. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  68. 68. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY Check for contraindications. Use third-grade reading skills. PAYATTENTION INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  69. 69. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY Check for contraindications. Use third-grade reading skills. PAYATTENTION
  70. 70. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY Check for contraindications. Use third-grade reading skills. PAYATTENTION Not seeking new partners right now
  71. 71. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY Check for contraindications. Use third-grade reading skills. PAYATTENTION Not seeking new partners right now www.practicalpolyamory.com
  72. 72. HOW TO APPROACH.Do your homework first @cunningminx Read a user’s profile thoroughly before approaching him/her. READ THOROUGHLY Check for contraindications. Use third-grade reading skills. PAYATTENTION Not seeking new partners right now www.practicalpolyamory.com Conversation starter: True Blood, Dexter, Grey’s Anatomy
  73. 73. HOW TO APPROACH. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  74. 74. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  75. 75. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  76. 76. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  77. 77. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. INVITATION Ask to chat, coffee, scene (if not contraindicated). @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  78. 78. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. INVITATION Ask to chat, coffee, scene (if not contraindicated). @cunningminx Hey, Dexter is cool. Serial killers are awesome, especially when they are working for good. INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSGETTING SET UP you date Before After Review summary During
  79. 79. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. INVITATION Ask to chat, coffee, scene (if not contraindicated). @cunningminx Hey, Dexter is cool. Serial killers are awesome, especially when they are working for good. I’m not a serial killer, but I’d like to play one on TV.
  80. 80. HOW TO APPROACH.Start a conversation Make a statement or observation based on the user’s profile. STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. INVITATION Ask to chat, coffee, scene (if not contraindicated). @cunningminx Hey, Dexter is cool. Serial killers are awesome, especially when they are working for good. I’m not a serial killer, but I’d like to play one on TV. I’m not looking for a partner, and I see you’re not, either. Want to platonically geek out about Dexter over coffee some time?
  81. 81. GREAT DATE 101. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary
  82. 82. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary
  83. 83. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Meet with your partners and review and adapt safer sex guidelines SAFER SEX @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary
  84. 84. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Meet with your partners and review and adapt safer sex guidelines SAFER SEX WHERE Choose a public place where you feel safe @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary
  85. 85. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Meet with your partners and review and adapt safer sex guidelines SAFER SEX WHERE Choose a public place where you feel safe SAFETY CALL Arrange a friend or partner to call you as a safety check @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary
  86. 86. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Meet with your partners and review and adapt safer sex guidelines SAFER SEX WHERE Choose a public place where you feel safe SAFETY CALL Arrange a friend or partner to call you as a safety check @cunningminx
  87. 87. GREAT DATE 101. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  88. 88. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  89. 89. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Review and reveal your relationship status and his/ hers/theirs RELATIONSHIP STATUS @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  90. 90. GREAT DATE 101.Before the date Review and reveal your relationship status and his/ hers/theirs RELATIONSHIP STATUS GROOMING Shower. Nose and ear hair. Brush teeth. Deodorant. @cunningminx
  91. 91. INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During HOW TO START. @cunningminx
  92. 92. INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During HOW TO START.Starting a conversation with anyone @cunningminx
  93. 93. INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During HOW TO START.Starting a conversation with anyone Make a statement or observation based on what you know STATEMENT @cunningminx I saw on your profile that you’re really into knitting.
  94. 94. INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During HOW TO START.Starting a conversation with anyone Make a statement or observation based on what you know STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. @cunningminx I saw on your profile that you’re really into knitting. So is my wife!
  95. 95. HOW TO START.Starting a conversation with anyone Make a statement or observation based on what you know STATEMENT DISCLOSURE Reveal something personal about yourself based on the user’s profile. INVITATION Invite to elaborate. @cunningminx I saw on your profile that you’re really into knitting. So is my wife! What have you been working on lately?
  96. 96. HOW TO START. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  97. 97. HOW TO START.Conversation starters @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  98. 98. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  99. 99. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  100. 100. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? TEEN DREAM What did you want to be when you were 15? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  101. 101. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? TEEN DREAM What did you want to be when you were 15? @cunningminx What is the worst thing your last ex would tell me about you? RELATIONSHIPS INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  102. 102. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? TEEN DREAM What did you want to be when you were 15? @cunningminx What is the worst thing your last ex would tell me about you? RELATIONSHIPS How is the date going so far? CHECK-IN INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  103. 103. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? TEEN DREAM What did you want to be when you were 15? @cunningminx What is the worst thing your last ex would tell me about you? RELATIONSHIPS How is the date going so far? CHECK-IN
  104. 104. HOW TO START.Conversation starters What was your favorite book when you where 12? CHILDHOOD FAMILY What did your parents never find out about you? TEEN DREAM What did you want to be when you were 15? @cunningminx What is the worst thing your last ex would tell me about you? RELATIONSHIPS How is the date going so far? CHECK-IN How do you do polyamory? REALITY CHECK
  105. 105. HOW TO END. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  106. 106. HOW TO END. As the date closes, don’t wonder! Say how you think it’s going and ask for what you want. Be OK with hearing “no.” And be prepared to hear “yes”! Review and next steps @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  107. 107. HOW TO END. As the date closes, don’t wonder! Say how you think it’s going and ask for what you want. Be OK with hearing “no.” And be prepared to hear “yes”! Review and next steps @cunningminx I think this has gone really well; I kinda like you and would love to [go for coffee] [see you again] [go to my place and fuck]. What about you?
  108. 108. AFTERCARE. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  109. 109. AFTERCARE.Do the work! @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  110. 110. AFTERCARE.Do the work! Call, text, message as appropriate to thank for the date. DATE @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  111. 111. AFTERCARE.Do the work! Call, text, message as appropriate to thank for the date. DATE PARTNER Check in with your partner for emotional and/or sexual aftercare. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  112. 112. AFTERCARE.Do the work! Call, text, message as appropriate to thank for the date. DATE PARTNER Check in with your partner for emotional and/or sexual aftercare. SELF Reward yourself for the risks you took, regardless of the outcome. @cunningminx
  113. 113. YOURTURN. @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
  114. 114. Q&A YOURTURN.U CAN HAZ QUESTIONS? @cunningminx INTRODUCTION BEFORE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE GREAT DATE QUESTIONSWHEN AND WHERE you date to date Before After Review summary During
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