For Becoming A Better Person/Counselor

1. WELCOME
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5. TECHNIQUE AND DIFFERENT …
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8. Effective person/counselor ‡`i KvQ †_‡K cÖZ¨vkv ev `vex
...÷z‡W›U/ K¬v‡q›U‡`i mv‡_ wbivg‡qii m¤úK© ¯’vc‡b Zviv
GKRb cÖK…Z/LvuwU gvbexq e¨vw³ n‡eb...)
- Through our own genuineness and aliveness
that we can significantly touch our Student/client.
-(Avgiv Avgv‡`i mZZv Ges mRxeZv/ cÖvYešÍZvi gva¨‡g
÷z‡W›U/ K¬v‡q›U‡`i ü`q ¯úk© Ki‡Z cvi‡ev )

9. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
1.Effective person/counselor have an identity
they know who they are… and what is essential.
(mdj e¨w³i/KvDbwÝji Gi _vK‡e GKUv wbR¯^ cwiwPwZ)
2. Effective person/counselor respects and
appreciate themselves and others :
( mdj e¨w³/KvDbwÝji wb‡R‡K Ges Ab¨‡`im¤§vb K‡i,
cÖksmv/mg_©b †`q ) Zviv wb‡R‡`i †hvM¨Zv I kw³i
evB‡i- Ab¨‡`i KvQ †_‡K mvnvh¨ I fvjevmv
w`‡Z - wb‡Z Rvv‡b)
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10. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
3. Effective counselor/ person are open to change:
When client are not satisfied with the way they are…
counselor make decisions about how they would like to
change., ,
-(÷z‡W›U/ K¬v‡q›U‡`i mv‡_ c_Pjvq... wKfv‡e cwieZ©Y Avb‡Z
n‡e, †m m¤^‡Ü Zviv m‡PZb I D`vi, GgbwK we‡klfv‡e hLb Zviv
wbR Ae¯’v‡b AmyLx...|
4. Effective counselor make choices that
are life oriented:
- mdj/djcÖ` e¨w³/KvDwÝji K¬v‡q›U‡`i hv Rxeb-Dc‡hvMx ev
Rxeb †Kw›`ªK Zv †e‡Q ‡bq|
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11. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
5. Effective person/counselors are
authentic, sincere an honest:
-Zviv cÖK…Z/LvuwU, mnR-mij Ges mr/mZ¨ev`x ; †Kvb welq
jyKv‡Z ev cÖwZ‡iva/evuavi m„wó Ki‡Z †Póv K‡i bv|
6. Effective person/counselor have a sense of
humor:
- mdj KvDbwÝji‡`i Av‡Q iwmKZv Kivi g‡Zv Ávb| Zviv Rxe‡bi
NUbvmg~n bZzb `„wófw½‡Z †`L‡Z cv‡i| Zviv †h †Kvb KwVb welq
Ges we‡klfv‡e wb‡Ri Ag‡Zi/B”Qvi weiæ× welqI mnRfv‡e wb‡Z
‡Pó K‡i|

12. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
7. Effective person/counselor make mistakes
and are willing to admit them: Zviv fzj Ki‡Z cv‡ib Z‡e
Zv ‡¯^”Qvq ¯^xKvi K‡i |
8. Effective person/counsrlor generally live in the
present: Zviv AZxZ evievi ¯§iY K‡i †`q bv, Avevi fwel¨r wel‡qI
AwZwbf©ikxj bq; Zviv AwfÁZv Ki‡Z Ges Ab¨‡`i mv‡_ eZ©gvb
wb‡q _vK‡Z †Póv K‡i|

13. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
9. Effective person/counselor appreciate
the influence of culture:
- Zviv e¨w³ mZš¿Zv, †RÛvi, †kÖYx‡f` m¤^‡Ü LyeB m‡PZb Ges
ms‡e`bkxj| ‡h †Kvb ms¯‹…wZi cÖwZ Zviv kÖ×vkxj...
10. Effective person/counselors possess
(own) effective interpersonal skills: Zv‡`i
Av‡Q Ab¨‡`i mv‡_ cvi¯úwiK e¨w³MZ m¤úK© ¯’vc‡b `ÿZv| A‡b¨i
Rxeb-Mfx‡i XzKvi g‡Zv ‡KŠkjI Zviv AR©b K‡i †bq|
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14. PERSONAL CHARACTERISTIS OF…
11. Effective person/counselor have a
sincere interest in the welfare of others:
A‡b¨i Ges Zvui KvD‡Ýwj‡`i kyf-Kvgbv Kivi ‡ÿ‡Î _v‡K AKcU
AvMÖn| GB `i`‡eva M‡o D‡V cvi¯úwiK m¤§vvb, hZoe, wek¦vm
Ges Ab¨‡K g~j¨/ghv©`v †`qvi gva¨‡g|
-this concern is based on respect, care,
trust and real valuing of others.
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16. COUNSEELING PROCESS…
mvi-ms‡ÿc ejv
mvaviY cwiPvjbv †`qv
REASURENCE: wbðqZv ‡`qv
INTEARPRETATION: ¯úófv‡e fvj-g›` w`KwU‡Z Av‡jvKcvZ
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17. Acceptance is non-judgmental openness to whatever is
said by the counselee. ‡Kvb wePvi bv K‡i D`vi ev †Lvjv g‡bvfv‡e
KvDwÝjx hv-B e‡j Zv MÖnY |
KvDwÝj‡ii Dl I Avš‘wiK MÖnY, Zvi mge¨_x nIqv ,
Lye kxNªB Zv‡K Abyfe Ki‡Z mvnvh¨ Ki‡e †h †m Zvi Kv‡Q
MªnYxq GKRb,,,
Use this… “ I am with you”
I accept that, … nothing u say here is irrelevant.
I regard your thoughts with respects….
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18. (KvDwÝwj hv e‡j wVK Zv-B / GKB kã cbivq ejv
)|
 cybiæw³ Zv‡K... †m †h wel‡q K_v e‡j‡Q, †m m¤^‡Ü
mwVK aviYv w`‡e )|
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19. KvDwÝwj GB gvÎ hv e‡j‡Q ‡m m¤^‡Ü cwi®‹vi aviYv
†`qv ...
 ZLb KvDwÝwj eyS‡Z cvi‡e †h , Zvi g‡b hv wQj.... †m †Kej ZvB
cÖKvk K‡i‡Q| ( Av‡eM, Abyf‚wZ, ivM, †ÿvf, fq, `ywðšÍv..)
 Used as REFLECTION- (cÖwZdjb) this
response can serve as a mirror... KvDwÝwji Dw³
cybivq ejv, Zvi gZ K‡i Abyfe Kiv,,,,
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20. KvDwÝwj ‡h wel‡q mnfvwMZv K‡i‡Q Zvi mviK_v ev g~j
welq cybivq ejv, Ges Zvi Abyf‚wZi Awfe¨w³ AvZ¯’ Kiv|
KvDwÝwj‡K Zvi welq wKfv‡e ej‡e ev Dc¯’vcb Ki‡e
‡m c_/Dcvq †e‡Q wb‡Z mvnvh¨ K‡ib, AbygwZ †`b|
But … the counsellor who is taking the responsibility
for the progress (AMÖMwZ) of the interview.
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21. REASSURANCE: ( wbðqZv, Avkv, mvnm Ges
AvZoe- wek¦vm‡eva †`qv ... to give hope, courage,
self-confidence. .. Yes, I am agree with u.
hLb Avgiv gy‡L e‡j ev bv e‡j Avgv‡`i †gŠb m¤§wZ‡Z
wbðqZv ‡`B; ZLb Avgiv Zv‡`i wPšÍv-aviYv Av_ev Zv‡`i
Abyf‚wZ‡K kw³kvjx / eje„w× Kwi|
INTERPRETATION:
KvDwÝwj hv e‡j †m Dw³i cieZx© djvdj/ cwiw¯’wZ †Kgb
n‡Z cv‡i †m m¤^‡Ü fvj-g›` w`K Av‡jvKcvZ Kiv...
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24. A.Physical Arrangements :
 The setting- a good setting is needed for
privacy and protection from interruptions
(evav/cÖwZeÜKZv).
 Note-taking and recording.
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25. connection
empathy
positive, comfortable relationship between the
clinician and clients.
 involves comfortable atmosphere and natural
understanding to the purpose of the interview.
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26.  it is very important to use language that
the patient can understand, avoid
psychological jargon(meaningless word)…
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27.  Open-ended – …would you tell me about your
experiences in …accident?
 Facilitative –
Clarifying –
 Confronting- remove conflicting
statements.
 Direct-
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28. 10 Qualities of an effective counselor
Confidentiality:
It is of upmost importance when you are a counselor.
You must be able to maintain confidentiality so the client
can trust you with their most intimate concerns.
Encouraging
The ability to encourage is important for a counselor.
Many clients are struggling to find hope in their
situation.
Self-Aware:
A counselor who is aware of their own fears,
insecurities, and weaknesses will be effective in the
therapeutic relationship.
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29. Authenticity
Authenticity is vital when working with
clients. Clients will know if you are being
fake or not showing genuine concern.
Good Listener:
Counselors spend a significant amount of
time listening to their clients. You will do
more listening than talking.
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30. Patience:
As a counselor you need to have patience with your clients
as they process the discussion. It may take them time to
accept certain things and to move towards positive
changes.
Compassionate :
It is very important that your clients feel your compassion
for their problems and that they sense you truly care about
them.
Nonjudgmental:
Counselors hear all kinds of private information and
encounter all types of people.
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31. Research-Oriented:
Being a counselor involves a significant amount of time
spent researching. You will need to stay current on the
research in order to help your clients.
Empathetic :
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings
of others. You need to be able to put yourself in the shoes
of your client and understand the situation from their point
of view.
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33. Try to
LEARN
Something
NEW
every day,
and you'll
GROW.

35. 16-Oct-14 Viswam-2010 35 THANK YOU!!

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