Assertiveness for self improvement

1. Assertiveness
ALKA WADKAR
Sarella Sreeja
M11-TPS-37

2. Content layout
• 1.0 Introduction
• 1.1Types of behavior
• 1.2 Nature of Assertiveness
• 1.3Types of Assertiveness
• 1.4 Strategies to becomeAssertive
• 1.5 Characteristics of an Assertive person

3. Am I right ?

4. Am I right ?

5. Or am I ?!

6. 1.0 Introduction
• Typical Indian wedding proposal
scene..
• To be happy in life, one needs to
maintain effective relations.These
in turn depend on appropriate
expression of feelings and
emotions.
• Assertiveness is one aspect of
emotional freedom that concerns
standing up for one’s own rights.
• It is a direct, honest and
appropriate expression of one’s
feelings, opinions and beliefs.

7. 1.1 Types of
behavior
Behavior
Assertive
Submissive
Passive
aggression
Aggressive
I am superior & right,
you are inferior &
wrong.
Calm & dignified expression of
one’s thoughts, feelings
emotions.
Fail to honestly
express one’s rights.
Non- approval is a
major concern.
Unclear & confusing
expression without
stating it.

8. 1.2 Nature of
Assertiveness Assertiveness
is ability to
say no ask for favor
Express positive &
negative feelings
Initiate , continue&
terminate general
convos.
• Ask for whatever one needs.
• Maintain one’s opinions & values and express them appropriately.
• Deny anything. Refuse insulting treatment.
• Say yes or no to anyone’s request without feeling guilty.
• Take decisions & experience its consequences.
• Complain about something.

9. 1.3 Types of
Assertiveness
Assertion
Basic
assertion
Empathic
Assertion
Escaling
Assertion
Self-
assertion
Confrontive
assertion
• I want to study now.
• I want to rest for a
while.
I know that your not
free for the whole day
but I want you to visit
my place for 10 mins.
Intensify
If you fail to submit the
assignment by
tomorrow, I will have
to increase the work.
Express negative
emotions ( I )
You hurt me>>>>
I was hurt when you said
that
You confuse me>>>
Contradictory
Till this point you were
upset & shouting, you
were telling that you are
not angry, but now . .

10. 1.4 Strategies to become Assertive
• L – look at your needs, wants and rights
• A – arrange time & place to discuss the situation
• D – define the problem specifically
• D – describe your feelings by using ‘I ‘ messages
• E – express your request firmly & simply
• R- reinforce the possibility of what you want

11. 1.5 Characteristics of an Assertive person
Is more expressive
Is able to make choices for
himself/herself
Feels good about himself/herself
Is optimistic
 Maintains high self-esteem
Is comfortable while accepting
self-limitations
Does not need constant social
approval
Respects oneself & others
Is ready for compromise
Is eager to try to change his/her
behavioral style
Shoulders responsibility to his/her
own actions and communication.
Ready to accept that all the
problems cannot be solved as per
his/her ideas.

12. Can we be
assertive with
friends, family &
loved ones?
ThankYou !!