3. Chris 的故事
o 1959年、當過兵。之後無家可歸 homeless。
o 二十多年前、在過度之家 (transitional home)見到將
來的太太。他們結婚。沒有兒女。這三四年他的太
太病重、不能工作、在家醫病。太太很怕死。他儘
量安徽太太。
o 今年63歲、他修一行禪師的法門靜觀。對太太的病
況、很平靜心來接受與面對。一點擔心、害怕都沒
有。接受當下的情況 Accept what is. (caretaker 照顧
者)
6. An Introduction to Buddhist
Psychology & Counselling
De Silva, Padmasiri 2014
心的令一方面看法 (心理醫
生):
三種性格: 雕刻石、沙、水。
Three types of mind:
carving rock, sand, and
water.
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11. Anathapindika’s Last Illness
教化給孤獨長者經--中部經143
He sent a message to the Elder Sariputta asking him to
visit. Both Sariputta and Ananda came.
給孤獨長者病得很重、吩咐一個下人去頂禮世尊、
之後前往舍利弗尊者那裏,頂禮舍利弗尊者、說:
「大德,給孤獨長者生了病,病得很重。他頂禮尊
者雙足。願尊者悲憫,前往給孤獨長者的居所就好
了。」
舍利弗尊者保持沉默以表示願意探望給孤獨長者。
12. Anathapindika’s Last Illness
Sariputta: Then householder, you should train thus: “I will
not cling to the eye; there shall be no consciousness of
mine based on the eye.” You should train thus. He went
on to instruct him likewise about the other four senses
and the mind, about the objects of those five senses and
the mind, about these six kinds of consciousness and
contact and feeling, about the elements of earth, water,
fire, air, space, and consciousness, about the five
aggregates, …finally about all that is seen, heard, sensed
(by nose, tongue, and body), and cognized, sought after
and accessible to the mind.
16. Anathapindika wept and tears ran down his face. Ananda
asked: “Are you holding back, householder? Are you
failing?”
“I am not holding back, venerable Ananda, I am not
failing. Though I have long waited on the Master and the
meditative bhikkhus, yet I have never before heard such a
talk on the Dhamma as that. Such talks on the Dhamma
are not given to the white-clothed laity, householder, they
are given to those gone forth from the house life.
17. He requested to have such talks given to the laity who
would gain final knowledge of the Dhamma. He passed
away and attained stream-entered (only seven more
lives).
18. Dealing with excruciating pain
如何應付痠痛
Label the pain as “pain” and let go of any story associated
with it.
Repeat: 默念
“This is not me!” 「這不是我。」
“This is not mine!” 「這不是屬於我的。」
Prevent the mind from grasping to the pain area.
19. Death
June 2021: A seven year-old, diagnosed with brain cancer,
passed away after 7 weeks.
Death could happen anytime regardless of age or health.
死亡可以隨時發生、不分老幼。
20. https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/study/beyondcoping/examples.html
Citta’s Death
On that occasion Citta the householder was diseased, in
pain, severely ill.
From the devas: "Make a wish, householder: 'In the future,
may I become a king, a wheel-turning monarch!’”
"Even that is inconstant; even that is impermanent; one
must abandon even that when one passes on.”
26. Citta’s Faith in Buddhism
As instructed by the Buddha:
I will be endowed with verified confidence in the Buddha:
"Indeed, the Blessed One [the Buddha] is pure & rightly self-awakened,
consummate in knowledge & conduct, well-gone, an expert with regard to the
cosmos, unexcelled as a trainer for those people fit to be tamed, the Teacher
of divine & human beings, awakened, blessed.”
I will be endowed with verified confidence in the
Dhamma: "The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One, to be seen
here & now, timeless, inviting verification, pertinent, to be realized by the
wise for themselves.”
27. I will be possessed of verified confidence in the Sangha:
"The Sangha of the Blessed One's disciples who have practiced well... who
have practiced straight-forwardly... who have practiced methodically... who
have practiced masterfully — in other words, the four types [of noble
disciples] when taken as pairs, the eight when taken as individual types —
they are the Sangha of the Blessed One's disciples: worthy of gifts, worthy of
hospitality, worthy of offerings, worthy of respect, the incomparable field of
merit for the world."
28. 'Whatever there may be in our family that can be given
away, all that will be shared unstintingly with virtuous
ones who are of admirable character.' That's how I should
train myself.
Then, having enjoined his friends & colleagues, his
relatives & kinsmen, to place confidence in the Buddha,
Dhamma, & Sangha; having exhorted them to undertake
generosity, Citta the householder passed away.
29. Sources
Majjhima Nikaya (1029-1032).
Thus We Heard by Bhante Piyananda & Stephen Long
The Life of the Buddha by Bhikkhu Nanamoli