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Breaking the Cycle
of Porn Addiction
Based in part on the book “Breaking the Cycle” by George Collins
Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes
Executive Director: AllCEUs Counselor Education
Host: Counselor Toolbox Podcast
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 1
Objectives
 Explore how porn addiction can be a cycle
 Explore how porn (like video games) can be
addictive
 Explore technological interventions to help
pornography addicts
 Identify critical treatment Issues for porn
addiction
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 2
Similarities Between Porn and Gaming
 Available anywhere/anytime
 Never ending excitement
 New stuff constantly added
 No particular end
 Increases dopamine and norepinephrine
 May (falsely) provide the feeling of social connection
 Easy to minimize porn as a harmless online activity
 Some sites have monthly fees which encourage more
use to “get your money’s worth.”
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 3
Recognizing It
 Recognizing Porn (or Sex) Addiction (Compulsion)
 You cannot get enough
 You spend more time thinking about, engaging in and
recovering from the behavior than intended
 You give up important social, recreational activities to
engage in the behavior
 It causes problems in one or more areas of your life,
but you continue to do it: emotional, social,
occupational, legal
 You have been unsuccessful at trying to quit
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 4
Who Becomes a Porn Addict
 Anybody who…
 Had a troubled childhood and found masturbation as an
effective means of self-soothing
 Was exposed to sexually explicit material at an early
age
 Has difficulty in real-life relationships
 Is depressed, stressed or having difficulty sleeping
 So…anybody is vulnerable
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 5
The Cycle of Porn
 Porn addiction is really about the neurochemical
reactions from looking at porn
(excitement/tension building) and masturbation
(release/reward)
 When people encounter distressing situations (or
boredom) they may masturbate.
 This produces a sensation of calming and/or
pleasure that
 The person wants to experience again
 The person remembers the next time a distressing
situation arises
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 6
Step 1: Identifying the Triggers
 Triggers are people, places, things, feelings and
events that prompt a person to want to escape
 What emotions trigger you to want to view porn?
 What thoughts or self-talk?
 What people?
 What situations or times of day?
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 7
Step 2: Address Euphoric Recall
 Make a list of the unpleasant effects
 Emotional (Shame, guilt, anger, anxiety, depression…)
 Cognitive (Obsessions, lack of concentration…)
 Interpersonal (Inability to get aroused IRL, changed
sexual preferences and expectations, difficulty not
objectifying, paying less attention to kids, less desire
to interact with other people…)
 Occupational (losing time at work, late for work, poor
work performance)
 Legal (divorce, child custody, criminal charges,
bankruptcy (webcam viewers)
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 8
Step 3: Pair the Porn
 Pairing the situations in which you want to use
porn with something competing.
 Put a picture of your kids or a religious symbol next to
your computer and on your desktop/home screen
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 9
Step 4: Lock It Down
 Firewalls to block adult content that you don’t
have the password to
 Nanny apps (like Bark) that notify someone if you
go to an adult site
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 10
Step 5: Reboot
 When the brain is regularly flooded with dopamine and
excitatory neurochemicals it becomes less sensitive.
 Things that used to make you happy don’t have the same effect.
 You may also start feeling depressed, have difficulty concentrating
and lack energy.
 Removing all pornography from the equation is most
helpful.
 Restricting sexual activity to only that between you and a
consenting partner is also helpful.
 Initially you may experience anxiety and/or depression as
well as sexual craving since the brain is depending on
regular doses of feel-good chemicals and porn has been a
staple coping strategy
 As the brain recovers your obsessions about porn and
compulsive behaviors will start to remit
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89
11
Step 5
 Unhook from their thoughts
 Instead of saying “I am a failure” say “I am having the
thought that I am a failure.”
 Instead of saying “I can’t wait to get home to look at
porn/masturbate” say “I am having the thought that…”
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 12
Step 6
 Address the underlying
issues
 Low self-esteem (INSO)
 Depression
 Anxiety/Stress
 Anger
 Insomnia
 Feeling isolated / social
anxiety / lack of intimacy
 Boredom
 What is causing them?
(Take your personal
history)
 What makes them worse?
Better?
 What was different when
you didn’t have this
problem?
 What steps do you need
to take to deal with the
problem?
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 13
Step 7
 Develop alternate, positive behaviors to engage in
when you are feeling triggered
 Mow the lawn
 Go to the gym / Do pushups / Wall sits
 Take a cold shower / Hold an ice cube
 Listen to loud music
 Find something opposite to watch on TV
 Review your drawbacks list
 Get support
 Develop an affirmation statement
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 14
Learn More
 George Collins’ book “Breaking the Cycle” is
available at New Harbinger Publications and has
dozens of activities to help people step through
this process.
 Save 25% at AllCEUs.com/Collins and use
promocode 1168SNIPES at checkout
AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 15
Summary
 Pornography floods people’s brains with “feel-good” chemicals
 People often use porn and masturbation to self-soothe when they are
experiencing distress.
 When people are experiencing a lot of distress for some reason, they
use porn/masturbation more.
 When the brain adapts to frequent “doses”, it begins to expect them,
which can cause people to feel “horny” all the time
 This feeling prompts compulsive sexual behavior---the porn cycle
 Regular pornography use has negative effects on emotions,
concentration, relationships, work product and sometimes legal status
and finances.
 Breaking the cycle involves
 “Detoxing” from porn to let the brain recover
 Identifying the triggers for use and what underlying issues caused them
 Addressing those issues
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Breaking Free from Pornography Addiction

  • 1. Breaking the Cycle of Porn Addiction Based in part on the book “Breaking the Cycle” by George Collins Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes Executive Director: AllCEUs Counselor Education Host: Counselor Toolbox Podcast AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 1
  • 2. Objectives  Explore how porn addiction can be a cycle  Explore how porn (like video games) can be addictive  Explore technological interventions to help pornography addicts  Identify critical treatment Issues for porn addiction AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 2
  • 3. Similarities Between Porn and Gaming  Available anywhere/anytime  Never ending excitement  New stuff constantly added  No particular end  Increases dopamine and norepinephrine  May (falsely) provide the feeling of social connection  Easy to minimize porn as a harmless online activity  Some sites have monthly fees which encourage more use to “get your money’s worth.” AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 3
  • 4. Recognizing It  Recognizing Porn (or Sex) Addiction (Compulsion)  You cannot get enough  You spend more time thinking about, engaging in and recovering from the behavior than intended  You give up important social, recreational activities to engage in the behavior  It causes problems in one or more areas of your life, but you continue to do it: emotional, social, occupational, legal  You have been unsuccessful at trying to quit AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 4
  • 5. Who Becomes a Porn Addict  Anybody who…  Had a troubled childhood and found masturbation as an effective means of self-soothing  Was exposed to sexually explicit material at an early age  Has difficulty in real-life relationships  Is depressed, stressed or having difficulty sleeping  So…anybody is vulnerable AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 5
  • 6. The Cycle of Porn  Porn addiction is really about the neurochemical reactions from looking at porn (excitement/tension building) and masturbation (release/reward)  When people encounter distressing situations (or boredom) they may masturbate.  This produces a sensation of calming and/or pleasure that  The person wants to experience again  The person remembers the next time a distressing situation arises AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 6
  • 7. Step 1: Identifying the Triggers  Triggers are people, places, things, feelings and events that prompt a person to want to escape  What emotions trigger you to want to view porn?  What thoughts or self-talk?  What people?  What situations or times of day? AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 7
  • 8. Step 2: Address Euphoric Recall  Make a list of the unpleasant effects  Emotional (Shame, guilt, anger, anxiety, depression…)  Cognitive (Obsessions, lack of concentration…)  Interpersonal (Inability to get aroused IRL, changed sexual preferences and expectations, difficulty not objectifying, paying less attention to kids, less desire to interact with other people…)  Occupational (losing time at work, late for work, poor work performance)  Legal (divorce, child custody, criminal charges, bankruptcy (webcam viewers) AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 8
  • 9. Step 3: Pair the Porn  Pairing the situations in which you want to use porn with something competing.  Put a picture of your kids or a religious symbol next to your computer and on your desktop/home screen AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 9
  • 10. Step 4: Lock It Down  Firewalls to block adult content that you don’t have the password to  Nanny apps (like Bark) that notify someone if you go to an adult site AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 10
  • 11. Step 5: Reboot  When the brain is regularly flooded with dopamine and excitatory neurochemicals it becomes less sensitive.  Things that used to make you happy don’t have the same effect.  You may also start feeling depressed, have difficulty concentrating and lack energy.  Removing all pornography from the equation is most helpful.  Restricting sexual activity to only that between you and a consenting partner is also helpful.  Initially you may experience anxiety and/or depression as well as sexual craving since the brain is depending on regular doses of feel-good chemicals and porn has been a staple coping strategy  As the brain recovers your obsessions about porn and compulsive behaviors will start to remit AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 11
  • 12. Step 5  Unhook from their thoughts  Instead of saying “I am a failure” say “I am having the thought that I am a failure.”  Instead of saying “I can’t wait to get home to look at porn/masturbate” say “I am having the thought that…” AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 12
  • 13. Step 6  Address the underlying issues  Low self-esteem (INSO)  Depression  Anxiety/Stress  Anger  Insomnia  Feeling isolated / social anxiety / lack of intimacy  Boredom  What is causing them? (Take your personal history)  What makes them worse? Better?  What was different when you didn’t have this problem?  What steps do you need to take to deal with the problem? AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 13
  • 14. Step 7  Develop alternate, positive behaviors to engage in when you are feeling triggered  Mow the lawn  Go to the gym / Do pushups / Wall sits  Take a cold shower / Hold an ice cube  Listen to loud music  Find something opposite to watch on TV  Review your drawbacks list  Get support  Develop an affirmation statement AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 14
  • 15. Learn More  George Collins’ book “Breaking the Cycle” is available at New Harbinger Publications and has dozens of activities to help people step through this process.  Save 25% at AllCEUs.com/Collins and use promocode 1168SNIPES at checkout AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 15
  • 16. Summary  Pornography floods people’s brains with “feel-good” chemicals  People often use porn and masturbation to self-soothe when they are experiencing distress.  When people are experiencing a lot of distress for some reason, they use porn/masturbation more.  When the brain adapts to frequent “doses”, it begins to expect them, which can cause people to feel “horny” all the time  This feeling prompts compulsive sexual behavior---the porn cycle  Regular pornography use has negative effects on emotions, concentration, relationships, work product and sometimes legal status and finances.  Breaking the cycle involves  “Detoxing” from porn to let the brain recover  Identifying the triggers for use and what underlying issues caused them  Addressing those issues AllCEUs Unlimited CEUs $59 | Addiction Counselor Certificate Training $149 | Specialty Certificates $89 16