Moms conference test for toxbox


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  • Introduction of me
  • Kathy, Rochester MNLori, Los Angeles, CAKaren Adams, TennesseeMoya Smith, Aurora, COAnd the participants……
  • Let’s talk brain development
  • 0-2 Connected to mom. There isn’t an ego….no self, no separate self. The brain isn’t sophisticated enough2-10 When the ego develops, we develop programs for happiness – unconscious programs for happiness Two sources: 1. primary caregiver – what they say 2. environment – internalize culture, religion, gender, sexual identity The brain is only a receiver, it becomes a processor later in pre-adolescence10-16 Begin to filter out programs that don’t work and aren’t your truth The brain is sophisticated enough to understand that what happened to you wasn’t goodJesus’ life: He walked thru every boundary, sometimes you have to step up and stand up for what is rightIn a non-linear world, we are all oneWhat I give to the world, I give to me. We are all connected.
  • We compensate through alcohol, work, things
  • Moms conference test for toxbox

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    4. 4. My Team!<br />Kathy Porter<br />Lori Petro <br />Karen Adams<br />Moya Smith<br />
    5. 5. Comments from the Q&A<br /><ul><li>“Peace in my home is missing.”
    6. 6. “I have never really felt loved by my mother.”
    7. 7. “I’m scared of failure and I’m scared of success.”
    8. 8. “I have lost my overall confidence.”
    9. 9. “I want to FEEL real true honest love.”</li></li></ul><li>Comments from the Q&A<br /><ul><li>“Love is not enough.”
    10. 10. “I want to lose the fear and learn to love my children unconditionally. I don’t think I can even comprehend what unconditional love is.”
    11. 11. “There are very few ‘good days’ in my life.”
    12. 12. “I truly don’t know what it will take to be happy and fulfilled.”</li></li></ul><li>Comments from the Q&A<br /><ul><li>What are you uncertain about? “The future of my children.”
    13. 13. What are you certain about? “Nothing.”
    14. 14. “I feel invisible, powerless, and worthless.”</li></li></ul><li>What is missing in your life?<br /><ul><li>“Love for all my children and love for myself is missing.”
    15. 15. “Daily peace is missing from my life and an overall sense of belonging.”
    16. 16. “My connection to myself; I sense a disconnection.”
    17. 17. “A sense of purpose in life – What am I here for?”</li></li></ul><li>Bringing You the Latest and Greatest in NeuroScience!<br />
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    20. 20. You Have It Already In You<br /><ul><li>Love is not a feeling or an emotion---it is a state.
    21. 21. Love is simply a way of being in this world.
    22. 22. Being in a state of love is always possible. It never goes away.</li></li></ul><li>You Have It Already In You<br /><ul><li>You already have the answers in you…you just can’t find them because pain and fear are dominating your thoughts and actions.
    23. 23. This weekend is about going more deeply into what you already have and changing your focus.
    24. 24. The treasure is within you. It is simply a matter of having the courage to look inside.</li></ul>The Power of Now<br />
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    26. 26. As a parent, the only thing that can make you happy is who you become, not how your children behave.<br />
    27. 27. Being in the Present Moment<br />You Have It Already In You<br />The Power of Now<br />One of the greatest obstacles between you and your child is you.<br />The present moment, love and forgiveness, and new patterns hold the key to change.<br />
    28. 28. The Loss of Self<br /><ul><li>At conception, you arecomplete and whole.
    29. 29. You are born with access to unlimited love and unlimited happiness.
    30. 30. As you expressed your needs, some needs were met with negative reactions from your caregivers.
    31. 31. These negative message began to create your “software.”</li></li></ul><li>
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    34. 34. Negative Messages<br /><ul><li> “Stop crying.”
    35. 35. “Be a big girl.”
    36. 36. “Stop whining.”
    37. 37. “Stop that…you’re being too silly.”
    38. 38. “You’re too old for that.”
    39. 39. “Stop dreaming….you have to be realistic.”</li></li></ul><li>
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    41. 41. Brain Development<br />The prefrontal cortex takes around 25 years to develop in an optimal environment.<br />|<br />|<br />|<br />|<br />0<br />2<br />16<br />10<br />0-2 Kinesthetic, nonlinear development<br />2-10 Wonderful receiver (caretakers and environment)<br />10-16 Self-reflective consciousness<br />
    42. 42. Who We Become<br /><ul><li>One of the most painful things that happens in childhood is what they don’t say or don’t do.
    43. 43. We play hide and seek with the pain.
    44. 44. It is energy and it will find its way out, whether we want it to or not.
    45. 45. We compensate to avoid it and our behaviors reflect this.</li></li></ul><li>Our Behaviors:<br /><ul><li> defensiveness
    46. 46. frozen
    47. 47. denying our needs
    48. 48. blaming others
    49. 49. reactive towards others
    50. 50. controlling
    51. 51. negative
    52. 52. helplessness
    53. 53. triggers / buttons</li></ul>Multiply times 10 when you become a parent to a child with difficult behaviors!<br />
    54. 54. Returning Back to Love<br />Right Hemisphere<br /><ul><li>Unconscious processor
    55. 55. Emotional self
    56. 56. Non-verbal
    57. 57. Thinks in pictures and symbols
    58. 58. Emotional processisng
    59. 59. Present Moment</li></ul>Left Hemisphere<br /><ul><li> Conscious processor
    60. 60. Language
    61. 61. Analytical thought
    62. 62. Logic
    63. 63. Serial thinking
    64. 64. Objective
    65. 65. Past and Future</li></ul>Where does healing take place?<br />
    66. 66. Returning Back to Love<br />How do you get there?<br />Expression of the pain at the emotional level<br />Body awareness<br />Relationships – being accepted, understood, and loved<br />Learning to anchor yourself in the present moment<br />Learning to love yourself<br />Forgiveness<br />Finding your voice<br />Giving yourself permission to have needs<br />Reclaiming your personal power<br />Redefining your beliefs<br />Learning how to change your state<br />
    67. 67. Choose Your Buddy<br />
    68. 68. Choose Your Buddy<br />
    69. 69. Beginning the Journey Inward<br />
    70. 70. It’s in Every One of Us!<br />
    71. 71. It’s in Every One of Us!<br />
    72. 72. You Are So Beautiful<br />
    73. 73. You Are So Beautiful<br />