The Vietnam Believer Newsletter_May 13th, 2024_ENVol. 007.pdf
The real world vs safe space
1. THE REAL WORLD VS SAFE SPACE
By Christopher McQuade MBA/HRM
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During student orientation students are told:
1) Ask for help when you need it
2) Speak up when you feel uncomfortable
3) Place your own interests / well being above
those of others
Because students are not given proper education in interpersonal skills,
they find themselves offended faster and unable to work well with other
cohorts.
3. 1) What is or is not offensive and off-color
2) What a true personal slight is versa a free opinion
3) To report– hear something, say something
4) Does not build necessary character in order to deal
with objecting ideas/thoughts
Without proper interpersonal skills and inter-cohort interactions; students
entering the workplace suffer a major disadvantage.
This can lead to a major wake-up call on students and frustration with
business owners, management and HR personnel.
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What’s important, isn’t how I feel, it is how I make
everyone else around me feel
The disadvantage of not learning proper social skills is the inability to see
the issue from the other side
When dealing with others, the individual must be able to gauge the room
and act not as a lone island ready to be offended, but as a member of a
larger cohort.
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Hey wait! When I talk to customers why don’t
they carefully craft their harsh opinions to avoid
offending me? This is unfair!
This is a real comment from a millennial student– In an HR complaint, they were
upset a customer offend them…
Comment was “Howdy, ma’am, are you keeping out of trouble today?”
6. 1) There are no trigger warnings when someone is about to offend
you! (Deal with it!)
2) No Safe Spaces are provided in the Real-World (Deal with it!)
3) No University administrator to run to for soothing and reassurance
(Deal with it!)
Learning how to deal with people; the good, the bad and the very ugly
allows students to grow, moreover to matured into productive adults in
the workplace… cause they can DEAL WITH IT!
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Leave your personal problems (luggage) outside
the door, they’re not welcomed here!
Partial quote from Tsarina Catharine I of Russia
When employees arrive at work, they are expected to: preform their job,
complete their tasks on time and interact with coworkers and customers
alike.
8. 1) Lacking interpersonal skills
2) Easily offended
3) Needs constant reassurance
The Top three ways to lose your job is the inability to exhibit proper conduct of a
mature adult. It is important to know how to work with others and deal with
multiple cohorts in the workplace… or face a long career of jumping from job to
job being very unhappy.
9. 1) Better working with others towards a common goal
2) Better handling anxiety and difficult situations
3) Being part of the team!
By strengthening students’ character, work ethics and encourage them to be self-
reliant. They will have the building blocks to be successful in their careers, cohorts
and the public.
10. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN-- ?
Putting oneself first
Leads to privilege
Does not develop character
Does not lead to personal growth
Putting others first
Leads to being of service
Develop character
Leads to personal growth