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How To Talk To Your Children About Sex Sexuality Education For Parents

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How and why parents need to talk to their children about their sexuality

How and why parents need to talk to their children about their sexuality

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  • 1.  
  • 2. Sexuality education – how to talk to your kids about sex Dr Aniruddha Malpani, MD
  • 3. Sex is not a 4 letter word !
    • Curiosity about sex is natural.
    • People of ALL ages ( especially teens !) have questions about sexuality
    • Understanding how their body works and how to take care of it is part of building a healthy life.
    • Accurate information about sex and sexuality is a good thing.
  • 4. Three key messages
    • Look for “teachable moments”
    • Be an “askable parent”
    • Do not censor information
    • Trust yourself – you know more than you realise !
  • 5.
    • Today’s kids live in the ‘information age’’
    • They are exposed to much more information – and misinformation - because of the media and the internet
  • 6.
    • Parents are the first and primary sexual health educators of children
  • 7.  
  • 8. Commonest concerns
    • If I talk about sex, will this encourage them to “do it ” ?
  • 9.
    • Just remember that study after study has shown that sex education DOES NOT lead to an increase in sexual activity … but it does lead to safer and more positive interactions now and in the future
  • 10. When to tell ?
    • She’s way too young for me to answer any questions about sex
    • My son will find out soon enough, so I will wait until he asks.
  • 11. She’s too young and innocent to understand..
    • These days, kids are discovering sex and sexual behaviour younger and younger
    • You don't have to rush your child into sexuality education, but it's a good idea to play it by ear early
    • There really no way of knowing how much your child knows or doesn't know without talking to them.
  • 12.
    • It is better to talk to them a year earlier than a minute later !
  • 13. My son will find out soon enough, I will wait until he asks
    • Talking about sex can be embarrassing for anyone, especially for kids – and for their parents !
    • You need to protect your child ! Many sexual problems which can mar their life - STDs, sexual abuse and accidental pregnancy
    • It is important to talk to your child and make sure they feel comfortable coming to you.
  • 14. How much to tell
    • This depends on:
    • the child’s age;
    • maturity;
    • previous knowledge;
    • and your own values and comfort levels.
    • The answers should be appropriate for the age
    • COMMON SENSE is the best guide !
  • 15. Who should tell?
    • The talk should be initiated by whichever parent is more comfortable communicating with the child.
  • 16. How to tell?
    • Make the most of
    • TEACHABLE MOMENTS
  • 17. Teachable moments
    • These moments are all around you.
    • When you and your child
      • See a pregnant woman
      • Watch a TV commercial starring condoms or sanitary napkins
      • Watch a love scene in a movie
    • It's not really that important what you talk about, so long as you're talking.
    • This way, when your child needs to talk to someone, they'll know that it's okay to come to you.
  • 18. How to tell?
    • Don't expect your child to come to you - they may feel too embarrassed to bring up sex issues with you, even if they have a problem they want to talk about.
  • 19. How to tell?
    • Answer questions honestly. Your child will probably know if you're not being completely straight with them.
    • Use the right language.
    • Don’t get embarrassed
  • 20.
    • You are your children's primary sexuality educators
    • You need to reassure your children that their sexual thoughts are natural and normal, not causes for guilt or shame
    • You need to understand your own feelings about sexuality
    • You also need to correct misinformation
  • 21.  
  • 22. The key to success ?
    • Open, frank, honest
    • COMMUNICATION
  • 23. Barriers to communication
    • Most children are embarrassed to bring up the subject with their parents
    • Some parents are even more embarrassed !
    • Some children feel guilty about having sexual thoughts
    • Parents and children may have difficulty seeing each other as individuals with sexual needs and desires
  • 24. Barriers to communication
    • Many parents feel shy, embarrassed and uncomfortable with the subject
    • Parents often lack the communication skills needed to openly discuss sexuality
    • Parents often think they don't know enough about sexuality to give their children accurate information
  • 25.
    • What one needs to do is to overcome these barriers by being an
    • “ askable parent”
  • 26. Who is an askable parent ? Someone who…
    • Can be approached for information and guidance…
    • Listens to a child and answers questions accurately
    • Knows what a child is capable of understanding at different ages
  • 27. Who is an askable parent ?
    • Has a sense of humor
    • Shares feelings that sexuality is a valuable part of being human
    • Encourages a child to ask for information
    • Is willing to repeat answers until a child is satisfied with the information given
    • Being an askable parent does not mean waiting to be asked.
  • 28. Do’s and Don’ts
    • Do try to relax
    • Do listen to your child’s question
    • Do keep your answer simple
    • Do pick the right time
    • Do realize the question may not always be what the child really wants to know
  • 29. Do’s and Don’ts
    • Do be prepared for repetition
    • Do educate yourself about child development
    • Do try to recognize your child's individual style
    • Do investigate your own feelings about sexuality
    • Do expect to feel uncomfortable
  • 30. Do’s and Don’ts
    • Don’t think you have to know everything
    • Don’t always wait for the child to ask
    • Don’t think it’s harmful to tell too much too soon
    • Don’t make fun of your child’s fanciful ideas
    • Don’t overload your child with information
  • 31. 10 tips to remember when talking with your teen about sex
    • Be an askable parent
    • Know the facts and respond in a straightforward manner
    • Listen carefully
    • Don’t be afraid to give your children information
    • Respect your children’s privacy
  • 32. 10 tips to remember when talking with your teen about sex
    • Use natural opportunities for discussions about sexuality
    • Communicate your values
    • Discuss handling peer pressure
    • Respond with understanding to awkward situations
    • Encourage responsible behavior
  • 33. Important issues
    • How should I react to “dirty words”?
    • How should I respond when I find my child in a sexually awkward situation ?
    • Masturbating ?
    • Kissing a boyfriend ?
    • Seeing porno films or reading porno mags?
    • Visiting porno sites on the internet ?
  • 34. Important issues
    • When and how should I warn my child about child molesting ?
    • How can I teach my children to protect themselves from sexual |abuse ?
  • 35. Common questions asked by four to nine year olds
    • Where did I come from?
    • Why can’t daddies have babies?
    • Can children have babies?
    • Why do girls have breasts?
    • Why do boys have a penis and girls don’t?
    • Do you and daddy make love?
  • 36. Common questions asked by nine to twelve year olds
    • How do you make babies?
    • What is a period? And why does one get it?
    • what is masturbation? Is it bad?
    • What is an orgasm?
    • What does puberty mean?
    • When can boys start shaving?
    • What is a wet dream?
    • Why do kids get acne?
  • 37. Common questions asked by twelve year-olds plus
    • What is sexual intercourse and how does one go about it?
    • What is contraception?
    • Can you get AIDS by Kissing?
    • Is it OK to be Gay?/lesbian?
    • Who are “Hijras”?
    • What does an abortion mean?
    • Is it OK to have oral sex?
  • 38. Do you think we’ve done enough homework so we can talk to our kids about sex ?
  • 39. HELP ! Health Education Library for People, D N Road, Near Excelsior cinema Opp Chimanlal’s
  • 40. Books you can read at HELP
    • What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras
    • More speaking of sex: What your children need to know and when they need to know it by Meg Hickling (2001)
    • From diapers to dating: A parent's guide to raising sexually healthy children by Debra W. Hafner
    • The art of talking with your teenager by Paul W. Swets
    • Sex education to adolescents by Dr Vithal Prabhu
  • 41. Books
    • Many books available for children
    • Buy them and keep them in your house
    • Your kids will find them !
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  • 45.  
  • 46.
    • Remember the question today is…
    • Not whether they will get information about sex, but HOW and WHEN ?
  • 47.
    • We, as parents, have the responsibility of being the first and primary sexual health educators of our children !