15. Parents’ attitude towards sex
will affect how children look
at sex. It is important to start
with parents having a positive
attitude towards sex.
Sexual education
16. “Your body is your own”.
Teach children that their bodies
are their own and that no one
can touch it without permission.
Physical autonomy
17. Parents need to let children
know that when they feel
uncomfortable or weird, they
should firmly say no right away.
Firmly say NO
20. Parents should not just be authority figures. Parents and children should
maintain a positive communication and a healthy relationship. We need to
let our children know that parents will protect them when they are in
trouble.
Change relationship
21. Confident children are able to affirm their feelings and protect themselves.
Building confidence to children relies on support and encouragement from
parents daily.
Build confidence
22. Develop an open environment. Let children know that they can have a
good communication with parents no matter what the problem and
situations are.
Discuss surrounding
25. We can explain to the children
which body parts cannot be
touched and which actions are
not appropriate. Be confident
and protect themselves.
Clarify concept
26. You could tell story by scenario
simulation. For example, when
there’re no adults at home,
when you’re at the school, or
when you meet strangers on
the road…and so on.
Simulate case
27. Let children practice saying “no”
in a loud voice even when the
offenders ask why. Just refuse
and say no firmly.
Practice how to say NO
33. When you feel there are something wrong with your children,
give them a little time. Don’t ask or guess randomly. Let your
children feel safe and maybe they will tell you what’s wrong.
Accompany
34. Usually children won’t lie about sexual harassment. Believe
your children and let them feel safe, so that they are willing to
talk about the full situation.
Believe
35. Besides accompanying and counseling continuously, seeking
professional assistance can help children to recover and catch the
sex offenders for law enforcement to avoid this to happen again.
Help
38. Prevention and daily observation are
important. When incidents happen,
please have patience. It is important to
accompany your child and develop trust.
There has been much news about teachers involving in child sexual abuse recently. In fact, child sexual abuse and molestation have been going on continuously.
Statistics in research show that __________
Children are particularly vulnerable to all types of sexual abuse. Children do not know how to prevent and protect themselves, thus they are usually the victims of sexual abuse.
Parents are worried due to …
Because children go to school and parents go to work, parents cannot always protect their children.
What can we do?
I extracted the practical part and wish it could help the majority of parents.
To summarize, prevention is the most important. Parents and teachers can help.
Following are the 3 ways to prevention.
To prevent child sexual abuse, we can try early education, trust development and situation discussion.
3 directions in early education: sexual education, physical autonomy and firmly say no!
The main purpose of sex education is for parents to maintain a positive and sincere attitude. Parents should tell children that sex is not just sexual behavior, but also about accepting the body’s natural needs. Look at your sexual partner with healthy/positive attitude, cherish body, and care for each other’s feeling. They should know the results after sex and protect themselves and their partners. Provide a healthy and positive sexual sense with our children.
The self-test in books for parents:
What’s your response if the children ask, do you have sexual behavior with dad/mom?
it’s not your business. kids don't need to know.
It’s not allowed for children to ask the question.
Sure. Or how were you born?
Sure. It’s personal so it’s just between us. We won’t discuss with others.
Sure. We (dad and mom) love the intimate feel.
Following is the response.