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GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER
WHAT REALLY MAKES YOU STEAM?
DEALING WITH CONFLICT
TOP TIPS
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» Be aware of how other character types affect you.
» Choose your response carefully.
» Regulate breathing to manage emotion.
» Face your stress source head-on when you’re ready.
» Make a plan and be realistic.
» Take one step at a time.
Assertive
Communication
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
Direct Aggression
» Bossy
» Arrogant
» Intolerant
» Opinionated
» Overbearing
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
Indirect Aggression
» Sarcastic
» Deceiving
» Ambiguous
» Insinuating
» Guilt-inducing
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
Submissive
» Wailing
» Moaning
» Helpless
» Passive
» Indecisive
» Apologetic
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
Assertive
» Direct
» Honest
» Accepting
» Responsible
» Spontaneous
OpenandHonest
Considering Other Needs
Direct Aggression Assertive
Indirect Aggression Passive
The Impact of Learned Behaviour
» How does this behaviour look and sound?
» How does it make you feel?
» What is your non-assertive reaction?
» The outcome of this action?
Emotional management
LEADERSHIP EXCELLENCE
DURING CONFLICT
LEAVE YOUR RUCKSACK OF
TROUBLE AT THE DOOR
Always remember: Take
a moment breath a get
into your confident state.
ACTION PLAN
Stop
Start
Continue
In regards to offering Leadership
excellence - outline one thing that
you would like to focus on and stop
doing, one that you will focus on
and start doing and one that you
will definitely continue doing.
Thank you!

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Being an assertive leader: managing conflict

Editor's Notes

  1. For time saving I use this slide to point out that last time we spent a great deal of time getting to know each by me leading – now it is over to them. As we run through the exercise
  2. Starting story – ‘My bonkers boss’
  3. Get group to stand.Remain standing if you understand the spirit of your company’s T&E policyRemain standing if you believe most people in your org follow the spiritRemain standing if you know the letter of the policy (all clauses)
  4. Open out to audience – when does talent go right / go wrongAs leaders how do we adapt to changes in talent – who’s ready for millennials?
  5. These are the building blocks that help me manage performance gaps and avoid conflictI also use them to manage customer : advisor trust