1. Finding ways to deal with manipulative people

2. What is manipulation?
 “To control or
play upon by
artful, unfair, or
insidious means
especially to
one's own
advantage.”

3. Have you been manipulated?
Dignity and respect Doubt and censure
 Thank you for your
opinion.
 What do you think about
this situation?
 I appreciate your efforts.
 I’d like to ask for your input.
 You call that working hard?
 I can’t believe you are that
sensitive!
 What’s wrong with you?

4. Why do people manipulate?
 Boredom
 Sociopathic personalities
 Insecurities
 Power
 Control events in their own lives

5. How can you avoid being
manipulated?
 Trust your instincts.
 Talk situations over with friends.
 Watch out for body language.
 Educate yourself.
 Start “NIPPING” back.
 How do I feel when __________ happens?

6. NIP Back-N for NOTICE
 N: Stands for NOTICE
 How does this person react around you?
 Passive aggressive
 Rude
 Overly friendly
 Gossips
 Reflect on how this behavior makes you feel.

7. NIP Back
 “I” stands for Investigate and Instincts
 Start documenting your hunches
 Record dates, conversations, reactions, scenarios.
 Ask yourself if anyone around you sees these same
things.
 Look and evaluate the person’s motives.
 Only confront the person with another person
present.

8. NIP Back
 “P” stands for Probe and Push Back
 Probe about their motives.
 Questions to ask:
 “Are you trying to imply that I’m ________?
 “Why would you ask me that?”
 Push back against their power plays.
 “Tell me why you would say that.”
 “I feel _______when you say _________.”

9. Your choices
 Do nothing.
 Ignore the problem.
 Be your own advocate.
 Read about psychology.
 Be good to yourself.
 What will you do to avoid being manipulated?

10. Your choices
 Do nothing.
 Ignore the problem.
 Be your own advocate.
 Read about psychology.
 Be good to yourself.
 What will you do to avoid being manipulated?