There are 15 techniques you can employ to improve communication with your spouse or ex-spouse. 1. Plan your conversation in advance. 2. Calm yourself before speaking. 3. Avoid personal attacks. 4. Always listen before jumping to conclusions. 5. Do not interrupt. 6. Empathize before responding. 7. Admit your share of the problem. 8. Restate your spouse’s complaint in your own words. 9. Sandwich your request between two positive statements. 10. Hedge. 11. Reverse your speaking technique if you notice your spouse is becoming irate. 12. Apologize. 13. Offer to compromise. 14. Suggest multiple solutions.