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Revamp your love life

  1. 1. REVAMP Your Love Life!Exclusive Release From: © All Rights Reserved -
  2. 2. DisclaimerThe Publisher has strived to be as accurate and completeas possible in the creation of this eBook, notwithstandingthe fact that he does not warrant or represent at any timethat the contents within are accurate.The information contained in this report is strictly foreducational purposes. Therefore, if you wish to applyideas contained in this report, you are taking fullresponsibility for your actions. The author and publisherdisclaim any warranties (express or implied),merchantability, or fitness for any particular purpose. Theauthor and publisher shall in no event be held liable to anyparty for any direct, indirect, punitive, special, incidental orother consequential damages arising directly or indirectlyfrom any use of this material, which is provided “as is”,and without warranties. © All Rights Reserved -
  3. 3. Any perceived slights of specific persons, peoples, ororganizations are unintentional.All content that maybe subjected to copyright will be citedwithin this publication.This book is for personal use only. The author andpublisher does not grant you permission to sale, distributeor alter this eBook. © All Rights Reserved -
  4. 4. Table of contentsIntroduction…………………………………………………………….. 5How To Avoid The 8 Most Common Relationship Issues .…………6The Overlooked Step To An Unbreakable Bond………………..…..17The 1 Secret That Makes A Relationship Thrive…………….......… 19Techniques To Influx The Love In Your Relationship....……….…...215 Signs Of A Dead-end Relationship…………………….…….……. 27How To Kill Your Fear Of Loneliness……..….……………….….…. 328 Attributes Of An Ideal Soul mate………………...…….………….. 36Conclusion…………………………………………..….…….….….…. 38Cited Resources…………………………………….…….….….……. 40 © All Rights Reserved -
  5. 5. IntroductionWhether you are looking to find the right one, currentlydating or married, you and I both know for a fact thatrelationships can be a gruesome uphill battle, yet we arestill willing to be a part of one.Why? Well we will get into that later in this eBook…As you read along through this publication we will go intosome methods and inspiring advice that may help youdevelop an exciting drama free relationship. © All Rights Reserved -
  6. 6. How To Avoid The 8 Most CommonRelationship IssuesEvery long-term or significant relationship faces manyissues. Some tend to be right on the surface and othersare deeply buried and seldom talked about. Everyrelationship encounters some sort of obstacle at one timeor another but its how you work through it that proves ifyou will last, or crumble.Take a look at these 8 relationship issues and decide ifyou are living in one today. If something strikes a cordwith you, communicate it with your partner and honestlyexpress your thoughts and feelings. 1. Denying the real issues © All Rights Reserved -
  7. 7. No matter how terrible your day was or howdepressed you are about your financial situation,there is no excuse for taking it out on your partner.Often times we end up hurting the ones we love themost. But why? Loved ones are our supportsystem and tend to be the people we see and talkto the most during the day.We grow comfortable around them and thereforecan take advantage of that closeness. Rather thanhurt the ones you love, do what it takes to meet thereal problem head-on, as effectively as you can.If you are unsure of how to address a problem, thestrong and mature thing to do is to ask for help andsupport from trusted sources (i.e., a friend, relative,or therapist). © All Rights Reserved -
  8. 8. 2. Brushing things under the rug Many concerns get ignored, overlooked and buried because the daily rush of work and child raising leaves no time for discussion. Maybe one dreads confrontation, or maybe you just don’t make the time to talk things out and work through issues together. Brushing problems and issues to the side only makes for a bigger problem to arise later on. You can only tiptoe around the real issue for so long, until one or both of you explode. If it’s a small issue make the decision to drop it or vent to a friend. If it’s a big issue, find the time to address it immediately and in a calm way. Don’t wait months or years for suppressed rage to finally burst out. © All Rights Reserved -
  9. 9. Deal with conflict as it happens, so to avoid greater hurt in the future.3. Gossiping If you are talking about the problems in your relationship with friends or relatives but not working on improving the situation, you are gossiping. Gossip is not a productive way to handle problems, and can result in additional problems. For instance, your partner may feel betrayed that you revealed sensitive material to others that made him embarrassed or uncomfortable around them. Also, if you promote a negative side of your partner or your relationship, others may get a distorted view, and changes in their attitudes and behavior © All Rights Reserved -
  10. 10. may follow. Others may remember your conflicts long after you and your partner have gotten past them. Instead, work on improving your communication skills as a couple. Turn toward your partner, not away. If you need help, seek out the assistance of an objective third party such as a therapist who works with couples. When it comes to your needs, stop complaining and start asking!4. Not listening Think back to when you were dating. Remember when every single word out of your date’s mouth was fascinating and you couldn’t wait for him to call, to hear what he thought about anything and everything? This “honeymoon” phase can fade and © All Rights Reserved -
  11. 11. be replaced by the realistic daily life you now livetogether. Are you distracted and too worried aboutyour last argument or issues at your job? Are youbored with hearing your partner complain endlesslyabout work without doing anything about it andtherefore tuning out?Once you can get a handle on why one or the otherpartner no longer listens, you can dig deeper intothe issues. Communication is key here and needsto be addressed before any greater issue can besolved. Remember that your relationship is acompromise between two very different people andwhen you got together you made that commitmenttogether. Be vocal about your frustrations and beopen to hearing about what your man might findirritating about you too! © All Rights Reserved -
  12. 12. 5. Unreasonable expectations Unreasonable expectations are exactly that, unreasonable. Many men and women have crazy expectations about the institution of marriage and what that entails. Resentment can build up if a partner feels particularly shocked with reality. These expectations and unexpected realities double for child raising, when lack of sleep, stress and financial pressure bring out conflicts in nearly every couple in the world. The list of areas where people have unrealistic expectations are nearly endless: how their partner should look, the job they should have, how much money they should earn etc. It’s important for both partners to take a step back and clearly state their © All Rights Reserved -
  13. 13. expectations for different stages in their relationship. If something seems extremely unreasonable to one of you, it probably is, at least for your specific relationship. Seek advice and help from either friends or family who have gone through something similar, or an objective 3rd party such as a therapist or counselor.6. Putting Yourself First It’s not “all about me,” especially when you are in a relationship. Letting one’s self interests take priority in an unbalanced way can be toxic to a partnership. The other person usually winds up feeling deprived, resentful, and unimportant. Furthermore, the more self-involved you are, the more you take your © All Rights Reserved -
  14. 14. relationship for granted, the less you appreciate your partner, and the more alone you actually are. So if your relationship is this way, you also lose out, because you experience less of the joy that a true connection brings. You and your partner both get more from the relationship through reciprocity in giving and receiving. Relationships are about give and take. You should want your partner to be as happy and content as you are.7. Living in the past If you have a problem with your service or food at a restaurant, do you tell your server about every problem you’ve ever had at that restaurant your entire life? Or do you just get down to the complaint © All Rights Reserved -
  15. 15. at hand? Relationships are the same. Talk about what’s happening now. Bringing up issues and problems in the past may be helpful in establishing a relationship history initially, but by constantly bringing up the past you will lose sight of your future. To complain over and over about past events only dilutes the current issue, leaving the other person worn out, overwhelmed and likely to tune out about your current complaint.8. Trust issues The foundation for every solid relationship is based on trust. Honesty is the best policy applies more than ever in intimate relationships. This means being truthful about how you think, what you feel © All Rights Reserved -
  16. 16. and what you’re doing. You should have your partner’s back and they should have yours. Sadly, many of us grew up in homes where trust between parents was fractured and this childhood history can lead any of us down a similar relationship path. Don’t continue the cycle of hurt and sadness in your relationship.I’m sorry if any of these common relationship issues areaffecting you, but now we are about to get into animportant yet often neglected step towards building alasting relationship. © All Rights Reserved -
  17. 17. The Overlooked Step To AnUnbreakable BondAnother important thing you may want to take note is thatif you want to find a person who can give you a lastingrelationship to fulfill your emotional and physical needs, itis best to become friends before you become lovers.Friendship is the foundation of a relationship. Like how abuilding that is constructed with a strong foundation cansurvive a storm or flood, so can couples that are truly bestfriends with one another are able to withstand stormy orrocky times. © All Rights Reserved -
  18. 18. That is why being in the ‘friend zone’ with the opposite sexis not necessarily a bad thing. Truly getting to know aperson without prior selfish motives creates an anchor orbond for a potential lasting/joyful relationship.Just think about it, if true friends are quick to forgive andremain loyal to one another, then how much more sowould a couple be united if they properly laid a solidfoundation of genuine friendship?Also, what makes a true friendship unique is that it allowsyou to develop an essential attribute towards forming arelationship that lasts through thick and thin.As you continue on you will learn what this vital attributeis. © All Rights Reserved -
  19. 19. The 1 Secret That Makes A RelationshipThriveBefore we go into the secret that makes a relationshipprosper, let us consider this illustration…. Let’s say thatyou are camping with your friends and or family and youlight a fire. Now that fire is intensely hot at the moment,but if you left that fire alone over night, do you think it willstill be blazing without consistently adding firewood?Of course not, with love being the secret (if you want tocall it that) to a strong relationship, it is similar to fire. It canbe intensely hot and strong in the beginning, but withoutthat constant firewood or applied effort to keep that fierylove burning, your relationship will dwindle over time.Now love can be broken down into 3 basic components… © All Rights Reserved -
  20. 20.  Trust  Kindness  ForgivenessWhen trials and tribulation occurs within a relationshipthese 3 components of love are severely threatened. Soas you read on to the next subheading we will go intosome actionable steps you can take, if the love in yourrelationship is currently weakening. © All Rights Reserved -
  21. 21. Techniques To Influx The Love In YourRelationshipConsider this illustration...You pick out the make, model, year, color, and featuresthat you believe are best for you. After driving your car fora couple of months, you realize that perhaps you shouldhave purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leatherseats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, thesunroof would have been nice.However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your carand make it work. It is the same for relationships. Noteverything will be perfect and there will be major obstaclesto overcome but you have made your decision and nowyou choose to make it work. © All Rights Reserved -
  22. 22. There are hundreds of things you can do to better yourrelationship. To help get you headed in the right direction,here are some proven ways to build, strengthen, andenhance the love in your relationship. Start Over When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, “You look beautiful,” they might hear “Why are you wearing that shirt?” If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place. Then together, make a commitment to start over. The © All Rights Reserved -
  23. 23. truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will notautomatically be easy but it is possible. Start byforgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then startover with the flirtation. Focus only on the special thingsyour mate does and relearn to put the unimportantthings aside. It will take some time so be patient.CommunicateWhen couples are having problems in a relationship,communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easierto just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuildingrelationships, just as communication was the first tostop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will requirethat both individuals let down their guard and prettymuch throw caution to the wind. Healing in therelationship cannot start until you talk. © All Rights Reserved -
  24. 24. Make an agreement that you will talk about anythingand everything and that you will listen, really listen. Thatdoes not mean that you will agree with everything,which is perfectly fine.However, if you do not agree, do not yell, rather, the twoof you need to calmly discuss the issue and together,work out a solution. This is hard work but within a veryshort time, you will both feel much better, individuallyand as a couple.Schedule TimeSpending quality time together is crucial. This time canbe with friends, dining out, attending a sporting event, orcuddling together while watching a favorite movie. Theactivity is not what is important but the fact that you aretogether, doing something that you both enjoy. © All Rights Reserved -
  25. 25. People have extremely busy schedules and betweenwork, family, the home, errands, and everything elsegoing on, finding time for your mate can be difficult. Justas you would schedule a meeting on your calendar,show some courtesy in the relationship by schedulingtime with each other. Once the plan is in place, nobacking out unless you have some life and deathemergency.Realistic ExpectationsNo matter how wonderful and flawless your mateseems, no one is perfect. Be careful about puttingsomeone on a pedestal, especially in the early stages ofyour relationship. Make sure that the expectations you © All Rights Reserved -
  26. 26. have for your mate and yourself are realistic. There are going to be differences in opinion, and probably some disagreements. Also, do not assume that your mate knows how you feel or what you think about something. When discussing something important to you, ensure that you both understand the same thing. The reality is that neither one of you is going to know exactly what the other one needs. As long as you do not expect them to read your mind and accept that this is a part of getting to know one another and communicating, you will be fine.Maintaining and rebuilding the love in a relationship is notthe easiest thing to do, sadly this is why many couples fail.When problems arise in a relationship if both mates arewilling to work it out before it’s too late, there’s a window ofopportunity to start over and refresh that relationship. © All Rights Reserved -
  27. 27. But how do you know when it’s time to start over to rebuildyour relationship? And what steps should you take? As wecontinue to the next subheading we’ll get the answers tothese 2 questions.5 Signs Of A Dead-end RelationshipAre you and your partner fighting all the time or just notgetting along? No matter how bad things get, it can bedifficult to know when to call it quits. Here are five signs itstime to start afresh… © All Rights Reserved -
  28. 28. Lack of respectSteps to take:  Tell your partner how their actions are making you feel.  Suggest you both limit teasing, listen more actively and be more positive towards each other.  If your partner doesnt see a problem, youre at a dead end.No time for each otherSteps to take: © All Rights Reserved -
  29. 29.  Set aside time for each other every day. Do this in a clear and structured way.  It may not be spontaneous, but having a plan and sticking to it shows you want to work things out.  If you or your partner wont commit the time, its a sign that youre at a stalemate.Incompatible goalsSteps to take:  Whats important is not to focus on persuading the other to come around to your point of view, but to work out whether or not you can find a compromise together that makes you both happy, says relationship counselor Tracey Williams.  If you do find a compromise, make sure youre both behind it 100 per cent. Otherwise, a blame game will © All Rights Reserved -
  30. 30. start further down the line that will bring your relationship to an end.Constant BoredomSteps to take:  Stuck in a rut means changes need to be made, says psychotherapist Annie Bennett. Think about finding new interests or challenges together.  Try to introduce variety across different areas of your life. Go to new places to eat, try new ways of being together and turn off distractions when youre together - the TV, computer, mobile phones - and start talking. © All Rights Reserved -
  31. 31.  If you or your partner are not interested in making changes, this is a sign that your relationship may have run its course.Bickering and fightingSteps to take:  If your relationship has become abusive, its time to call it a day, advises Annie Bennett.  For constant bickerers, take a break from the fighting by calling a truce and see if you can stick to it for a week.  No desire to call a ceasefire? Then youre at a dead end and its unlikely the relationship can be saved. © All Rights Reserved -
  32. 32. If you noticed 1 or more of these symptoms in yourrelationship, then it maybe to your benefit to apply theadvice given above, but if you are the only one puttingforth effort to improve, and your mate’s actions shows theyrefuse to help refine the relationship. Than it may be bestto leave them alone, but if you’re married you may want toseek help from trusted resources (family, bible,professional consoling, etc).How To Kill Your Fear Of Loneliness 1. Grieve for what you have lost: ending a relationship is a loss that needs to be worked through, even if being together made you unhappy. Often, we are encouraged to forget them and move on, but this will only keep your ex firmly on your mind. 2. Seize the advantages of being single: as a single person, you have total control over what you do and © All Rights Reserved -
  33. 33. where you go in your life. Start making plans to take advantage of your new freedom.3. Mobilize your support system: being with friends and family allows you to vent your emotions as you sort through your life. They can also help you see how much you are loved and needed in your own right.4. Reinvent yourself: get a haircut, change your look or take up something youve always fancied. Just dont do anything rash that you may later regret, such as leaving your job.5. Sort out your financial affairs: breaking up can be stressful from a financial point of view. You may be left paying the rent or mortgage, or have to find a new place to live. If youre finding things a stretch, get some professional financial advice. © All Rights Reserved -
  34. 34. 6. Accept youll have down times: dont expect everything to be fine and dandy. Prepare yourself for some lonely moments, but remind yourself that they will pass and you will be happy again. 7. Set goals: one of the worst things about ending a relationship is seeing your future as a blank slate that was once filled with potential. Set new goals, be they work ones, travel ones or ones that broaden your life. 8. Let yourself be happy: single life may not be your ideal, but that doesnt mean you cant enjoy it. Say yes to invites, make plans for your social life and work on finding a new way of living that pushes you out of your comfort zone now and again.If you’re currently in the process of getting over a break upor your contemplating breaking up with someone thenplease apply what you just read above. © All Rights Reserved -
  35. 35. And do not rush into another relationship thinking it willmake things better, for 1st you will need to allow yourselftime to heal and regain confidence.Plus, it would be best to reanalyze your past relationshipand see the mistakes you and your partner made at thetime, and make a personal change to prevent similarissues in the future. Once you’re emotional able then itwould be best to find someone who has the idealattributes of being your true love.The next subheading will go into some ideal attributes tolook for in a potential mate or help depict whether or notyour current partner is right for you. © All Rights Reserved -
  36. 36. 8 Attributes Of An Ideal Soul mateAs humans it is only natural for us to want to find ourperfect match, but as imperfect people we have manyflaws. So to make things clear you will need to be realisticwhen searching out a mate, for you will never truly findthat superman or superwoman.However, it is possible to find the best one for you. Sohere’s a characteristic profile of a person that is proven tobe a right fit for anyone in need of a lasting relationship.Traits to look for in an ideal mate no matter your type… © All Rights Reserved -
  37. 37.  Willing to consult you when making a decision that could affect the relationship  Deeply cares for your feelings rather than their own  Self sacrificing  Moderate in habits  Humble / Down to earth  Forgiving  Practices self control  HonestThese traits may not sound attractive. Plus, a potentialmate or person you may already be dating may not haveany of these characteristics, but to be in a relationship witha person like this is priceless.If you ever spoke with couples who been happily marriedfor majority of their lives and asked them how their spousecontributes to keep their happy relationship, it’s © All Rights Reserved -
  38. 38. guaranteed they will give you a description similar to theone above.ConclusionAs you can see, relationships take work but the rewards ofa successful relationship will pay for itself many timesover. With the right attitude, upfront effort, and someunique applicable methods on how to make it successful,couples can have a strong lifelong relationship!So no matter if you’re currently seeking the right mate,already dating someone, or currently married, pleaseremember that love endures and conquers all. If youalways exercise love in your life, your peace and joy willbe abundant. © All Rights Reserved -
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