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Rational Emotive Behavior
Therapy.
Presented by Parameswaran Menon
9895076302
Rational Emotive Behavior
Therapy
Presented by Parameswaran Menon
Ellis & REBT
• He was a trained Clinical
Psychologist who brought about
this system to bridge the gap
between psychoanalytic therapy
and actual cure of a problem.
• And according to him…….
Definition
• Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy also
known as REBT is a type of cognitive
Behavioral therapy focused on helping
clients change their irrational beliefs.
• It is also useful to treat self in case of any
such behavioral problems.
അഞ്ചു ച ോദ്യങ്ങള
1.എല്ലോവരുടെയുും സ്ചേഹവുും അന്ഗീകോരവുും
വളര്‍ച്ചക്ക് അത്യോവശ്യമോണ്.
2. ഒരുകോരയുംട യ്യുകയോണ്എങ്കില്‍ അത് േന്നോയി
ട യ്യണും.
3. ജീവിത്വിജയത്തിേു ഏടത്ഗില്ുും
ഒരുകോരയത്തിടല്ഗില്ുും ടേയ്പുണയും
ചേെിയിരിക്കണും.
4. ജീവിത്ത്തില്‍ ഉണ്ടോവുന്ന ഓചരോ കുറവുും
മറ്റുള്ളവര്‍ച് എന്നുും ഓര്‍ച്ത്തിരിക്കുും.
5. എല്ലോ പ്പശ്േങളക്കുും ഒരു പരിഹോരും
ഉണ്ടോയിരിക്കുും.
REBT (why popular)
REBT is popular because it makes sense to
most people, and they can and do use it.
REBT helps them better manage their
thoughts feelings and behaviors, so it is
ideal for people with multiple, interacting
psychological and addictive problems.
REBT Basic
• According to REBT, our attitudes, our
belief, our thoughts -- the way we think
about events and the meanings we give to
them -- directly affect how we feel and
behave. This is commonsense to most
people, making REBT more user-friendly
than other therapies.
REBT Basic
• REBT teaches that even though people are
determined to some extend by their genetic
givens, their upbringing, their family
background, etc., they can change.
• REBT focuses on techniques rather than insight.
It teaches people how to change.
• REBT encourages them to accept their
limitations while working on self-change.
So in a nutshell it is………
• USA
Unconditional Self Acceptance
And
UOA
Unconditional Others Acceptance.
Postulates
• People are not disturbed by things but rather by how
they view things.
• All emotional problems come from irrational
thinking.
• When people holds irrational feelings about
themselves or the world at large problems results.
• Root cause of the problem is that people mistakenly
blame external events for their unhappiness
Rational thinking
–reflects preferences rather than demands
–is flexible
–is realistic
–is functional, helpful, useful -- in terms of
someone’s long-term goals and values
• – does not mean cold and calculating
ABC Model
• A Activating events. Something happens in the
environment around you.
• B Belief you hold. A belief you hold about the
events or situation.
•C Consequences. The emotional response
resulted due to your beliefs.
ABC diagnostic step
A (Activating) – He yelled at me.
B (Beliefs) – I can’t believe he dared to yell
at me That’s totally unprofessional. He
should never have acted that way. I can’t
stand it. I want a drink (and I have to have
what I want when I want it). I can get a
way with it. It won’t matter.
C (Consequences) – Anger, drinking, etc.
Typical B to be wary of
shoulds, musts, awfulizing, wonderfulizing, LFT
(low frustration tolerance)]
1. I can’t stand what I feel.
2. I deserve it.
3. It’s not fair (poor me). Life should be fair / should be
better.
4. I’ll just have two.
5. A drink would help…and I must have what I want
now.
6. I can’t stand not / gambling/drugging or not going to
a prostitute
7. I can get away with it.
8. It won’t matter.
9. I’m going to do it anyway, eventually.
10.Screw it.
The curative part DE
D (Disputes) – in this step, you
dispute or question or challenge the
irrational beliefs:
Where is the evidence that no one should
ever yell at you?
Where is it written that a boss must always
behave professionally?
Why is it so awful? Why isn’t just a “hassle
not a horror?”
Where is the evidence that “It won’t
matter.”
The curative part DE
E – then they move on to figure out more
EFFECTIVE thoughts, feelings and
behaviors
You may not like it, but you can stand it.
Because you really do not like people yelling at,
you will talk to him later when he calms down.
But will remember that you don’t always get
what you want.
You will try to feel annoyed and determined (to
keep your job) rather than get enraged.
You will go, exercise or go to yoga class tonight
because you always think better after doing that.
REBT self application
• REBT's comprehensive approach
works best for individuals
desiring a scientific, present-
focused, and active treatment for
coping with life's difficulties,
rather than one which is mystical,
historical, and largely passive.
Practical Vs Emotional
Problems
Practical
• Your
1. Flawed behavior
2. Unfair treatment by
others
3. Undesirable situations
Emotional
• You tend to
• Upset yourself
• Create second order
problems
• And suffer
emotionally
Epictetus AD circa 55 - 135
Only you can upset yourself about
events- The events themselves, no
matter how undesirable, can never
upset you.
Four simple principles
1. You are responsible for your own emotions
and actions,
2. Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional
behaviours are the product of your irrational
thinking,
3. You can learn more realistic views and, with
practice, make them a part of you,
4. You'll experience a deeper acceptance of
yourself and greater satisfactions in life by
developing
a reality-based perspective
First Principle
• You are responsible for your own
emotions and actions
• Take responsibility for your distress.
Remember what Epictetus had to say in
this regard.
• Recognize that no another person or
adverse circumstance can ever disturb
you.
Second Principle
• Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional
behaviours are the product of your irrational
thinking.
• Identify your “MUSTS” the culprit is lurking behind
one of these core musts.
• I must (a demand on your self)
• (I must do well and get approval or else I am worthless)
• You must ( a demand on Others)
• (You must treat me reasonably, lovingly, or else you are no
good)
• Life Must (a demand on situation)
• (Life must be fair, easy, and hassle-free or else it is awful)
Third Principle
• You can learn more realistic views and, with
practice, make them a part of you.
• Dispute your “Musts”
If you continue to agree with your musts you
can remain disturbed ever.
So once identified remain relentlessly
confronting and questioning them. What is
the evidence for my musts? Are they true? It
is not carved indelibly say on a stone.
Fourth Principle
• You'll experience a deeper acceptance of yourself
and greater satisfactions in life by developing
a reality-based perspective.
• Reinforce your preferences.
• I strongly prefer to do well and get approval. Even if I
fail I will accept myself fully.
• I strongly prefer that you treat me reasonably. But
since I do not run this universe and as I do not control
you I take it as a part of human character.
• I strongly prefer that life be fair easy and Haste free. It
is frustrating that it is not still I enjoy life.
So what remains.
• Without your anxiety, hostility, depression,
and addiction what remains?
• You become a robot like person devoid of any
emotion, feeling and motivation?
• Not at all! With out your turmoil you will
easily experience love, involvement and joy!.
• With out your addiction your journey to self
actualization will be a smooth one.
Conclusion
• As you can see, REBT will appeal to you if you
relish quickly taking control of your own life,
rather than remaining dependent upon a
therapist for years. By giving you tools for
identifying and overcoming the true source of
your difficulties, it will prepare you to act in
many ways as your own therapist. And by
helping you to reinforce realistic, self-
benefitting beliefs, it will enable you to
eliminate present emotional and behavioural
problems, and to avoid future ones.
Thank You

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Rational emotive behavior therapy

  • 1. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. Presented by Parameswaran Menon 9895076302
  • 3. Ellis & REBT • He was a trained Clinical Psychologist who brought about this system to bridge the gap between psychoanalytic therapy and actual cure of a problem. • And according to him…….
  • 4. Definition • Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy also known as REBT is a type of cognitive Behavioral therapy focused on helping clients change their irrational beliefs. • It is also useful to treat self in case of any such behavioral problems.
  • 5. അഞ്ചു ച ോദ്യങ്ങള 1.എല്ലോവരുടെയുും സ്ചേഹവുും അന്ഗീകോരവുും വളര്‍ച്ചക്ക് അത്യോവശ്യമോണ്. 2. ഒരുകോരയുംട യ്യുകയോണ്എങ്കില്‍ അത് േന്നോയി ട യ്യണും. 3. ജീവിത്വിജയത്തിേു ഏടത്ഗില്ുും ഒരുകോരയത്തിടല്ഗില്ുും ടേയ്പുണയും ചേെിയിരിക്കണും. 4. ജീവിത്ത്തില്‍ ഉണ്ടോവുന്ന ഓചരോ കുറവുും മറ്റുള്ളവര്‍ച് എന്നുും ഓര്‍ച്ത്തിരിക്കുും. 5. എല്ലോ പ്പശ്േങളക്കുും ഒരു പരിഹോരും ഉണ്ടോയിരിക്കുും.
  • 6. REBT (why popular) REBT is popular because it makes sense to most people, and they can and do use it. REBT helps them better manage their thoughts feelings and behaviors, so it is ideal for people with multiple, interacting psychological and addictive problems.
  • 7. REBT Basic • According to REBT, our attitudes, our belief, our thoughts -- the way we think about events and the meanings we give to them -- directly affect how we feel and behave. This is commonsense to most people, making REBT more user-friendly than other therapies.
  • 8. REBT Basic • REBT teaches that even though people are determined to some extend by their genetic givens, their upbringing, their family background, etc., they can change. • REBT focuses on techniques rather than insight. It teaches people how to change. • REBT encourages them to accept their limitations while working on self-change.
  • 9. So in a nutshell it is……… • USA Unconditional Self Acceptance And UOA Unconditional Others Acceptance.
  • 10. Postulates • People are not disturbed by things but rather by how they view things. • All emotional problems come from irrational thinking. • When people holds irrational feelings about themselves or the world at large problems results. • Root cause of the problem is that people mistakenly blame external events for their unhappiness
  • 11. Rational thinking –reflects preferences rather than demands –is flexible –is realistic –is functional, helpful, useful -- in terms of someone’s long-term goals and values • – does not mean cold and calculating
  • 12.
  • 13. ABC Model • A Activating events. Something happens in the environment around you. • B Belief you hold. A belief you hold about the events or situation. •C Consequences. The emotional response resulted due to your beliefs.
  • 14. ABC diagnostic step A (Activating) – He yelled at me. B (Beliefs) – I can’t believe he dared to yell at me That’s totally unprofessional. He should never have acted that way. I can’t stand it. I want a drink (and I have to have what I want when I want it). I can get a way with it. It won’t matter. C (Consequences) – Anger, drinking, etc.
  • 15. Typical B to be wary of shoulds, musts, awfulizing, wonderfulizing, LFT (low frustration tolerance)] 1. I can’t stand what I feel. 2. I deserve it. 3. It’s not fair (poor me). Life should be fair / should be better. 4. I’ll just have two. 5. A drink would help…and I must have what I want now. 6. I can’t stand not / gambling/drugging or not going to a prostitute 7. I can get away with it. 8. It won’t matter. 9. I’m going to do it anyway, eventually. 10.Screw it.
  • 16. The curative part DE D (Disputes) – in this step, you dispute or question or challenge the irrational beliefs: Where is the evidence that no one should ever yell at you? Where is it written that a boss must always behave professionally? Why is it so awful? Why isn’t just a “hassle not a horror?” Where is the evidence that “It won’t matter.”
  • 17. The curative part DE E – then they move on to figure out more EFFECTIVE thoughts, feelings and behaviors You may not like it, but you can stand it. Because you really do not like people yelling at, you will talk to him later when he calms down. But will remember that you don’t always get what you want. You will try to feel annoyed and determined (to keep your job) rather than get enraged. You will go, exercise or go to yoga class tonight because you always think better after doing that.
  • 18.
  • 19.
  • 20. REBT self application • REBT's comprehensive approach works best for individuals desiring a scientific, present- focused, and active treatment for coping with life's difficulties, rather than one which is mystical, historical, and largely passive.
  • 21. Practical Vs Emotional Problems Practical • Your 1. Flawed behavior 2. Unfair treatment by others 3. Undesirable situations Emotional • You tend to • Upset yourself • Create second order problems • And suffer emotionally
  • 22. Epictetus AD circa 55 - 135 Only you can upset yourself about events- The events themselves, no matter how undesirable, can never upset you.
  • 23.
  • 24. Four simple principles 1. You are responsible for your own emotions and actions, 2. Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional behaviours are the product of your irrational thinking, 3. You can learn more realistic views and, with practice, make them a part of you, 4. You'll experience a deeper acceptance of yourself and greater satisfactions in life by developing a reality-based perspective
  • 25. First Principle • You are responsible for your own emotions and actions • Take responsibility for your distress. Remember what Epictetus had to say in this regard. • Recognize that no another person or adverse circumstance can ever disturb you.
  • 26. Second Principle • Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional behaviours are the product of your irrational thinking. • Identify your “MUSTS” the culprit is lurking behind one of these core musts. • I must (a demand on your self) • (I must do well and get approval or else I am worthless) • You must ( a demand on Others) • (You must treat me reasonably, lovingly, or else you are no good) • Life Must (a demand on situation) • (Life must be fair, easy, and hassle-free or else it is awful)
  • 27. Third Principle • You can learn more realistic views and, with practice, make them a part of you. • Dispute your “Musts” If you continue to agree with your musts you can remain disturbed ever. So once identified remain relentlessly confronting and questioning them. What is the evidence for my musts? Are they true? It is not carved indelibly say on a stone.
  • 28. Fourth Principle • You'll experience a deeper acceptance of yourself and greater satisfactions in life by developing a reality-based perspective. • Reinforce your preferences. • I strongly prefer to do well and get approval. Even if I fail I will accept myself fully. • I strongly prefer that you treat me reasonably. But since I do not run this universe and as I do not control you I take it as a part of human character. • I strongly prefer that life be fair easy and Haste free. It is frustrating that it is not still I enjoy life.
  • 29. So what remains. • Without your anxiety, hostility, depression, and addiction what remains? • You become a robot like person devoid of any emotion, feeling and motivation? • Not at all! With out your turmoil you will easily experience love, involvement and joy!. • With out your addiction your journey to self actualization will be a smooth one.
  • 30. Conclusion • As you can see, REBT will appeal to you if you relish quickly taking control of your own life, rather than remaining dependent upon a therapist for years. By giving you tools for identifying and overcoming the true source of your difficulties, it will prepare you to act in many ways as your own therapist. And by helping you to reinforce realistic, self- benefitting beliefs, it will enable you to eliminate present emotional and behavioural problems, and to avoid future ones.