Thriving while keeping yourself whole swe workshop 2012
1. Intelligent
Careers:
Thriving
While
Keeping
Yourself
Whole
Tamara
Sulistyo
19th
Annual
SWE
MN
Spring
Professional
Development
Seminar:
Striving
for
ConCnuous
Improvement
3/10/12
2. Intelligent
Careers:
Thriving
While
Keeping
Yourself
Whole
• An
intelligent
career
is
one
where
you
regularly
address
the
many
components
that
determine
whether
you
thrive
both
professionally
and
personally,
or
merely
survive.
• Thriving
while
keeping
yourself
whole,
even
in
the
midst
of
chaos,
requires
being
aware
of,
and
then
inten=onally
managing,
all
the
ways
you
derive
energy.
Prac=cing
this
kind
of
check-‐in
periodically
enables
you
to
expand
your
capacity,
keeping
what
is
important
-‐
as
well
as
urgent
–
in
your
life
and
leadership.
• Because
we
live
in
a
work
world
that
demands
all
that
you
can
give
each
day,
you
will
create
a
personal
GPS
system
with
a
visual
diagram
and
prac=ces
that
will
allow
you
to
shape
your
life
and
career
so
that
you
can
be
at
your
best
more
of
the
=me,
as
you
meet
the
complexity
of
life
and
work.
3. Bio
Tamara
Sulistyo
COO,
Cheryl
Alexander
&
Associates
Career
and
leadership
coach
with
a
background
in
execu=ve
search.
Representa=ve
clients:
Boston
Scien=fic,
Medtronic,
Covidien,
Allianz,
Buffalo
Wild
Wings,
and
Koch
Industries.
Master’s
degree
in
Communica=on
and
Interna=onal
Management.
Lived
or
worked
in
12
countries,
married
to
a
man
from
Indonesia,
four
children,
training
for
a
3-‐genera=on
triathlon,
in
a
play
for
the
first
=me
-‐
a
murder
mystery
dinner
show.
5. Cheryl Alexander & Associates (CAA) interviewed 10,000
people about what led to their career success, engagement,
productivity, dissatisfaction and departure: !
LEADERS THRIVE WHEN THEY:"
Capitalize on their strengths, values, perspectives and
experiences."
Experience trust, respect, and desire for multiple perspectives.
Their voice makes a difference."
Gain honest feedback, mentor one another, grow, and seek input."
Have practices that keep life and self in dynamic balance."
Copyright
2012.
Cheryl
Alexander
&
Associates.
All
Rights
Reserved.
6. My vision for my Life including
my health
What
do
YOU
want
in
life?
What
brings
you
alive?
What
gives
you
a
sense
of
meaning
and
fulfillment?
7. My vision for my Relationships
When
you
are
in
“right
rela=onship”
-‐
what
quali=es
do
you
bring?
What
do
you
get
out
of
your
most
meaningful
rela=onships?
What
do
you
want
in
your
family
rela=onships?
In
your
work
rela=onships?
In
friendships?
How
do
you
want
people
to
experience
you?
8. My vision for my Work
Why
do
you
work?
How
do
you
define
success?
What
gets
you
up
in
the
morning
eager
to
go
to
work?
What
do
you
truly
love
about
your
work?
What
do
you
want
to
contribute
?
What
legacy
would
you
like
to
leave
behind
in
each
posi=on?
Who
will
you
be
while
you
do
what
you
do?
9. At My Best I Am… & Supporting Practices
At
Work:
Mental
At Home:
In Community:
5
words/phrases
Physical
that
describe
me
Emo=onal
when
I
am
at
my
best
in
any
role,
situa=on
or
circumstance:
My
Passions:
Spiritual
My Strengths:
10. Tamara - Personal GPS 2012
At my Best I am an Embracing, Spirit-filled Champion of Self and Others
At my Best I practice Meditation, Brain Hydration and Wild Abandon weekly
Mental:
Regularly
be
the
novice
&
the
expert
Read
both
the
intellectual
and
the
escape
stuff
Always
be
in
a
peer
mentor
circle
Make
=me
to
create
&
write
Physical:
Emo=onal:
“Brain
hydra=on”
1:1
=me
with
those
I
cherish
Be
around
and
drink
H2O
Reflect
or
journal
Exercise
and
move
every
day
At
my
best
I
am:
Alone
=me
Sleep
7
hours
“Wild
Abandon”
Smart
ea=ng
GPS
reality
checks
Vitamins
Show
up
Fully
Work
Hard,
Play
Hard
Strengths:
Maximizer
Belief
Connectedness
Spiritual:
Ideation
Mediate
&
Pray
–
alone
&
with
kids
Individualization
Read
spiritual
literature
&
inspira=onal
quotes
Ahend
church
&
visit
spirit
filled
places
Passion:
Blog
&
talk
about
spiritual
core
Helping People Thrive
11. “An
hour
in
conversa=on
with
a
wise
person
can
be
worth
more
than
a
decade
of
learning
from
books”
–
Ancient
Proverb
Recommended
Resources:
Ar=cle:
“ The
Making
of
a
Corporate
Athlete”
by
Jim
Loehr
&
Tony
Schwartz
Assessments:
www.strengthsfinder.com,
www.authen=chappiness.com
Book:
The
Next
Level,
by
Scoh
Eblin
12. ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !Letʼs Talk
Agreements:!
1. Say what you need to make it safe for you.!
2. What is said in the room stays in the room. !
3. Share what is meaningful; itʼs OK to take the mask off.!
4. Do not interrupt. Respect pauses without jumping in.!
5. Listen without judgment and without offering advice.!
6. Be open, present, focused and curious.!
7. Listen deeply – observe your own emotions and
thoughts as you listen.!
8. Respectfully challenge your own and othersʼ
assumptions.!
9. Have fun and make it fun!
13. 1. Tell
the
story
of
a
specific
=me
when
you
have
been
on
top
of
the
world,
thriving
both
at
work
and
at
home.
What
did
you
do
that
helped
make
it
so?
Were
you
using
your
strengths
and
your
passions?
2. What
is
on
your
mind
or
is
going
on
now
in
your
professional
life
impac=ng
your
interest
in
the
topic
of
thriving
And
keep
yourself
whole?
3. Who
is
your
role
model
or
mentor
for
this
topic?
Describe
specifically
what
that
person
has
done
to
manage
their
career
intelligently
so
they
are
at
their
best
a
good
percentage
of
the
=me
in
both
posi=ve
and
nega=ve
situa=ons.
4. How
have
you
posi=vely
influenced
someone
so
they
stay
sane,
happy
and
healthy
in
the
midst
of
daily
schedules
and
challenges?
Do
you
walk
your
own
talk,
or
are
you
beher
at
dishing
it
out?
5. What
is
your
method
for
managing
what’s
most
important
to
you
along
with
the
urgent
priori=es?
When
overwhelmed,
and
running
on
one
flat
=re,
so
to
speak,
what
do
you
tend
to
neglect
or
give
up?
How
do
you
recognize
which
“=re
is
flat”
and
how
do
you
fill
it
back
up?
6. Stopping
prac=ces
–
taking
brief
moments
regularly
throughout
the
day
to
refresh
mentally,
physically,
emo=onally
–
are
key
to
our
being
able
to
thrive
long
term
in
the
midst
of
the
daily
swirl.
How
and
when
do
you
do
this?
14. What
is
the
most
significant
thing
you
heard
or
discovered
today?
What
one
ac=on
AND
what
daily
prac=ce
for
the
coming
30
days
will
you
commit
to
that
will
help
you
be
at
your
best
more
of
the
=me
in
your
day-‐to-‐day
work
and
life?
15. QuesCons?
Thank
You!
Let’s
Get
Stronger
Together
Cheryl
Alexander
&
Associates,
Inc
tamara@cherylalexander.com
www.cherylalexander.com
651-‐442-‐0073
We
would
love
to
hear
from
you
