LanguagesofLove<br />by<br />Melanie Shoults<br />
LoveLanguages<br />How people receive and give love<br />Foreign Languages<br />People speak how they want to hear<br />Me...
TheLoveTank<br />How much love we can hold<br />How loved we feel<br />More love = Fuller Tank<br />Less love = Empty Tank...
Wordsof Affirmation<br />Compliments<br />Encouraging Words<br />Motivation<br />What they want<br />Expressing Disappoint...
Words of Affirmation<br />NOT:<br />Nagging<br />Flattery<br />At the top of your voice<br />
Words of Affirmation<br />How to Express Love:<br />Keep a notebook<br />Hear on TV <br />Read in books <br />Overhear fro...
Quality Time<br />Giving your undivided attention<br />Listening, not analyzing<br />Maintaining eye contact<br />Not limi...
Quality Time<br />NOT:<br />Watching TV<br />Analyzing<br />Interrupting<br /><ul><li>Goal: Spend time together</li></li><...
Receiving Gifts<br />Gifts are symbols of love<br />Inexpensive is okay<br />Not only for special occasions<br />Being wit...
Receiving Gifts<br />How to Express Love:<br />Keep a notebook<br />Parade of gifts<br />Flower at the park/neighbors yard...
ActsofService<br />Anything to help someone<br />Re-examine stereotypes<br />Realize the importance<br />
ActsofService<br />How to Express Love:<br />Ask for a list of ten things for the next month, prioritized (you do everythi...
Physical Touch<br />A child’s need<br />Can communicate love or hatred<br />Many dialects<br />Explicit<br />Massage<br />...
Physical Touch<br />NOT:<br />Withdrawing physically<br />Sexual harassment<br />Cold shoulder<br />Affairs<br />Love Tank...
Physical Touch<br />How To:<br />Ask your spouse<br />Holding hands<br />Play “footsie” under table<br />Shoulder massage<...
Limitations<br />Everything out of love<br />Nothing in return<br />Not manipulation<br />The big word: LOVE<br />
Discover your Love Language<br />Two types of people<br />Never loved<br />Very loved<br />Take the Quiz<br />Bilingual Pe...
Why This is Important to Me<br /><ul><li>I read the book by Gary Chapman
Applicable to all people
Not just significant-others:</li></ul>Parents<br />Grandparents<br />Siblings<br />Co-workers<br />Friends<br />Anybody yo...
Additional Resource<br /><ul><li>5lovelanguages.com</li></ul>Take online quiz<br />Conference info<br />Buy the books<br /...
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Love Languages

  1. 1. LanguagesofLove<br />by<br />Melanie Shoults<br />
  2. 2. LoveLanguages<br />How people receive and give love<br />Foreign Languages<br />People speak how they want to hear<br />Meeting emotional needs<br />Criticism = pleading for love<br />
  3. 3. TheLoveTank<br />How much love we can hold<br />How loved we feel<br />More love = Fuller Tank<br />Less love = Empty Tank<br />What empties a tank:<br />Feeling despised (not just unloved)<br />Draining day<br />Emotional outbursts<br />“Tank Check”  0-10<br />
  4. 4. Wordsof Affirmation<br />Compliments<br />Encouraging Words<br />Motivation<br />What they want<br />Expressing Disappointment<br />Lovingly<br />Appreciation<br />
  5. 5. Words of Affirmation<br />NOT:<br />Nagging<br />Flattery<br />At the top of your voice<br />
  6. 6. Words of Affirmation<br />How to Express Love:<br />Keep a notebook<br />Hear on TV <br />Read in books <br />Overhear from a friend <br />Things they do well<br />Positive things/Affirmations<br />In public and otherwise<br />Write a love letter, note, poem, etc.<br />Note: Words are IMPORTANT!<br />
  7. 7. Quality Time<br />Giving your undivided attention<br />Listening, not analyzing<br />Maintaining eye contact<br />Not limited to location<br />Conversation and activities<br />
  8. 8. Quality Time<br />NOT:<br />Watching TV<br />Analyzing<br />Interrupting<br /><ul><li>Goal: Spend time together</li></li></ul><li>Quality Time<br />How to Express Love<br />Talk to each other<br />Go out to lunch or dinner<br />Have a discussion at dinner<br />Play games, build puzzles, etc.<br />Go on a picnic<br />Go for a walk<br />Call on lunch break, leave voicemail messages<br />Whatever your spouse likes to do<br />Start a garden, wash the car, <br />Unlimited possibilities!<br />
  9. 9. Receiving Gifts<br />Gifts are symbols of love<br />Inexpensive is okay<br />Not only for special occasions<br />Being with them isa gift<br />
  10. 10. Receiving Gifts<br />How to Express Love:<br />Keep a notebook<br />Parade of gifts<br />Flower at the park/neighbors yard/etc.<br />Handmade cards, paintings, wood carvings, ceramics<br />“Time” coupons<br />Give to charity “in honor of”<br />Something living: tree, flowering bush<br />
  11. 11. ActsofService<br />Anything to help someone<br />Re-examine stereotypes<br />Realize the importance<br />
  12. 12. ActsofService<br />How to Express Love:<br />Ask for a list of ten things for the next month, prioritized (you do everything!)<br />Keep a list of requests or “nags”<br />“Honey, I love you so much. I really appreciate you. I’d love to thank you in advance for (mowing the lawn).”<br />Wash the car <br />Cook a meal <br />Vacuum the floor<br />Walk the dog<br />Take out the garbage <br />Change the baby’s diaper…… The possibilities are endless!<br />
  13. 13. Physical Touch<br />A child’s need<br />Can communicate love or hatred<br />Many dialects<br />Explicit<br />Massage<br />Implicit<br />Sitting together<br />
  14. 14. Physical Touch<br />NOT:<br />Withdrawing physically<br />Sexual harassment<br />Cold shoulder<br />Affairs<br />Love Tank: Explosion!<br />
  15. 15. Physical Touch<br />How To:<br />Ask your spouse<br />Holding hands<br />Play “footsie” under table<br />Shoulder massage<br />Foot massage (unless ticklish)<br />Arm around shoulder (in public)<br />Fingers through hair<br />
  16. 16. Limitations<br />Everything out of love<br />Nothing in return<br />Not manipulation<br />The big word: LOVE<br />
  17. 17. Discover your Love Language<br />Two types of people<br />Never loved<br />Very loved<br />Take the Quiz<br />Bilingual People<br />
  18. 18. Why This is Important to Me<br /><ul><li>I read the book by Gary Chapman
  19. 19. Applicable to all people
  20. 20. Not just significant-others:</li></ul>Parents<br />Grandparents<br />Siblings<br />Co-workers<br />Friends<br />Anybody you interact with on a daily basis<br />
  21. 21. Additional Resource<br /><ul><li>5lovelanguages.com</li></ul>Take online quiz<br />Conference info<br />Buy the books<br />Gary Chapman’s blog<br />And more!<br />
  22. 22. Works Cited<br /><ul><li>Chapman, Gary D. Five Love Languages: how to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. Chicago: Northfield Pub., 1995. Print.
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