This document discusses violence and abuse, providing information for children and parents. It defines abuse, outlines the progression of antisocial behavior, and explains how witnessing violence affects children. It discusses violence between family members and protecting children from sexual abuse. Five warning signs of escalating behavior are described along with recommended responses: confusion, frustration, blame, anger, and hostility. Intervention approaches are presented for children, parents, and counselors. The FISTS method is introduced for screening individuals for fights, injuries, sex, threats, and self defense.

1. Violence - Violence everywhere ,
where we can interfere
Presented by: Mr. Divyashu Sharma
School Counsellor

2. INTRODUCTION
 What is abuse ?
 Developmental progression of Anti Social Behaviour.
 When children witness violence
 Violence between who
 Protecting your child from sexual abuse too
 5 warning signs of escalating behaviour for violence
 Responses for those warning signs you can practice
 Intervening approaches
 For Children
 For Parents
 Try FISTS

3. Does someone you live with or
someone in your family make you
afraid by threatening, yelling or
physically hurting you or your
child.
No one deserves to be hurt. We
want you and your child safe.

4. What is an abuse?
 Physical injury or Emotional, Mental or
Verbal abuse
 Fear of imminent serious physical injury
 Sexual abuse
 Coercive or controlling behavior

5. Developmental Progression of
Anti-Social Behavior
Poor parental
discipline and
monitoring
Child
conduct
problem
Rejected by
normal
peers
Academic
failure
Commitment
to deviant
peer group
Delinquency

6. When Children Witness Violence
 Children see, hear, and
remember more than
adults think they do.
 When children witness
violence at home, they
are often profoundly
affected by it.

7. Violence Between Who:
 family members
 intimate partners
 or household
members
 Working partners/
colleagues .

8. Protecting Your Child from
Sexual Abuse
Rules that even young
children can be taught:
No secrets.
All body parts have names.
Adults should not touch certain parts of
your body.
Adults don’t need help with their bodies.

9. 5 Warning Signs
1. Confusion
2. Frustration
3. Blame
4. Anger
5. Hostility

10. Warning Signs of Confusion
 The person appears
bewildered or
distracted.
 They are unsure or
uncertain of the next
course of action.

11. Responses to Confusion
1. Listen Attentively to the person
2. Ask clarifying questions
3. Give factual Information

12. Warning Signs of Frustration
1. The person is impatient and reactive
2. The person resists information you
are giving them
3. The person may try to bait you

13. Responses to Frustration
1. Move the person to a quiet
location
2. Reassure them, talk to them in
a calm voice
3. Attempt to clarify their
concerns

14. Warning Signs of Blame
1. The person places responsibility on
everyone else
2. They may accuse you or hold you
responsible
3. They may find fault with others
4. They may place blame on you

15. Responses to Blame
1. Disengage with the person and
bring a second party into the
discussion
2. Use a teamwork approach
3. Draw the person back to the facts
4. Show respect and concern
5. Focus on areas of agreement to
help resolve the situation

16. Warning Signs of Anger
1. The person may show a visible change
in body posture
2. Actions may include pounding fists,
pointing fingers, shouting or screaming
3. This signals VERY RISKY BEHAVIOR!

17. Responses to Anger
1. Don’t argue with the person
2. Don’t offer solutions
3. Prepare to evacuate the area or
isolate the person.

18. Warning Signs of Hostility
1. Physical actions or threats
appear imminent
2. There is immediate danger of
physical harm or property
damage
3. Out-of-control behavior signals
the person has crossed the line

19. Responses to Hostility
1. Disengage with the person
and evacuate the area
2. Attempt to isolate the
person if it can be done
safely

20. Intervening Approaches
•Screen for family violence and substance abuse
•Discuss discipline strategies (Time – Out )
•Child-centered play
•Ask about handguns in the home
•Parental role modeling
•Reduce TV viewing
•Raise Your Child with Praise.

21. Intervening Approaches :
Parents
•Understand child’s need to assume greater
responsibilities.
•Teach importance of anger management and
conflict resolution skills.
•Encourage children to engage in after-school
activities: sports, music, theater, and recreational
and community projects.

22. Intervening Approaches :
Child
•Ask parents about their own childhood experiences
with violence
•Help parents understand the importance of family
rules and consequences
•Encourage consistent discipline
•Remind parents that they are role models
•Suggest that parents to spend 1-on-1 time with
child

23. Try F I S T S
F – Fight
I – Injury
S – Sex
T – Threat
S – Self Defense

24. F – Fight I - Injury
 How many fights
have you been in
during the past
year?
 When was your last
fight?
•Have you ever been
injured in a fight?
•Have you ever
injured someone else
in a fight?

25. S – Sex T - Threat
 Has your partner
ever hit you?
 Have you ever hit
(hurt) your partner?
•Has someone carrying a
weapon ever threatened
you?
•What happened?
•Has anything changed
since then to make you
feel safer?

26. S – Self Defense
 What do you do if
someone tries to pick a
fight with you?
 Have you ever carried a
weapon in self-
defense?

27. Asking Saves
Kids
Encourage
yourself to ASK