If you can't love yourself, you can't give love and compassion to others. Only if you can love yourself, you can give love and compassion to others. Deep mystery is hidden in this simple truth. The only clue to solve the mystery is the secret of inner child, ego and true self shut up in subconscious. This book will challenge to clarify the methods of healing inner child, releasing ego with pleasure and returning to true self, on the basis of author's real experience.

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2. FOREWORD
Can you love yourself?
If your answer is “No”, you may not be living true
self. You are very likely to seal true self and to have
an illusion that your ego, namely fake self, is true
self.
It is not easy to recognize our ego by ourselves
because it appears unconsciously. Therefore, those
who believe that they have been living true self will
be shocked if they recognize that in fact they have
been living fake self.
However, we need to revive true self from the
moment we realize that we have been living fake self.
That’s because loving ourselves, namely self-love, is
the foundation of all love and is the source of peace
and happiness.
Those who can’t love themselves can’t practice love

3. and compassion to others. In those cases, people
suffer from not being loved by others. On the other
hand, those who can love themselves can love others
and will be happy being loved by others as a result.
This book will clarify the cause of our ego, namely
our fake self, and a clue to revive true self. It will be
my pleasure if I can help the suffering people who
can’t love themselves unconsciously and are
compelled to choose the difficult way of life.
June, 2014
Hitoshi Tsuchiyama

4. CONTENTS
FOREWORD
Chapter 1 Three levels of Love
(1) Three levels of Love and their peculiarity
(2) Love preached by Jesus and Buddha
(3) Designation of Love
(4) Satisfaction levels of Love
(5) Purpose of Love
(6) Foundations of Love
(7) View of Love
(8) Conditions of Love
(9) Transformability of Love
(10) Other peculiarity of Love
Chapter 2 Mechanism of unconditional love
(1) Good circulation of Love
(2) Vicious circle by lack of Love
(3) Power of unconditional love
(4) Problems caused by lack of unconditional love

5. Chapter 3 Lack of self-love
(1) Reaction caused by lack of self-love
(2) Self-check
(3) Other checking method
Chapter 4 Inner structure and mechanism
(1) Inner structure
(2) Inner mechanism
(3) Importance of inner life
Chapter 5 Cause of self-hatred
(1) Unconscious world
(2) Ego
(3) Inner child
Chapter 6 Method to revive true self
(1) Heal your inner child
(2) Release your ego with pleasure
(3) Stay true self
APPENDICES
(1) Three levels of Love
(2) Good circulation of Love

6. (3) Vicious circle by lack of Love
(4) Unconditional Love
(5) Mechanism of Mind
(6) Inner structure
AFTERWORD

7. AFTERWORD
Many people all over the world mistake their ego
for true self. Therefore, they live their life while
seeing illusions. I was one of them. Without noticing
this fact for more than 50 years, true self has not
been living my life, seeing the reality.
I was shocked when I recognized that I had been
living my life as ego (fake self) in fact instead of true
self. I guess most of the people have not noticed this
fact. I wonder if they will be able to notice it in their
lifetime.
True self never separates oneself from others and
can accept all without separation unconditionally, so
bluffing is not necessary and you don't have to worry
about what others think of you. You can feel relaxed
without stress because you can stand naturally. If
you accept 'just the way you are' including both
merits and demerits, you can love yourself. This
self-love enables you to love others. Finally, you will

8. be loved by others.
The degree may be different but most of the people
who were not given unconditional love by parents in
babyhood must have inner child who is frightened
with fear and insecurity in subconscious.
This inner child needs to make up ego (distorted
view that is "I am special and separate") for
self-protection. And the ego (distorted view or
separate self) is the source of sufferings because it
causes self-centered attachment, greed, arrogance
and destructive emotions such as fear, insecurity,
anger, hatred, despair. Therefore, healing the inner
child is the common theme for all human beings.
It is vital for all parents on this planet to accept
their children unconditionally, especially in
babyhood. That's because babyhood is a crucial time
for self formation. Children will be able to love
themselves through their experience of being given
unconditional love. And this self-love enables them
to live true self.

9. If parents manipulate their children consciously
or unconsciously, children will suffer in their whole
lifetime and may commit suicide in the worst case.
That is a tragedy for both children and parents.
Instead, if children are accepted just the way they
are, self-love overflows themselves and enables them
to love others. As a result, they will be loved by
others and be happy. So, they can love themselves
again.
This is the good circulation of unconditional love.
Both Buddha and Thich Nhat Hanh (Vietnamese
Zen Buddhist monk, poet and peace activist) preach
that loving oneself is the foundation of loving the
other person. Self-love spreads like ripples and will
be love to others. And it will expand ripples of love
across the earth. Therefore, unconditional love
which nurtures self-love is the key to make all of us
happy without discrimination.
Unconditional love begins from accepting just the

10. way you are.
June, 2014
Hitoshi Tsuchiyama
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11. [Author’s profile]
Hitoshi Tsuchiyama
Hitoshi Tsuchiyama received Bachelor of Laws from
Waseda University in Tokyo and worked for a
leading trading company and some other companies
located in Tokyo in Grain Trading, Global Human
Resources Management, Business Investment, and
Corporate Planning. Through his experience, he
deeply feels the abuses of extreme materialism, so is
studying methods to create essential spiritual value
as humans. For meaningful, healthy and happy life,
‘Practice of Compassion’ is vital and its foundation is
'Self-love'. He wrote this book because he is
convinced that 'Unconditional Love' is the key to
nurture 'Self-love'.

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