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2. » Men experience difficulties in
interpreting women’s body-
language and have a tendency
to mistake friendly behavior
for sexual flirting.
» Men are inclined to
overestimate their
attractiveness. Self-confidence
and charm are important.
» Women are often more
attractive than they think. 80%
of women think that they are
too fat.
» Women favor men that are
taller and older than them,
with higher status and earning
potential. Men favor younger
and prettier women.

3. » Humor is necessary for
successful flirting. But
inappropriate use can kill a
promising flirtation stone dead
in a matter of seconds.
» Disclosure of almost any
personal information is a move
towards intimacy.
» The key to successful flirting is
to escalate the level of intimacy
gradually and in a balanced
way.

4. » Playful teasing
allows to increase
the personal
content of the ex-
change, while
keeping the tone
light-hearted and
non-serious, thus
escalating the level
of disclosure and
intimacy in a non-
threatening manner.

5. Light hearted flirting
= flirting for fun
= harmless, enjoyable
Flirting with intent
= essential element of
the mate-selection
process

6. » Flirt
with
people
who are
likely to
return
your
interest

7. » Flirt with
People
with
roughly
the same
level of
attractive-
ness as
yourself

8. » Show liking, interest
» Show admiration
» Compliment – smile !!
» Ask for advice – smile !!!
» Do not try to impress
» Be yourself
» Make her/him laugh !
» Tease, but with care
» Never lie . Be real
» Make her/him feel good
» Be attentive
» Offer a good time
» Keep her/him happy
» Make her/him talk
» Listen more, speak less

9. » Mind your body language - In
the initial stages, how you say
things is more important than
what you say. Pay attention to:
Appearance, tone of voice,
energy, joyful behavior …
» Eyes are very powerful ! - If,
after making eye contact and
briefly holding someone's
gaze, the other looks away and
then looks back, you know
(s)he is interested !

10. » 1st short contact
» Look away, then look back
» Make contact again to start conversation
» Look while listening
» Look away while talking
» DO NOT OVERDO EYE CONTACT

11. Positive Negative
˃Body towards you – Body turned away
˃Leaning forward – Feet turned away
˃Open posture – Leaning backward
˃Head tilted to side – Folded arms or legs
˃Mirroring posture – Looking around
˃Smiling – Looking bored
˃Looking happy
˃Looking at mouth

12. +++ Gestures
 Give good face
 Nod in agreement
 Open palm hand movements
 Synchronisation
 Hair flipping
 Head tossing
 Eyebrow flashing
 Parting lips
 Preening (touching clothes, face or
hair)
--- Gestures
˃ Palm rubbing
˃ Display of anxiety or nervousness
˃ Blank, unexpres sive face
˃ Closed, near-to body movements

13. » Enhance feminity
» Knees towards body when seated (look smaller)
» Stroke neck, thigh, face, arms, hair, …
» Arch back (showing breasts !)
» Cross and recross legs
» Display body
» Whisper
» Lick lips

14. » Enhancing masculine
appearance
» Hands in pockets , elbows
out (Bigger chest)
» Leaning against wall with
one hand placed above
shoulder height (appearing
taller)
» Stand tall
» Move hands to belt

15. » It does not matter WHAT you
say It’s HOW you say it that is
important!
» your opening lines are not
about starting a flirtation, but
about starting a conversation!
» Make a general comment on
some aspect of the event or
surroundings, with a rising
intonation or 'isn't it?' type of
ending

16. » Good Opening Lines
˃ Nice day, isn’t it ?
˃ Bit crowded, isn’t it ?
˃ Not very lively here tonight, isn’t it ?
» Compliments Are Okay
˃ That’s a nice jacket !
˃ Wow, You look lovely !
˃ “You’ve lost weight!” is a compliment that is likely to please almost any
woman.
» Use Open Ends; What, when, when, why, how
» Paraphrase; “So you were stranded at the station …
How did you get home?”

17. » Conversation Turn Offs
OVER-SERIOUSNESS
NEGATIVITY
PASSIVITY
SELF-PREOCCUPATION
BANALITY
LACK OF ENTHUSIASM
OVER-EXCITEMENT
RUDE BEHAVIOUR
» Active Listening
˃ Good listening is not just about shutting up and letting the
other person talk. Good listening is about giving good
'feedback‘.
˃ This involves giving both verbal and non-verbal signals to
show that you are paying attention, and that you are
interested.

18. » ++Non-Verbal Feedback
˃Effective signals: nodding,
smiling, responsive facial
expressions, leaning forwards …
˃And general positive body
language such as 'open' posture
and posture/gesture echo..
» ++ Verbal Feedback
˃Use expressions like "mm-hmm",
"yeah", "mmm", "ah", “great”, …
˃They show interest or agreement
and encourage the other to
continue

19. » Move closer only if you receive
a positive signal.
» Moving into the intimate zone
less than 50 cm (2’6”) may
cause discomfort.
» Sometimes a reduced distance
is tolerated when you are side
by side with someone in
crowdy places or with people
you know and trust

20. » Touching is a subtle,
powerful and complex form
of communication. Correct
touching helps to advance
the relationship, but
inappropriate use of
touching could ruin your
chances for ever!
» Some degree of intimacy is
required before proceeding
to a brief touch.

21. » Start with a light brief touch on
the arm to draw attention or
express support produces a
negative reaction, you might as
well give up now!
» Perform each touch at least
twice before progressing to the
next level. This tells your
companion the touch was not
accidental and is a non verbal
way for asking for permission.
» Advance in the following order;
HAND SQUEEZE, HOLDING
HANDS, BRIEF KNEE TOUCH,
ARM OVER SHOULDER,