Dealing with sexual vulnerability and sexual seduction final

1,393 views

Published on

How does a godly man especially a leader protect himself from sexual vulnerabality and seduction? This guide will help to raise some of the pertinent issues.

Published in: Spiritual
0 Comments
7 Likes
Statistics
Notes
  • Be the first to comment

No Downloads
Views
Total views
1,393
On SlideShare
0
From Embeds
0
Number of Embeds
3
Actions
Shares
0
Downloads
64
Comments
0
Likes
7
Embeds 0
No embeds

No notes for slide
  • Not, “It Can’t happen to me,” but “ It must not happen to me.”
  • Fantasies figured prominently in both the mind of Potiphar’s wife and Amnon with Tamar (2 Sam. 13)
  • Lack of accountability was another common feature of the failures of great evangelical leaders
  • Many a Bible page has been crushed in the throes of passion as the ‘Bible Study” gave way to heavy petting and then sexual intercourse
  • Men are visually stimulated.
  • Remember Potiphar;s wife’s advances on Joseph? Some of the physical contact in church today are foolish and inappropriate
  • Where does your mind go when your husband is away.
  • Dealing with sexual vulnerability and sexual seduction final

    1. 1. Dealing WithDealing WithSexualSexualVulnerabilityVulnerabilityand Sexualand SexualSeductionSeduction
    2. 2. The problem of human sinfulness is fundamentallyThe problem of human sinfulness is fundamentallyunchanged from the time of the Fall until theunchanged from the time of the Fall until thepresent. There is no theological basis for assumingpresent. There is no theological basis for assumingthat human beings are more lustful, morethat human beings are more lustful, moredefenseless before sexual temptation, or moredefenseless before sexual temptation, or moresusceptible to the corruption of sexual desire thansusceptible to the corruption of sexual desire thanwas the case in any previous generationwas the case in any previous generationPreamblePreamble
    3. 3. ∗ Vulnerability is the susceptibility to physical orVulnerability is the susceptibility to physical oremotional injury or attack. It also means to haveemotional injury or attack. It also means to haveones guard down, open to censure or criticism;ones guard down, open to censure or criticism;assailable. Vulnerability refers to a persons state ofassailable. Vulnerability refers to a persons state ofbeing liable to succumb, as to persuasion orbeing liable to succumb, as to persuasion ortemptationtemptationVulnerabilityVulnerability
    4. 4. ∗ Seduction is the use ofSeduction is the use of temptationtemptation and enticement,and enticement,often sexual in nature, to attract or influence theoften sexual in nature, to attract or influence thebehavior of another. Traditionally, the word impliedbehavior of another. Traditionally, the word impliedleading someone astray, as when a man lured aleading someone astray, as when a man lured awoman into a sexual relationshipwoman into a sexual relationshipSeductionSeduction
    5. 5. ““I have made a covenant with my eyes;I have made a covenant with my eyes;How then could I gaze at a virgin?”How then could I gaze at a virgin?”-Job 31:1-Job 31:1Scriptural ConsiderationsScriptural ConsiderationsAnd remember, when you are being tempted, do notAnd remember, when you are being tempted, do notsay, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to dosay, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to dowrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptationwrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptationcomes from our own desires, which entice us and dragcomes from our own desires, which entice us and dragus away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. Andus away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. Andwhen sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.-- James 1:13-15 (NLT)James 1:13-15 (NLT)
    6. 6. Be well balanced, be vigilant and cautious at all times; forBe well balanced, be vigilant and cautious at all times; forthat enemy of yours, the devil roams around like a lionthat enemy of yours, the devil roams around like a lionroaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize uponroaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize uponand devour.and devour.-- 1 Pe. 5:8(AMP)1 Pe. 5:8(AMP)Scriptural ConsiderationsScriptural Considerations
    7. 7. BRETHREN, IF any person is overtaken inBRETHREN, IF any person is overtaken inmisconduct or sin of any sort, you who aremisconduct or sin of any sort, you who arespiritual [who are responsive to and controlled byspiritual [who are responsive to and controlled bythe Spirit] should set him right and restore andthe Spirit] should set him right and restore andreinstate him, without any sense of superiorityreinstate him, without any sense of superiorityand with all gentleness,and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eyekeeping an attentive eyeon yourself, lest you should be tempted also.on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.- Gal. 6:1 (AMP)- Gal. 6:1 (AMP)Scriptural ConsiderationsScriptural Considerations
    8. 8. ∗ The nature of the helping relationship providesThe nature of the helping relationship providesopportunity foropportunity for closenesscloseness,, sharingsharing, and getting, and gettinginside the core of the other person. A close,inside the core of the other person. A close,intimate (non-sexual) relationship may begin tointimate (non-sexual) relationship may begin todevelop when personal information is discloseddevelop when personal information is disclosedin a trusting relationship. Often the leaderin a trusting relationship. Often the leader hearshearsinformation that has never been disclosed toinformation that has never been disclosed toanyone else. In such a relationship, a bond formsanyone else. In such a relationship, a bond formswhich can become sexual when the souls of twowhich can become sexual when the souls of twopeople begin to knit together across the genderpeople begin to knit together across the genderline.line.Why Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?
    9. 9. ∗ The person seeking help from a leader may haveThe person seeking help from a leader may havean image of the leader as aan image of the leader as a warm, caring,warm, caring,concerned, intelligent, available, and competentconcerned, intelligent, available, and competentperson. Who, me? you might say. Yes, you. Andperson. Who, me? you might say. Yes, you. Andthe authority attributed to you as a helper by thethe authority attributed to you as a helper by thehelpee gives you power over the person. Its ahelpee gives you power over the person. Its ashort step to abusing this power. Thats why 4short step to abusing this power. Thats why 4states in the U.S. make sex between clergy andstates in the U.S. make sex between clergy andparishioner, even consensual sex, a felony, andparishioner, even consensual sex, a felony, andthe other 46 states make it a misdemeanour.the other 46 states make it a misdemeanour.leaders are serving prison time because of sexualleaders are serving prison time because of sexualfailure.failure.Why Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?
    10. 10. ∗ Although sometimes a church member is out toAlthough sometimes a church member is out toseduce a pastor, that scenario is rare. Most oftenseduce a pastor, that scenario is rare. Most oftenthe pastor is seen as a "safe" person to whomthe pastor is seen as a "safe" person to whompersonal information can be disclosed. Whenpersonal information can be disclosed. Whenappropriate boundariesappropriate boundaries are not set, spoken orare not set, spoken orunspoken, then sexual misbehavior is possible.unspoken, then sexual misbehavior is possible.Seldom do illicit sexual relationship start outSeldom do illicit sexual relationship start outwith the intention of being sexual. They happenwith the intention of being sexual. They happenbecause the pastor is notbecause the pastor is not paying attention.paying attention.Why Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?
    11. 11. ∗ SexualSexual thoughtsthoughts oror desiresdesires are either denied orare either denied orignored on the part of both the leader and theignored on the part of both the leader and thechurch member so that a line is crossed due tochurch member so that a line is crossed due tolack of attention, and, once the line is crossed, itlack of attention, and, once the line is crossed, itis difficult to pull back. When sexual feelings areis difficult to pull back. When sexual feelings arenotnot understoodunderstood oror acknowledged,acknowledged, what maywhat mayhave begun as a helpful and healing relationshiphave begun as a helpful and healing relationshipbecomes an occasion for sexual involvementbecomes an occasion for sexual involvementWhy Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?
    12. 12. ∗ If the leader has not nurturedIf the leader has not nurtured closeclose andand fulfillingfulfillingrelationships at home or with friends, it may leadrelationships at home or with friends, it may leadto temptation to commit sexual sin in an effortto temptation to commit sexual sin in an effortto find closeness with someone. What happens,to find closeness with someone. What happens,however, is that the desired closeness is nothowever, is that the desired closeness is notfound outside the bounds of sex which God hasfound outside the bounds of sex which God hasordained to occur within marriage. Althoughordained to occur within marriage. Althoughhappy and close relationships with spouse orhappy and close relationships with spouse orfriends do not guarantee that sexualfriends do not guarantee that sexualattractiveness to another person will not occur,attractiveness to another person will not occur,it will help toit will help to deterdeter it.it.Why Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?
    13. 13. ∗ Certain life stages (children leaving home, new jobs,Certain life stages (children leaving home, new jobs,the aging process) may make one morethe aging process) may make one more vulnerablevulnerable atatthe time.the time.∗ BeBe vigilantvigilant in times of vulnerability. If you are lonely,in times of vulnerability. If you are lonely,depressed, or in crisis, be all the more attentive todepressed, or in crisis, be all the more attentive tothe preventative steps and warning signs.the preventative steps and warning signs.Why Are We So VulnerableWhy Are We So Vulnerable
    14. 14. Dealing With Sexual VulnerabilityDealing With Sexual Vulnerabilityand Sexual Seductionand Sexual Seduction
    15. 15. The place to begin to deal with sexual vulnerabilityThe place to begin to deal with sexual vulnerabilityhas to at the place of a basic self honesty, a basichas to at the place of a basic self honesty, a basicadmission that we are all vulnerable.admission that we are all vulnerable.““A Desperate Father’s Honesty”A Desperate Father’s Honesty”At once the father of the boy…said, Lord IAt once the father of the boy…said, Lord Ibelieve! [Constantly] help my weakness ofbelieve! [Constantly] help my weakness offaith!faith!-Mark 9:24(AMP)-Mark 9:24(AMP)
    16. 16. ∗ Pride sets us up for aPride sets us up for a fallfall∗ Our vulnerability to sinOur vulnerability to sin increasesincreases when we think itwhen we think itcould not happen to us.could not happen to us.∗ Our capacity to sin and do stupid things isOur capacity to sin and do stupid things is enormousenormous..Be on guard.Be on guard.∗ Almost all Christians, especially Christian leaders,Almost all Christians, especially Christian leaders,who have fallen to sexual temptation would tell youwho have fallen to sexual temptation would tell youthat they did not think it could havethat they did not think it could have happenedhappened totothem.them.It Can’t Happen to me!It Can’t Happen to me!
    17. 17. ∗ The principle of indirection is critical.The principle of indirection is critical.∗ You cannot standoff sexual desire directly. You willYou cannot standoff sexual desire directly. You willgetget stuckstuck on it. It willon it. It will obsessobsess you.you.∗ If you ignore all the rest of theIf you ignore all the rest of the DesiresDesires and just dealand just dealwith sexual temptation, you will have a hard go of it.with sexual temptation, you will have a hard go of it.The Principle of IndirectionThe Principle of Indirection
    18. 18. ∗ Temptation alwaysTemptation always announcesannounces itself before ititself before itarrivesarrives..∗ Catch the thought early.Catch the thought early.∗ Turn the eyes away from visual temptation. TheTurn the eyes away from visual temptation. Thediscipline of the eyes.discipline of the eyes.∗ What to do with thoughts: recognize, renounce,What to do with thoughts: recognize, renounce,replace. There are certain cues that alert you toreplace. There are certain cues that alert you tothe possibility of lusting. You then use thosethe possibility of lusting. You then use thosecues to love instead of lust.cues to love instead of lust.The Principle of awarenessThe Principle of awareness
    19. 19. ∗ Guard your mind.Guard your mind. leadersleaders need to aggressively resistneed to aggressively resistsexual fantasies in order to remainsexual fantasies in order to remain purepure..∗ The Leadership survey found thatThe Leadership survey found that 39%39% of respondingof respondingleaders regarded sexual fantasies as harmless. Suchleaders regarded sexual fantasies as harmless. Suchfantasies may be one of the principal doorways to overtfantasies may be one of the principal doorways to overtsexualsexual sin.sin.∗ Stay away from explicitly erotic material, as well asStay away from explicitly erotic material, as well astelevision programs, and images that fuel the fires of lust.television programs, and images that fuel the fires of lust.∗ Mediate daily on Philippians 4:8 and take the adviceMediate daily on Philippians 4:8 and take the adviceoffered there.offered there.Take Every Thought CaptiveTake Every Thought Captive
    20. 20. UnderstandUnderstand sexual temptation. Sexual feelings aresexual temptation. Sexual feelings arecommon to every man and woman. leaders mustcommon to every man and woman. leaders mustanticipateanticipate andand preventprevent sexual temptations. (It is alsosexual temptations. (It is alsopossible to be involved in a sexual relationshippossible to be involved in a sexual relationshipwithout touching or entering into an obviously illicitwithout touching or entering into an obviously illicitrelationship.)relationship.)The Principle of AwarenessThe Principle of Awareness
    21. 21. ∗ While traveling, stay away from hotel cable moviesWhile traveling, stay away from hotel cable moviesand bring with you healthy reading material.and bring with you healthy reading material.∗ In counseling, realize how easily emotionalIn counseling, realize how easily emotional bondingbondingcan occur.can occur.∗ The jump from a warm relationship to one withThe jump from a warm relationship to one withsexual overtone can besexual overtone can be subtlesubtle..Principle of AwarenessPrinciple of Awareness
    22. 22. ∗ Understand the power of the seduction.Understand the power of the seduction.∗ The person - man or woman - who acts provocativelyThe person - man or woman - who acts provocativelymust be resisted withoutmust be resisted without hesitation.hesitation.∗ Be careful of theBe careful of the flirtatiousflirtatious look; be alert tolook; be alert toexcessive praise, and be on guard for those whoexcessive praise, and be on guard for those whowant repeated counselingwant repeated counselingPrinciple of AwarenessPrinciple of Awareness
    23. 23. WatchWatch for signs that a member of the opposite sexfor signs that a member of the opposite sexmight be attracted to you. Is the person spending amight be attracted to you. Is the person spending alot of time with you, bringing gifts, finding excuseslot of time with you, bringing gifts, finding excusesto drop by the office, being a little seductive, orto drop by the office, being a little seductive, orbringing up intimate topics?bringing up intimate topics?
    24. 24. The Power of ChoiceThe Power of ChoiceRecognize that you do have a choice as a human being. YouRecognize that you do have a choice as a human being. Youare not a sexual automation, who, once a sexual thoughtare not a sexual automation, who, once a sexual thoughtcomes to mind must find fulfilment in illicit sex.comes to mind must find fulfilment in illicit sex.
    25. 25. They are the doorway toThey are the doorway to intimacyintimacy. They are the. They are theinvitation. Looks have many significances. In manyinvitation. Looks have many significances. In manymarriages, this ceases. You have to have times whenmarriages, this ceases. You have to have times whenyouyoulook deeply into someone’slook deeply into someone’s soulsoul and treasure theirand treasure theirface. If you find yourself looking deep into oneface. If you find yourself looking deep into oneanother’s eyes, things are not OKanother’s eyes, things are not OKSexual Significance of Face and Eyes.Sexual Significance of Face and Eyes.
    26. 26. ∗ To avoidTo avoid succumbingsuccumbing to the temptation of adultery,to the temptation of adultery,each leader must develop a thorough on-going,each leader must develop a thorough on-going,comprehensivecomprehensive plan for his/her protection.plan for his/her protection.““To Thine Own Self Be True”To Thine Own Self Be True”
    27. 27. ∗ Plan how you will handle sexual temptation.Plan how you will handle sexual temptation.∗ Dont leave it up toDont leave it up to chance.chance.∗ Develop a list of the specificDevelop a list of the specific consequencesconsequences of sexualof sexualadultery.adultery.∗ What will this sin mean for your wife? - your family? - yourWhat will this sin mean for your wife? - your family? - yourcongregation? - your closest friends? - your future ministry?congregation? - your closest friends? - your future ministry?
    28. 28. ∗ This is primary in handling sexualThis is primary in handling sexual temptationtemptation..∗ Cultivate your spiritual, emotional, andCultivate your spiritual, emotional, andphysicalphysical well-being.well-being.∗ leaders are so busy preparing, teaching, andleaders are so busy preparing, teaching, andpreaching that they may neglect to care forpreaching that they may neglect to care fortheir owntheir own souls.souls.∗ ExpandExpand and develop your prayer life, theand develop your prayer life, thereading of the Word, and personal devotions.reading of the Word, and personal devotions.The Practice of The Other DisciplinesThe Practice of The Other Disciplines
    29. 29. ∗ Make sure your marriage isMake sure your marriage is healthy.healthy.∗ Without a doubt, being in love with your mateWithout a doubt, being in love with your mateprovides the best defense against aprovides the best defense against a sexual affair.sexual affair.∗ If your marriage is not satisfying, find thoseIf your marriage is not satisfying, find thoseopportunities and qualities that provide anopportunities and qualities that provide anatmosphere ofatmosphere of hope.hope.∗ Maintain close and supportive relationships withMaintain close and supportive relationships withyouryour spouse, family, and friendsspouse, family, and friends so that the normalso that the normaldesire for non-sexual intimacy is met in healthydesire for non-sexual intimacy is met in healthyand God-pleasing relationships.and God-pleasing relationships.Keep Your Marriage HealthyKeep Your Marriage Healthy
    30. 30. ∗ Maintain relationships where accountability isMaintain relationships where accountability is real.real.∗ Every leader needs several relationships whereEvery leader needs several relationships wherehe/she is mutuallyhe/she is mutually accountableaccountable for actions andfor actions andrelationships with others.relationships with others.∗ The Christian community, especially fellow clergy,The Christian community, especially fellow clergy,are a wonderful resource of Gods grace to usare a wonderful resource of Gods grace to us““The Unexamined Life Is Not WorthThe Unexamined Life Is Not WorthLiving”-Living”-
    31. 31. ∗ Take precautions.Take precautions.∗ Be extremely carefulBe extremely careful where, when, andwhere, when, and howhow you seeyou seemembers of the opposite sex in your ministrymembers of the opposite sex in your ministryroutinesroutines..∗ Avoid anyAvoid any long-termlong-term counseling.counseling.∗ Be careful in dealing with young adults.Be careful in dealing with young adults.Precautionary Measures in MinistryPrecautionary Measures in MinistryRoutinesRoutines
    32. 32. ∗ Sex is a primary drive and desire of our humanity,Sex is a primary drive and desire of our humanity,bent and twisted by our fallen nature. As such, it is abent and twisted by our fallen nature. As such, it is aplace of developing ‘Kingdom Living.’ Sex is notplace of developing ‘Kingdom Living.’ Sex is notbad in itself, any more than food or conversation.bad in itself, any more than food or conversation.But as now lived, sex is a major source of evil forBut as now lived, sex is a major source of evil forthose in ministry and those they serve.those in ministry and those they serve.PreamblePreamble
    33. 33. ∗ Discretion is needed for each situation, as well asDiscretion is needed for each situation, as well asin dealings with otherin dealings with other staff membersstaff members --particularly crucial in light of the high incidenceparticularly crucial in light of the high incidenceof pastoral adultery with a member of theof pastoral adultery with a member of thechurch staff.church staff.∗ If difficult situations arise in the normal routinesIf difficult situations arise in the normal routinesof ministry, immediately inform yourof ministry, immediately inform your spousespouse andandone or two fellow leaders in the church.one or two fellow leaders in the church.Precautionary MeasuresPrecautionary Measures
    34. 34. ∗ Proverbs 7 describes the portrait of a seducer.Proverbs 7 describes the portrait of a seducer.Though the seducer there is a woman we must beThough the seducer there is a woman we must behonest enough to say that in contemporaryhonest enough to say that in contemporaryChristianity the seduction straddles both genders.Christianity the seduction straddles both genders.∗ The 1The 1ststcharacteristic of seduction to be aware of thatcharacteristic of seduction to be aware of thatit often begins with theit often begins with the speech.speech.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    35. 35. ∗ With her enticing speech she caused him to yield; withWith her enticing speech she caused him to yield; withher flattering lips she compelled him.her flattering lips she compelled him. v.21v.21∗ FlatteryFlattery,, flirtatiousflirtatious, bold, seductive speech, bold, seductive speech∗ Recall Delilahs use of speech to gain control overRecall Delilahs use of speech to gain control overSamson.Samson.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    36. 36. ∗ Note the traits of the seduced as described byNote the traits of the seduced as described bythe writer.the writer.∗ He lacksHe lacks judgementjudgement and isand is carelesscareless∗ He is morallyHe is morally unstableunstable∗ Thus the seducer is going to take advantage ofThus the seducer is going to take advantage ofhimhim∗ Both the seducer and the seduced makeBoth the seducer and the seduced makeconsciousconscious choiceschoices that place them in the wrongthat place them in the wrongplace at the wrong time.place at the wrong time.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    37. 37. ∗ Three times the point is repeated that thisThree times the point is repeated that thismeeting takes place at night.meeting takes place at night.∗ Verse 14 suggests that she is a “church woman.”Verse 14 suggests that she is a “church woman.”She is religious; she tries to spiritualize herShe is religious; she tries to spiritualize hersensuality and immorality with talk aboutsensuality and immorality with talk aboutsacrifices and offerings.sacrifices and offerings.∗ Verse 19 suggests that she is not satisfied withVerse 19 suggests that she is not satisfied withher husband. She has longings and desires thather husband. She has longings and desires thathe is nothe is not fulfilling.fulfilling.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    38. 38. ∗ SeductiveSeductive dressingdressing: Verse 10 describes this woman as: Verse 10 describes this woman asbeing dressed “with the attire of a harlot” (thebeing dressed “with the attire of a harlot” (theoutward manifestation) and having “a crafty heart”outward manifestation) and having “a crafty heart”(the inward heart that produces the outward(the inward heart that produces the outwardmanifestation).manifestation).∗ The seducer usesThe seducer uses seductive clothingseductive clothing to lure theto lure theseduced.seduced.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    39. 39. ∗ The seducer isThe seducer is bold, deliberatebold, deliberate andand assertiveassertive: -: - So sheSo shecaught him and kissed him; with ancaught him and kissed him; with animpudent[ shameless, brazen] face she said to him…vimpudent[ shameless, brazen] face she said to him…v..1313∗ She throws herself on this man-physically andShe throws herself on this man-physically andverbally. She evidences a lack ofverbally. She evidences a lack of discretiondiscretion andandrestraint.restraint.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    40. 40. ∗ The seducer feeds legitimate emotional needs:The seducer feeds legitimate emotional needs: So ISo Icame out to meet you, diligently to seek your face, andcame out to meet you, diligently to seek your face, andI have found you…I have found you… v. 15v. 15∗ TheThe egoego is built up, the need for admiration is fed,is built up, the need for admiration is fed,the seduced is made to feelthe seduced is made to feel valuedvalued andand neededneededAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    41. 41. ∗ Seducers wax poetic:Seducers wax poetic: I have spread my bed with tapestry,I have spread my bed with tapestry,coloured coverings of Egyptian linen. I have perfumed my bedcoloured coverings of Egyptian linen. I have perfumed my bedwith myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. vv. 16-17with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. vv. 16-17∗ TheThe sensuoussensuous nature of the bed described lures the youngnature of the bed described lures the youngman. Indiscretion leads to free talk about intimateman. Indiscretion leads to free talk about intimate subjectssubjects..AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    42. 42. ∗ LustLust andand lovelove are not synonyms:are not synonyms: Come let us takeCome let us takeour fill of love until morning; let us delightour fill of love until morning; let us delightourselves with love…ourselves with love… v. 18v. 18∗ The true nature of love is often misunderstood.The true nature of love is often misunderstood.True love is giving, not getting.True love is giving, not getting.∗ ImmediateImmediate gratificationgratification is the goal, despite it’sis the goal, despite it’soften fleeting natureoften fleeting nature∗ Failure to think of the graveFailure to think of the grave consequencesconsequences of theof thechoices.choices.AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    43. 43. ∗ The false cloak of anonymity: For my husband is not athome; he has gone on a long journey…he will comehome on the appointed day… vv. 19-20∗ The morality of many Christians is at the most basiclevel of ‘whether I will be caught or not.∗ El Roi – “The God who sees”AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION
    44. 44. ∗ Hold to BiblicalHold to Biblical convictionsconvictions. Some things are. Some things areright and some things are wrong. Period. Dontright and some things are wrong. Period. Dontrationalizerationalize away sin.away sin.∗ The simpleton was beguiled because he allowedThe simpleton was beguiled because he allowedhimself to be led by the seducer. Like Josephhimself to be led by the seducer. Like Josephand as Paul advises in 1 Cor. 10: 12 we need toand as Paul advises in 1 Cor. 10: 12 we need toflee.flee.∗ Pride can cause us to think that this instruction isPride can cause us to think that this instruction isonly for the weaker Christian.only for the weaker Christian.Run For Yu Life!Run For Yu Life!
    45. 45. ∗ When youWhen you findfind yourself thinking about a “friend,yourself thinking about a “friend,co-worker, ministry partner, counselee” andco-worker, ministry partner, counselee” andhow much you enjoy being with this person --how much you enjoy being with this person --FLEE!FLEE!∗ When you look forward to spending more timeWhen you look forward to spending more timewith this person and you make sure you lookwith this person and you make sure you lookespecially nice if you know you might see yourespecially nice if you know you might see your“friend” that day -- FLEE!“friend” that day -- FLEE!∗ If you begin toIf you begin to fantasizefantasize about being with thisabout being with thisperson or knowingly start touching yourperson or knowingly start touching your“friend” in “innocent “ ways -- FLEE!“friend” in “innocent “ ways -- FLEE!WHEN TO RUNWHEN TO RUN
    46. 46. ∗ When you become moreWhen you become more secretivesecretive about yourabout yourinteraction with your “friend” because peopleinteraction with your “friend” because peoplelike your spouse might “misunderstand” yourlike your spouse might “misunderstand” yourfriendship -- FLEE!friendship -- FLEE!∗ If you receive cards, e-mails or presents from thisIf you receive cards, e-mails or presents from thisperson that you would not want yourperson that you would not want your spousespouse totosee -- FLEE!see -- FLEE!∗ When you find yourself comparing your spouseWhen you find yourself comparing your spousein anin an unfavorableunfavorable way to your “friend”-- FLEE!way to your “friend”-- FLEE!∗ If you startIf you start confidingconfiding in your “friend” about yourin your “friend” about yourmarital problems -- FLEE!marital problems -- FLEE!WHEN TO RUNWHEN TO RUN
    47. 47. ∗ Anytime we feel we must keep something secret, thisAnytime we feel we must keep something secret, thiswould indicate that sin is crouching at our door. If you arewould indicate that sin is crouching at our door. If you areexperiencing sexual attraction to someone – orexperiencing sexual attraction to someone – orexperiencing some other kind of temptation over a fewexperiencing some other kind of temptation over a fewdays – go to your spouse or someone you can trust in thedays – go to your spouse or someone you can trust in theBody of Christ. Bring the secret out into the light of day andBody of Christ. Bring the secret out into the light of day andask for prayer and accountability.ask for prayer and accountability.
    48. 48. ∗ Satan loves it when we keep secrets in the dark because ofSatan loves it when we keep secrets in the dark because ofshame, fear, or pride – but remember, darkness is overcomeshame, fear, or pride – but remember, darkness is overcomeby light. Often this alone can break the power ofby light. Often this alone can break the power oftemptation, but it will cost you your pride.temptation, but it will cost you your pride.∗ ““He who is alone with his sin is truly alone”He who is alone with his sin is truly alone”-- Heini Arnold.Heini Arnold.
    49. 49. ∗ In this society, we are called to be nothing lessIn this society, we are called to be nothing lessthan a corps of the mutually accountable amidst athan a corps of the mutually accountable amidst aworld that lives as if it will never be called toworld that lives as if it will never be called toaccount.account.∗ From the moment a boy reaches puberty until theFrom the moment a boy reaches puberty until theday he is lowered into the ground, every man willday he is lowered into the ground, every man willstruggle with lust. Let us follow the biblicalstruggle with lust. Let us follow the biblicalexample and scriptural command that we make aexample and scriptural command that we make acovenant with our eyes lest we sincovenant with our eyes lest we sin
    50. 50. ∗ dreambuilder@TeddyAJones∗ Twitter: @Teddyajones∗ FB: https://facebook.com/verticaleap∗ BBM: 32A05854∗ www.TeddyAJones.com∗ www.TeddyAJones.com/blog/Rev. Teddy A. Jones

    ×