Do you have a Bully Boss? Someone who makes your life miserable all week by criticizing your every move? Someone who creates more confusion than clarity? Someone who gives you a 3-hour assignment that needs to be done right NOW at 5:29 pm? You don't have to take a Bully Boss's constant abuse—and neither do you have to cop out by finding another job. Here are 3 Science-backed Techniques to become a Boss Whisperer.

2. DO YOU HAVE A BULLY BOSS?
Someone who makes your life MISERABLE all week by
criticizing your every move?
Someone who creates more CONFUSION than clarity?
Someone who gives you a 3-hour assignment that needs
to be done right NOW at 5:29 pm?
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3. If it makes you feel better, you're not alone.
According to a study by the Employment Law Alliance,
almost HALF of all employees have been targeted by a bully boss.
The study also revealed:
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50% of bullies
are women.
50% are men.
81% of
bullies are
managers.
84% of
targets are
women.

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THE BOTTOM LINE:
Bully Bosses come in all shapes and sizes. Whatever category your
crazy boss fits into, the big question is…
How can you work with him or her?

5. You don't have to take a Bully Boss's
constant abuse—and neither do you have to
cop out by finding another job.
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6. If you’re suffering under a Bully Boss
and want to find a way to at least coexist,
than simply telling them to back off isn’t going to work.
Direct confrontation is called WAR.
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7. Some ‘experts’ suggest to just stay out of their way—
just do your job well and avoid any sort of confrontation…WRONG!
Ignoring can even encourage
more of their bad behavior.
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But don’t give
up just yet…

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THREE SPECIFIC TECHNIQUES coming out of the
science of influence can transform a Boss who’s
more like a ferocious, starving tiger who wants to
eat you for their next meal, into a purring pussycat
eating out of the palm of your hand.

10. The
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11. What is a Boss Whisperer?
Someone who transforms
a problematic, bully, toxic Boss
into at least a bearable co-worker,
using science-backed
behavior modification techniques.
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Are you ready?
Let’s begin…

13. The
#1 Reciprocity
A fundamental psychological principle backed
by neuroscience (read up on the SCARF
model for the research) is we feel an
obligation to give back to those who have
given to us.
So, what does that mean for you when
dealing with a Bully Boss?
Essentially, you are acting out in reciprocity to
a Bully Boss when you complain and gripe
about them behind their back, when you
unconsciously smirk when they slip up and
makes a mistake, and when you ignore their
phone call just to annoy the crap out of them
(come on, admit it...)
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14. Use the principle of RECIPROCITY in your favor instead..., find ways to GIVE your Boss exactly what you want
from him or her in return. Let me get you started:
● How about smiling and greeting your Boss every morning…first?
● Or NOT complaining or talking about the Boss behind their back?
● How about asking them for their opinion and input (and then REALLY listening to what
they have to say)?
● And highlighting and complimenting their strengths? (Did you know your Boss’s
negatives are actually over-applications of their strengths?)
● Or even sending them an email of sincere appreciation? (start with a monthly email
highlighting the support, guidance, and opportunities you appreciated receiving that month)
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#1 Reciprocity

15. The
#2 Reinforce
You may not realize it, but most often subordinates
are partially responsible for bad Boss behavior.
How?!
Subordinates often inadvertently reinforce bad boss
behavior by, for example, laughing at the Boss’s
"off-color" jokes. Laughing positively reinforces the
very behavior you inwardly cringe at.
The best thing to do is NOT encourage the
negative behavior… don’t laugh, don’t get upset,
don’t retreat. DON’T LET IT GET TO YOU
IN ANY WAY.
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16. Instead, gratify the Boss’s need for attention by recognizing, reacting to, and
acknowledging the POSITIVE, not negative, behaviors.
REMEMBER THIS:
What gets recognized, gets REPEATED. Start recognizing
and acknowledging the Boss’s positive behaviors.
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#2 Reinforce

17. The
#3 Style Flex
Have you ever stopped to really analyze your Boss?
I mean, other than all the nasties, have you observed
the Boss’s overall behavior?
Take, for example, the Boss’s likes and dislikes, or
preferences, such as when the Boss asks you for a
project update, do they want a short, sweet,
bottom-line email of 1 to 2 sentences MAX…or a
painfully detailed e-essay with multiple attachments,
and a second-by-second recount?
Either preference is not right or wrong…good or
bad…
It’s just a PREFERENCE.
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18. If you deliver according to the Boss’s preferences,
then you don’t need to be a neuroscientist to know
that the two of you will get along divinely.
Understanding and matching your Boss’s
preferences in communication and working style is
what’s known as “Style Flexing”
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#3 Style Flex
Hermann Brain Dominance Index.

19. THERE YOU HAVE THEM...
THREE TECHNIQUES from the science of influence
to transform you into a Boss Whisperer.
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#1 Reciprocity
#3 Style Flex
#2 Reinforce

20. A Bully Boss is a perfect opportunity to showcase your people
skills. When others see that you know how to work with
difficult people, it makes you come across as a valuable
employee AND ideal future management material.
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21. IT’S TIME TO TAKE ACTION!
You have a lot more power than you realize.
It’s time to realize your power.
Don’t waste another minute.
Download the Boss Communication
Cheat Sheet >>
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22. I’m Rahila Narejo and I’ve taken a vow to help high-achieving career
professionals like you to never compromise, cower, or commit career
suicide EVER AGAIN!
Since the year 2000 I've been working as an HR Consultant with Fortune
500 companies, using my background and expertise in HR, psychology,
and neuroscience to provide practical, science-backed solutions.
I was pulled into writing a nationally published, weekly career advice
column –which I did for ten years– helping thousands of people go from
career FRUSTRATION to ACCELERATION.
Let’s make it happen!
It’s time for a great JOB, a greater CAREER,
and your greatest LIFE!
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