1) The document discusses the concept of singleness and what it means to truly be single before entering a relationship. It asserts that one must be wholly fulfilled in God before being ready for marriage. 2) Many marital problems stem from partners who did not see themselves as unique individuals and who depended on others for happiness rather than maximizing their singleness. 3) To properly search for a mate, one must have fully focused their eyes on God and established a walk with Him, rather than frantically reaching out to fulfill needs. True searching involves finding someone aligned with one's destiny.

1. SINGLE AND SEARCHING
PRESENTED
BY
SCOTT ODIGIE

2. REFERENCE: Genesis 2:15-24

3. WHAT DOES IT MEANTO BE
"SINGLE?"

4. To be single means, to be unique, to be
whole, to be mature, and a confident person
who knows who he or she is, and developing
his or her distinct personalities, gifts, and
abilities God created he or she to manifest.

5. OVERVIEW

6. Whether you are unmarried or married, your
goal in life should be to “live single.”
Singleness is a greatly misunderstood
concept in today’s culture. It has come to
mean “incomplete” or even “of less value.”

7. You are fit or ready for marriage only when
you are totally fulfilled in Him. Until you are
separate, single, unique, and whole person,
you are not ready to marry.

8. The vast majority of marital problems arise
because a husband or wife (or both) has not
seen himself or herself as a unique, worthy
individual—that is, he or she had a bad self
image, was not whole or separate, and always
depended on some other person for
happiness.They never maximized their
singleness.

9. Providing marriage prospects is God’s
responsibility, but choosing a mate is yours.
Rely on the assistance of the Holy Spirit, but
do not attempt to transfer the responsibility
of choice to Him

10. Until you get to the state of being totally
whole, totally unique, and totally separate—
with the knowledge that you don’t need
anyone to complete you—you are not ready
to marry

11. When you reach out frantically to others for
the wrong motives, you will exploit and use
them sexually, financially, or emotionally to
meet your own needs without ever caring
about theirs

12. Being single is the highest calling in the realm
of relationships because a successful
marriage is the product of two people being
successfully single

13. If you need to get married to be fulfilled or
loved, you are not ready for marriage.The
very thing that makes you need to get
married will become the problem in your
marriage.

14. You should not need someone else to make
you whole, and you definitely should not
enter into a marriage in which the other
person needs you to make him or her whole.
Nobody has time to be dealing with an empty
or half-empty spouse

15. Do you have one eye on God and the other on
the guys or girls?Then you are not totally
whole yet.When both eyes are single-
mindedly focused on the kingdom of God and
His righteousness, then God will say, “Now I
see that it is not good for you to be alone. It is
time for marriage.”

16. Marriage Myths: singleness, the solution
• Marriage is the key to happiness.
• Marriage is the key to completeness.
• Marriage is the key to fulfillment.
• Marriage is the solution to loneliness.
• Marriage is necessary for spiritual
maturity or leadership.
• Marriage creates love

17. SEARCHING DOES NOT MEANTHE
FOLLOWING…

18. 1. …does not looking for someone that
would satisfy your emotional and
unreasonable criteria without any biblical
basis

19. 2. …does not looking for someone to satisfy
your sexual passion.

20. 3. …does not looking for someone that
would father or mother your children.

21. 4. …does not looking for someone who could
meet your material and financial needs as a
person.

22. 5. …does not looking for someone that
would take care of you or you would take
care of.

23. 6. …does not looking for someone out of
fleece or chance or desperation

24. 7. …does not looking for someone that is
perfect; without flaws, weakness etc.

25. 8. …does not looking for someone that is like
your mother or father.

26. 9. …does not looking for a Christian to
marry;

27. 10. …does not looking for someone that
would meet your parents standard.

28. WHAT IS SEARCHING?

29.  It is looking for someone that is matured
enough to fulfill a common destiny with;
conforming to God's will for your life.
Someone that fits into your life and
destiny.

30.  Someone who would be able to enhance
your potential, your productivity and make
you be all that God has created you to be
and in the process become both fulfilled as
one.

31. WRONG WAYSTO SEARCHING

32. 1. Finding someone to help you pray
someone into God's will for you.

33. 2. Looking for a prophet or God-father or
mother to endorse or confirm someone for
you.

34. 3. Using fleeces such as: the first person to
meet today on my way to church, meeting
someone putting on red clothing store as a
sign of love, meeting someone that would
give you apple as a sign of affection and care
etc.

35. 4. Presenting and Praying on multiple names

36. 5.Trying to date as many as possible in order
to find the best possible guy or lady good
enough for marriage.

37. 6. Enticing a guy through several means in
order for him or her to see you.

38. 7. Seeking recommendation from friends,
family members etc

39. THE RIGHT WAYTO SEARCHING

40. 1. Establish a walking relationship with God
through your inward spirit.

41. 2. Prioritize your singleness; building a life of
personal fulfillment.

42. 3. Sensitivity to times and seasons of your
destiny

43. 4. Purpose-driven life

44. 5. Process

45. 6. Pay attention to details, information,
seasons, people, etc

46. CONCLUSION

47. Singleness is a prerequisite to searching right.
Thank you for listening.