This document discusses challenges with communication about sex and intimacy between partners. It emphasizes the importance of open communication to build intimacy and ensure mutual understanding and enjoyment. Specific tips include finding a comfortable time and language to discuss desires, boundaries, and techniques without pressure. While bringing up wants and needs may relieve one partner, it could also lead to arguments if the other disagrees, requiring negotiation. The document highlights one example where a partner's desires around control during intimacy fluctuate, but the other responds defensively, calling for clearer communication on when certain activities feel good. Overall, the document stresses that many face issues, but seeking help or joining a support group can help manage problems that feel too big to handle alone.