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Safe Zone Training from Prism
Safe Zone &
LGBTQ+ Ally Training
Provided by Prism of Saint Leo University
Presenter: PRESENTER’S NAME GOES HERE (uses ?????? pronouns)
Panelist: PANELIST’S NAME HERE; IF NONE, DELETE THIS WHOLE LINE

Housekeeping
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Groundwork
Restrooms Two Planned Breaks
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Cell Phones Silence, Please
We want to hear from you, not from your technology.
Please mute any and all devices you have on you that
are prone to go “bing!” Remember to mute laptops
and any wearables.
Movement Comfort + Courtesy
We understand that a three-hour session can be
physically taxing, especially for those unaccustomed
to sitting all day. Please feel free to move about if
needed, but please do so quietly so as not to disturb
others.
Contracts Completely Voluntary
At the end of this training session, you’ll have the
opportunity to sign our
L
G
B
T
Q
+ Ally Contract,
indicating that you are willing to serve as a point of
contact for the
L
G
B
T
Q
+ community at Saint Leo.
Signing the contract is completely optional.
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Quick housekeeping to ensure
today’s event runs smoothly,
and to make sure we know
who’s with us.
3
Today’s Agenda (in Brief)
Groundwork
15 minutes
Introductions &
Groundwork
Establishing rapport
55 minutes
Terminology & Identity
Building knowledge
55 minutes
Empathy & Disclosure
Building awareness
55 minutes
Scenarios &
Opportunities
Building skills
The meat and potatoes. Here,
we’ll discuss various ways
people see themselves and
how we can best talk about
those variables.
Here’s where you come in.
We’ll look at what an LGBTQ+
Ally might hear from students,
and we’ll talk about ways to
react with kindness and
support.
Putting it to the test. First, you’ll
have a chance to address any
pesky or awkward questions
that may have come up during
training. Then, we’ll practice
what we learn today.
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Safe Zone Training from Prism 4
Discussion
Expectations
The Vegas Rule…Modi
fi
ed
Ask Questions About Whatever, Whenever
The Aretha Franklin Rule
Be Brave
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Our Focus on Core Values
Groundwork
We value all individuals’ unique talents, respect their dignity, and strive
to foster their commitment to excellence in our work. Our community’s
strength depends on the unity and diversity of our people, on the free
exchange of ideas, and on learning, living, and working harmoniously.
We foster a spirit of belonging, unity, and interdependence based on
mutual trust and respect to create socially responsible environments
that challenge all of us to listen, to learn, to change, and to serve.
Respect Community
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Participant Outcomes
Groundwork
Improve your understanding of (and feel
more comfortable with) the concepts of
sexual orientation, gender identity, and
gender expression
Better empathize with the challenges
that
L
G
B
T
Q
+ people face
Knowledge Awareness
Identify ways to create safe,
af
fi
rming, and inclusive spaces for
L
G
B
T
Q
+ people at Saint Leo
Skills
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Introductions
Your name
The pronouns you use
Your department or major
Something you want to learn
Name of a famous
L
G
B
T
Q
+ person

Part
Building Knowledge
8
1
5

The Umbrella
Acronyms that refer to an
amorphous community of
people who do not identify as
mainstream in terms of their
biology, af
fi
nity, or sexuality can
get crazy. Toronto wins the
contest, thanks to their
recognition of LGBTTIQQ2SA
people.
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Sex Assigned at Birth
Gender & Sexuality Continua
8
Female
A person with ovaries, XX
chromosomes, and the associated
hormones and genitals
1 in ~2 births
Intersex
Some variation in chromosomes,
hormones, gonads, or genitals that
is not exclusively male or female
1 in ~1,500 births
Outdated Term: Hermaphrodite
Male
A person with testes, XY
chromosomes, and the associated
hormones and genitals
1 in ~2 births (107 males per 100 females)
This classi
fi
cation of people occurs at birth and is based on
physical, biological evidence. It can be con
fi
rmed through
D
N
A
analysis.
♀ ♂
⚥

Gender Identity
8
Woman
Non-binary, Genderqueer,
Two-Spirit, Bi-Gender,
Third Gender
Outdated Terms: Tranny, Transexual,
Transvestite
Man
A person’s deeply held sense or psychological knowledge of their
gender. One’s own gender identity is not determined by others.

Transgender
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What does it mean? Sex assigned at birth does not align
with gender identity
Often, but not always, leads to medical, social, legal
transitions
What is it not? Acting or performance
Drag is a temporary performance. Children playing
dress-up act and pretend. Cross-dressing, too, is an
outward physical performance.
Cisgender
A person whose assigned sex and gender identity
align.
How is it used? As an adjective
Say things like, “Morgan is transgender,” or, “Morgan
is a transgender person.
Do not say, “Morgan is a transgender,” or, “Morgan is
transgendered.”
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Feminine Masculine
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Gender Expression
8
Qualities traditionally
associated with women,
especially delicacy and
prettiness
Androgynous
Some combination of qualities
traditionally associated with
each of the binary genders
Qualities traditionally
associated with men,
especially strength and
aggressiveness
The way a person communicates gender through behavior,
clothing, hair, voice, body characteristics and mannerisms.
It includes self-perception and social perception.
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Sexual Orientation
8
A person’s self-perceived identity in relation to the gender(s) that
person is physically attracted to. Examples include: heterosexual/
straight, homosexual/gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer, pansexual, etc.
Attracted to Men
Attracted to Multiple
(or “Both”) Genders
Attracted to Women
Asexual
Not Sexually Attracted
to Others

Romantic Orientation
8
A person’s self-perceived identity in relation to the gender(s) that
person is romantically (not sexually) attracted to.
Attracted to Men
Attracted to Multiple
(or “Both”) Genders
Attracted to Women
Aromantic
Not Romantically
Attracted to Others

The Gender Unicorn
Clarifying the complexity we often assume or overlook
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Image from
T
S
E
R
(www.transstudent.org/gender/); used by permission

Intersectionality
List 5 of your identities (such as race, religion,
gender, size, age, military status, upbringing,
memberships)
Mark with + if you think about it regularly
Mark with – if you think of it infrequently
Questions for Discussion:
Does your identity in
fl
uence (intentionally or
not) your assumptions about or interactions
with other people?
Which of your identities in
fl
uence how
others treat or understand you?
Does one of your identities come into
con
fl
ict with another identity you hold?
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Stretch Break (≤10 min)

Part
Building Awareness
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2
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Think Before You Speak
Trouble spots:
Cause: choice / preference / lifestyle
Slang: “That’s so gay.”
Terms: homosexual / fag / dyke
Heteronormativity: boyfriend / girlfriend / “opposite gender”
Assuming a gender (with pronouns, etc.)
www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com
I want to say “gay!”
I want to say “gay!”
are you describing a person?
a man who’s only
attracted to men?
go for it!
a woman who’s only
attracted to women?
has she told you
that she prefers the
term lesbian?
not a good start.
sure you want
to keep going?
sorry to say it, but...
gay is not the right
choice of word for you
at this moment.
is it a place?
a gay bar or similar
gay-friendly place?
go for it!
so it’s a thing.
is it a rainbow?
is it a flag with
the colors of a
rainbow?
does it have
anything to do with
gay culture?
are you sure?
yes!
yes!
yes
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes!
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
yes!
yes/no
yes!
yes!
yes
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes!
yes/no
yes!
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
no
yes!
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Religion & Identity
Every person has an inherent dignity because he
or she is created in God's image.
Respect for the God-given dignity of all persons
means the recognition of human rights and
responsibilities.
Like all gifts from God, the power and freedom of
sexuality can be channeled toward good or evil.
The Christian community should offer its
homosexual sisters and brothers understanding
and pastoral care.
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— “Always Our Children: A Statement of the Bishops’ Committee on Marriage and Family” (1997)
“Homosexual orientation is experienced as
a given, not as something freely chosen. By
itself, therefore, a homosexual orientation
cannot be considered sinful, for morality
presumes the freedom to choose.”

—Pope Francis, in his April 2017 TED Talk
“Let us help each other, all together, to
remember that the other is not a statistic
or a number. The other has a face. The
‘you’ is always a real presence, a person
to take care of.”

By the Numbers
52% of Gen Zs identify as something other than
exclusively heterosexual [source: JWT Intelligence 2016]
35% percent of millennials age 21 to 34 identify as
non-heterosexual [JWT Intelligence 2016]
Nearly twice as likely to identify as
L
G
B
T
Q
+ compared to
older generations [GLAAD 2017]
3× more likely to feel unsafe at school [Trevor Project]
2–3× more likely to skip school [YRBS 2015]
4× times more likely to attempt suicide [Trevor Project]
17% of
L
G
B
T
Q
+ students in schools with a
G
S
A
(like Prism)
33% of
L
G
B
T
Q
+ students in schools without a
G
S
A
[School Social Work Journal. 37 (2):
88–111]
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Challenges for Students
Policies: protection & empathy
Safety: physical & social
Curriculum: representation & acceptance
Identity: complex development process
Mental Health Condition: 3× more likely
Body Image: eating disorders more common
Campus & Classes Identity & Mental Health
Providers: af
fi
rming & competent
Substance Abuse: 2–3× more likely
Sex Ed: Less likely to learn their needs
Sex, Drugs & Medicine
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“Queer people don’t grow up as
ourselves, we grow up playing a
version of ourselves that sacri
fi
ces
authenticity to minimise humiliation
& prejudice. The massive task of our
adult lives is to unpick which parts
of ourselves are truly us & which
parts we’ve created to protect us.“
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via Twitter, 07 Jan 2020
Alexander Leon
Writer & Activist, Sydney, Australia

Coming Out
You only come out once
You’re either out or you aren’t
People who are out are more mature
Everyone needs to come out
There is a sequence of steps everyone takes in
coming out
Coming out in a continuous process
Most people are out in some aspect of life, but not
all
Not everyone feels the need to come out
Not everyone is safe to come out
Some people come out to a priest
fi
rst, some to a
signi
fi
cant other, some to a sibling, some to a
stranger on the internet.
Myths Facts
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Coming Out
Coming out requires at least two people
People of color come out later than white
L
G
B
T
Q
+
people
LGBTQ+ people know they are different from
childhood
Coming out is all-or-nothing and irreversible
A person generally has to self-disclose
fi
rst
People of color come out on average around the
same time (or earlier) than white
L
G
B
T
Q
+ people
Some
L
G
B
T
Q
+ people know at very young ages, but
others don’t realize it for much longer
Many people initially come out as one identity (or
about only one aspect), but later come out as
another
Myths (cont’d) Facts (cont’d)
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The Identity-Development Process
From Vivienne Cass (1979), Journal of Homosexuality, 4 (3), 219-235.
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Identity Confusion
“Why am I different from others?”
Realization that one might be gay (causes
confusion); focus on behaviors; low self-
esteem; thoughts of "just a phase"
Identity Comparison
“So what am I, then?”
Ability to express feelings as same-sex;
unwillingness to identify self as gay
Identity Tolerance
“I guess I’m gay, but that’s shameful.”
Acknowledgment that one is probably
gay; negative thoughts regarding
homosexuality
Identity Pride
“I’m gay & you must be okay with it!”
Identi
fi
cation of how past experiences
were affected by identity; anger at past
homophobia
Identity Acceptance
“I am gay, and that’s okay.”
Abstract logic leads to labeling oneself
as gay; acceptance progresses gradually
Identity Synthesis
“There’s more to me than being gay.”
Integration of various personal identities;
reduced anger as one considers context;
shift to existential questioning
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3
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Coming Out: A Guide for Allies
Respect confidentiality. Be supportive. Don’t put words
in their mouth.
Keep the lines of
communication open.
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The Coming-Out Experience
A Whole-Group Activity

Your Star
Center: Your name
Points:
Best Friend
Group/Club
Family Member/Partner
Profession
Dreams
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Best Friend
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Dreams

Harassment in Schools

Harassment in Schools
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Bullying in Schools
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Law prohibits bullying on the bases of
sexual orientation and gender identity

Discrimination in Schools
36
Law prohibits discrimination in schools on the
bases of sexual orientation and gender identity
basis of sexual orientation only
Explicitly applies existing sex discrimination
law to sexual orientation &/or gender identity

Housing Discrimination
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bases of sexual orientation and gender identity
basis of sexual orientation only
Explicitly applies existing sex discrimination
law to sexual orientation &/or gender identity

Your Best Friend

Your Family Member

Your Social Group

Your Career

Your Dreams

Stretch Break (≤10 min)

Part
Scenarios & Opportunities
Building Skills
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3
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Safe Zone Panelist
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Personal Q&A session
EXEC NAME
EXEC TITLE

(I’m asking for a friend.)
1. What bathroom does a transgender
person use?
2. How do lesbians have sex?
3. Are all transgender people gay?
4. Is bisexuality real?
5. Why is there a
L
G
B
T
Q
+ community,
but not a straight community?
6. Why are gay men more promiscuous?
7. Don’t all these labels actually make it
worse not better?
8. In a gay relationship, who is the man?
9. Can I ask someone how they identify?
10. Is a man who dates a transgender
woman actually gay?

Community Resources
GLSEN (glsen.org)
National LGBT Task Force
(ngltf.org)
The Trevor Project
(thetrevorproject.org)
It Gets Better Project
(itgetsbetter.org)
Human Rights Campaign
(hrc.org)
METRO Inclusive Health
(metrotampabay.org)
Gay Catholics of Tampa Bay
(gaycatholicstampabay.com)
Crisis Center of Tampa Bay
(crisiscenter.com; 2-1-1)
PFLAG Tampa Bay
(p
fl
agtampa.org)
Pasco Pride
(pascoprideproud.org)
Online In Tampa Bay
Safe Zone / LGBTQ+ Allies
(website TBD)
Department of Theology
Father Michael Cooper
352-588-8356
Counseling Services
DeChantal Hall
Title IX Services
Beverley DiGicobbe, 352-588-7429
Prism Meetings & Members
prism@saintleo.edu
/ @PrismSaintLeo
At Saint Leo University
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Scenarios
Small-Group Activity

Start-Stop-Continue
Individual Activity
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Safe Zone &
LGBTQ+ Ally Contract
Completely voluntary. If you aren’t 100% comfortable,
please do not sign. Instead, perhaps:
Stack with your packet and recycle it
Leave on table for us to re-use
Come back again when you want more to think about
It’s a commitment to be kind, not perfect.
Placards provided after signing. Please post visibly—
preferably near name plate outside office/dorm door.
Today’s training applies for four years; after that, take
refresher course to re-certify & get updated placard.
A contract copy is in your packet for your reference.
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Safe Zone
Ally for the lgbtq+ community of Saint Leo

Safe Zone &
LGBTQ+ Ally Contract
Completely voluntary. If you aren’t 100%
comfortable, please do not sign. Instead,
perhaps:
Stack with your packet and recycle it
Leave on table for us to re-use
Come back again when you want more to think about
It’s a commitment to be kind, not perfect.
Buttons provided after signing. Wearing it (or
putting it on your bag) shows your support.
A contract copy is in your packet for your
reference.
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ALLY

Thank You.
Provided by Prism of Saint Leo University
Presenter: PRESENTER’S NAME GOES HERE
Panelist: PANELIST’S NAME HERE; IF NONE, DELETE THIS WHOLE LINE

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