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- 1. SAFE ZONE TRAINING for Allies of the LGBTQI Community In partnership with: UH System Commission on the Status of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Intersex Equality The Women’s Center RISO Pride Hilo For the University of Hawaii at Hilo
- 2. Expectations of the Program Respect the learning process Be an active listener and don’t hesitate to ask questions Demonstrate respect and tolerance for all participants and facilitators; keep any personal stories shared here within the room Act on what you learn here when you leave Have fun and don’t be afraid to laugh!
- 3. Ground Rules Arethere any rules you would like to add?
- 4. Symbols Bisexual Pride Flag Lambda Legal Human Rights Campaign LGBTQI Pride Flag Transgender Pride More symbols and their explanations on page 40 of your manual
- 5. Terminology Please formsmall groups and define the following terms: gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, cisgender, straight
- 6. Terminology Gay: mensexually attracted to other men Lesbian: women sexually attracted to other women Bisexual: a person with possible attraction to both men and women Pansexual: a person with possible attraction to another person of any gender or sex Transgender: to have a gender identity that differs from the person's assigned sex at birth Cisgender: to have a gender identity that corresponds with the person's assigned sex at birth Straight: a person sexually attracted to the opposite gender Find these and MORE terms and definitions on pages 3 & 4 of your manual
- 7. Terminology Why is‘homosexual’ not a preferred term for gays and lesbians?
- 8. Power and Privilege The Cycle of Oppression (page 5) In order for minority groups to make social gains they require the support of the people in power Women’s Rights, Slavery, ADA Act
- 9. Categories and Boxes How do you know if someone identifies as LGBTQI?
- 10. Kinsey Spectrum ofSexuality 10% 10% Gay/Lesbian Bisexual Straight/ Heterosexual 80% See the more detailed explanation on page 14 of your manual
- 12. Laws & Rights The extent of non-discrimination laws that relate to sexual orientation, gender identity, and/or gender expression differ from state to state http://www.aclu.org/maps/non-discrimination-laws- state-state-information-map See pages 17 and 21-23 in your manual
- 13. The Dating Game Find a partner and talk about a recent date or meet up with a friend that you had Do not use any pronouns or gendered words, such as: him, her, he, she, etc. Make notes of what you think and notice about this activity on page 19 of your manual
- 14. Coming Out “Comingout of the closet” refers to the lifelong process a LGBTQI person experiences in regards to self-acceptance and outward disclosure of their sexual orientation and/or gender identity This can reduce isolation and allow a person to live comfortably without needing to hide, lie, or feel like they are living a double life
- 15. Supporting A Friend When an LGBTQI person feels safe and comfortable enough with their orientation/identity they may disclose that information to certain trusted individuals. If you find yourself on the receiving end of this conversation, there are some simple things you can to make things easier for all people involved: Be a good listener! Respect the person’s timeline Educate yourself Talk again with the individual who came out to you
- 16. Tip for Allies A person might be out to some people (i.e., close friends) but remain closeted around others. Respect a person’s privacy and try NEVER to disclose someone’s orientation/identity without their consent! “Outing” an LGBTQI person may be a serious risk to their safety and well-being Find more information on coming out and related issues on pages 6-14 of your manual
- 17. Identity Everybody hasa multi-faceted identity, which varies in degree and presentation from situation to situation What does it mean to have multiple intersections of identity?
- 18. Heterosexual Questionnaire Turnto page 20 in your manual What are your reactions to the questions being asked?
- 19. Tearing Down theWalls What is the first time you remember knowing that there was a sexual orientation other than heterosexual? What do you remember learning about LGBTQI people, and from what source did you learn this? Make notes about this activity on page 41 of your manual
- 20. Discussion What stereotypesstood out to you? Are there any that need clarification? What are your thoughts on these stereotypes? How do you go about educating others on stereotypes and misinformation?
- 21. Tip for Allies An Ally should confront discriminatory behaviors and attitudes, despite not belonging to the targeted group. They speak up for those who cannot, or may not be ready to, speak up for themselves. If you are in doubt, try it out!
- 22. Allies What doesit mean to be an LGBTQI Ally? Why is this important for you as a leader? How does it impact other underrepresented groups? Read more about being an Ally on pages 27- 34 in your manual
- 23. Four Stages ofAlly Development (Turn to page 30 of the manual) Awareness Education Skills Action
- 24. More Terminology Whyis using the term ‘lifestyle’ make some LGBTQI people feel defensive?
- 25. The Power ofLanguage http://www.nohomophobes.com/#!/today/
- 26. Discussion Why dopeople use language like this to communicate? What is the impact on society and on the LGBTQI Community?
- 27. Tip for Allies Use inclusive language in your classes, conversations, and programs Book Recommendation: 35 Dumb Things Well Intentioned People Say by Maura Cullen http://microaggressions.tumblr.com
- 28. Creating a SafeSpace Record your overall feelings about the presentation and activities on page 41 of your manual What can YOU do to show that you are open-minded and supportive Ally of the LGBTQI community? The Ally Contract
- 29. Mahalo! QUESTIONS ORCOMMENTS? EMAIL HANNAHWU@HAWAII.EDU “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Mahatma Ghandi
Editor's Notes
- #2 I. Facilitator welcome Thank everyone for coming and say their participation is amazing! Hand out pre-evaluations and manuals to participants.
- #3 I. We live in a heterosexist society and are products of our upbringing. Some people know more about LGBT issues than others. We all will learn from each other II. If you do not understand something, please ask. It could be a question you will get asked as an ally. Facilitators are here to answer questions; however, their answers will be based on their experiences and may not encompass the whole LGBT community. III. Negative or hurtful language is not part of the Safe Space Program. IV. Serious issues will be discussed, but becoming an ally is something exciting and fun, and it will help to have a sense of humor as an ally.
- #19 Any lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender person will tell you they have been asked many times about their sexual orientation/gender identity and what caused it. After completing both the Dating game and the Heterosexual survey, you might want to discuss each activity’s relevance to the group, (ie, some heterosexuals may not have thought about heterosexuality in that way before, some may feel the survey is outdated, LGBT people may think it’s irrelevant to them.) Use your judgment based on reactions while doing the activities.
- #30 I. Facilitator farewell Thank everyone for coming! Have participants fill-out and turn in post-evaluations