The document summarizes a talk on effective communication in marriage given by Bro. Tony Oseo. The talk discusses the importance of communication to the marital relationship. It identifies obstacles to good communication such as differences in perspectives between men and women, not listening to each other, and having a fixed self or spouse image. The talk provides steps for handling disagreements, which include focusing on the real issue, dealing with issues before they escalate, and making agreements on how to avoid negative reactions. It emphasizes that good communication is a skill that requires learning and that seeking outside help is acceptable when needed. The conclusion exhorts faith in God to help overcome communication challenges in marriage.

1. November 19, 2016 Tagaytay, City
Bro. Tony Oseo
Marriage Encounter Retreat - 1
Talk-5
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN
MARRIAGE

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3. Objectives
Discuss the purpose of
communication in
marriage
Explain the obstacles
and barriers to good
communication
Suggest specific steps in
handling disagreements
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Love and Communication

5. Love and Communication
The Husband-Wife relationship
is a love relationship
 Personal
 Life-long
 Stable
Commitment to
love and serve
each other
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Sharing:
Over a cup of coffee

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It is important to express your love

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When you love
someone,
Express it …
beforeit’stoo
late.

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How do you
express your love?

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Obstacles to Good
Communication

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1. Self-image and image of the spouse
I am right!

13. I am better than you!
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You are wrong!

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2. Not listening to one another

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Selective in listening
Preparing a rebuttal
before the other has
finished
Not paying attention to
what the other is saying

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3. Resigned to the current situation
He just never talk
She just never stop
We don’t have anything to talk about
We don’t seem to have time

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 Men deal more in ideas and concepts,
women more personal feelings and reactions.
 Men tend to see the whole picture and can live with a problem,
Woman wants it dealt with immediately.
4. Differences between men and women

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23. Handling Disagreements in
Marriage
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1. Focus on the REAL issue
o Avoid calling each
other “names”
o Do not be
judgmental
o Do not allow the
discussion to lead
to discussing other
issues

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2. Deal with issue before they build up
oThe best defense is a good offense

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3. If one recognizes that disagreement is
turning bad,
Immediately change things

29. 4. Evaluate the argument
Discuss the dynamics
what caused each person to react wrongly
how to avoid such reactions in the future
Make agreements
not be silent
not to walk out to control emotions
Make sure adequate reconciliation happens even though
you still disagree
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Because we are human and are living an intense life
together, we will have to deal with disagreements from time
to time. Handling them the right way will make them less
traumatic and actually turn them into something
constructive.

32. Conclusion and
Exhortation
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33. 1. Good communication is something we
need to learn
We should recognize its
difficulties and obstacles.
It will take time.
Discuss both failures and
successes.
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34. 2. Seek the help of brothers or sisters if
you need it
Some difficulties may need
an outside perspective to
get connected.
Seek the help of your
household head.
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35. 3. Have faith in God
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The power of the
Holy Spirit is at work
in our marriages.

37. Couples for Christ
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Thank You!