The document discusses self-discovery and defining success. It provides activities for participants to reflect on influences in their lives, values they were taught, and their own definition of success. Participants identify mentors at different ages and what was admired about them. Small groups then analyze magazine portrayals of success and values. In the last section, participants define what success means to them, how current behaviors prevent achieving it, and identify one action to make progress.

2. Review Last Week
0 For each of the following identify
1. How will you know when you have achieved your goal
2. What do you need to learn, and how are you going to do
it?
3. What do you need to do---specifically?
4. 1 way you can maintain your motivation?
0 To get in shape
0 To stay clean
0 To improve your social circle
0 To improve your parenting skills

3. Objectives
0 Self-discover
0 Clarify your deeply important character values and
life goals.
0 Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your
various roles and relationships in life.

4. Self-Discovery
0 Many addicts have forgotten who they are (if they
ever knew)
0 Addiction encourages people to be chameleons in
order to get acceptance
0 Growing up in an addicted household teaches people
not to trust, feel or speak

5. Activity
0 Identify the 10 people who you spent the most time
with or who were most influential in your life.
Can include family, friends, neighbors, coaches, ministers, teachers, bosses etc.
0 For each of those people, identify what they taught you
about…
0 Yourself
0 What is important in life
0 What you do not want to be like or do
0 What did the media (television, music, magazines)
teach you about…
0 Yourself
0 What is important in life
0 What you do not want to be like or do

6. Activity
0 Who Says….
0 In the previous activity, you identified what values and
messages you got from other people. Review each of
those messages
0 Do you agree with them? Why or why not?
0 If your child or best friend did not have one of these
qualities, would you care about them less?

7. Activity
0 Think back and list who your mentors or idols were at
each of the following ages:
0 Middle School
0 High School
0 Early 20s
0 Now
0 What was it about them that you admired?

8. Activity
0 Break up into small groups
0 Review several magazines such as
People, Oprah, Redbook, Family Circle, GQ, Sports
Illustrated
0 Look at the articles and advertisments.
0 What are they telling you about?
0 Why is this important/Why do you (or the average person)
care?
0 What values and ideas are they communicating to you?
0 How would the people in the magazine define success?

9. Success
0 People define success differently.
0 Did you agree with mainstream media’s portrayal of what
success means?
0 On your paper, make 4 columns (landscape)
0 On the left side of your paper, list what success means to
you
0 In the 2nd column, define that characteristic in observable
terms (What would that look like)
0 In the third column, identify how your current behaviors
prevent you from achieving each of the characteristics
0 The 4th column is your homework

10. Homework
0 Review your vision of success
0 Identify one thing you can start doing to achieve each
characteristic listed
0 Example:
0 Success means being happy.
0 I will know I am happy when I am able to notice and
appreciate the little things every day.
0 I am preventing that right now by using too much energy being
angry and resentful and trying to control things over which I
have no control
0 To achieve this goal, I can start saying the serenity prayer to
remind me to let go of the things I cannot control