The document provides 41 techniques for improving social and conversational skills. Some of the key techniques include:
1. The "Flooding Smile" - Look at someone for a second before letting a warm, genuine smile spread across your face that engulfs the other person.
2. "Sticky Eyes" - Maintain eye contact with someone even after they have finished speaking, stretching out breaking eye contact to emphasize connection.
3. Focus the "Swiveling Spotlight" on the other person by keeping the conversation focused on them, their interests, and stories. This makes them find you more interesting.
4. Use "Comm-YOU-nication" by starting sentences with "you
This professional development plan is designed to enable teachers to improve technology integration in classroom instruction and use educational features of Sakai effectively. This Professional Development Plan will increase teachers and students’ engagement, creativity, and production. This PDP will help teachers to equipped students with knowledge to enable them learn Dari language collaboratively and continuously.
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The document outlines the FISH! Philosophy which is based on four principles - Play, Make Their Day, Be There, and Choose Your Attitude. The philosophy promotes bringing more fun and positive energy to the workplace by playing, making others' days through small acts of kindness, being fully present, and choosing to have a good attitude. Adopting this philosophy can help create a more cohesive team, inspire others, and achieve better results.
This document provides an overview of emotional intelligence, including its definition, main elements, components, and models. It discusses developing emotional intelligence through practices like journaling, developing self-awareness, managing relationships, and evaluating one's emotional agility when faced with challenging situations. The document also describes surveys and assessments that can be used to measure emotional intelligence.
This document discusses emotional intelligence (EQ). It defines EQ as being "heart smart" rather than just "book smart" and explains that EQ helps with building relationships, success at work, and achieving goals. The five core abilities of EQ are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. It provides five skills to improve EQ: rapidly reducing stress, connecting to emotions, improving nonverbal communication, using humor, and resolving conflicts positively. Developing EQ involves learning to manage stress, connect to emotions, defuse conflicts, and have self-awareness of how emotions influence thoughts and actions.
week 3 - Chapter 2 nonverbal communication week 3jellycarol
Nonverbal communication encompasses many categories including sign language, gestures, clothing, and other objects. The nonverbal process involves cues, expectations, and inferences. Nonverbal cues can be easily misread depending on context. Functions of nonverbal communication include accenting messages, complementing tones, contradicting, regulating flow, and substituting for words. Principles of nonverbal communication are that it occurs in context, behaviors are packaged together, all behaviors communicate, and behaviors are governed by cultural rules and highly believable. Dimensions include body language, physical appearance, paralanguage, space, time, color, smell, taste, sound, and silence. Nonverbal communication can be difficult to interpret and cues may contradict each other.
Nonverbal communication makes up a large portion of overall communication, conveying around 55% of messages. It includes body language, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, posture, and other non-verbal cues. The importance of nonverbal communication lies in its ability to communicate emotions reliably, emphasize or regulate verbal messages, and allow people to understand if verbal and nonverbal messages match. However, nonverbal communication differs significantly between cultures, with gestures, eye contact, touching behaviors, and other cues having diverse meanings and social appropriateness across the world. These cultural differences can lead to miscommunication if not properly understood between people of various backgrounds.
This document provides techniques for developing strong networking skills to help with career success. It discusses why networking is important, how to manage yourself and others during networking, and how to plan for and follow up after networking events. The key points covered include smiling, making eye contact, active listening, focusing conversations on other people, following up with thank you notes and connections on LinkedIn, and providing value over time to build relationships.
This professional development plan is designed to enable teachers to improve technology integration in classroom instruction and use educational features of Sakai effectively. This Professional Development Plan will increase teachers and students’ engagement, creativity, and production. This PDP will help teachers to equipped students with knowledge to enable them learn Dari language collaboratively and continuously.
Explore key takeaways shared in our Stanford GSB View From The Top guest speaker series this year.
More leadership insights: http://stanford.io/leadership
The document outlines the FISH! Philosophy which is based on four principles - Play, Make Their Day, Be There, and Choose Your Attitude. The philosophy promotes bringing more fun and positive energy to the workplace by playing, making others' days through small acts of kindness, being fully present, and choosing to have a good attitude. Adopting this philosophy can help create a more cohesive team, inspire others, and achieve better results.
This document provides an overview of emotional intelligence, including its definition, main elements, components, and models. It discusses developing emotional intelligence through practices like journaling, developing self-awareness, managing relationships, and evaluating one's emotional agility when faced with challenging situations. The document also describes surveys and assessments that can be used to measure emotional intelligence.
This document discusses emotional intelligence (EQ). It defines EQ as being "heart smart" rather than just "book smart" and explains that EQ helps with building relationships, success at work, and achieving goals. The five core abilities of EQ are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. It provides five skills to improve EQ: rapidly reducing stress, connecting to emotions, improving nonverbal communication, using humor, and resolving conflicts positively. Developing EQ involves learning to manage stress, connect to emotions, defuse conflicts, and have self-awareness of how emotions influence thoughts and actions.
week 3 - Chapter 2 nonverbal communication week 3jellycarol
Nonverbal communication encompasses many categories including sign language, gestures, clothing, and other objects. The nonverbal process involves cues, expectations, and inferences. Nonverbal cues can be easily misread depending on context. Functions of nonverbal communication include accenting messages, complementing tones, contradicting, regulating flow, and substituting for words. Principles of nonverbal communication are that it occurs in context, behaviors are packaged together, all behaviors communicate, and behaviors are governed by cultural rules and highly believable. Dimensions include body language, physical appearance, paralanguage, space, time, color, smell, taste, sound, and silence. Nonverbal communication can be difficult to interpret and cues may contradict each other.
Nonverbal communication makes up a large portion of overall communication, conveying around 55% of messages. It includes body language, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, posture, and other non-verbal cues. The importance of nonverbal communication lies in its ability to communicate emotions reliably, emphasize or regulate verbal messages, and allow people to understand if verbal and nonverbal messages match. However, nonverbal communication differs significantly between cultures, with gestures, eye contact, touching behaviors, and other cues having diverse meanings and social appropriateness across the world. These cultural differences can lead to miscommunication if not properly understood between people of various backgrounds.
This document provides techniques for developing strong networking skills to help with career success. It discusses why networking is important, how to manage yourself and others during networking, and how to plan for and follow up after networking events. The key points covered include smiling, making eye contact, active listening, focusing conversations on other people, following up with thank you notes and connections on LinkedIn, and providing value over time to build relationships.
This document provides guidance on regulating emotions through a mindfulness-based therapy approach. It explains that emotions have messages to elicit motion or action, and each emotion fits or does not fit the facts in a given moment. The document outlines a step-by-step process for regulating emotions that involves naming the emotion, discerning if it fits the facts, acting in line with the message, and ensuring the emotion is at the required level through acting opposite if it is too big or practicing components if it is too small. It also describes the components of different emotions like anger, shame, and sadness and how to regulate each one incrementally. While emotion regulation requires painstaking work, the document emphasizes that following this process works.
This document discusses effective communication techniques. It defines communication as the exchange of information and ideas between people. Communication is only effective if both parties have the same understanding of the idea being conveyed. The document outlines different types of communication including non-verbal cues, verbal language, and written messages. It also discusses factors that can create barriers to effective communication and provides tips for active listening and giving constructive feedback.
1) The document discusses various aspects of listening skills including recognizing a speaker's mood, tone, attitude, and communicative strategies.
2) Mood, tone, and attitude can be identified through verbal and nonverbal cues like intonation, pace, volume, and pitch. These factors influence the speaker's intent and meaning.
3) Effective communicative strategies include stating objectives clearly, allowing time for responses, and minimizing misinterpretations to facilitate interactive discussions.
How body language effects effective communicationGodfrey Tellis
This document discusses body language and non-verbal communication. It states that body language is an important form of non-verbal communication, comprising 38% of communication, compared to 7% for words. It defines various forms of body language including eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, posture, touch, and physical distance. Specific examples are given like handshakes and how posture and appearance convey messages. The document emphasizes that body language plays a big role in intuition and conveying emotions, attitudes, and trust during interactions.
The video for this presentation is available on our Youtube channel:
https://youtube.com/allceuseducation A continuing education course for this presentation can be found at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/index?c=
Emotion Regulation using ACT, DBT and Exposure techniques
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Medical translation and processes of emotion in theMiriana Lawson
The document discusses several topics related to medical translation and the emotional labor involved. It first addresses issues that arise when language and cultural barriers are not properly addressed, such as inaccurate translations that alter patient understanding. Next, it notes the difficulties of end-of-life conversations across language divides and how nuances can get lost. The document then covers concepts of emotional labor, such as surface acting and deep acting, and how emotional guidelines are used in workplaces. Finally, it analyzes how medical translators perform deep emotional labor to convey accurate meanings and tones while hiding their own emotions, especially in difficult situations like palliative care.
How Body Language Affects The Communication Processnas_56
Body language plays an important role in communication by expressing one's emotions, feelings, and attitudes beyond words. It is an innate and learned system of nonverbal cues, including facial expressions, gestures, and body positions. While some signals like smiling are universal, others vary culturally. Being aware of inconsistencies between speech and body language can provide insight into what people are truly thinking or feeling in a situation. Regular practice observing body language can improve one's ability to perceive these nonverbal signals.
Non-verbal communication involves sending messages without speaking or writing. It includes eye contact, facial expressions, appearance, posture, use of space, time management, and physical distance. To be an effective non-verbal communicator, one must understand these forms of non-verbal communication and how to use them appropriately based on cultural contexts and situations.
Nonverbal communication involves using wordless messages and cues to convey meaning, feelings, and emphasize verbal messages. It includes various codes like facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, proximity and use of space. Understanding nonverbal communication is important because it can clarify messages and provide insights into how someone is truly feeling. However, interpreting nonverbal cues can also be challenging as codes may have different meanings depending on the context and situation. Being aware of all factors in a communication exchange can help minimize misunderstandings related to nonverbal communication.
Nonverbal communication such as facial expressions, posture, and tone of voice account for over 90% of total communication. Nonverbal cues complement and regulate what is said verbally, and can even substitute for or accent verbal messages. There are many types of nonverbal communication including paralanguage, body movement, eye contact, clothing, and touch, and it is important to be aware of nonverbal signals as most communication is nonverbal.
This document summarizes a workshop on effective communication. It outlines four types of communication - passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. For each type, it provides examples of behaviors and impacts. It also discusses common mistakes in communication and effective skills, such as dealing with issues directly, listening, compromise, and expressing emotions appropriately. The goal is to teach participants to communicate assertively and resolve conflicts respectfully.
The document discusses body language and nonverbal communication. It describes how body language conveys meaning through gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, smiling, hand gestures, arm and leg positions, and posture. Specific gestures and their potential meanings are examined, such as crossed arms indicating defensiveness while open arms suggest openness. Body language provides important cues about people's emotions and attitudes beyond what is said verbally.
This document discusses various aspects of body language and non-verbal communication. It states that 55% of communication is non-verbal. It then outlines five main types of body language: eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, posture/stance, and space relationships. Specific gestures and their potential meanings are described. Proper eye contact and its purpose is explained. The importance of facial expressions, posture, and physical space between individuals in communication is also covered.
The 10 Best Copywriting Formulas for Social Media HeadlinesBuffer
A Top Ten list of the best copywriting formulas used by writers and marketers, and how they might fit with the social media headlines you write.
1. Before – After – Bridge
2. Problem – Agitate – Solve
3. Features – Advantages – Benefits (FAB)
4. The 4 C’s
5. The 4 U’s
6. Attention – Interest – Desire – Action (AIDA)
7. A FOREST
8. The 5 basic objections
9. Picture – Promise – Prove – Push (PPPP)
10. The 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 Formula for Persuasive Copy
The complete list is available on the Buffer blog here: https://blog.bufferapp.com/copywriting-formulas
The document discusses the key aspects of communication including the definition, process, types, levels and barriers of communication. It defines communication as the exchange of information, ideas, thoughts and feelings through various channels like speech, signals, writing and behavior. The types of communication covered are verbal, nonverbal, oral, and written. Verbal communication can be oral or written, while nonverbal involves body language, appearance and sounds. The levels of communication range from intrapersonal to interpersonal, small group, one-to-group, and mass communication. Barriers to effective communication include physical, perceptual, emotional, cultural, language, gender and interpersonal factors. The document also provides tips for overcoming barriers and tools for effective
How to Deliver a Great Presentation
10 tips aganist stagefright, how to prepare a presentation and how to deliver.
Also see youtube "Ever presentation ever: FAIL"
Dirk Hannemann, Berlin
Trainer Kommunikation
www.hannemann-training.de
Are you nervous about an upcoming presentation? Use these tips to step up your presentation game and give the audience an experience they won't forget.
"Yes, and...": What Agencies Can Learn from ImprovYoung & Rubicam
Y&R Canada’s SVP and Strategic Planning Director Kasi Bruno – who recently completed her first improv class, and Sulaiman Beg, Director of Global Digital and Social Communications – who is a performer at the Magnet Theater in New York highlight some of their key improv learnings that will make agencies more innovative and effective as brand champions.
This document provides 12 effective techniques for grabbing an audience's attention in the first 30 seconds of a presentation. These include using a contrarian approach, asking rhetorical questions, delivering a catchy phrase, making a startling assertion, referencing a historical event, using the word "imagine", quoting movies, arousing curiosity, twisting quotations, quoting foreign proverbs, employing "what if" scenarios, and telling a brief story. The key is to choose a hook that is brief, well-rehearsed and pertinent to the topic being presented.
This document provides 12 effective techniques for grabbing an audience's attention in the first 30 seconds of a presentation. These include using a contrarian approach, asking rhetorical questions, delivering a catchy phrase, making a startling assertion, referencing a historical event, using the word "imagine", quoting movies, arousing curiosity, twisting quotations, quoting foreign proverbs, employing "what if" scenarios, and telling a brief story. The key is to choose a hook that is brief, well-rehearsed and pertinent to the topic being presented.
This document provides guidance on regulating emotions through a mindfulness-based therapy approach. It explains that emotions have messages to elicit motion or action, and each emotion fits or does not fit the facts in a given moment. The document outlines a step-by-step process for regulating emotions that involves naming the emotion, discerning if it fits the facts, acting in line with the message, and ensuring the emotion is at the required level through acting opposite if it is too big or practicing components if it is too small. It also describes the components of different emotions like anger, shame, and sadness and how to regulate each one incrementally. While emotion regulation requires painstaking work, the document emphasizes that following this process works.
This document discusses effective communication techniques. It defines communication as the exchange of information and ideas between people. Communication is only effective if both parties have the same understanding of the idea being conveyed. The document outlines different types of communication including non-verbal cues, verbal language, and written messages. It also discusses factors that can create barriers to effective communication and provides tips for active listening and giving constructive feedback.
1) The document discusses various aspects of listening skills including recognizing a speaker's mood, tone, attitude, and communicative strategies.
2) Mood, tone, and attitude can be identified through verbal and nonverbal cues like intonation, pace, volume, and pitch. These factors influence the speaker's intent and meaning.
3) Effective communicative strategies include stating objectives clearly, allowing time for responses, and minimizing misinterpretations to facilitate interactive discussions.
How body language effects effective communicationGodfrey Tellis
This document discusses body language and non-verbal communication. It states that body language is an important form of non-verbal communication, comprising 38% of communication, compared to 7% for words. It defines various forms of body language including eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, posture, touch, and physical distance. Specific examples are given like handshakes and how posture and appearance convey messages. The document emphasizes that body language plays a big role in intuition and conveying emotions, attitudes, and trust during interactions.
The video for this presentation is available on our Youtube channel:
https://youtube.com/allceuseducation A continuing education course for this presentation can be found at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/index?c=
Emotion Regulation using ACT, DBT and Exposure techniques
Continuing education credits can be earned on this topic at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/search?q=efficacy
Medical translation and processes of emotion in theMiriana Lawson
The document discusses several topics related to medical translation and the emotional labor involved. It first addresses issues that arise when language and cultural barriers are not properly addressed, such as inaccurate translations that alter patient understanding. Next, it notes the difficulties of end-of-life conversations across language divides and how nuances can get lost. The document then covers concepts of emotional labor, such as surface acting and deep acting, and how emotional guidelines are used in workplaces. Finally, it analyzes how medical translators perform deep emotional labor to convey accurate meanings and tones while hiding their own emotions, especially in difficult situations like palliative care.
How Body Language Affects The Communication Processnas_56
Body language plays an important role in communication by expressing one's emotions, feelings, and attitudes beyond words. It is an innate and learned system of nonverbal cues, including facial expressions, gestures, and body positions. While some signals like smiling are universal, others vary culturally. Being aware of inconsistencies between speech and body language can provide insight into what people are truly thinking or feeling in a situation. Regular practice observing body language can improve one's ability to perceive these nonverbal signals.
Non-verbal communication involves sending messages without speaking or writing. It includes eye contact, facial expressions, appearance, posture, use of space, time management, and physical distance. To be an effective non-verbal communicator, one must understand these forms of non-verbal communication and how to use them appropriately based on cultural contexts and situations.
Nonverbal communication involves using wordless messages and cues to convey meaning, feelings, and emphasize verbal messages. It includes various codes like facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, proximity and use of space. Understanding nonverbal communication is important because it can clarify messages and provide insights into how someone is truly feeling. However, interpreting nonverbal cues can also be challenging as codes may have different meanings depending on the context and situation. Being aware of all factors in a communication exchange can help minimize misunderstandings related to nonverbal communication.
Nonverbal communication such as facial expressions, posture, and tone of voice account for over 90% of total communication. Nonverbal cues complement and regulate what is said verbally, and can even substitute for or accent verbal messages. There are many types of nonverbal communication including paralanguage, body movement, eye contact, clothing, and touch, and it is important to be aware of nonverbal signals as most communication is nonverbal.
This document summarizes a workshop on effective communication. It outlines four types of communication - passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. For each type, it provides examples of behaviors and impacts. It also discusses common mistakes in communication and effective skills, such as dealing with issues directly, listening, compromise, and expressing emotions appropriately. The goal is to teach participants to communicate assertively and resolve conflicts respectfully.
The document discusses body language and nonverbal communication. It describes how body language conveys meaning through gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, smiling, hand gestures, arm and leg positions, and posture. Specific gestures and their potential meanings are examined, such as crossed arms indicating defensiveness while open arms suggest openness. Body language provides important cues about people's emotions and attitudes beyond what is said verbally.
This document discusses various aspects of body language and non-verbal communication. It states that 55% of communication is non-verbal. It then outlines five main types of body language: eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, posture/stance, and space relationships. Specific gestures and their potential meanings are described. Proper eye contact and its purpose is explained. The importance of facial expressions, posture, and physical space between individuals in communication is also covered.
The 10 Best Copywriting Formulas for Social Media HeadlinesBuffer
A Top Ten list of the best copywriting formulas used by writers and marketers, and how they might fit with the social media headlines you write.
1. Before – After – Bridge
2. Problem – Agitate – Solve
3. Features – Advantages – Benefits (FAB)
4. The 4 C’s
5. The 4 U’s
6. Attention – Interest – Desire – Action (AIDA)
7. A FOREST
8. The 5 basic objections
9. Picture – Promise – Prove – Push (PPPP)
10. The 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 Formula for Persuasive Copy
The complete list is available on the Buffer blog here: https://blog.bufferapp.com/copywriting-formulas
The document discusses the key aspects of communication including the definition, process, types, levels and barriers of communication. It defines communication as the exchange of information, ideas, thoughts and feelings through various channels like speech, signals, writing and behavior. The types of communication covered are verbal, nonverbal, oral, and written. Verbal communication can be oral or written, while nonverbal involves body language, appearance and sounds. The levels of communication range from intrapersonal to interpersonal, small group, one-to-group, and mass communication. Barriers to effective communication include physical, perceptual, emotional, cultural, language, gender and interpersonal factors. The document also provides tips for overcoming barriers and tools for effective
How to Deliver a Great Presentation
10 tips aganist stagefright, how to prepare a presentation and how to deliver.
Also see youtube "Ever presentation ever: FAIL"
Dirk Hannemann, Berlin
Trainer Kommunikation
www.hannemann-training.de
Are you nervous about an upcoming presentation? Use these tips to step up your presentation game and give the audience an experience they won't forget.
"Yes, and...": What Agencies Can Learn from ImprovYoung & Rubicam
Y&R Canada’s SVP and Strategic Planning Director Kasi Bruno – who recently completed her first improv class, and Sulaiman Beg, Director of Global Digital and Social Communications – who is a performer at the Magnet Theater in New York highlight some of their key improv learnings that will make agencies more innovative and effective as brand champions.
This document provides 12 effective techniques for grabbing an audience's attention in the first 30 seconds of a presentation. These include using a contrarian approach, asking rhetorical questions, delivering a catchy phrase, making a startling assertion, referencing a historical event, using the word "imagine", quoting movies, arousing curiosity, twisting quotations, quoting foreign proverbs, employing "what if" scenarios, and telling a brief story. The key is to choose a hook that is brief, well-rehearsed and pertinent to the topic being presented.
This document provides 12 effective techniques for grabbing an audience's attention in the first 30 seconds of a presentation. These include using a contrarian approach, asking rhetorical questions, delivering a catchy phrase, making a startling assertion, referencing a historical event, using the word "imagine", quoting movies, arousing curiosity, twisting quotations, quoting foreign proverbs, employing "what if" scenarios, and telling a brief story. The key is to choose a hook that is brief, well-rehearsed and pertinent to the topic being presented.
One of the greatest fears we all have, is the fear of speaking in public. Some research I read a few years back showed that people feared public speaking even more than they feared death. Wow, that is quite an incredible result. It is crazy to think that someone, would rather die, than stand in front of a group of people and deliver a speech.
This unnecessary fear is an instinctive primeval response, to our inbred fear of standing out from the herd. When we lived in a society, where there was a threat from predators. Anyone, who stood out from the crowd, was at the highest risk of being predated. So yes that fear you feel, when you are expected to deliver a speech in front of a group of people is real. It is primeval deep rooted fear of standing out. My question here is pretty simple. When last did you hear about a sabre toothed tiger eating someone, whilst they were speaking in public?
This document discusses how to create positive first impressions through proper etiquette and social skills. It notes that first impressions influence how people form opinions of others. Experts recommend making eye contact, smiling, avoiding oversharing, paying compliments sincerely, and not using canned opening lines. Common etiquette mistakes include introducing people in the wrong order, being late, resting elbows on the table, improper napkin use, overexplaining excuses, and interrupting conversations. Mastering social etiquette can help ensure pleasant interactions and enhance one's reputation.
This document discusses how to create positive first impressions through proper etiquette and social skills. It notes that first impressions influence how people form opinions of others. Experts recommend making eye contact, smiling, avoiding oversharing, paying compliments sincerely, and not using canned opening lines. Common etiquette mistakes include introducing people in the wrong order, being late, resting elbows on the table, improper napkin use, overexplaining excuses, and interrupting conversations. Mastering social etiquette can help ensure pleasant interactions and enhance one's reputation.
This document discusses how to create positive first impressions through proper etiquette and social skills. It notes that first impressions influence how people form opinions of others. Experts recommend making eye contact, smiling, avoiding oversharing, paying compliments sincerely, and not using canned opening lines. Common etiquette mistakes include introducing people in the wrong order, being late, resting elbows on the table, improper napkin use, overexplaining excuses, and interrupting conversations. Mastering social etiquette can help ensure pleasant interactions and enhance one's reputation.
Public Speaking? Anytime!
As Daniel Pink put it, "We're all in sales now". From the 30-second elevator pitch to the 30-minute persuasive speech, we're always speaking in public, even in the not-for-profit world, giving (mini) presentations in front of diverse audiences of 1 or 1 million. Be prepared- with my 10 guiding questions- and shine! Follow the links for resources from some of the field's experts, and explore all the web has to offer, such as amazing public speaking/presentations examples in TED Talks! Hope you find this tool useful. Please do let me know about your learning and successes henceforth. Thanks in advance!
1) The document outlines 10 steps for effective listening: face the speaker and maintain eye contact; be attentive but relaxed; keep an open mind without judging; listen to the words and picture what is being said; don't interrupt and don't impose solutions; wait for pauses to ask clarifying questions; ask questions only to ensure understanding; try to feel what the speaker is feeling; give regular feedback; pay attention to nonverbal cues.
2) Key aspects of effective listening include making eye contact, focusing without distraction, listening without judgment, concentrating on what is said, waiting for pauses before asking questions, and showing empathy through understanding the speaker's feelings.
3) Nonverbal cues provide much information, so
The document provides tips and advice for effective public speaking. It discusses the importance of being well-prepared, overcoming stage fright, engaging the audience, using humor appropriately, gestures, and concluding powerfully. Specific tips include starting simply, practicing, making eye contact, speaking conversationally, and being confident in delivering one's message.
This document provides a summary of common embarrassing habits and tips for proper handshaking etiquette. It begins with a list of 10 common embarrassing habits like nose picking, burping loudly, being late, and scratching inappropriate body parts. It then provides advice on how to have an effective handshake, emphasizing making eye contact, having a firm but not overpowering grip, keeping the motion up and down, adjusting the duration based on the person, and closing with eye contact and a smile. The overall message is that handshakes are an important part of first impressions and should be done properly to convey a positive impression.
This document provides tips for using hand gestures effectively during presentations. It recommends allowing natural movements and finding a relaxed "holding position" like fingers lightly touching just above the belly button. Presenters should avoid nervous gestures like fiddling or crossing arms defensively. With practice speaking freely and getting feedback, presenters can develop a natural style using hands to engage their audience.
How To Blast Through Any Obstacle In Your PathGeorge Hutton
The document discusses how seemingly negative events or "obstacles" can be reframed as opportunities for learning and progress toward one's goals. It argues that failure is an inevitable and necessary part of achieving anything significant, and that by viewing challenges as lessons rather than impediments, one can maintain a growth mindset and continue making strides even when plans run into difficulties. Reframing obstacles as learning experiences opens up possibilities for utilizing them productively rather than feeling defeated.
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Rae Stonehouse DTM aka Mr. Emcee provides sage advise on how to add passion to your presentations.
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The document discusses the qualities of a master salesman, describing them as an artist who can paint word pictures and blend colors to persuade others. It states that a master salesman is a master of himself and must be able to negotiate through other people without friction or opposition. It also notes that conviction is a priceless asset for master salesmen who make their own big opportunities.
This document contains a collection of short quotes and phrases on various topics related to success, leadership, personal development, attitudes and mindsets. Some of the key ideas discussed include developing a positive attitude, continuous self-improvement, treating others with kindness, focusing on goals and preparation, and overcoming obstacles through persistence and hard work.
1) The document discusses the importance of having the right attitude and thinking positively in order to succeed in ebiz. It emphasizes focusing on personal growth, helping others, and creating leaders rather than just making sales.
2) Many tips are provided on how to improve one's mindset and approach, such as continually learning, having long-term visions, treating uplines and downlines well, and prioritizing productive work over just being active.
3) Mistakes and failures are seen as opportunities to learn and improve. The overall message is that success in ebiz comes through developing strong character and empowering others rather than superficial or short-term goals.
The art of leadership involves inspiring and involving people, not driving them through angry commands. A leader's vision should motivate followers, not their ego or self-importance. Effective leadership means sharing responsibility, thinking of the group's welfare over personal reactions, and focusing on long-term goals rather than temporary ups and downs. True leadership is demonstrated through competence, fairness, patience, humility and the willingness to admit mistakes.
Dzineden is web designing company which has expert team of designers and developers. it makes personal, ecommerce, corporate, flash , animation, graphic websites, and provides services like seo, social media marketing,online corporate branding, elearning. dzineden is entirely dedicated to web design and development.
Cleades Robinson, a respected leader in Philadelphia's police force, is known for his diplomatic and tactful approach, fostering a strong community rapport.
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The world of blockchain and decentralized technologies is about to witness a groundbreaking event. ZKsync, the pioneering Ethereum Layer 2 network, has announced the highly anticipated airdrop of its native token, ZK. This move marks a significant milestone in the protocol's journey, empowering the community to take the reins and shape the future of this revolutionary ecosystem.
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1. Technique #1
The Flooding Smile
Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet
someone, as though anyone who walked into
your line of sight would be the beneficiary.
Instead, look at the other person’s face for a
second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a
big, warm, responsive smile flood
over your face and overflow into your eyes. It
willengulf the recipient like a warm wave. The
split-second delay convinces people your
flooding smile is genuine and only for them.
2. Technique #2
Sticky Eyes
Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation
partner’s with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye
contact even after he or she has finished speaking. When
you must look away, do it ever so slowly,reluctantly,
stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny string finally
breaks.
3. Technique #3
Epoxy Eyes
This brazen technique packs a powerful punch.
Watch your target person even when someone else
is talking. No matter who is speaking, keep looking
at the man or woman you want to impact.
4. Technique #4
Hang by Your Teeth
Visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the
frame of every door you walk through. Take a bite
and, with it firmly between your teeth, let it swoop
you to the peak of the big top. When you hang by
your teeth, every muscle is stretched into perfect
posture position.
5. #Technique 5
The Big-Baby Pivot
Give everyone you meet The Big-Baby Pivot. The
instant the two of you are introduced, reward your
new acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-
body turn, and the undivided attention you would
give a tiny tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned
a precious face up to yours, and beamed a big
toothless grin. Pivoting 100 percent toward the new
person shouts “I think you are very, very special.”
6. Technique #6
Hello Old Friend
When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old
friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone
else you had great affection for). How sad, the
vicissitudes of life tore you two asunder. But, holy
mackerel, now the party (the meeting, the
convention) has reunited you with your long-lost old
friend! The joyful experience starts a remarkable
chain reaction in your body from the subconscious
softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your
toes—and everything between.
7. Technique #7
Limit the Fidget
Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose
itch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not
fidget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above
all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand
motions near your face and all fidgeting can give your
listener the gut feeling you’re fibbing.
8. Technique #8
Hans’s Horse Sense
Make it a habit to get on a dual track while talking.
Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your
listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan
your moves accordingly.
If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say
you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick.
You’ve got horse sense.
9. Technique #9
Watch the Scene Before You Make the Scene
Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be
ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with Hang
by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the
Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. HEAR yourself
chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the
pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone
is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super
Somebody. Then it all happens automatically.
10. Technique #10
Make a Mood Match
Before opening your mouth, take a “voice sample” of
your listener to detect his or her state of mind. Take a
“psychic photograph” of the expression to see if your
listener looks buoyant, bored, or blitzed. If you ever
want to bring people around to your thoughts, you
must match their mood and voice tone, if only for a
moment.
11. Technique #11
Prosaic with Passion
Worried about your first words? Fear not, because 80
percent of your listener’s impression has nothing to do
with your words anyway. Almost anything you say at
first is fine. No matter how prosaic the text, an
empathetic mood, a positive demeanor, and passionate
delivery make you sound exciting.
12. Technique #12
Always Wear a Whatzit
Whenever you go to a gathering, wear or carry
something unusual to give people who find you the
delightful stranger across the crowded room an
excuse
to approach. “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice
your . . . what IS that?”
13. Technique #13
Whoozat
Whoozat is the most effective, least used (by
nonpoliticians)meeting-people device ever contrived.
Simply ask the party giver to make the introduction, or
pump for a few facts that you can immediately turn
into icebreakers.
14. Technique #14
Eavesdrop In
No Whatzit? No host for Whoozat? No problem! Just
sidle up behind the swarm of folks you want to infiltrate
and open your ears. Wait for any flimsy excuse
and jump in with “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but
overhear. . . .”
Will they be taken aback? Momentarily.
Will they get over it? Momentarily.
Will you be in the conversation? Absolutely!
15. Technique #15
Never the Naked City
Whenever someone asks you the inevitable, “And where
are you from?” never, ever, unfairly challenge their
powers of imagination with a one-word answer.
Learn some engaging facts about your hometown
that conversational partners can comment on. Then,
when they say something clever in response to your
bait, they think you’re a great conversationalist.
16. Technique #16
Never the Naked Job
When asked the inevitable “And what do you do,” you
may think “I’m an economist/an educator/an engineer”
is giving enough information to engender good
conversation. However, to one who is not an economist,
educator, or an engineer, you might as well be saying
“I’m a paleontologist/psychoanalyst/pornographer.”
Flesh it out. Throw out some delicious facts about
your job for new acquaintances to munch on.
Otherwise, they’ll soon excuse themselves, preferring
the snacks back at the cheese tray.
17. Technique #17
Never the Naked Introduction
When introducing people, don’t throw out an unbaited
hook and stand there grinning like a big clam, leaving
the newlymets to flutter their fins and fish for a topic.
Bait the conversational hook to get them in the swim of
things. Then you’re free to stay or float on to the next
networking opportunity.
18. Technique #18
Be a Word Detective
Like a good gumshoe, listen to your conversation
partner’s every word for clues to his or her preferred
topic. The evidence is bound to slip out. Then spring
on that subject like a sleuth on to a slip of the tongue.
Like Sherlock Holmes, you have the clue to the subject
that’s hot for the other person.
19. Technique #19
The Swiveling Spotlight
When you meet someone, imagine a giant revolving
spotlight between you. When you’re talking, the
spotlight is on you. When the new person is speaking,
it’s shining on him or her. If you shine it brightly
enough, the stranger will be blinded to the fact that you
have hardly said a word about yourself. The longer you
keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he
or she finds you.
20. Technique #20
Parroting
Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply
repeat the last few words your conversation partner
says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court,
and then all you need to do is listen.
21. Technique #21
Encore!
The sweetest sound a performer can hear welling up
out of the applause is “Encore! Encore! Let’s hear it
again!” The sweetest sound your conversation partner
can hear from your lips when you’re talking with a
group of people is “Tell them about the time you . . .”
Whenever you’re at a meeting or party with
someone important to you, think of some stories he or
she told you. Choose an appropriate one from their
repertoire that the crowd will enjoy. Then shine the
spotlight by requesting a repeat performance.
22. Technique #22
Ac-cen-tu-ate the Pos-i-tive
When first meeting someone, lock your closet
door and save your skeletons for later. You and
your new good friend can invite the skeletons
out, have a good laugh, and dance over their
bones later in the relationship. But
now’s the time, as the old song says, to “ac-
cen-tu-ate the pos-i-tive and elim-i-nate the
neg-a-tive.”
23. Technique #23
The Latest News . . . Don’t Leave Home
Without It
The last move to make before leaving for the party—
even after you’ve given yourself final approval in the
mirror—is to turn on the radio news or scan your
newspaper. Anything that happened today is good
material. Knowing the big-deal news of the moment is
also a defensive move that rescues you from putting
your foot in your mouth by asking what everybody’s
talking about. Foot-in-mouth is not very tasty in
public, especially when it’s surrounded by egg-on-face.
24. Technique #24
What Do You Do—NOT!
A sure sign you’re a Somebody is the conspicuous
absenceof the question, “What do you do?” (You
determine this, of course, but not with those four dirty
words that label you as either a ruthless networker, a
social climber, a gold-digging husband or wife hunter,
or someone who’s never strolled along Easy Street.)
25. Technique #25
The Nutshell Résumé
Just as job-seeking top managers roll a different written
résumé off their printers for each position they’re applying
for, let a different true story about your professional life roll
off your tongue for each listener.
Before responding to “What do you do?” ask yourself,
“What possible interest could this person have in my
answer? Could he refer business to me? Buy from me?
Hire me? Marry my sister? Become my buddy?”
Wherever you go, pack a nutshell about your own
life to work into your communications bag of tricks.
26. Technique #26
Your Personal Thesaurus
Look up some common words you use every day in the
thesaurus. Then, like slipping your feet into a new pair
of shoes, slip your tongue into a few new words to see
how they fit. If you like them, start making permanent
replacements.
Remember, only fifty words makes the difference
between a rich, creative vocabulary and an average,
middle-of-the-road one. Substitute a word a day for
two months and you’ll be in the verbally elite.
27. Technique #27
Kill the Quick “Me, Too!”
Whenever you have something in common with
someone, the longer you wait to reveal it, the more
moved (and impressed) he or she will be. You emerge as
a confident big cat, not a lonely little stray, hungry for
quick connection with a stranger.
P.S.: Don’t wait too long to reveal your shared
interest or it will seem like you’re being tricky.
28. Technique #28
Comm-YOU-nication
Start every appropriate sentence with you. It
immediatelygrabs your listener’s attention. It gets a
morepositive response because it pushes the pride button
and saves them having to translate it into “me” terms.
When you sprinkle you as liberally as salt and
pepper throughout your conversation, your listeners
find it an irresistible spice.
29. Technique #29
The Exclusive Smile
If you flash everybody the same smile, like a Confederate
dollar, it loses value. When meeting groups of
people, grace each with a distinct smile. Let your smiles
grow out of the beauty big players find in each new
face.
If one person in a group is more important to you
than the others, reserve an especially big, flooding smile
just for him or her.
30. Technique #30
Don’t Touch a Cliché with a Ten-Foot Pole
Be on guard. Don’t use any clichés when chatting with
big winners. Don’t even touch one with a ten-foot pole.
Never? Not even when hell freezes over? Not unless you
want to sound dumb as a doorknob.
Instead of coughing up a cliché, roll your own
clever phrases by using the next technique.
31. Technique #31
Use Jawsmith’s Jive
Whether you’re standing behind a podium facing
thousands or behind the barbecue grill facing your
family, you’ll move, amuse, and motivate with the
same skills.
Read speakers’ books to cull quotations, pull pearls
of wisdom, and get gems to tickle their funny bones.
Find a few bon mots to let casually slide off your
tongue on chosen occasions. If you want to be notable,
dream up a crazy quotable.
Make ’em rhyme, make ’em clever, or make ’em
funny. Above all, make ’em relevant.
32. Technique #32
Call a Spade a Spade
Don’t hide behind euphemisms. Call a spade a spade.
That doesn’t mean big cats use tasteless four-letter
words when perfectly decent five- and six-letter ones
exist. They’ve simply learned the King’s English, and
they speak it.
Here’s another way to tell the big players from the
little ones just by listening to a few minutes of their
conversation.
33. Technique #33
Trash the Teasing
A dead giveaway of a little cat is his or her proclivity to
tease. An innocent joke at someone else’s expense may
get you a cheap laugh. Nevertheless, the big cats will
have the last one. Because you’ll bang your head against
the glass ceiling they construct to keep little cats from
stepping on their paws.
Never, ever, make a joke at anyone else’s expense.
You’ll wind up paying for it, dearly.
34. Technique #34
It’s the Receiver’s Ball
A football player wouldn’t last two beats of the time
clock if he made blind passes. A pro throws the ball
with the receiver always in mind.
Before throwing out any news, keep your receiver in
mind. Then deliver it with a smile, a sigh, or a sob. Not
according to how you feel about the news, but how the
receiver will take it.
35. Technique #35
The Broken Record
Whenever someone persists in questioning you on an
unwelcome subject, simply repeat your original
response. Use precisely the same words in precisely the
same tone of voice. Hearing it again usually quiets
them down. If your rude interrogator hangs on like a
leech, your next repetition never fails to flick them off.
36. Technique #36
Big Shots Don’t Slobber
People who are VIPs in their own right don’t slobber
over celebrities. When you are chatting with one, don’t
compliment her work, simply say how much pleasure or
insight it’s given you. If you do single out any one of
the star’s accomplishments, make sure it’s a recent one,
not a memory that’s getting yellow in her scrapbook.
If the queen bee has a drone sitting with her, find a
way to involve him in the conversation
37. Technique #37
Never the Naked Thank You
Never let the phrase “thank you” stand alone. From A
to Z, always follow it with for: from “Thank you for
asking” to “Thank you for zipping me up.”
38. Technique #38
Scramble Therapy
Once a month, scramble your life. Do something you’d
never dream of doing. Participate in a sport, go to an
exhibition, hear a lecture on something totally out of
your experience. You get 80 percent of the right lingo
and insider questions from just one exposure
39. Technique #39
Learn a Little Jobbledygook
Big winners speak Jobbledygook as a second language.
What is Jobbledygook? It’s the language of other
professions.
Why speak it? It makes you sound like an insider.
How do you learn it? You’ll find no Jobbledygook
cassettes in the language section of your bookstore, but
the lingo is easy to pick up. Simply ask a friend who
speaks the lingo of the crowd you’ll be with to teach
you a few opening questions. The words are few and
the rewards are manifold.
40. Technique #40
Baring Their Hot Button
Before jumping blindly into a bevy of bookbinders or a
drove of dentists, find out what the hot issues are in
their fields. Every industry has burning concerns the
outside world knows little about. Ask your informant to
bare the industry buzz. Then, to heat the conversation
up, push those buttons.
41. Technique #41
Read Their Rags
Is your next big client a golfer, runner, swimmer, surfer,
or skier? Are you attending a social function filled with
accountants or Zen Buddhists—or anything in between?
There are untold thousands of monthly magazines
serving every imaginable interest. You can dish up more
information than you’ll ever need to sound like an
insider with anyone just by reading the rags that serve
their racket. (Have you read your latest copy of
Zoonooz yet?)
42. Technique #42
Clear “Customs”
Before putting one toe on foreign soil, get a book on
dos and taboos around the world. Before you shake
hands, give a gift, make gestures, or even compliment
anyone’s possessions, check it out. Your gaffe could gum
up your entire gig.
43. Technique #43
Bluffing for Bargains
The haggling skills used in ancient Arab markets are
alive and well in contemporary America for big-ticket
items. Your price is much lower when you know how
to deal.
Before every big purchase, find several vendors—a
few to learn from and one to buy from. Armed with a
few words of industryese, you’re ready to head for the
store where you’re going to buy.
44. Technique #44
Be a Copyclass
Watch people. Look at the way they move. Small
movements? Big movements? Fast? Slow? Jerky? Fluid?
Old? Young? Classy? Trashy?
Pretend the person you are talking to is your dance
instructor. Is he a jazzy mover? Is she a balletic mover?
Watch his or her body, then imitate the style of
movement. That makes your conversation partner
subliminally real comfy with you
45. Technique #45
Echoing
Echoing is a simple linguistic technique that packs a
powerful wallop. Listen to the speaker’s arbitrary choice
of nouns, verbs, prepositions, adjectives—and echo
them back. Hearing their words come out of your
mouth creates subliminal rapport. It makes them feel
you share their values, their attitudes, their interests,
their experiences.
46. Technique #46
Potent Imaging
Does your customer have a garden? Talk about “sowing
the seeds for success.” Does your boss own a boat? Tell
him or her about a concept that will “hold water” or
“stay afloat.” Maybe he is a private pilot? Talk about a
concept really “taking off.” She plays tennis? Tell her it
really hits the “sweet spot.”
Evoke your listener’s interests or lifestyle and weave
images around it. To give your points more power and
punch, use analogies from your listener’s world, not
your own. Potent Imaging also tells your listeners you
think like them and hints you share their interests
47. Technique #47
Employ Empathizers
Don’t be an unconscious ummer. Vocalize complete
sentences to show your understanding. Dust your
dialogue with phrases like “I see what you mean.”
Sprinkle it with sentimental sparklers like “That’s a
lovely thing to say.” Your empathy impresses your
listeners and encourages them to continue
48. Technique #48
Anatomically Correct Empathizers
What part of their anatomy are your associates talking
through? Their eyes? Their ears? Their gut?
For visual people, use visual empathizers to make
them think you see the world the way they do. For
auditory folks, use auditory empathizers to make them
think you hear them loud and clear. For kinesthetic
types, use kinesthetic empathizers to make them think
you feel the same way they do.
49. Technique #49
The Premature WE
Create the sensation of intimacy with someone even if
you’ve met just moments before. Scramble the signals
in their psyche by skipping conversational levels one
and two and cutting right to levels three and four.
Elicit intimate feelings by using the magic words we,
us, and our.
50. Technique #50
Instant History
When you meet a stranger you’d like to make less a
stranger, search for some special moment you shared
during your first encounter. Then find a few words that
reprieve the laugh, the warm smile, the good feelings
the two of you felt. Now, just like old friends, you have
a history together, an Instant History.
With anyone you’d like to make part of your
personal or professional future, look for special
moments together. Then make them a refrain
51. Technique #51
Grapevine Glory
A compliment one hears is never as exciting as the one
he overhears. A priceless way to praise is not by
telephone, not by telegraph, but by tell-a-friend. This
way you escape possible suspicion that you are an
apple-polishing, bootlicking, egg-sucking, backscratching
sycophant trying to win brownie points. You
also leave recipients with the happy fantasy that you are
telling the whole world about their greatness
52. Technique #52
Carrier Pigeon Kudos
People immediately grow a beak and metamorphosize
themselves into carrier pigeons when there’s bad news.
(It’s called gossip.) Instead, become a carrier of good
news and kudos. Whenever you hear something
complimentary about someone, fly to them with the
compliment. Your fans may not posthumously stuff
you and put you on display in a museum like Stumpy
Joe. But everyone loves the carrier pigeon of kind
thoughts.
53. Technique #53
Implied Magnificence
Throw a few comments into your conversation that
presuppose something positive about the person you’re
talking with. But be careful. Don’t blow it like the
wellintentioned
maintenance man. Or the southern boy
who, at the prom, thought he was flattering his date
when he told her, “Gosh, Mary Lou, for a fat gal you
dance real good.”
54. Technique #54
Accidental Adulation
Become an undercover complimenter. Stealthily sneak
praise into the parenthetical part of your sentence.
Just don’t try to quiz anyone later on your main
point. The joyful jolt of your accidental adulation
strikes them temporarily deaf to anything that follows.
55. Technique #55
Killer Compliment
Whenever you are talking with a stranger you’d like to
make part of your professional or personal future, search
for one attractive, specific, and unique quality he or she
has.
At the end of the conversation, look the individual
right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to
curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment
56. Technique #56
Little Strokes
Don’t make your colleagues, your friends, your loved
ones look at you and silently say, “Haven’t I been pretty
good today?” Let them know how much you appreciate
them by caressing them with verbal Little Strokes like
“Nice job!” “Well done!” “Cool!”
57. Technique #57
The Knee-Jerk “Wow!”
Quick as a blink, you must praise people the moment
they a finish a feat. In a wink, like a knee-jerk reaction
say, “You were terrific!”
Don’t worry that they won’t believe you. The
euphoria of the moment has a strangely numbing effect
on the achiever’s objective judgment
58. Technique #58
Boomeranging
Just as a boomerang flies right back to the thrower, let
compliments boomerang right back to the giver. Like
the French, quickly murmur something that expresses
“That’s very kind of you.”
59. Technique #59
The Tombstone Game
Ask the important people in your life what they would
like engraved on their tombstone. Chisel it into your
memory but don’t mention it again. Then, when the
moment is right to say “I appreciate you” or “I love
you,” fill the blanks with the very words they gave you
weeks earlier.
You take people’s breath away when you feed their
deepest self-image to them in a compliment. “At last,”
they say to themselves, “someone who loves me for who
I truly am.”
60. Technique #60
Talking Gestures
Think of yourself as the star of a personal radio drama
every time you pick up the phone. If you want to come
across as engaging as you are, you must turn your
smiles into sound, your nods into noise, and all your
gestures into something your listener can hear. You
must replace your gestures with talk. Then punch up
the whole act 30 percent!
61. Technique #61
Name Shower
People perk up when they hear their own name. Use it
more often on the phone than you would in person to
keep their attention. Your caller’s name re-creates the
eye contact, the caress, you might give in person.
Saying someone’s name repeatedly when face-to-face
sounds pandering. But because there is physical distance
between you on the phone—sometimes you’re a
continent
apart—you can spray your conversation with it.
62. Technique #62
“Oh Wow, It’s You!”
Don’t answer the phone with an “I’m just sooo happy
all the time” attitude. Answer warmly, crisply, and
professionally. Then, after you hear who is calling, let a
huge smile of happiness engulf your entire face and
spill over into your voice. You make your caller feel as
though your giant warm fuzzy smile is reserved for him
or her.
63. Technique #63
The Sneaky Screen
If you must screen your calls, instruct your staff to first
say cheerfully, “Oh yes, I’ll put you right through. May
I tell her who’s calling?” If the party has already
identified himself, it’s “Oh of course, Mr. Whoozit. I’ll
put you right through.”
When the secretary comes back with the bad news
that Mr. or Ms. Bigwig is unavailable, callers don’t take
it personally and never feel screened. They fall for it
every time, just like I did.
64. Technique #64
Salute the Spouse
Whenever you are calling someone’s home, always identify
and greet the person who answers. Whenever you call
someone’s office more than once or twice, make friends
with the secretary. Anybody who is close enough to answer
the phone is close enough to sway the VIP’s opinion of you.
65. Technique #65
What Color Is Your Time?
No matter how urgent you think your call, always
begin by asking the person about timing. Either use the
What Color Is Your Time? device or simply ask, “Is this
a convenient time for you to talk?” When you ask
about timing first, you’ll never smash your footprints
right in the middle of your telephone partner’s sands of
time. You’ll never get a “No!” just because your timing
wasn’t right.
66. Technique #66
Constantly Changing Outgoing Message
If you want to be perceived as conscientious and
reliable, leave a short, professional, and friendly
greeting as your outgoing message. No music. No jokes.
No inspirational messages. No boasts, bells, or whistles.
And here’s the secret: change it every day. Your message
doesn’t have to be flawless. A little cough or stammer
gives a lovely unpretentious reality to your message.
67. Technique #67
Your Ten-Second Audition
While dialing, clear your throat. If an answering
machine picks up, pretend the beep is a big Broadway
producer saying “Nexxxt.” Now you’re on. This is Your
Ten-Second Audition to prove you are worthy of a
quick callback.
68. Technique #68
The Ho-Hum Caper
Instead of using your party’s name, casually let the
pronoun he or she roll off your tongue. Forget “Uh,
may I speak to Ms. Bigshot please?” Just announce,
“Hi, Bob Smith here, is she in?” Tossing the familiar
she off your tongue signals to the secretary that you and
her boss are old buddies
69. Technique #69
“I Hear Your Other Line”
When you hear a phone in the background, stop
speaking—in midsentence, if necessary—and say “I
hear your other line,” (or your dog barking, your baby
crying, your spouse calling you). Ask whether she has
to attend to it. Whether she does or not, she’ll know
you’re a top communicator for asking
70. Technique #70
Instant Replay
Record all your business conversations and listen to
them again. The second or third time, you pick up on
significant subtleties you missed the first time. It’s like
football fans who often don’t know if there was a
fumble until they see it all over again in Instant Replay.
71. Technique #71
Munching or Mingling
Politicians want to be eyeball to eyeball and belly to
belly with their constituents. Like any big winner well
versed in the science of proxemics and spatial
relationships, they know any object except their belt
buckle has the effect of a brick wall between two
people. Therefore they never hold food or drink at a
party.
Come to munch or come to mingle. But do not
expect to do both. Like a good politician, chow down
before you come.
72. Technique #72
Rubberneck the Room
When you arrive at the gathering, stop dramatically in
the doorway. Then s-l-o-w-l-y survey the situation. Let
your eyes travel back and forth like a SWAT team
ready in a heartbeat to wipe out anything that moves.
73. Technique #73
Be the Chooser, Not the Choosee
The lifelong friend, the love of your life, or the business
contact who will transform your future may not be at
the party. However, someday, somewhere, he or she will
be. Make every party a rehearsal for the big event.
Do not stand around waiting for the moment when
that special person approaches you. You make it happen
by exploring every face in the room. No more “ships
passing in the night.” Capture whatever or whomever
you want in your life.
74. Technique #74
Come-Hither Hands
Be a human magnet, not a human repellent. When
standing at a gathering, arrange your body in an open
position—especially your arms and hands. People
instinctively gravitate toward open palms and wrists
seductively arranged in the “come hither” position.
They shy away from knuckles in the “get lost or I’ll
punch you” position. Use your wrists and palms to say
“I have nothing to hide,” “I accept you and what you’re
saying,” or “I find you sexy.”
75. Technique #75
Tracking
Like an air-traffic controller, track the tiniest details of
your conversation partners’ lives. Refer to them in your
conversation like a major news story. It creates a powerful
sense of intimacy.
When you invoke the last major or minor event in
anyone’s life, it confirms the deep conviction that he or
she is an old-style hero around whom the world
revolves. And people love you for recognizing their
stardom.
76. Technique #76
The Business Card Dossier
Right after you’ve talked to someone at a party, take
out your pen. On the back of his or her business card
write notes to remind you of the conversation: his
favorite restaurant, sport, movie, or drink; whom she
admires, where she grew up, a high school honor; or
maybe a joke he told.
In your next communication, toss off a reference to
the favorite restaurant, sport, movie, drink, hometown,
high school honor. Or reprieve the laugh over the great
joke.
77. Technique #77
Eyeball Selling
The human body is a twenty-four-hour broadcasting
station that transmits “You thrill me.” “You bore me.”
“I love that aspect of your product.” “That one puts my
feet to sleep.”
Set the hidden cameras behind your eyeballs to pick
up on all your customers’ and friends’ signals. Then
plan your pitch and your pace accordingly.
78. Technique #78
See No Bloopers, Hear No Bloopers
Cool communicators allow their friends, associates,
acquaintances, and loved ones the pleasurable myth of
being above commonplace bloopers and embarrassing
biological functions. They simply don’t notice their
comrades’ minor spills, slips, fumbles, and faux pas.
They obviously ignore raspberries and all other signs of
human frailty in their fellow mortals. Big winners never
gape at another’s gaffes.
79. Technique #79
Lend a Helping Tongue
Whenever someone’s story is aborted, let the interruption
play itself out. Give everyone time to dote on the
little darling, give their dinner order, or pick up the
jagged pieces of china.
Then, when the group reassembles, simply say to the
person who suffered story-interruptus, “Now please get
back to your story.” Or better yet, remember where they
were and then ask, “So what happened after the . . .”
(and fill in the last few words)
80. Technique #80
Bare the Buried WIIFM (and WIIFY)
Whenever you suggest a meeting or ask a favor, divulge
the respective benefits. Reveal what’s in it for you and
what’s in it for the other person—even if it’s zip. If any
hidden agenda comes up later, you get labeled a sly fox.
81. Technique #81
Let ’Em Savor the Favor
Whenever a friend agrees to a favor, allow your
generous buddy time to relish the joy of his or her
beneficence before you make them pay the piper.
How long? At least twenty-four hours
82. Technique #82
Tit for (Wait . . . Wait) Tat
When you do someone a favor and it’s obvious that “he
owes you one,” wait a suitable amount of time before
asking him to “pay.” Let him enjoy the fact (or fiction)
that you did it out of friendship. Don’t call in your tit
for their tat too swiftly.
83. Technique #83
Parties Are for Pratter
There are three sacred safe havens in the human jungle
where even the toughest tiger knows he must not
attack. The first of these is parties.
Parties are for pleasantries and good fellowship, not
for confrontations. Big players, even when standing
next to their enemies at the buffet table, smile and nod.
They leave tough talk for tougher settings.
84. Technique #84
Dinner’s for Dining
The most guarded safe haven respected by big winners
is the dining table. Breaking bread together is a time
when they bring up no unpleasant matters. While
eating, they know it’s OK to brainstorm and discuss the
positive side of the business: their dreams, their desires,
their designs. They can free associate and come up with
new ideas. But no tough business.
85. Technique #85
Chance Encounters Are for Chitchat
If you’re selling, negotiating, or in any sensitive
communication with someone, do NOT capitalize on a
chance meeting. Keep the melody of your mistaken
meeting sweet and light. Otherwise, it could turn into
your swan song with Big Winner
86. Technique #86
Empty Their Tanks
If you need information, let people have their entire say
first. Wait patiently until their needle is on empty and
the last drop drips out and splashes on the cement. It’s
the only way to be sure their tank is empty enough of
their own inner noise to start receiving your ideas.
87. Technique #87
Echo the Emo
Facts speak. Emotions shout. Whenever you need facts
from people about an emotional situation, let them
emote. Hear their facts but empathize like mad with
their emotions. Smearing on the emo is often the only
way to calm their emotional storm
88. Technique #88
My Goof, Your Gain
Whenever you make a boner, make sure your victim
benefits. It’s not enough to correct your mistake. Ask
yourself, “What could I do for this suffering soul so he
or she will be delighted I made the flub?” Then do it,
fast! In that way, your goof will become your gain
89. Technique #89
Leave an Escape Hatch
Whenever you catch someone lying, filching,
exaggerating,distorting, or deceiving, don’t confront the dirty
duck directly. Unless it is your responsibility to catch or
correct the culprit—or unless you are saving other
innocent victims by doing so—let the transgressor out
of your trap with his tricky puss in one piece. Then
resolve never to gaze upon it again.
90. Teechnique #90
Buttercups for Their Boss
Do you have a store clerk, accountant, law firm junior
partner, tailor, auto mechanic, maître d’, massage
therapist, kid’s teacher—or any other worker you want
special attention from in the future? The surefire way
to make them care enough to give you their very best is
send a buttercup to their boss.
91. Technique #91
Lead the Listeners
No matter how prominent the big cat behind the
podium is, crouched inside is a little scaredy-cat who is
anxious about the crowd’s acceptance.
Big winners recognize you’re a fellow big winner
when they see you leading their listeners in a positive
reaction. Be the first to applaud or publicly commend
the man or woman you agree with (or want favors
from).
92. Technique #92
The Great Scorecard in the Sky
Any two people have an invisible scorecard hovering
above their heads. The numbers continually fluctuate,
but one rule remains: player with lower score pays
deference to player with higher score. The penalty for
not keeping your eye on The Great Scorecard in the
Sky is to be thrown out of the game. Permanently