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IBS354 PP Chapter 10 Module 12
1. Understanding Intercultural
Communication Second Edition
Chapter 10
What are the Challenges in Developing
an Intercultural-Intimate Relationship?
Stella Ting-Toomey & Leeva C. Chung
OXFORD UNIVERSITY PRESS
PowerPoint Slides Designed by Alex Flecky and Noorie Baig
2. MENU
I. Developing Intercultural-Intimate
Relationships: Invisible Challenges
II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
III. Intercultural-Intimate Conflict:
Obstacles and Stumbling Blocks
IV. Raising Secure Bicultural Children
V. Intercultural Reality Check: Do-
Ables
3. Individualistic Orientation
I-identity relationship
expectations
Couple’s privacy,
autonomy
Voluntary, personal
commitment
Low-context emotional
expressions
Collectivistic Orientation
We-identity, ingroup
relationship pressures
Ingroup’s (we) connection,
concerns
Structural commitment,
family and social
reactions
High-context emotional
expressions
Value companionate
I. Developing Intercultural-Intimate
Relationships: Invisible Challenges
A. Cultural-Ethnic Membership
Values
4. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
A. Perceived Physical Attractiveness
Physical attractiveness critical to initial
attraction; cultural differences regarding
what is attractive.
• For example, U.S. individuals attracted to: high
energy, enthusiasm.; Korean individuals
attracted to: high integrity, concern for others.
B. Perceived Similarity
• Similarity–attraction hypothesis: cognitive
consistency
• Intergroup–interpersonal attraction: attitudinal
issues
5. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
C. Cross-Cultural Self-disclosure
Comparisons
• Self-disclosure: intentional process of
revealing exclusive information about
ourselves to others that other individuals
do not know.
• Social penetration theory:
interpersonal information progresses
from superficial nonintimate to more
deep-layered intimate self-disclosure.
6. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
C. Cross-Cultural Self-disclosure
Comparisons: Discussion
Check out similarities and
differences….
• Where did you learn your self-disclosure
tendency?
• Do you come from a high-disclosive family or a
low-disclosive family?
• What topics do you consider as quite “Public”?
• What topics do you consider as quite “Private”?
8. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
Media Activity: Fools Rush In film clip
Discussion:
• Can you relate to this clip?
• How do the cultural value dimensions impact
the development of your particular intimate
relationship?
• How did Alex and Isabel handle the dialectical
tensions of autonomy and connectedness?
• How did they differ in terms of disclosing to
their parents about Isabel’s pregnancy?
9. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
D. Online Disclosure of Affection
Do you stay in touch with your Facebook friends by
“liking” their posts, photos, or statuses?
E. Third-Party Matchmakers: Online and
Mobile Dating
Five phases of online dating:
1. Attention
2. Recognition
3. Interaction
4. Face-to-face meeting
5. Resolution
10. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
F. Intercultural/Interracial Romantic
Relationship Development
Interracial couples’ four stages of
“racial” awareness and awakening:
• Racial awareness
• Coping
• Identity emergence
• Relationship maintenance
11. II. Intercultural-Intimate Relationship
Attraction: Facilitating Factors
Some Intercultural-Intimate
Relationship Research
• Generation is predictor of interethnic
relationships.
• Individuals with assimilated, bicultural, or
marginal identities have greater tendency to
date outgroup members.
• The “Romeo and Juliet” effect: The more
the families are against relationship, the
more the couple wants to rebel against
parents, thus finding each other more
attractive.
12. III. Intercultural-Intimate Conflict:
Obstacles and Stumbling Blocks
A. The Encounter: Prejudice and
Racism
Intercultural-intimate conflict:
Antagonistic friction or
disagreement between two
romantic partners caused, in part, by
cultural or ethnic group membership
differences.
Have you observed prejudice or
racism toward interracial couples?
13. III. Intercultural-Intimate Conflict:
Obstacles and Stumbling Blocks
B. Countering Racism and Prejudice:
Coping Strategies:
1. Ignoring or dismissing
2. Normalizing
3. Withdrawing
4. Educating
5. Confrontation
6. Prayer
7. Humor
14. IV. Raising Secure Bicultural
Children
A. Bicultural Identity Struggles:
Four identity forms of bicultural
children:
1. Majority-group identifiers
2. Minority-group identifiers
3. Synthesizers
4. Dissaffiliates
15. • Work out identity plan early – communicate with your
partner (e.g., religious faith, language, customs).
• Listen to your children’s identity experiences.
• Provide cultural enrichment opportunities.
• Be truthful about prejudice & racism issues.
• Nurture & support different identity facets.
• Provide safety net & maturation challenges. Realize
that children will grow up & choose their own identity
paths….
IV. Raising Secure Bicultural Children:
Some suggestions:
16. IV. Raising Secure Bicultural
Children
B. Cultivating a Secure Multifaceted
Identity
To help bicultural individuals:
• Know values and beliefs of each group.
• Positive attitude toward both groups.
• Confidence that one can live effectively within
both groups without compromising one’s
individual identity.
• Be grounded.
17. In managing diverse intimate
relationship issues, here are some
helpful do-ables:
• Pay attention to culture-based challenges.
• Be mindful that individualists and
collectivists may hold different
expectations.
• Be sensitive to your partner’s family
reaction issues.
• Be flexible in learning your partner’s
V. Intercultural Reality Check: Do-
Ables
18. Parting Thoughts…
Living on borders and in margins,
keeping intact one’s shifting and multiple identity
and integrity,
is like trying to swim
in a new element, an “alien” element.
~ Gloria
Anzaldua