We often think of better responses to conversations after the fact. When speaking to important people, our chests constrict and vocal cords tighten due to an ancient "fight or flight" response that is trying to protect us from rejection, even though we are just having a normal conversation. However, with the right mental exercises and daily journaling, we can get rid of this anxiety and learn to speak as comfortably to anyone as we do with close friends.

2. It's a very common experience to think
of something to say after the fact.

3. Like you're in a conversation with your
friends, and somebody says
something, and you don't know how
to respond.

4. Then later on, maybe at home or in
the car, you think of witty comeback.

5. Or maybe you've had this experience.

6. You've got to give a speech.

7. You practice at home, in front of the
mirror, over and over.

8. Then you give the speech, only you
don't remember much of it.

9. OK, how about this one. You've got a
great idea in your head.

10. You rehearse what you're going to say.

11. Maybe to your boss, your partner, or
your kids.

12. But when you say it, it doesn't sound
nearly as good.

13. Maybe even people look at you like
you're crazy.

14. That can really hurt.

15. Especially if you were fully expecting
them to embrace your idea.

16. What gives?

17. Why do we sometimes have so much
trouble communicating?

18. It's not rocket science.

19. We're not trying to reverse engineer
Euclidian Geometry.

20. The reason is all have a kind of
imaginary "bubble" around us.

21. One that pops up unexpectedly.

22. When we're with our close friends, it's
rarely present.

23. We can say whatever we want.

24. We know from our experience that
they're our close friends, so we're not
worried about rejection.

25. But when it's somebody we don't
really know, AND it's somebody
important, we suddenly are very
careful how we speak.

26. Now, this rarely happens consciously.

27. We don't carefully choose our words
like some high level negotiator or
diplomat.

28. But we do severely limit ourselves.

29. Our chests constrict.

30. Our vocal chords get a bit tighter.

31. We speak from a slightly higher point
in our diaphragms.

32. It's that ancient "fight or flight"
response coming to save us.

33. Only it doesn't know we're not going
into battle or trying to scare a tiger
away from our cave.

34. We're just talking to some person,
who's just like us, and we may get
something good, we may not.

35. Think of what you could accomplish,
what you could get, if you could talk to
ANYBODY as naturally and easily as
your close friends.

36. Not necessarily say the same things,
but if you were as relaxed and
confident.

37. If you were not worried in the least of
rejection.

38. Talking to your boss, giving speeches,
talking to attractive people.

39. Just imagine if you were as
comfortable talking your boss into
giving you a raise as you were
convincing your friend to meet you at
the corner pub!

40. The good news is that you can.

41. Because all those fears and anxieties
that may be subconsciously holding
you back can be ejected.

42. With the right mental exercises, and
some daily journaling, you can get rid
of the for good.

43. mindpersuasion.com/emotional-freedom/