The document discusses listening and the human mind. It notes that the mind generates constant thoughts and can drift away from the present moment. Exercises are presented to illustrate how the mind works, such as thinking of one's own thoughts during silence or bringing attention back to a partner speaking. The document advises being aware of thoughts and separating events from our interpretations of them in order to listen better and not be ruled by impulses or past trauma. The key is to keep bringing one's attention back to the present moment.
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Mindfulness. It’s a pretty straightforward word. It suggests that the mind
is fully attending to what’s happening, to what you’re doing, to the space you’re
moving through. That might seem trivial, except for the annoying fact that we
so often veer from the matter at hand. Our mind takes flight, we lose touch with
our body, and pretty soon we’re engrossed in obsessive thoughts about something that just happened or fretting about the future. And that makes us anxious.
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1. ntroduction to Listening
Note: This introduction is not meant to be delivered with powerpoints. The goal is to engage the
participants in an interactive discussion where they think about listening.
Listening is primarily a mental activity.
Even if we are in a quiet room where words are not spoken, we listen to our own thoughts. To
prove this, we will have an exercise. Break into pairs. Maintain eye contact with your partner.
Don’t say anything. Just be aware of all the thoughts that rush to your head as you do this.
Time: 1 minute
Ask for feedback from the participants. What thoughts did they have? What were they thinking
of?
Even words are not being said, we listen to our own thoughts. Here is where the problem lies.
Sometimes, when we’re talking to customers on the phone, what we listen to is the voice in our
head, instead of the voice of the customer.
Think of instances when you clearly heard the voice in your head. It could be:
- when you play basketball, you make tiny decisions in your head
- when you meet someone for the very first time, you make conclusions about the person
- when you are arguing with someone, you think of what to say next
- when you are watching a movie, you anticipate what’s going to happen next
Where does the voice in our head come from?
2. Some people call it their conscience. Some people might even attribute it either to their dark side
or their guardian angel. Psychologically, these voices could be our memories of parents telling us
what to do, a moral guide like a priest or older relative, or even our past traumatic experiences.
For example, if during our childhood, we met an accident in a dark street, as a grown up, we will
always find ourselves being cautious whenever we pass through a dark alley.
What have the voices in your head been telling you?
Our minds naturally tend to wander.
While you are in the room, you could be thinking of other things. You could be thinking of what
happened to you last night or what you want to do later when we finish training. You could be
thinking that you’re feeling hungry or that you want to go to the bathroom. Worse, your mind may
be somewhere else. Although you may be physically present in the room, your mind could be at
home, at the mall, or in dreamland.
Where are you right now? It’s okay to say your mind is not here right now. Where were you just
a few seconds ago?
They say that the average attention span of an adult is 10 minutes. For children, it is a lot less
than that – maybe 3 minutes. This is the reason why in Sesame Street , they have a new activity
every 3 minutes.
To improve our listening skills, you just have to remember that our minds naturally drift every 10
minutes. The solution is actually simple – just bring your awareness back. Bring your awareness
back into the room and back into the present moment.
3. It’s amazing how so many people are not aware in life when they go through many activities. For
example, have you ever tried going home when you’re drunk or sleepy and then not remember
how you got home in the first place? Or how about times when you were cooking and you don’t
even remember the many steps you went through but just found yourself staring at a cooked dish
in front of you?
At times, even when we’re talking to our parents or significant others, we just go through the
motions but our minds may be somewhere else.
Whenever this happens, just bring yourself back into the room and back into the present moment.
Exercise: Let’s practice bringing ourselves back into the room and into the present moment.
Again, find a partner and for 2 minutes, ask your partner to talk about what they plan to do today.
If you find yourself not paying attention to your partner, just be aware of where you went and as
soon as you catch that, bring yourself back into the room. Switch roles. This time, you talk and
your partner listens.
Our mind is a machine.
When we say the word machine, we mean something that just keeps on going and going. Try to
stop yourself from thinking for one minute. No thoughts, no feelings, no visuals, no images of
whatever kind, not even the image of a void or a color. I will give you 1 minute to just relax and
not think of anything.
Even when we’re sleeping, we experience dreams. The truth is, our minds never stop working.
Here is the simple truth – your mind is a machine that generates thoughts non-stop. But what
makes us different from other machines is that we can be aware that our mind can behave like a
machine. And once we’re aware that our mind is machine, we stop being a machine.
Machines can never be aware that they are machines, but you can. The paradox is, once you’re
aware that your mind generates thoughts non-stop, you can choose to stop being a machine.
The thoughts will still come, but now you are aware that the thoughts are there, and you can
decide to just let the come and let them go.
4. Once we are aware of our thoughts, then we don’t have to be a slave to our impulses. We can
put a gap between stimulus and response.
Stimulus – gap – response
Exercise: Ask the participants to form a circle. Their hands are outstretched. If they feel
someone tap them on the right, they tap back with their left.
This is how our brain is like. We respond to everything. The voice in our head generates a lot of
thoughts.
When this happens during a phone call, our mind analyzes everything. The solution is just to
stop generating a lot of thought when we’re listening. Bring yourself back in the room and back to
the present.
Trauma
As kids, we experienced a lot of traumatic events. But sometimes, we confuse the event with our
interpretation of the event.
For example, think of a time when your dad or mom shouted at you. That is the event. You
simply got shouted at. But as a kid, did you weave a lot of drama behind that event – say you
though they really didn’t love you or that you decided you were not good enough. This thought
could later on color or taint the relationship we have with our parent.
On the phone, we get shouted at a lot. This brings up psychological defenses. When we get
shouted at a lot, we may reach a point where we just close ourselves and stop listening. The
important thing to remember is to separate the event from our interpretation of the event. The
callers can scream as much as they like, but we don’t become less of a human being as a result
of it.
5. Remove the meaning behind the event. This is what we mean when we say don’t take it
personally.
Summary:
We learned today that our minds don’t stop generating thoughts. We also learned that our minds
can drift off. There is a voice in our head that gets in the way of listening. We also learned that
when we put negative meaning into the events in our lives, we can stop seeing the world for what
it actually is.
The solution is very simple – just be aware of the nature of the mind and bring yourself back into
the present moment. It could take a hundred times within the day – don’t worry. It’s normal. Just
bring yourself back.
6. Remove the meaning behind the event. This is what we mean when we say don’t take it
personally.
Summary:
We learned today that our minds don’t stop generating thoughts. We also learned that our minds
can drift off. There is a voice in our head that gets in the way of listening. We also learned that
when we put negative meaning into the events in our lives, we can stop seeing the world for what
it actually is.
The solution is very simple – just be aware of the nature of the mind and bring yourself back into
the present moment. It could take a hundred times within the day – don’t worry. It’s normal. Just
bring yourself back.