2. Once I was at this party, taking to a
lady friend of mind.

3. She was pretty attractive, and would
always get hit on by guys.

4. One guy came up, and said up front he
wasn't trying to hit on her.

5. Then he started asking her about her
clothes, where she got them etc.

6. During the whole conversation (which
didn't really last that long) he
mentioned three or four times that he
wasn't trying to hit on her.

7. Which meant that he was really
worried that SHE would think he was
trying to hit on her.

8. Which meant he was likely, at least on
a subconscious level, hitting on her.

9. Many guys share this same fear. They
walk up to a girl, and they've somehow
been taught they need to be ultra
secretive with their intentions,
because if she thinks he's hitting on
her, he's toast.

10. All the music will stop, the house lights
will all shine on him, and every body
will KNOW that was he was breaking
some cardinal rule of social etiquette.

11. Luckily, this is all in your head (if you
indeed feel this way).

12. The truth is that most girls LOVE to be
"hit on" by guys.

13. At least guys that are normal, and can
easily take "no" for an answer.

14. Another time I was at this bookstore,
in the coffee shop section.

15. There was a pretty cute girl sitting at
the table in front of me.

16. Some guy walked up, and didn't even
introduce himself, ask her name, or
make any attempt to start a
conversation.

17. He just asked for her phone number.

18. She was polite, not mean in the least,
but said, "no thanks."

19. He DIDN'T take it in stride.

20. He stood there for at least another
couple minutes asking why.

21. The longer he stood there, the angrier
he got.

22. Some guys feel ENTITLED to get phone
numbers from girls, simply because
they walk up and ask.

23. They act like the universe (or
somebody) owes them some kind of
reward simply for asking.

24. Now, as this guy kept getting angrier
and angrier, she kept getting more and
more nervous.

25. Finally he left, and she was
understandably upset.

26. From her perspective, all she wanted
was to spend a relaxing day at the
bookstore, but some guy ruined it for
her.

27. Clearly, this is NOT the way to
approach.

28. What IS the way to approach?

29. Introduce yourself.

30. Start a conversation.

31. If she smiles while she's talking to you,
it's probably safe to ask.

32. If she says "no," walk away.

33. If she says "yes," get it, smile and walk
away.

34. If you approach like this, either way
she'll be glad you did.

35. Do this with enough girls, and you'll be
dating your dream girl in no time.

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